emy9:
Bring all of them in and start banging them. By the time she knows, no one will tell her to chase all of them out.

Chase them all out with pregnancy.

4ward4:

Guess I was mis quoted. That should be for petti things needed in making a meal. I assumed raw foods stuffs should be made available in bulk buying.

Haa.. you need to edit your post to reflect these details.

Hmmm ...
So the four of them can't talk and get something doing to raise money and rent an apartment for themselves Kaiii

Are you going to be feeding them as well.?

emmeyen:
The two of you are not serious. You see five orphans with the eldest sister just being a little bit off age and instead of you supporting them from afar Or seeing how you can help them grow up to some level of independence, you decided to reason with your waist for what ever reason you thought was best. Then after the thing has boomeranged, you are now saying she should discard two siblings. Na So e take easy to discard siblings because of man? You don't have money, you went to impregnate an orphan with 4 sisters. Now you have added an infant to their predicament.

Then that your baby mama needs serious beating because with their condition, "man" should be the last thing on her mind. How she got pregnant for a man who is not her husband with the hope that he will take her and her sisters into his house after marriage is pure madness.

Oga stay away from those kids let them find their life abeg. If your daughter is the problem, please take her away and take care of her yourself. Leave them alone. People should learn to stop adding drama to people's drama.

This is not about you being a simp or whatever. This is about you not being able to see that what those girls need is someone to guide then through life. Just let them be. Na beg i dey beg you.

that guy tob456 isn't smart.

I'msure he understood the entire situation and the living conditions yet he just decided t foolish himself.

Like you rightly mentioned, he could have helped from afar so they can be independent but just look at wahala. 7 siblings!!!!

The lord is his strength is I no get advice for mumu people.

This kind of situation is so pathetic, tbh. Some of us Africans live with the belief that having as much children is a show of achievement and fruitfulness. And there's this common belief amongst Christians that if God can provide for the birds in the sky, he'd do even more for us his children. So they just go about bringing children into the world without proper planning & solid means of securing their future.

Zupay:
People go just dey born children dey go without thinking of "what is if I die or permanently incapacitated by sickness, how will my young children survive"?

She has so many baggage which should not be your primary obligation, you can have two of her youngest siblings live with you both and get her to have both her paternal and maternal sides support in accommodating others while she sends something to them regularly.

rainlover:

Lol! Women supporting women indeed..

Assuming the OP is your brother, you would have single handedly chased away the baby mama.. Argue with your keyboard.

End!

Since you have comprehension problem

Why not stop commenting on posts that you read and don't understand

frankyychiji:
My guess is 19. Chai.

I just went to his other thread it seems like she’s in her 20s.

Justkatty:
Truly it won't be easy but if it can be possible for you to rent another house for them and also if they are matured enough to get a job too, so they can always support themselves.

A family of 4 are finding it difficult to feed in this economy, talk more of a family with plenty adults.
It is well
May God see you through.

Let's stop being emotional and try to be logical for once. If he's capable to rent an apartment for them, I'm sure he would have done that.

The man doesn't owe the sisters anything and he shouldn't be emotionally blackmailed to renting an apartment for anyone. Anything he does should be a plus and at his convenience, let's try to be considerate when giving advice abeg , 4 girls + wife + baby + himself hahan

Pierohandsome:
If you have the means to Carter for all of them without financial stress , go ahead .

But if all you have can only care for your daughter and her mother, don't succumb to such ransom that she is holding you on.

Now that she doesn't live with you, where are her 4 siblings living? You can be part of your daughter's life without her living with you. I raised my son like that, paid and still paying his fees, upkeep, and many other things. He only comes for holidays once school is on vacation.

Your baby mama is selfish towards you, she only cares about her siblings even at your own expense. I detest women like that. She wants to sacrifice you for her siblings, that is wickedness

The root of the problem here is this having a child out of wedlock.

If there was no child, this issue won't have arisen.

His baby mama does not want to abandon her siblings. If she insisted they would come stay with her after the wedding, he could have said no and walked out of the relationship

Now he's between the devil and the deep blue sea.

Providing her sustenance isn't the problem but her growing up in a bad environment. This can pollute her and she'll grow up to be a delinquent.

I feel he should take his baby mama's siblings in If that's the price he has to pay if he wants his child to have a proper upbringing.

God will reward his generosity. He should be rest assured of that (Read Proverbs 19:17)

Cc: Tob456

Tob456:
I have a 7 months old daughter her mother is an orphan, she is the eldest of 7.

We broke up when she was pregnant because we had a disagreement about her siblings living arrangements.

She wanted her 4 sisters to stay with us after the wedding and I only two of them to stay with us. The problem is seeing my daughter growing in a bad environment away from me makes me feel so bad.

Whenever I visit her I feel so bad leaving her behind that I don't sleep well thinking about her all night.

I also doesn't like the idea of having kids with different mothers.

For my daughter's sake I want to get back with her mother for us to raise her together in the same house. But getting back with her means that I should also allow her 4 siblings to stay with us after the wedding.

I am doing this for my daughter's sake but I don't know if I am making a wise decision.

What do you guys think should I get back with her or forget about her and concentrate only on my daughter.

Please help

Person go born dey leave wahala got in-law.
Remember you have a family to raise, all you can do is help them not bore all their problems.
You tried to accommodate 2.
If she does not agree leave them to their fate and tell the mother of your baby the consequence of what she is sticking to

Pierohandsome:
If you have the means to Carter for all of them without financial stress , go ahead .

But if all you have can only care for your daughter and her mother, don't succumb to such ransom that she is holding you on.

Now that she doesn't live with you, where are her 4 siblings living? You can be part of your daughter's life without her living with you. I raised my son like that, paid and still paying his fees, upkeep, and many other things. He only comes for holidays once school is on vacation.

Your baby mama is selfish towards you, she only cares about her siblings even at your own expense. I detest women like that. She wants to sacrifice you for her siblings, that is wickedness

you misunderstood the woman in this situation. She's an orphan and firstborn of 7. Where is she being selfish?

Expect her whole lineage to join u after wedding

cococandy:


I just went to his other thread it seems like she’s in her 20s.

One francofficia comment on the second page captured all the sides.

frankyychiji:
Chase them all out with pregnancy.

Exactly.

Pque:


To start banging underage so that when they all later know he will spend his entire life in prison on life imprisonment. Life imprisonment is the punishment for banging or defiling any under age, whether you did it once or many times it does not matter. Straight life imprisonment once you are found guilty. Many men's future have been tarnished in prison for this simple mistake. Make the report reach any police station, he own don don be that. Bad advise

At least he doesn't get to take care of any of them from prison. They'll be forced to tend for themselves. Bang the hell outta them if she insists they have to stay with him.

cyrusmillz:


Let's stop being emotional and try to be logical for once. If he's capable to rent an apartment for them, I'm sure he would have done that.

The man doesn't owe the sisters anything and he shouldn't be emotionally blackmailed to renting an apartment for anyone. Anything he does should be a plus and at his convenience, let's try to be considerate when giving advice abeg , 4 girls + wife + baby + himself hahan

Sir that was why I used the word"if"

Caseless:
you misunderstood the woman in this situation. She's an orphan and firstborn of 7. Where is she being selfish?

And so what, how does living with her own husband translates to abandoning them?

Ok now she isn't living with him, where are the siblings living?

Then he should sacrifice his own future for her and her siblings because he wants to marry? Are they the only orphans in this world?

grandstar:


The root of the problem here is this having a child out of wedlock.

If there was no child, this issue won't have arisen.

His baby mama does not want to abandon her siblings. If she insisted they would come stay with her after the wedding, he could have said no and walked out of the relationship

Now he's between the devil and the deep blue sea.

Providing her sustenance isn't the problem but her growing up in a bad environment. This can pollute her and she'll grow up to be a delinquent.

I feel he should take his baby mama's siblings in If that's the price he has to pay if he wants his child to have a proper upbringing.

God will reward his generosity. He should be rest assured of that (Read Proverbs 19:17)

Cc: Tob456

how does having child out of wedlock the problem? So anybody who has a child out of wedlock must bring in the whole family and village elders into his house as a compensation? How are we raising our own children out of wedlock without problem that his own suddenly becomes a problem.

Anything can be a problem with a selfish , and narcissist being

franchasofficia:
The number one reason poor or struggling guys in Nigeria remain poor or become poorer is because they marry anyhow, mostly out of pity and emotion claiming its love.



When making critical life decisions like marriage, you must take pity out of it.



Royal families that have all the wealth to carry any amount of load will never allow their Prince or sons to marry into poor family or ordinary family, but poor guys born into poor families will cheerfully go and marry poorer girls born into poorer family and hoping on luck to shine on them to survive the tsunami they started in the name of love. This is why we have too many poor families and hundreds of millions of poor Nigerians today.



As a struggling young man, when you want to marry, marry a help mate, marry a lady doing something that will support you financially. Marriage decisions are not made based on big breast, big buttocks and hot pussy alone, you must consider the financial future and implications. Marry a help mate not a baggage because both of you will end up crashing. At the end, both of you end up not helping the other's situation but rather complicated it. That is why in Igbo dialect, there is an adage that says: "onye akwo n'azu anaghi akwo onye ozo", meaning someone that is being backed cannot back another person or someone that is being carried cannot carry another person. Don't try to save a poor girl out of pity through marriage when you as a guy is still looking for who to help you or how to come out of your own financial and life mess. Always use your wisdom in this life if not, you will end up at the bottom of the ladder of life struggling to survive.





You guys will see mature ladies that are gainfully employed, that will support you in marriage and you will abandon them in the name of she is an evening newspaper and you go and marry small girls that have no financial or career or skill bearing and tomorrow when things become difficult for you guys, you now carry the wahala to Church to disturb God that gave you wisdom and common sense to use to maneuver through life.



Go and read the book of Proverbs on how Bible described a wife, that should give most of you an idea of the kind of ladies to marry.



And to every single lady reading this, try and equip yourself for marriage, get a skill learn a trade, take away pride and learn something and also get a small job and save. Prepare for marriage, don't wait until you marry a rich guy, rich guys are scarce now and the competition to get them is very high. Prepare your mind to support any man you would be getting married to.



To all men reading, help your daughters, sisters, nieces and cousins to have something doing in preparation for marriage. Don't let your single female wards to be empty without any skill or career or something to go into marriage please

So much wisdom in this...

Bros you’re not serious at all. You told your would be wife that you can only accommodate two of her sisters, with this you’ve done more than enough cos normally as a young couple just getting married, you need privacy for at least two years but she gave you condition of letting 4 of her sisters stay with you. So you’re going to be the wife and she’ll be your husband. Congrats sha

It's not funny taking care of your family, talk more of extra additions in this down spiralling economy.

The wife is already loyal to her siblings...Her husband is the lowest priority on her list...The husband is definitely going to feel lonely and used.

Best way out is for the husband to keep on sending moderate cash to his daughter and wife, as they're already separated...The wife should try to hustle with business or monthly salary work.

After many months from now without any headway for reconciliation, the man should search for a future wife without any baggages.

This life is too short for one to keep on sobering.

Ab025:
How can you agree to two of your wife's sisters living with you after wedding, together with your wife....?

This is marriage and not family meeting or reunion o..

By the way, Don't they have where they are presently staying...can't they remain there after the wedding?

For your wife-to-be to even utter that statement sef.....I doubt if she really likes you or your ability to "provide".

#My own thoughts sha...

This is a two Way's thing's, if you have the resources which I believed she is aware of, why can't you allow them.

Don't marry her with any condition aside bringing only your daughter with her.
You will regret it if you allow even one talk more of 4.
A word is enough...

Tob456:




Who were the sisters staying with

Two were staying with her and the youngest two with her aunty. At the moment they are all staying together.


And what is the age group of the sisters??

They are underage 17,15, 13 and 11 years old.

No problems then if, the lady and her aunt/relatives will be catering for the Siblings;

Peaceable option: They all not permanently in your place 24/7.
13 and 11 to boarding school.
17 can find a job.
17 and 15 should be learning a skill.
Any One of them can be rotating from the aunt's place.

Petty option: Inform and bring in any number of your own siblings/cousins too.

Hell option: Go and live in your own family house if it is close by. Save yourself costs and allow the heat of natural selection to do the job for you.
It's either they're gone away from you completely or they're going into your neighbours/relatives households as in-laws.

You can still play the games women play by accepting to what she says to go into marriage and bring in your child then give them hell out of your abode within or after a year.

In all you do, the key point is to ensure you are not exhausting yourself to cater for them. They can stay close to their sister, join her in business etc but not dependent on you for their welfare.

Kooldon:
I know a nice guy in my area that relocated to village because of this same thing.

He has 2 kids with the wife.

The wife had a boy from her previous relationship.

The wife's two sisters also joined them in a small single room apartment.
He discussed with the wife severally. She didnt accept and she is has no job

He has been sleeping in his shop for more than 2 years without touching the wife.

All of them were feeding from his pocket.

No Savings.
He couldnt pay the shop rent. He recloted to the village and the wife refused paying him a visit til date.

You stil have the final say

Nice guys finish last

Tob456:
I have a 7 months old daughter her mother is an orphan, she is the eldest of 7.

We broke up when she was pregnant because we had a disagreement about her siblings living arrangements.

She wanted her 4 sisters to stay with us after the wedding and I only two of them to stay with us. The problem is seeing my daughter growing in a bad environment away from me makes me feel so bad.

Whenever I visit her I feel so bad leaving her behind that I don't sleep well thinking about her all night.

I also doesn't like the idea of having kids with different mothers.

For my daughter's sake I want to get back with her mother for us to raise her together in the same house. But getting back with her means that I should also allow her 4 siblings to stay with us after the wedding.

I am doing this for my daughter's sake but I don't know if I am making a wise decision.

What do you guys think should I get back with her or forget about her and concentrate only on my daughter.

Please help

Listen, if for the sake of your little girl alone you'll want to get back under the same roof with her mom, then know that you aren't ready to kill this turbulence once and for all. Your daughter wasn't in the picture before you got her preggy but her siblings were there. She told you. You saw the signs and still went ahead with the marriage.
Fallen out of love with her? Well sorry, you may have to fall back in.
You're thinking about your daughter, while your wife is nobody's daughter. Dey play.
You can call me a religious maniac, but you see that orphan lady? If she cries up to her creator because of you, you go think say village people don open your file.
Better get her to sit down, bury your ego and re negotiate your realities together, rather than try to poltiticise it.
Kill this selfishness bro and face the situation you created, cos God is watching.

OZIOGU1:
If you have the resources please help them, orphans prayers don't go unnoticed in the eye of God, My wife is an orphan i took her like my blood sister i can tell you that after Almighty God what i am today is largely to the blessing from her, she prays and wish me well every morning before leaving the house, i was in one level for six years, after my marriage to her, i got 4 promotions consecutively. So my brother help and i encourage you to do it with one heart, you will see your life in the next few years

God bless you for this boss.
Him no know whether that is his millionaire test. My own be say he saw the situation and still went ahead with the union. Now he's talking about his daughter. That degree of selfishness stinks to the highest heavens.

See as people dey dish advise anyhow while some are already abusing the girl. Anyway, I blame the OP for not including the information about the wife's siblings' ages in his original post. THEY ARE ALL CHILDREN for God's sake, the oldest is 17 yrs according to him, so leaving them behind or asking that they should work is ridiculous. It is definitely a sad and tough situation; no responsible elder sister would want to leave her underaged siblings out there on their own.

Tob456:
I have a 7 months old daughter her mother is an orphan, she is the eldest of 7.

We broke up when she was pregnant because we had a disagreement about her siblings living arrangements.

She wanted her 4 sisters to stay with us after the wedding and I only two of them to stay with us. The problem is seeing my daughter growing in a bad environment away from me makes me feel so bad.

Whenever I visit her I feel so bad leaving her behind that I don't sleep well thinking about her all night.

I also doesn't like the idea of having kids with different mothers.

For my daughter's sake I want to get back with her mother for us to raise her together in the same house. But getting back with her means that I should also allow her 4 siblings to stay with us after the wedding.

I am doing this for my daughter's sake but I don't know if I am making a wise decision.

What do you guys think should I get back with her or forget about her and concentrate only on my daughter.

Please help

What are the ages of the siblings?
What promises did you make to her when you were gisting her? Reflect on those promises and act accordingly.

Although she is being manipulative and she is currently on self destruct mode just to punish you, but I am sure it's based off the promises you made to her and the expectations you created in her.

Oluchia:
See as people dey dish advise anyhow while some are already abusing the girl. Anyway, I blame the OP for not including the information about the wife's siblings' ages in his original post. THEY ARE ALL CHILDREN for God's sake, the oldest is 17 yrs according to him, so leaving them behind or asking that they should work is ridiculous. It is definitely a sad and tough situation; no responsible elder sister would want to leave her underaged siblings out there on their own.

Nigeria is already in a tough situation, men are saddled with so much responsibility within a terrible economy and the loyalty of women is not guaranteed, don't blame people talking harshly it's the economic reality.

However with proper planning he can make them useful, open up a laundry shop and let the elder ones work in it whilst the younger ones go to school from the proceeds of all their combined earnings. He can be going out for his daily hustles and gradually he could build something good in and out of the whole situation...

OZIOGU1:
If you have the resources please help them, orphans prayers don't go unnoticed in the eye of God, My wife is an orphan i took her like my blood sister i can tell you that after Almighty God what i am today is largely to the blessing from her, she prays and wish me well every morning before leaving the house, i was in one level for six years, after my marriage to her, i got 4 promotions consecutively. So my brother help and i encourage you to do it with one heart, you will see your life in the next few years

I don't think you read his story well oh , The wife wants him to house her 4 sisters + new born baby + wife + him ..... how do you expect all of them to feed daily in this period that we are