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Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 8:34am On May 24, 2023 |
poshestmina: You're welcome Ma. |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 8:37am On May 24, 2023 |
Geminita: Yes, that's true. The funniest thing is that the times I don't try my hardest in things, they all work out somehow. Lol. Now I'm just chill and doing my best while leaving the rest to God. Thank you my Gem Gem. πππ 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 8:48am On May 24, 2023 |
AmazonTopaz Whataguan? Where have you been since? |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 2:03pm On May 24, 2023 |
doggedfighter: Cheers to that |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Klass99(f): 4:00pm On May 24, 2023 |
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Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:17pm On May 24, 2023 |
folake4u:I don outgrow nairaland. I am ok, I just visit the site once in a while and focus on my reality. Nor vex 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 4:24pm On May 24, 2023 |
AmazonTopaz: Awww. I can imagine. I'm glad to hear that you're okay. I nor fit vex for you na. 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by AmazonTopaz(f): 4:27pm On May 24, 2023 |
folake4u: Thanks dear 2 Likes |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 4:28pm On May 24, 2023 |
AmazonTopaz: You're welcome Mami. π 2 Likes |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 7:15pm On May 28, 2023 |
pocohantas: For me, I find the anxiety strange because she is married to a rich man who can fund the household. If she is worrying about spliting bills 50/50 in this home and funding other household (I am assuming her ex), then when can she bring her feminine essence in the home and take charge of home keeping? Even if she outsources all the chores, she still needs to manage the home and breathe her feminine into it. People bashed her on that post sha, Nigerians whey no get chill. I think of Ciara and it seems she has a more traditional household. P.S.: splitting bills 50/50 rubs me the wrong way. I prefer a joint pot or a husband providing what he can afford for running the home and the wife contributes what is required to fully run the home. Wetin our Nigerian men do na? 3 Likes |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 7:22pm On May 28, 2023 |
Geminita: I tried to move to another unit I preferred at work some years back. Love their job and understood it (which everyone knew). Infact, the Head of the Unit spoke with me about the opening, knew I loved their job (would send requests to them and give them recommendations just for their approval and they follow it) and I was glad. Took it to the CEO who said preffered a much more senior person for the role. That was how my dream of moving there pafuka'ed. In hindsight, in addition to wanting a more senior person, the CEO did not want me to leave my unit because I am a strong pillar there. Interestingly, I would make the same decision so I didn't feel too bad 3 Likes |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Eunoiaa(f): 7:24pm On May 28, 2023 |
folake4u: You may be onto something here. It seems you just have a nack for discovering little food treasures. It already sounds delicious to me so much I want to try it. Perhaps it's because I've not tried the bread with something really sweet. Like jam too. 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Eunoiaa(f): 7:25pm On May 28, 2023 |
AmazonTopaz: I felt this. 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 7:30pm On May 28, 2023 |
Eunoiaa: Mango, believe me, it's so delicious. The wheat bread has to be fresh one oh. I got tired of jam at a point in time sha. But I never got tired of peanut butter. Maybe I will get jam again. |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Eunoiaa(f): 7:32pm On May 28, 2023 |
folake4u: π π―ππ. 2 Likes |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by AmazonTopaz(f): 12:10am On May 29, 2023 |
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Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by AmazonTopaz(f): 12:11am On May 29, 2023 |
folake4u:She is even Mag Eunoiaa, wetin happen to our account na why you dey use this one? It's been a long time my Queen. |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Geminita: 9:12am On May 30, 2023 |
bukatyne: Wow. Thanks for sharing, ma'am. 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by babythug(f): 9:41am On May 30, 2023 |
Have a good week yβall π |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 10:39am On May 30, 2023 |
babythug: Have a good week too, Mami. π 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 9:55am On Jun 01, 2023 |
Good morning ladies and happy new month π π π I saw this Instagram post and decided to bring here for our discussion. What do you think? Especially for the writeup on the body of the post on IG? https://www.instagram.com/p/Cs6lbidIvki/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Take away questions: 1. What do you understand by a lady being feminine or what I usually call (Queen and Princess state of mind here on NL) 2. Do you think a woman can be a high flyer and still retain her femininity 3. If yes to 2, how? 4. If no to 2, do you believe a woman can have a successful functional relationship without it? 5. Any other thoughts around the topic. Cc Pocohantas Folake4U Ahnie01 PrimadonnaO Annahh Humorme2 Sisitito01 Doggedfighter Cococandy Babythug Teespice Persephone1 Klass99 Geminita 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 11:50am On Jun 01, 2023 |
Hello bukatyne. Good morning. Please tag the monickers of the females. Not everyone will see the message. |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 12:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
[quote author=folake4u post=123507240][/quote] Done, just copied Gemini.ta's list. So you go first |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Klass99(f): 1:27pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
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Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Klass99(f): 2:16pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 3:22pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Klass99: Happy new month Klass99 β¨οΈ βΊοΈ 1. @bold: please some examples/context 2. OK 3. Interesting take here. π π π π π π @ pretending to be helpless and needing a man when she doesn't. Femininity actually starts from care of yourself. Yes, the warmth and caring for others (without burning yourself) is also important. I would like more context on the bold. 4. I cook good food, like to host/organise and party but I ain't serving nada in a party I did not organise or close enough to the organisers to be assigned a role (like family party). If you are inviting me to a party or function, you are inviting me to slay, dress up, vibe, mingle with people, eat a little, dance and spray money. I would not even struggle for food; that's how far to the food/drinks stand I like to be. 5. I would have agreed with you but peeps have said I like to mother (not the gentle type though; the African mother giving you bombastic side eye kind of thing ) |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Nobody: 6:26pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
This question/ topic isn't for me . Lemme just read 1 Like |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by bukatyne(f): 6:41pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Persephone1: Why? The target audience on IG is actually single ladies. |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Nobody: 7:03pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
bukatyne:I'm still taking classes on how to be feminine |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by Geminita: 8:05pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
bukatyne: 1. By embracing my gender and not attempting to switch gender. Society says that "women" should be cool-headed and not form "strong". For me, it's just when one embraces one's womanhood (Just like what Klass said). 2. Of course. 3. Knowing when to stop and not acting too bossy. 5. Personality has a role to play in this. We can't act the same way. The most important thing is just to do " YOU" and be reasonable. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 8:46pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
bukatyne: 1. Omo! Just like Persephone1 said, I'm still taking classes in being feminine. π Well, for me, a lady being feminine means one is true to herself. I'd use the word AUTHENTIC. There's beauty in a lady being authentic to herself. To me, what works for A doesn't necessarily mean it'd work for B. Well, Klass99 said something that struck me: having to sometimes pretend that I am a damsel in distress to make the opposite gender not feel insecure or emasculated by my strengths and abilities. In this scenario, a lot of women do this, which sometimes don't make them true to themselves. I'm talking about the word "pretend" here. Well, it might work for some and others, it won't just work. I'd take myself as an example. I'm terrible at pretending. I can't do it for long too. For someone like me, pretending to be a "damsel in distress" doesn't work, you'd see through me and I'd be caught in no time. I'd have no option to say "Oya oya, you don catch me". πππ BUT... When I'm genuinely in need for something and I'm hopeless and looking like a lost puppy, subconsciously my "damsel in distress" mode is already activated, when you see me sef, you fit dash me your last kobo. I observed myself for a while and know what works for me and I stay true to my feminity. Then secondly, I don't have energy to "pretend" and do stuffs that wont make a man feel emasculated or feel insecure. If he's insecure, that's his cup of sour akamu. And then again, there are some men that you meet and instead of them activating your feminity, your masculinity jumps out of nowhere. πππ Okay. I have said too much. 2. Yes! Yes!! Yes!!! 3. By being true to herself. My mother, Aunties, high flying sistas and friends didn't come this far in their life and career by pretending to be what they're not or downplaying their potentials so as not to bruise a male ego. And it's a common trait with all the Women in my life. Further comments: A. Well, my thoughts on this matter is that women should look for positive and well meaning female friends that they can learn from. I have learnt a lot from some women I met here on Nairaland. Their impact is amazing. I am still learning. B. Women should learn to embrace their femininity. Whether it's booking a spa session or hangout with friends or doing something they love. Just whatever. C. Women should learn to recognize backhanded compliments from Men and refuse it. I am a very straightforward person and when I do smart things, they give backhanded compliments like "You're very smart, you're thinking like a man". It is not a compliment. Rather, I find it insulting. I usually ask "What do you mean?" with a frown on my face. And then they get the code and apologize immediately. My work colleague knows better now. One time I was following him home and there was a car at the front, he kept yelling at the man "Why you dey drive like woman?" I gave him a bombastic side eye. He avoids saying nonsense to me in his car. That is not to say I appear masculine. I am a very soft babe. I nor resemble man at all. πππ D. Whether we like it or not, we should appreciate ourselves more. Whether masculine or feminine side and know when or not to use it. I didn't come this far in my life/career by playing a "damsel in distress" but my ambition, stubbornness and doggedness brought me thus far and I appreciate myself for that. E. Femininity is a weapon and one should seek partners that activate our feminine nature. I rest my case. 2 Likes
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Re: The Pinkpill Roundtable Discussion by folake4u(f): 8:55pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Good evening ladies and happy new month π π π I saw this Instagram post and decided to bring here for our discussion. What do you think? Especially for the writeup on the body of the post on IG? https://www.instagram.com/p/Cs6lbidIvki/?igshid=MzRlODBiNWFlZA== Take away questions: 1. What do you understand by a lady being feminine or what I usually call (Queen and Princess state of mind here on NL) 2. Do you think a woman can be a high flyer and still retain her femininity 3. If yes to 2, how? 4. If no to 2, do you believe a woman can have a successful functional relationship without it? 5. Any other thoughts around the topic. Cc Mindlog Hathor5 FirstGenAmerican cococandy dollyjoy Dorcaz chitheo Nia69 Eunoiaa Uyailncomparabl peacefulhome Zaynie ahnie Farfalla AmazonTopaz Octopussy Splendblex Passionnfruit LadyGazelle sisitito01 Lamanii22 Goodlady 3 Likes 1 Share |
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