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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by MindHacker9009(m): 3:32pm On Jul 13, 2023
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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Psady(m): 3:37pm On Jul 13, 2023
COOL10:
Every woman is a narcissist, especially modern day women.
Not really all, The good one's analyse the situation during your comfort time and apologize ,if only u able to school them proper .

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by 18wheeler: 3:40pm On Jul 13, 2023
She may be narcissistic okay, but the main problem here is you. You are Simp

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Kingcalls: 3:41pm On Jul 13, 2023
poshestmina:
It shouldn't be a women bashing thread because narcissists are not only women.

They are the worst emotional manipulators on earth . they'll rather die than admit and take responsibility of their wrongs .
He'll cheat and would blame me for not giving him attention and his mental health blah blah .

Gaslighting . Playing the victim card.
Gets very aggressive when angry and of course Domestic violence.
He'd beat me up so bad and then force me to stay indoors so "I don't spoil his image".


The relationship ended with Nysc.
Started begging me and going for Therapies.

Only my brothers know what they said or did to him ,I didn't hear from him again till date.

Toxic souls and if you stick around them for a long time ,you become as toxic as them.
They'll drain you mentally , emotionally, spiritually and in every possible way if you let them.

Now,once I notice that attitude from anyone , even a female friend or colleague ,I cut them off immediately!!
Those people will make you feel mad and frustrated and that's how they derive their own happiness.

U just described a typical woman ....simps suffer in their hands well well ...

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Captain0823: 3:43pm On Jul 13, 2023
My brethren brother break up os the main solution... Let love breath
Don't look at the love side
Break up with her
I just break up with mine too last 2 months...

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by bigcee(m): 3:43pm On Jul 13, 2023
Xenry:
Can't be me. When I notice the slightest red flag, I'm out. That's probably why I'm still single.

Lol, I don't even think twice. Any red flag I done japa. I don't have the time to dey feed anybody ego. I hate nonsense.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by BobbieZion(m): 3:44pm On Jul 13, 2023
They are usually very cute and charming.
Now that covers the underlying narcissistic tendencies,so at first you won't see it coming.

They love bomb you and create a false perfect world for you, but anytime you want to talk about any thing serious they snub you.
They are the greatest at entitlement,they want you to become their parent.
They are never available emotionally and they lack empathy.
They are great liars and have countless sex partners, so they are great cheats.

They make you run mad and after some time you will start losing your sanity.
Their victims are mostly kind hearted and caring people.
They are very intelligent and they create scenarios in their head, which makes them great at acting and directing.

Judith anywhere you are just know that I am a real OG, you couldn't toy with my intelligence.
And if I had the opportunity I will collect my Mavado watch back, e still dey pain me die.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Kingcalls: 3:46pm On Jul 13, 2023
meobizy:
Nairaland no get the IQ points to debate on this topic. Sometimes I believe you children rip questions from western forums to post here. A medium where users steal comments from other platforms to post as their thoughts will never amount to much.

A narcissist spotted...na dem dem👆

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by SayNo2SmallPrik: 3:47pm On Jul 13, 2023
@ jennyclay, what do you’ve to say Omo weyrey

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by NACE13: 3:48pm On Jul 13, 2023
I'm a bit of a narcissist, but I do it to put my woman In check. From experience, if a woman knows you are head-over-heels for her, she starts to misbehave. So a little mix of narcissism with love keeps her stable.
I'll purposely flirt with another woman and when she gets angry, I just play my little narcissistic card to mess with her head. So far, it has worked for me smiley

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Moniya4Real(m): 3:48pm On Jul 13, 2023
You make it easier for them , especially when they realize you love them very much and like you are kind of emotionally attached to them

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Moniya4Real(m): 3:49pm On Jul 13, 2023
You make it easier for them , especially when they realize you love them very much and like you are kind of emotionally attached to them. O boy! I got drained financially cos of mind-blowing sex she was giving.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by bigcee(m): 3:53pm On Jul 13, 2023
meobizy:
Nairaland no get the IQ points to debate on this topic. Sometimes I believe you children rip questions from western forums to post here. A medium where users steal comments from other platforms to post as their thoughts will never amount to much.
Crass

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Anguldi(m): 3:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
I've got a friend, dude is perfect at manipulating and gaslighting ladies. No matter how pretty and hot you look, if you fall for him. You are finished, dude is very rich and spend lavishly and trust Nigerian ladies shocked.
He will turn you to sex slave, promise you heaven on earth, once you ask for money OTILO. He doesn't give a dime but can spend on table and spray you money

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Holluwhakemmy(f): 3:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
Perfectman91:
I'm in hell with a woman who bore 2 kids for me, most women esp the Nigerian counterparts are demons. Done with the bitch and may stay single for the rest of my life
Mr perfect how come your home is not perfect?
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by meobizy(f): 3:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
bigcee:

Crass
…yet true.
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by REVOLUTION2018(m): 3:55pm On Jul 13, 2023
I just dropped one.
It's not just only you she will destroy, she will destroy everything around you...


Saintinoo:
This is not a female bashing thread, just to share my experience with some kind of human.

I have been hearing of the narcissism, and even through I believe we all have one traits of narcissism or the other, but I experienced this with my now ex girlfriend. All this while I was trying to protect and love her even after seeing so many signs of narcissism but, the more I try, the more I make her believe that I am the problem. Here are most things she does that made me believe she has a covert NPD.

1. Love bombs me today, and give me hell the next day.
2. She never apologizes, she will ghost me until I apologize for complaining about her wrong doing.
3. She gives silent treatment immediately after an argument until I apologize.
4. She gets angry so easily, she can yell at or shame me when angry and when I react, silent treatment follows.
5. When I caught her lie, even the slightest lie, she gets angry and start ghosting me till I apologizes (sort of manipulation).

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.

She actually left when she saw that I was too sturborn for her manipulations and won't adhere to her demands, need I say that I still tried to get her back, that is how female narcissists destroys not just their man but even female friends they manage to have.

Guys ever been in a relationship with this type of woman, share you experience.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 4:01pm On Jul 13, 2023
I am a female,but in all honesty,narcissism is most likely to be with a woman than men.

Narcissism comes from weakness, emotional weakness.The urge to be complimented and to be the center of attraction, the fear of admitting you are wrong or being judged that you have to obfuscate,spin tables,gaslight. The need to want to be in control of narratives. To get your strength by putting others. Hence a woman is more than likely to be a narcissist than a man. Men are more likely to be psychopaths than women. But there are male narcissist. They generally are cowards or weak or feminine.

A male narcissist=spiritual feminine man.


There is one way to deal with narcissist -ignore,don't indulge.when you ignore them,their sense of control is gone,they are very weak. But note that ignoring a narcissist is not for the faint at heart. You have been the source of their strength and validation ( by putting you down) ,a sudden withdrawal of that attention and strength you gave them will not go down well with them. They are not ready to love you,neither are they ready to lose you.
At this point love bombing is a tool they will use to lure you back. They will cry,tell you about a painful past that made them the way they are( in some cases lie about a tragic experience),even apologize in some cases, some drink poison or cut themselves to get you back..but don't fall for it.
If it's a male narcissist,he will quickly propose to you(to make you so excited that you forget all the uphills and what he has done). Then the cycle keeps repeating itself.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Stiv19cuff(m): 4:05pm On Jul 13, 2023
Crazy kind of people, stay far away from them...mine then thought the world revovled around her, you will always be the one to say sorry...thier wahala too much abeg, the bible even said it is better for you as a man to live in the corner of your roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Peace of mind is everything..thank God, God blessed me with a perfect Woman now

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by XTHRONE(m): 4:12pm On Jul 13, 2023
Rexie96:
My woman is.. thatz why i steadily give her infevtion and treat myself right away...

She is sometimes a devil in human form.. put me through hell on earth , almost losing my sanity, lost business oppurtunities and many more.. best purnshment is watvhing her battle infections..


After u go still come collect am back, lol

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by achimendy(m): 4:15pm On Jul 13, 2023
These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.[color=#000000][/color]/quote]


Don't think every man is like you. You're a simp, that's why you go back begging her even when she did wrong to you .


I wonder how you still describe yourself as stubborn when you can't act.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Rexie96: 4:18pm On Jul 13, 2023
XTHRONE:



After u go still come collect am back, lol

Naaah.. decided to treat her recently.. shes cleared.

To be honest, it aint busy been a man.... being goodlooking, rich, good in bed wont save u from a woman manipulating your sanity.. just pray to have a better woman whos a little calm and understanding

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Shattuck(m): 4:31pm On Jul 13, 2023
Toxic people are the worst kind of humans, I can't even stress this enough if you want to live long stay away from them

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by vickydevoka(m): 4:32pm On Jul 13, 2023
poshestmina:
It shouldn't be a women bashing thread because narcissists are not only women.

They are the worst emotional manipulators on earth . they'll rather die than admit and take responsibility of their wrongs .
He'll cheat and would blame me for not giving him attention and his mental health blah blah .

Gaslighting . Playing the victim card.
Gets very aggressive when angry and of course Domestic violence.
He'd beat me up so bad and then force me to stay indoors so "I don't spoil his image".


The relationship ended with Nysc.
Started begging me and going for Therapies.

Only my brothers know what they said or did to him ,I didn't hear from him again till date.

Toxic souls and if you stick around them for a long time ,you become as toxic as them.
They'll drain you mentally , emotionally, spiritually and in every possible way if you let them.

Now,once I notice that attitude from anyone , even a female friend or colleague ,I cut them off immediately!!
Those people will make you feel mad and frustrated and that's how they derive their own happiness.
Narcissist are Always fine ladies and rich guys. Or highly educated individuals

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Nobody: 4:33pm On Jul 13, 2023
meobizy:
Nairaland no get the IQ points to debate on this topic. Sometimes I believe you children rip questions from western forums to post here. A medium where users steal comments from other platforms to post as their thoughts will never amount to much.
🤣🤣🤣

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Cloudflare: 4:34pm On Jul 13, 2023
Saintinoo:


Do you know the worst of it all? I kept on going back to her after vowing that I am done. Because of the love bomb she used on me.

Nothing like love bomb. She toyed with you and make it hard because humans naturally love what they can't get easily. Girls like that subdued immediately they encounter a real man. Bang nonsense out of her and give her the silent treatment. Tell her you're busy even when she wants your attention baldly. Dude she'll be the one wondering what you're up to. Dem no born am well to dey give you silent treatment when in reality na u suppose dey give her silent treatment.

Narcissist girls can only use quiet and emotionally Dudes. Baba no be guys like me because I don show dem shege tire.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by wickedworld: 4:39pm On Jul 13, 2023
Saintinoo:


You are right, it is a both gender something.

In my case, she waits for me to complain about things she does, then when next we have an argument she accuses me of being that thing, e.g, she have an uncontrollable anger, when I complain about her anger issue, next time she accuse me of having an uncontrollable anger.

She does not really appreciate things I do for her, she has this materialistic mentality but disguise as someone who is not.

Like I mentioned up there, she yell at me when she is angry.

She insults and shame me when we have an argument.

When she is angry, if I am dying, she derives joy from it, she totally lack empathy when she is angry.

She loves being in control and always gets threatened when I mentioned mention being a man.

I don't wish my worst enemy such woman.


Very Toxic ppl , no matter their age . most narcissist I have met are Aquarius star sign.

They are very manipulative, have cheap ego, they can lair for Africa, tarnishing ppl image, even if u cut ur head off they can never satisfied, a user's is what they are, a betrayal, never say sorry because their mistake is always somebody fault, they will wronged u but they will be the one to embarrass u on it while screaming on top their voice just to get ppl confuse who is at fault, they are very envious human being, they will steal from u and it will still not be their fault, when they want something they can go extreme to get that thing to the extend of using charm, they are very controlling, a cheat yet they will tarnished ur image that u cheat, they feed on noice etc I can go on and on this ppl are evil

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by batistutajulio: 4:42pm On Jul 13, 2023
Saintinoo:
This is not a female bashing thread, just to share my experience with some kind of human.

I have been hearing of the narcissism, and even through I believe we all have one traits of narcissism or the other, but I experienced this with my now ex girlfriend. All this while I was trying to protect and love her even after seeing so many signs of narcissism but, the more I try, the more I make her believe that I am the problem. Here are most things she does that made me believe she has a covert NPD.

1. Love bombs me today, and give me hell the next day.
2. She never apologizes, she will ghost me until I apologize for complaining about her wrong doing.
3. She gives silent treatment immediately after an argument until I apologize.
4. She gets angry so easily, she can yell at or shame me when angry and when I react, silent treatment follows.
5. When I caught her lie, even the slightest lie, she gets angry and start ghosting me till I apologizes (sort of manipulation).

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.

She actually left when she saw that I was too sturborn for her manipulations and won't adhere to her demands, need I say that I still tried to get her back, that is how female narcissists destroys not just their man but even female friends they manage to have.

Guys ever been in a relationship with this type of woman, share you experience.


Here's my story, I had encounter with someone like that recently and till today, although I've moved on but anytime I remember the encounter. I asked myself am I the problem or she is problem? Although, I made mistake. I felt she was more a street-wise selfish woman.

But here is the good and bad news. I'm good like f*cking healthy. I wish I knew her game earlier, I would've inflicted a real hit on her psychology for attempting to play me. If you're a Nacissist, pray not to meet me or else it will be a real game.

All psychopath should avoid me because I'm a predator and they're my prey. I know their moves unless I'm caught unaware.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Anguldi(m): 4:46pm On Jul 13, 2023
Cloudflare:


Nothing like love bomb. She toyed with you and make it hard because humans naturally love what they can't get easily. Girls like that subdued immediately they encounter a real man. Bang nonsense out of her and give her the silent treatment. Tell her you're busy even when she wants your attention baldly. Dude she'll be the one wondering what you're up to. Dem no born am well to dey give you silent treatment when in reality na u suppose dey give her silent treatment.

Narcissist girls can only use quiet and emotionally Dudes. Baba no be guys like me because I don show dem shege tire.
This is how my guy operates, busy busy busy. If konji comes, they come like a hungry dogs giving bones

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Cloudflare: 4:50pm On Jul 13, 2023
Anguldi:

This is how my guy operates, busy busy busy. If konji comes, they come like a hungry dogs giving bones

Oga the only time we call a girl or chat up with a girl is when we want to fvck her, anything aside this is a complete waste of time. Na mumu Simp guys dey experience narcissistic from a girl. I pity guys that are quiet, dull and Simps girls go use dem play tire.

The greatest weapon a man has over a woman is ATTENTION. Just as the greatest weapon a woman has over a man is SEX. men should learn to use theirs Very well because women are using theirs extremely smart by making money with their kpekpus.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by kennyok(m): 4:51pm On Jul 13, 2023
Actually had similar experiences with one,did everything you stated here and I sure regret everything meeting her right now,they are worst form of women to meet especially when you as a guy is been honest and having a future plans ..

My advIce ,if you ever find anyone with all the following traits above ,please don't even try to change or repair those damages,because they are inredeemable.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by XTHRONE(m): 4:52pm On Jul 13, 2023
Rexie96:


Naaah.. decided to treat her recently.. shes cleared.

To be honest, it aint busy been a man.... being goodlooking, rich, good in bed wont save u from a woman manipulating your sanity.. just pray to have a better woman whos a little calm and understanding


Women are unpleasable

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