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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Ladymillion(f): 2:44pm On Jun 25, 2023
Yimu @ walk Alpha
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Gerrard59(m): 2:49pm On Jun 25, 2023
pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

See as I dey nod head like Agama Lizard and smiling like mumu grin grin grin grin

When it comes to man-to-woman relationships, you are just too good

Well done!

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by HellVictorinho6(m): 3:02pm On Jun 25, 2023
Dey play ,just dey play, u think there is a general formula,abi? If me and ur sista can get married,does it mean our way of talking will be like that of any other couple? just be careful and straightforward. every marriage has its own features. try ur ways 4 as long as u can. dont try to calculate what has no law guiding it. if marriage doesnt happen 4 u,try having a kid or two outside marriage or adopt.
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Edipet(m): 3:07pm On Jun 25, 2023
pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.
we have too many intelligent people here. God bless you More

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Edipet(m): 3:17pm On Jun 25, 2023
Ade1177:


Nah

Not true

You don't need money

You need confidence and be direct

Ladies are human beings too with breast and different private part compare to yours

They not aliens

Looking at a girl asif she's another creature is what makes some guys scared of talking to really pretty girls

Just imagine her as one very handsome guy
Won't you talk to him just because of his face?


I see ladies as human beings first

So walk up to her

Say whatever comes to your mind don't rehearse it. If she likes you the rubbish you said will be the sweetest.

The more you talk the more confident you get

If she says no. Remember she's just 1 out of 4Billion

But don't be rude same way you can't be rude to your fellow guy


Most people that can't talk to a lady is because they are scared

Not money

Everybody can't be rich

So many poor people have alot of ladies at hand
which year are you, are you in 21st century?, You are right Base on the year you are. Money boast confident, money makes you smell good, money makes you dress well, money makes you live in a good house. If you don't have money to put on a good shoe, will she give you attention, even to take care of yourself to look presentable you need money. Money is the root. Nigerian girl will not like you for nothing,
It either money
Your good looking
Etc.

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by vickydevoka(m): 3:18pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I'm thinking about marriage man...seriously is time almost all my buddies are married
You don't have to worry. If you are ready. Make it known to people you like. They will connect you. Especially if you are rich. Don't approach unknown lady if you are rich. Unless she is also rich and independent. Most will always show you that they are good girls.
They economy is too harsh, don't marry a poor lady no matter what.

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by damoobaba: 3:24pm On Jun 25, 2023
helinues:
Woo ladies for this century.

Hahaha, na money dey do the wooing now. You don't even need to say a Jack before the girls start flocking around you

He said he wants to marry. Marriage attracts parasites, "NOT WIVES"
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by LONEWOLFJOHN: 3:28pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters
just get money!!!
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Myer(m): 3:29pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters

How old are you?
If you're not old enough to marry, know that it is a blessing and a covering for you to protect you from the many jezebels out there.

If you're old enough to marry, then you simply need to build your confidence.
This comes from knowing yourself and embracing who you are- augmenting your strengths and working on your weaknesses.

You can't really do this successfully without Christ.
There's a difference between toasting a babe you want to have sex with and making connection with someone you want to build a meaningful relationship with- whether for friendship or marriage.

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Blankstare(m): 3:31pm On Jun 25, 2023
damoobaba:


He said he wants to marry. Marriage attracts parasites, "NOT WIVES"


Lol... you wicked oo cheesy cheesy
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Chno: 3:32pm On Jun 25, 2023
Bro you are always emphasizing on the fact that niggas shouldn’t marry broke girls from broke family, why is it so?
vickydevoka:

You don't have to worry. If you are ready. Make it known to people you like. They will connect you. Especially if you are rich. Don't approach unknown lady if you are rich. Unless she is also rich and independent. Most will always show you that they are good girls.
They economy is too harsh, don't marry a poor lady no matter what.
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by vicoloni(m): 3:35pm On Jun 25, 2023
Just shout woo woo
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by kay29000(m): 3:39pm On Jun 25, 2023
pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.

Interesting
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by lilhoodie(m): 3:40pm On Jun 25, 2023
Its crazy how people waste so much time worrying about something instead of actually doing it .
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Brownshoe: 3:46pm On Jun 25, 2023
mbaise1000:

They are the classical example of necessary evil, but there are still very good and intelligent marriage materials out there, real women, just don't look with your physical eyes, I mean don't look at standing breasts because they will fall tomorrow, don't look at how beautiful she is because you will definitely see more beautiful ones tomorrow while she fades, look at that thing that doesn't fade, the heart, look at the things that God will look at look at the things you want her to look in you, because a good heart will take all things because a good heart doesn't look at what ordinary people look at, it takes all THINGS, when you are sure you found her, go to her and tell her exactly what you think and want, I will not tell you what to tell her because that will be like doing it by the book and if a page of a book is lost, you will be lost, go tell her what comes out of your heart at that time, and you will see how smooth and easy it will be, if what you are going is to chase women around and testing, you will get HIV, if your plan is to get the best woman around you to marry, you will be successful and happy forever..
If you marry the wrong wife, you are finished,
GOOD LUCK
seems you don't want him to marry on time,even people with good heart naturally Don comot the heart put evil heart because of what to eat and wear.
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by vickydevoka(m): 3:49pm On Jun 25, 2023
Chno:
Bro you are always emphasizing on the fact that niggas shouldn’t marry broke girls from broke family, why is it so?
Sorry, you can but make sure you are ready to accept responsibilities. Also, your location also matters. I should have thrown more emphasis on independent or working class lady.
Most guys suffering today marry out of pity or love. You can't stay in Abuja be receiving 150k n u want to settle down with fine jobless lady. Omo!! U go suffer.
Marriage na luck. But try do your own mathematics first. If en work fine, if e no work fine.

Y do you think ladies always consider finance first? You think they don't know
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by nkemjacob2(m): 3:51pm On Jun 25, 2023
Free yourself mindset from being an homosexual.
Hang out with guys. Do the things guys do, behave like them. U will gradually be rescued. Don't forget to see a physician
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Chno: 3:55pm On Jun 25, 2023
You have a valid point boss i understand now
vickydevoka:

Sorry, you can but make sure you are ready to accept responsibilities. Also, your location also matters. I should have thrown more emphasis on independent or working class lady.
Most guys suffering today marry out of pity or love. You can't stay in Abuja be receiving 150k n u want to settle down with fine jobless lady. Omo!! U go suffer.
Marriage na luck. But try do your own mathematics first. If en work fine, if e no work fine.

Y do you think ladies always consider finance first? You think they don't know
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by vickydevoka(m): 3:57pm On Jun 25, 2023
Chno:
Bro you are always emphasizing on the fact that niggas shouldn’t marry broke girls from broke family, why is it so?
Please don't take everything I write seriously. I'm an introvert, I don't go out. Most times I write for writing sake. Some times, I write to get attention. A wise person can't pick all advices from a public forum. Just pick the good one and do away with the bad ones.
People air their opinion based on their emotions and feelings at that point in time. Most people are not realistic and logical

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Chno: 4:02pm On Jun 25, 2023
lol okay i have heard you bro
vickydevoka:

Please don't take everything I write seriously. I'm an introvert, I don't go out. Most times I write for writing sake. Some times, I write to get attention. A wise person can't pick all advices from a public forum. Just pick the good one and do away with the bad ones.
People air their opinion based on their emotions and feelings at that point in time. Most people are not realistic and logical
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Ade1177: 4:13pm On Jun 25, 2023
Edipet:
which year are you, are you in 21st century?, You are right Base on the year you are. Money boast confident, money makes you smell good, money makes you dress well, money makes you live in a good house. If you don't have money to put on a good shoe, will she give you attention, even to take care of yourself to look presentable you need money. Money is the root. Nigerian girl will not like you for nothing,
It either money
Your good looking
Etc.

Baba when I was in school I had no real money and I had loads of girls

So many other guys too without money with lots and lots of girls

When you're rich you have a whole lot to think about more than girls

You'll most likely be married with kids

You can't have plenty girls unlike when you're bold and average in finance you have plenty time to enjoy lots of girls till you make it and get hooked by one girl

Get the point?

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by scrupulousblog: 4:22pm On Jun 25, 2023
Fiscus105:
Tell your friends to woo them for you, life not hard the way you guys handle it.

Everyone has his/her strength and weakness, if ur weakness is to weak before woman,some people are professional in that field.

Contact them to lift you from your dongeon.
and they will be banging her behind your back

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by sprints1: 4:30pm On Jun 25, 2023
Simple u don't need cash or flashy things just just dont be sacred of being rejected go to where there many fishes try many of them as possible out of 15 u go at least see 2 wey go like u if u no even sabi toast. No dey waste your energy on opposite sex doesn't worth it.

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by sprints1: 4:32pm On Jun 25, 2023
vickydevoka:

Please don't take everything I write seriously. I'm an introvert, I don't go out. Most times I write for writing sake. Some times, I write to get attention. A wise person can't pick all advices from a public forum. Just pick the good one and do away with the bad ones.
People air their opinion based on their emotions and feelings at that point in time. Most people are not realistic and logical
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by sprints1: 4:36pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters
there is dating apps just that most girls ain't worth it these days. I don't think I can put woman matter for head again for my life. The lady I truly loved don get 3 kids from two different men so why should bother myself on an opposite sex. Don't take women too personal e go pain you.

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by eepeepook: 4:38pm On Jun 25, 2023
Switch to the other team and you won't have this problem.
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by DrDunamis(m): 4:41pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I have difficulties keeping relationship with the opposite sex,for clarity I'm heterosexual male....I'm single, I need help brothers and sisters
Today wey you suppose to dey ask how to praise,pray and win souls, you're asking about how to woo a lady?
Stay there and wait
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Sureboyy(m): 4:53pm On Jun 25, 2023
mbaise1000:
In the present day nigeria, the best way to woo the opposite sex especially women is first never say the truth to them, tell them that tinubu is your mother's junior brother, that bill gate is your uncle, that you are traveling to the us to collect your inheritance, that mm airport in Lagos belongs to you, that Atlantic ocean belongs to you, sharp sharp, you have your way, many of them will actually believe you
No be lie my brother

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Lastpharoah33: 4:55pm On Jun 25, 2023
Zedoo:
Lol. You have to vibrate at the level of the woman you want, and she will appear before you...ready for you...all this wooing thing is a thing of the past and Nigerian women are not worth it anyway. They bring strife and indigence into your life. They always have 300 problems their father can’t solve and easily manipulated by other men.
Make money, travel the world, find a wife.

Those telling you to dress well, act polite be confident etc my question is FOR WHO? For people wey never bath??

Don’t chase women bro.
Become the man, they will chase you, you set your standards and choose the best one wey suit ya taste.

Na man you be ...✌️
Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by Mohisah: 5:07pm On Jun 25, 2023
Godfather898989:
I'm thinking about marriage man...seriously is time almost all my buddies are married
U want to get pissed in the marriage life. The moment u show a lady u in for marriage, they hide their arrogance, playful act. They live to impress u and u boom, rush entr marriage and dem go open fire once dem reach ur house....

U need to ask ur self why u need to be in love with a lady.

Being married is not a lust or a sexual urge of a thing.

I believe u re a worker already from your confidence. The best advice I can gv is fr u to find a peaceful love within ur colleague. Why? Because I gave my Cousin bro same advice and it worked out after being single throughout his school days and service.. They dated for 1yr+ and got married this year...

May God lead u to a peaceful, humble n lovin' lady wey go treat u nd ur family well according to the holy book

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by DonroxyII: 5:39pm On Jun 25, 2023
pansophist:
Your question is like a salt asking how to attract flies when the salt can transform into sugar.

I don't get the idea of wooing. Relationships for men may be logical (eg she is virtuous, she has a good heart, etc), but for women, it is emotional. Toasting is appealing to her logic while attracting is appealing to her emotion.

You don't woo, you attract. As you are searching for a wife, lots of ladies are searching for a husband. Understand what women want in a man (can be slightly different depending on the society), and be that man.

Here comes the twist. There may be some natural constraints that may prevent you from being an attractive man (e.g., if you aren't tall, not handsome, etc), but you may compensate for it with other qualities.

Universally, a timeless quality a man can have, that will attract the best of women is to have the ability to give her absolute security. So it would be your ability to provide financially, emotionally, and sexually. Yep, sexual security is a thing lol.

SO throw off that idea of toasting, it doesn't work. All you will do is entertain and make her marvel at your wordplay, but in the end, she will go with a man she is attracted to and who offers security.

So you should have been spending your previous years preparing for when you want to get married, to be able to exchange your quality as a desirable man for the kind of woman you want.

I mean, if toasting works, women won't be having one-night stands with men they met the same day, still chasing after men that clearly do not want them, or cheating after getting married.

I don't think I have ever toast in my life. It's too lame lol. I will just be the best I can be (more like sharpening my sword), then choose from the pool of women that already finds me attractive. Then it's a perfect match in heaven.

If you are doing it wrong, you will think there is something wrong with you, because it's like driving to Abuja and expecting to land in Cotonou. But if you do it rightly, it's a matter of months, and you will be so confused about which women to pick.

Just as your problem is how to woo/get a woman, some men's problem is that they are indecisive, due to so many options from home and away. They just decided to be single and settle with concubines lol.
Even if He attracts But Doesn't know how to Put Out the Right Words He would still Fail with Women !

You missed all his Questions With Your Long Posts ...

Person no sabi Put 5 & 6 Together Because He is a Coward-Lilly-Livered-Feeble-Hearted You are Teaching Him to Attract ....

Of Course Women would flocks him Once They Find him attractive But How would he take it On Afterwards That's His Question !

He is a Boy in a Man Not a Man Yet !

The Power of Attractions is the Reason why Many Men fell into Generations Poverty Because They are Easily Swindled By Street-Wise Woke Women ....

Op, Make it a Target to Approach atleast Two Women Daily Regardless of The Consequences Whether They Gree or Nor Gree ... Your Mental Faculty Would Train You on the Rest Base on Lessons & Experiences.... Learn from Your Mistakes & Consolidate on Your Strengths.... Your Heart Will Beat Faster at this Point But Once You Show Your Body-Systems That's what You wanna Do, Adaptations would kick in & Your Body would Obliged Your souls !

Becareful Though to Avoid Being Addictive.. Once You Become Pro in the Game of Wooing By Learning Games Everything Become so simple and Easy like Semovita On Okro Soup !

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Re: How Can I Woo Opposite Sex? by emmy512: 6:01pm On Jun 25, 2023
DonroxyII:
Even if He attracts But Doesn't know how to Put Out the Right Words He would still Fail with Women !

You missed all his Questions With Your Long Posts ...

Person no sabi Put 5 & 6 Together Because He is a Coward-Lilly-Livered-Feeble-Hearted You are Teaching Him to Attract ....

Of Course Women would flocks him Once They Find him attractive But How would he take it On Afterwards That's His Question !

He is a Boy in a Man Not a Man Yet !

The Power of Attractions is the Reason why Many Men fell into Generations Poverty Because They are Easily Swindled By Street-Wise Woke Women ....

Op, Make it a Target to Approach atleast Two Women Daily Regardless of The Consequences Whether They Gree or Nor Gree ... Your Mental Faculty Would Train You on the Rest Base on Lessons & Experiences.... Learn from Your Mistakes & Consolidate on Your Strengths.... Your Heart Will Beat Faster at this Point But Once You Show Your Body-Systems That's what You wanna Do, Adaptations would kick in & Your Body would Obliged Your souls !

Becareful Though to Avoid Being Addictive.. Once You Become Pro in the Game of Wooing By Learning Games Everything Become so simple and Easy like Semovita On Okro Soup !
Bar man 2 bottles of Heineken for this man

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