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Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

Yemi4love:
Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

make una help this Fuu

Yemi4love:
Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

Impregnate her and make sure she gives birth then you can get married if you like, you surely don't want to end up on the losing side if it comes to worst

Yemi4love:
Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

Spending on you doesn't mean anything, u don't have to reward her for that.
As for marrying her, it's up to you once you can accept the consequences..
It's been said many times on this thread never to save a damaged hoe....
And how sure are you she only had one guy in her life before you, or aborted once?
Why the guy she aborted for not marrying her?

Yemi4love:
Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

Buying clothes and shoes for yu nawa oohhh, u can't even know what I like talkless of getting me clothes and shoes

Thazard:
You are henceforth ignored!

ignore that troll bro.

Philosopher1979:
I have read some of your posts in your profile and your ideas are actually TOTALLY TRUE

1. Getting a girls number has allways been easy for me simply because i am confident. Thats all.
There was a space of 8 months in which i collected 100 phone numbers and i became scared of myself.
But a lot of guys have confidence issues and are scared to even approach. Like you said, it shows in their
body language and the universe responds to them like that.
2. You are right in your write ups. A lot of men beleive women dont enjoy sex and they need to spend a lot
of money and be supper impresive like discover the cure for cancer or be a milloniare before a girl can sleep with them.
Simps have this ideology that is basically false. For God's sake nature and God himself wired humans to be
basically sexual (and that includes women).
3. If sex was so hard to get and women hated sex how come the population of the world is 7 billion?
Simps have a foolish ideology.
4. Its even against God and nature to think women dont enjoy sex. God told eve to multiply and bring forth.
So God put sexual desires inside both men and women.
5. The sexual desire in humans is instinctive and not logical and so if you can trigger it under the right circumstances, a man can easily get
sex and even get paid for it.
6. Well, this is Africa and we lack a basic understanding of human nature.
7. This is because we only read to pass exams. Courses like psychology, sociology, philosophy etc explain human nature, politics etc
to us but we study them in school and foolishly beleive they are useless
8. To beleive women don't enjoy sex is to say they are Lesbians
9. The problem with we Africans is that we dont apply knowledge. We only use it to pass exams

Once I read your number 3, I realize say you are just an inexperienced Mugu writing trash to try to look wise. And you are over 40. No wonder the oyibo man say a fool at 40 is a fool for life.

Instead of fooling your old age with all these small children wey lack of toto dey vex them, Better go and hustle if you don’t want God to hammer that your coconut head with poverty in your retirement years. Nonsense

Pukkalolo:
You are asking the wrong question. The idea isn't to just confirm a girl sexual attraction.

Before I tell you why you are asking the wrong question, let me first answer the question regardless.

There are different ways to find out if she's attracted to you.

But one way to find out is by simply asking for compliance. I mean, asking her to do something. For example, like--> asking her to come hangout with you, or ask her to accompany somewhere, or asking her buy something for you, or asking her to follow you on Instagram or whatever.

Just make a demand, if she comply, then just take it as a sign she might be attracted to you. It's no big deal.

Like I said, attraction is very primal. There's nothing special about it.


In fact, if she's still interacting with you after you've indicated interest in her, then you can just take it as a sign that she's attracted or at least somewhat interested.

Here's why you are asking the wrong question.

Like I've said on this thread several times, attraction is not a big deal . A girl can be attracted to 10 guys but will do nothing sexual with any them because she's not sexually comfortable with them.

In fant right now, there are girls around you that already like you. It's no big deal. The reason you're not smashing any of these girls is because they are not sexually comfortable with you. Nothing more nothing less.

I stopped worrying about creating attraction in a woman when I realized that attraction is different for all women.

A female is already attracted to certain trait and qualities in a man, and this attraction is highly dependent on her current circumstance.

When she's in high school, she might be attracted to the pretty boy types. But when she's mature and educated, her taste changes...she might now be more attracted to the busy 'coperate' man on suit; the man doesn't even have to be handsome.

You see, change in circumstances leads to change in taste.

The game that will work on the 18 years old 100 level student, might not work on the 25 years working class lady who's an accountant in a bank because this woman have different priorities, life experience and personality. Basically, she has a different circumstance.

That's why Stella might enjoy naughty chat, while Cynthia will despite it. It's her circumstance that made her despite it.

Circumstances are huge. The alpha game that worked on a girl that didn't grow up with a father figure might never work on girl that grew up with a masculine dominant father.

This is why you can use the same game strategy on two different ladies but it will produce different result depending on their circumstances. If a game strategy works on one girl but doesn't work on the other girl, it's not because the strategy is faulty... it's because her circumstance doesn't tolerate the strategy.

Attraction will always be affected by the woman's circumstances. Circumstances like her age, education, values, self-esteem, experience, physical appearance appearance and so on. This is why, despite all the apha moves and game you are spitting, she's still refusing to drop her panties. She's not the one refusing you;. It her circumstance that is refusing you.

This is why when meeting a woman, I'm not concerned about creating attraction or making alpha moves or spitting games. I'm more focused on building sexual comfortableness.

Why?

Because I discovered that her sexual comfortableness isn't affected by her circumstance.... This allows me get ladies with different ranges of circumstances: I'm not a Muslim but have dated couple of beautiful Muslim ladies; I have dated a woman who was my total superior in an office environment; I have dated women who are quite older than me and younger than me;
I've even got "invited" by a celebrity, duh...
I think I talked about how I first met her on this thread.

https://www.nairaland.com/7453206/experience-celebrity-yesterday-big-shame

The reason I was able to get these women wasn't because I was busy spitting games... It because I was simply building sexual comfortableness with them.

Attraction is important, but Attraction is limited by circumstance..and circumstance can prevents attraction from turning into sex and intimacy...

But If you can build sexual comfortableness with a woman, you become unlimited.

Lack of game or not being alpha enough isn't why she's losing interest in you. Most problems men message me with about their issue with women somehow involve their inability to build sexual comfortableness.

I hear complain like:
"She was giving me greenlight before, but now she's suddenly losing in me and she's now giving me attitude."

Wait, let me ask you... Let's assume you like fried rice.
One day, you walk past a restaurant, then you start perceiving the smell of fried rice. You decide to enter the restaurant to buy the fried rice.

In the restaurant, instead of serving you on the plate, they put the fried rice on the floor and ask you to eat it from the floor.

Urg!!

Won't that make you lose interest in the fried rice?

Of course.

It's for the same reason that girl lost interest in you.

Yes, you are attracted to fried rice, but it doesn't make sense for you to eat the fried rice from the floor. If they want you to eat it, they need to put the food on the plate. But since they didn't do that, you lost interest in the food and move on with your life.

Yes, she likes you and will like 'eat' you, but it doesn't feel right for her to eat you simply because she likes you... Giving you the pussy just because she likes you is like eating fried rice on the floor. She would never want to do that.

If you want her to 'eat' you, then you have to put yourself on a plate.

That plate is called "sexual comfortableness."

If you want to learn how to create sexual comfortableness with women, then click the link in my signature or profile to learn more.

Stay blessed.

This hungry Mugu dey find as he go scam gullible small boys wey dey find toto instead of focusing on chasing their dreams for a better future. I really pity any lazy youth that gives him money. Idiots

Miracood2:
All the pros in the bed game.

Drop some tips for boys.

Your mates dey school dey try get good grades and good jobs for a bright future, you dey hear dey find tips for bed game. After when God nack poverty on top that your bald head, you go dey blame village people. I feel like giving you life resetting konk for that rough bald head I swear

Smartb0y:
Normalize saying things to women just to lead them on and in turn making them feel like they're leading you on, just to turn the tables on them later on.

A woman finds it difficult to pull away once she's invested in you. Use it to your advantage.

Truth is,most modern women hardly make any effort investing in a man cuz these guys make it all too easy.
They've bastardized the system.

Just sort through the trash and focus on the ones willing to invest in you.

As a short ugly man wey no get money, you are better off focusing on your education. Mugu

Yemi4love:
Bosses in the house, I would need an advice on this....


Met this lady in November last year. She told me her guy just broke up with her and was still trying to heal. We became friends till late December and we started dating. She told me prior to the start of our relationship that she had an abortion for her ex guy. It really didn't bother me because I don't have interest in marrying her, and she has always been the one asking for us to date before we finally started dating.

She was the one that first messaged me on Facebook, so I was just thinking of how to knack and probably keep her company pending the time she gets another guy. But she has been very clingy ever since we started. She is a good girl. She helps in paying my house rent, bringing foodstuffs, buying clothes and shoes for me, spent like 70k on my birthday, and all, and I can't even say I've spent up to 5k on her since we met. And she has spent more than 400k so far.

I would have had a change of mind about marrying her, cus she's 25 while I'm 30, but it seems the abortion she had then tampered with her womb, we're both not sure but I already advice her to visit the hospital for tests.

Do you think I should continue with her or just break-up with her?

Your predicament 👇

Tranquility2345:
Once I read your number 3, I realize say you are just an inexperienced Mugu writing trash to try to look wise. And you are over 40. No wonder the oyibo man say a fool at 40 is a fool for life.

Instead of fooling your old age with all these small children wey lack of toto dey vex them, Better go and hustle if you don’t want God to hammer that your coconut head with poverty in your retirement years. Nonsense

I have my money allready. In fact im a lecturer.
I dont even need pussy. I work hard 24 hours a day.
Im working on a lot of things.
I don't know why u are insulting me.

Karlifate:
One of the ways to create an abundance mindset is by being positively-minded.

When she shit-test you, to throw you off-balance, flip the switch, the response doesn't have to be verbal all the time.

*When you don't submit to her foolish demands.
Her: You're just too stingy
You: Damn! I'm really financially disciplined

*You keep doing the right thing, but the results are not yet forthcoming*
Her: All your mates are..... or People younger than you are...
You: Well, I'm a standard. That's why you compare me with them. I know that the fruits of my labor will be bountiful.

*When she tries to play the dread game*
Her: I'm going to leave you
You: Great! I'll have enough time to spin more plates with quality girls.

The point is to reframe the negative attack into a positive counter-attack.
They'll never see it coming 👌

P.S. Shit tests can come from anyone, regardless of their gender but it's more peculiar with the female folks.

Side Note: The female folks in this context can be your mother, sister, aunt, niece, female cousin, girlfriend, wife, etc.


Take their negative input & turn them to positive output as the situation warrants, without being disrespectful.


The good thing about this, is that it becomes part of you, when you've put them into continuous practice — You just know what to say (verbally or within yourself) in the nick of time.

A shit test is a challenge or obstacle that is intentionally designed to test your confidence or resolve, a test to gauge your strength.



Example:

1:
“Is that your pickup line?”

🔴 Bad Response:

“I was just trying to start a conversation, sorry.” (Apologizing)

🟢 Good Response:

“You’re welcome, doesn’t happen to you that often I guess?” (Flipping it back at her)

2:
“You probably say that to every girl”

🔴 Bad Response:

“Eh...no, not at all, only to you.” (Logical response)

🟢 Good Response:

“Do you say that to every guy you’re attracted to? I have a 7-date rule anyways, so keep it in your pants.” (Challenging her)

3:
“You’re short”

🔴 Bad Response:

“No, I’m actually the average size for a man” (Explaining yourself)

🟢 Good Response:

“I won’t be, when you’re on your knees” (Dominance)



When most guys face shit tests they either apologize, explain themselves, or give a logical response.


That’s how you fail a shit test.

Instead, you want to:

•• challenge her back;
•• ignore her;
•• be dominant;
•• agree & exaggerate;
•• disagree & exaggerate;
•• misinterpret & treat her like a little girl; or
•• flip it back at her.

Music is a [subtle] programmer of your reality.


Your thoughts become reality. 👌

Our inner reality shapes our external one. 💯

If you keep repeating: “I’m nothing without your love, baby”


You’ll truly become "nothing".

Men are only loved & respected conditionally.

You have to provide & perform.

If you are poor, weak & you've gotten to a certain age, even your mother will start hating you.



Harsh reality you must live with 💯

Karlifate:
Never trust a woman’s word.


Nothing personal against women, and no, this is not a joke.

It’s just that the feminine energy is free-flowing & present in the moment by nature.

She can want your kids today, and break up with you tomorrow.

She makes decisions based on her current mood.



Don’t listen to what she says, observe what she does.

What a woman says she wants ultimately differs from what she responds to.

Don't be fooled.


💯

A man [easily] controlled & enslaved by lust, is a puppet of the woman he desires.

💯

As a man,

If you want to excel in all fronts,

Never appear needy or desperate.

🔥💯

Reality of many modern day relationships

Philosopher1979:
I have my money allready. In fact im a lecturer.
I dont even need pussy. I work hard 24 hours a day.
Im working on a lot of things.
I don't know why u are insulting me.

He's a troll. Stop replying him.

An object that's rare & hard to obtain is more valued.

Seduction works the same way.

In order to gain and/or maintain interest, you must occasionally keep your distance — seem unattainable, and out of reach.


Seduction requires space & mystery.

That's one of the reasons why I never recommend guys to date co-workers.

Being around each other all the time is counterproductive.

She needs time away from you, in order for her imagination to work in your favour.

Advance level of see-finish

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Pukkalolo:
I'll drop #4 ideas on your question on escalating. From there, maybe you can learn something. I hope so.

#1 Idea
This police man stopped us...then he gesture to my guy who was on the steering to pull down the glass.

He looked at us dead in the eyes as if he was tryna read our thoughts. Then he ask for driver's license. When my guy showed him his license, the police man titled his head and looked him in a confused way as if, "he doesn't know what he's doing."

Kinda similar to what you say that when you start to escalate, the girl start forming as if "she doesn't know what you are saying."

My guy quickly get the cue: he opened his wallet and gave him a thousand note. The moment the police collected the money, he smiled and said, "now you are talking!"

Then he gesture to my guy to whine up and get the Bleep. We zoomed off!!

Sometimes, like you said, if you want to escalate they will start forming and giving you the "I don't know what you are saying" vibe. That's female manipulative game: she knows exactly what you are saying but she is acting that way to knock you of your game and see if you can get you to spend money on her

In a nutshell, women want you to "spend money" on them in your attempt to woo them, and just like the police officer, If you are not doing that, she might give you the "I don't know what you are saying" vibe when you try to escalate.

Don't fall for her trap.



#2 Idea.

Escalating is fun and smooth when you dealing with the woman who has some interest in you.
There is difference between a lady who has interest in you AND a lady who's only enjoying the attention she's getting from you AND a lady who is only being polite and looking for an excuse to dismiss you.

The solution is to “test the waters”, to see if there's any interest, so you won't be wasting your time on the wrong chick.

They say, failure is the key to success...but it depends on the situation where the failure happens. Remember, people only want associate with success not failure... If you fail officially on life TV where the whole world is watching you, that might reduce trust and respect people have for you. But if you fail on a low-key, privately, you can quickly learn from your mistakes while still retain your respect and use what you learn to succeed in public.

That's why most companies test their products before launching it; they even give it to people for free and get their feedbacks before finally launching it.

I mean, it foolish to launch a big move, when you have not yet launch smaller moves first...

It's not rocket science, it's common sense.

For example, let's say I'm hanging out with a woman...then the idea of kissing her flash on my mind...so I think "this is an opportunity to escalate"...

So I boldly lean in to kiss her...but surprisely I'm soundly and harshly rejected by her... "Stop it, how dare you try to kiss me." she roared.

That's a big move, that ended in big failure: she consciously rejected my escalation(kiss).... She's clearly aware of it and her respect for me might reduce a bit (and it will continuously reduce if I keep trying to make attempt to kiss her.)

Speaking from experience, most girls know if they’re into you or not within the first few seconds of meeting you. So, logically, when meeting a woman, the idea is to quickly test the waters and see what her deal is.

With women, it's sometimes better she reject your escalation low-key, and still retain your respect and diginity. Using the previous example, when the idea of kissing her cross my mind...instead of drawing close to kiss her, I simply "test the waters" by softly touching her on the arm or hand, and watch her reaction. I observed how the she react...If she react negatively by quickly removing her hand or something... I might touch her again later when there is more trust. I still retain my respect.

What if she's comfortable with being touched on the arm or hand (and she even touch my hands too), then I can move on to keep touching her more intimately....then going for the kiss will just flow naturally.

A girl that reject my touch on her arms or hand, will definitely reject my kiss. It's not rocket science, it's common sense.


#3 Idea

Escalating is simply moving things forward with the girl.
Most men see escalation as a series of sequence they must conquer: talk to her and get her name, then get her digit; then chatting with her and get her to respond well; then get her to meet up..then get a hug...then get a kiss, then get the pussy...and boom... victory!! You are winner.
However, this is a sad way to view it.
Because, one, you are putting the pussy on pedestal. And Two, And you are creating win lose vibe.

What do I mean by win lose vibe?

Here's what I mean: when you escalate smartly and get the pussy, you feel like the winner...but then what does she feels like?

Well, you guess right!! She feels like the LovePeddler, the slut and the loser.

This is why many women don't want to lose: so while you are trying to sexually escalate the interaction using every seduction tool in your arsenal, she's also trying to financially escalate the interaction.

When a woman meets a man, subconsciously or consciously she’s analyzing the amount of resources he possesses. She's feeling you out to see how much money you would be willing to spend on her...and then she's start trying to manipulate you into spending money using any female tricks possible.


Getting the pussy...automatically makes her the loser. So when you try to escalate and move the interaction forward, she put up an obstacle so she won't feel cheap. And the obstacle can be in any form. Just like in your situation-->when you start to escalate, the girl start forming as if "she doesn't know what you are saying"... That's her own form of obstacle.


Some fellas would say, "yo, yo, this is where having a good "mouth piece" comes in.

Hmmm.....

I just remembered an incidence:
Few weeks earlier, my cousin visited me and while talking generally, he started telling me about a guy(his friend) in his estate who's smashing lots of chicks because he has "good game", "sweet mouth", "good mouth piece" or whatever.

Wow! I was curious to see this guy...he showed me a photo and a short tiktok video of him.

I was marveled to see that this guy is particularly tall, has an athletic physique and he has an handsome face, and he's a bit popular on ticktok because has great dancing skils.

I tried my best to convince my cousin that the reason why he's smashing lots of girls is plainly because of the above qualities he has, and not because he has, "sweet mouth", "good mouth piece" or any whatever crap....

But that's a topic for another day... let's me not derail this post.

It's natural that when you try to move the interaction forward, she put up an obstacle... One way to handle this situation is to creating a win win vibe NOT win lose vibe.

Most term popularized by redpill community naturally create a "YOU vs the Girl" vibe.... terms like game, escalating, passing shit test, frame control...It makes the simple act of talking to a girl seem like you are entering a battle ground and a power tussle game. This naturally create a YOU vs HER vibe where nobody wants to feel like a loser.

To make the "escalation" happen smoothly and the interaction grow naturally towards sex (and maybe amazing romantic relationship), you want to create a YOU with HER vs the world vibe... that's a WIN WIN vibe. Basically, you want create a "cooperating vibe"....



If your behavior indicates that you are faking, playing games, being phony or being judgemental...that won't inspired cooperation vibe between you and her...That would create a power tussle where both you and the girl don't want to loose guard... and where you and her would be trying to outsmart yourself.

When you create a cooperation vibe, the idea of sex, won't be something you have to tactically escalate to, but rather it becomes something you and her are looking forward to have together.

Different women needs different level of cooperating vibe...Logically, Some women, especially those with past traumas and negative experience with men might require a higher level of cooperation vibe for the sexual escalation to progress.


Creating a cooperation vibe kicks in when you change the goal of your interaction from "getting" to "cooperating" ....

Instead of thinking in a getting way: "what can I do to get her to give me the pussy and not lose interest in me?" you are thinking in a cooperative way -- "what can I do to create an interaction where mind games, deception or disrespect doesn't exist?

Instead of thinking in a getting way: "what can I do to get her to like me and accept me," you are thinking in a cooperative way -- "What can I do to find out if I and this girl share the same interests and Intention so we won't waste each other time??"

These cooperative way of thinking doesn't sound sexy to the alpha wannabe junkies, but this kind thinking is what grow you into a mature, confident self-assured dude who naturally attract classy and high quality chick...

Classy and high quality chicks loves and respect mature, confident and self-assured dudes. It's not rocket science, it's common sense.




#4 Idea

Women are naturally program to resist a man's escalation attempt because they don't want to seem easy or cheap. However, the more attracted and interested she is in the guy, the less likely she is to resist him.

So if there's no much attraction or interest yet, it's natural that when you try to escalate, she'd put up an obstacle... One way you can possibly handle this situation is to prevent this situation in the first place by YOU actually putting up an obstacle first. So that the focus of the interaction will now be on your obstacle and not her's.

2 weeks ago, chatting with this lady; after congratulating her on her birthday. I was not that interested in her, but for experimentation purpose, I decided to move the interaction forward (escalate)....

Of course, I expected that she'd put up an obstacle because she's kinda cute, in her prime and getting massive attention from guys...

So I began with something along the lines of,
"you are my kind of girl, but I heard March born ladies are naturally self-centered and selfish... please how true is that?"

If you can interpret the above statement, you'd noticed I tried to escalate the interaction but I also put up an obstacle immediately on why I might not pursue any intimacy with her...

She started subtly defending and trying to change that negative idea I have about ladies March born girls. That is her own way of trying to neutralize the obstacle I'm putting up.

So now the focus of the interaction is now on the obstacle I created and not on the obstacle she should have created.

Most times, when a girl start trying to change the negative opinion you have about her, her interest for you gradually goes up..

In an attempt to create more obstacles on the idea of being self-centered and selfish, I told her, "I doubt if she has ever bought birthday gift for a guy before."
Of course, again she tries to remove the obstacle, telling me different situations where she bought gift for the guy she was dating in the past and the difference experiences she had with that...... Our interaction got deeper and deeper.

With her, I wasn't so much concerned getting the pussy, I was more concerned with testing the waters, creating obstacles (challenging her ego) and creating a cooperating vibe...

If you noticed that's the summary of the 4 ideas

When I tried to escalate by asking us to meet up, she enthusiastically agreed. Saying I'll be pleased to go out with you....The date ended up in my house.

I hope this was helpful.

So how can I improve my game with women. Just asking Man. Please don't tell me 'go n make money' ... because I've seen guys I make money than shagging hot babes.

A welder in my village bought a land close to Nnewi for 5million Naira..

We dey lag still dey struggle.

D guy dey earn alot.. all the iron doors in my house na the guy make am for me..

Money dey welder work o

Who no know no know

Thazard:
Bros I am not an apprentice.

My work is dirty but I can pay you monthly salary no be mouth sha.

PS:I am 23!

Forget her and move On..

I

Thazard:
Please wise one what should I do?

Likeplaylikepla:
So how can I improve my game with women. Just asking Man. Please don't tell me 'go n make money' ... because I've seen guys I make money than shagging hot babes.

There is no Game that work for all women since their preferences differ...But one thing that will make you get more pussy than other guys to make a lady sexually comfortable around you....
Someone here earlier wrote something like that and I 100% agree kos of past experiences.....When a girl becomes sexually comfortable around you that's when you get to see her bitchy side....Note that all girls have that bitchy side irrespective of how they appear.
I had a friend who I met on fb then..she was beautiful and I am just an average guy...she made it clear she had no interest whatsoever in dating me So I just friendzoned her and just started teasing her till things got nasty...we did literally everything imaginable and still I was her type of guy...I once asked her if she does the same with other guys especially the ones she likes and she said a big NO n she only does it with me kos she feels so free around me that's why...
This has been the same case with about other girls I met..
Just have fun with them,play along and make them sexually comfortable being with you and she will Bleep you even when she isn't interested in you...

Karlifate:

I refuse to believe this mehn 🥺

MetalJigsaw:
Brothers, every morning when you wake up thank God for showing you this thread... Because simping is a disease.

Another simp in the cards:

"Okay. I met this girl in an exam hall, we were both writing exams, so we did the student things, she asked me a maths question which she was kind of afraid of and me being a maths person answered her question and moved on with with my exams. After the exams she search for me to say her gratitude and we moved on.

I think after the results was released and she got an A in the exams was when she had to find me and got me on Facebook. She chatted me and introduced herself, so we began chatting from there and that was how I got to know she is my kind of woman.

I asked her out, we started dating or lemme say I started dating her because at a pint she told me we were only friends during the time, be she do come to my side, we do touch and kiss but no s*x. Down the lane I got to know she had a guy whom she was dating but she could not marry because she has so many revelations and dreams that he is not the one and according to her, the guy had so many red flags. At a point I put it to her she should choose what she wanted on time, the guy or myself.

According to her she choose me. Along the line, she told me about another guy disturbing her for romantic relationship, because no matter what she will tell me anything even if she knows I am gonna hurt by that, although I do take it that she is trying to literally tell me to do quick and pop the question if I really want to marry her. All of a sudden I observe she was receiving a Seyi call till like 12midnight, and I would want to call her only for her to be busy on another call for a lengthy period.

She will not stop talking about this guy whenever we are together, how good the guy is to her, she even was like we have the same character but only that the guy is taller than I am and she had also never shy away from talking about the physically height of her dream children.

I saw all these as competition and keep letting her know how much I love and want to marry her. One afternoon, she just rang me and said just a sentence, 'I will marry you'. Well that gave me the assurance I needed, I met her mother (dad is late) and I must confess she has a very good mother, the mom checks on me everyday (infact she did while I was typing this epistle).

I popped the questions and she said yes. We had our introduction and currently planing on getting married.

The problem now is, she would still not stop talking about this Seyi guy. She even called me one to tell me she went to his house, that the guy called home to come, I confronted her so many times to tell her how I felt about it, she kept saying sorry and keep repeating the same thing of no cutting loose from the guy, she even claimed that at least she is not having s*x with now that they are just talking..

Some days ago we had a serious argument about this matter and she was like maybe we should even end the relationship if I don't trust her (and this has always been her anthem whenever we have serious arguments, she would say maybe we are not compatible).

She later apologized and promised not to let that happen again that she would cut loose of the guy, only for us to be talking via whatsapp last night around 11:40 for to receive this guys call and they spoke for like 10mins. I ended my call, she called back later and was like it was just an innocent talk they had....

Seriously, I am tired and confused, what should I do? Please help me with your candid advice. So sorry for the long epistle and some bad grammar."

Your biťch is fúcking that boy.