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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Anguldi(m): 8:54pm On Jul 13, 2023
Saintinoo:


Haha, seems you were also almost destroyed by her, I can say I was destroyed because she made me always go back to beg her after feeding me with silent treatment.

Beb will wrong me, when I get upset, she will give silent treatment until I apologize. To me I have found a wife, was busy planning marriage, I made her my priority, everything was about her needs, career and family.

Thank God we no come your burial, you dogged a bullet. When you look back, one will think is charm but na pure manipulation. Man abuse chai. They are fit to be single mothers, no apologies

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Saintinoo(m): 8:59pm On Jul 13, 2023
goldust777:
A female covert narcissist the most dangerous category of narcissist is the worst person a man can date worst marry and have kids with,they will pretend to be some else they are not for years only to remove this fake pretensive mask suddenly especially in marriage and your left with a pure demonic evil woman,If you're the church going type you will think she was possessed by a demon and wasting your time taking her to pastors for deliverance.what you don't understand is she is actually the demon in human form ready to destroy your life totally and make your life hell on earth before you think of visiting as a sinner if you're married to a female covert narcissist please run for your life don't stay in it for the kids.if you're alive and not destroyed in a marriage to a female covert narcissist you can stay alive for your kids.Abeg run o

I was planning marriage with her soon, thank God the mask went off, bro if I start telling you my experience, you will really pity me, female covert narc destroy her prey no matter how strong he is.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by goldust777: 9:51pm On Jul 13, 2023
goldust777:
A female covert narcissist the most dangerous category of narcissist is the worst person a man can date worse marry and have kids with,they will pretend to be someone else they are not for years only to remove this fake pretensive mask suddenly especially in marriage and your left with a pure demonic evil woman,If you're the church going type you will think she was possessed by a demon and wasting your time taking her to pastors for deliverance.what you don't understand is she is actually the demon in human form ready to destroy your life totally and make your life hell on earth before you think of visiting as a sinner if you're married to a female covert narcissist please run for your life don't stay in it for the kids.if you're alive and not destroyed in a marriage to a female covert narcissist you can stay alive for your kids.Abeg run o
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by izonborn098(m): 10:06pm On Jul 13, 2023
The biggest one, begging woman who don't have his time. I no just understand s6me men
18wheeler:
She may be narcissistic okay, but the main problem here is you. You are Simp

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Newbielearner(m): 10:07pm On Jul 13, 2023
Saintinoo:


You are right, it is a both gender something.

In my case, she waits for me to complain about things she does, then when next we have an argument she accuses me of being that thing, e.g, she have an uncontrollable anger, when I complain about her anger issue, next time she accuse me of having an uncontrollable anger.

She does not really appreciate things I do for her, she has this materialistic mentality but disguise as someone who is not.

Like I mentioned up there, she yell at me when she is angry.

She insults and shame me when we have an argument.

When she is angry, if I am dying, she derives joy from it, she totally lack empathy when she is angry.

She loves being in control and always gets threatened when I mentioned mention being a man.

I don't wish my worst enemy such woman.

You listed out the traits accurately.

Funny enough, it's good men that fall into this kinds of conundrum. It's almost as though life wants to make such men hard, evil, or tough through them. But the weak would get broken.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Newbielearner(m): 10:14pm On Jul 13, 2023
BobbieZion:
They are usually very cute and charming.
Now that covers the underlying narcissistic tendencies,so at first you won't see it coming.

They love bomb you and create a false perfect world for you, but anytime you want to talk about any thing serious they snub you.
They are the greatest at entitlement,they want you to become their parent.
They are never available emotionally and they lack empathy.
They are great liars and have countless sex partners, so they are great cheats.

They make you run mad and after some time you will start losing your sanity.
Their victims are mostly kind hearted and caring people.
They are very intelligent and they create scenarios in their head, which makes them great at acting and directing.

May God bless you.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Newbielearner(m): 10:17pm On Jul 13, 2023
Stiv19cuff:
Crazy kind of people, stay far away from them...mine then thought the world revovled around her, you will always be the one to say sorry...thier wahala too much abeg, the bible even said it is better for you as a man to live in the corner of your roof than to share a house with a quarrelsome wife. Peace of mind is everything..thank God, God blessed me with a perfect Woman now

I tap into the Grace that rescued and supplied you in Jesus name.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by MySolace: 10:48pm On Jul 13, 2023
helinues:
The problem nowadays is people don't start with friendship anymore, they just jumped into relationship.

If you have gone through the friendship process, you would have seen such traits before considering going into a relationship with such person. Friendship is the process of getting to know more about each other's, likes and dislikes, do's and dont's..

Most people don't have love map.
Dey usually conceal such during friendships...
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Luckysbab: 11:53pm On Jul 13, 2023

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by isabi2lof: 12:05am On Jul 14, 2023
It goes both ways

Everytime woman this woman that undecided

This gender war no go ever finish grin grin

Some of you men , don't appreciate the good women in your lives , people have eyes , they're seeing everything that goes on.

Very soon , everybody go dey him dey .. 🤣🤣

Since relationship matter no wan get head agai, everybody wan play smart , he go soon tire everybody.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by thinkmoney(m): 12:44am On Jul 14, 2023
Saintinoo:
This is not a female bashing thread, just to share my experience with some kind of human.

I have been hearing of the narcissism, and even through I believe we all have one traits of narcissism or the other, but I experienced this with my now ex girlfriend. All this while I was trying to protect and love her even after seeing so many signs of narcissism but, the more I try, the more I make her believe that I am the problem. Here are most things she does that made me believe she has a covert NPD.

1. Love bombs me today, and give me hell the next day.
2. She never apologizes, she will ghost me until I apologize for complaining about her wrong doing.
3. She gives silent treatment immediately after an argument until I apologize.
4. She gets angry so easily, she can yell at or shame me when angry and when I react, silent treatment follows.
5. When I caught her lie, even the slightest lie, she gets angry and start ghosting me till I apologizes (sort of manipulation).

These and many more I experienced from dating a female narcissist, female narcissists do not know ALFA male, just don't get into any relationship with them else they will destroy you, no matter how strong of a man you are.

She actually left when she saw that I was too sturborn for her manipulations and won't adhere to her demands, need I say that I still tried to get her back, that is how female narcissists destroys not just their man but even female friends they manage to have.

Guys ever been in a relationship with this type of woman, share you experience.

You show too many signs of weakness man. I have dated more than 100ladies (I am not proud of it), and never as any one show those kind of things to me to such degree.
Women with whatever mental situation still sizes up people

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by thinkmoney(m): 12:45am On Jul 14, 2023
Saintinoo:


Do you know the worst of it all? I kept on going back to her after vowing that I am done. Because of the love bomb she used on me.
You have weaknesses. She sensed it and used it against u

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by thinkmoney(m): 12:51am On Jul 14, 2023
SWaccomodator:


Go get a life first before blabbing what does not exist on a faceless forum
he is right. It’s u that should go get a life.
You are allergic to truths
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by thinkmoney(m): 12:53am On Jul 14, 2023
Rexie96:


Fool.. wat do u know lol, a chicken like you would have been dead if u dated dat woman ome month
Then leave her and move on na. They tie u join her?
You sound like the manipulator here.
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by SonofGod231: 1:18am On Jul 14, 2023
She's just not into you bro....Nothing narcissistic about her,understand this and move the fvck on.
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by bepositive11: 2:45am On Jul 14, 2023
helinues:


Friendship is the process of getting to know more about each other's, likes and dislikes, do's and dont's..

That's true, but how does friendship grow into a relationship after you find out that you are both compatible? Some people only want to be friends and you risk losing the friendship when you try to start a relationship with them.
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by muhammedbilal(m): 2:50am On Jul 14, 2023
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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Frankcallys(m): 4:42am On Jul 14, 2023
Rexie96:
My woman is.. thatz why i steadily give her infevtion and treat myself right away...

She is sometimes a devil in human form.. put me through hell on earth , almost losing my sanity, lost business oppurtunities and many more.. best purnshment is watvhing her battle infections..

Now you are an idiot in two languages! After infecting her with whatever kind of sickness you wish, you treat yourself and then you still go back and collect the infection? Yeah... you said you do this steadily

What a clown 🤡 Do you even consider your well-being? Your health and life after the whole damn thing? Who is this guy? Hurting yourself just to get back at someone?

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by pansophist(m): 7:16am On Jul 14, 2023
Narcs are like thieves, their operations are in the dark. They target the inexperienced and believe in their own exceptionalism on manipulation until they jam a narc slayer like me that will deal with them wotowoto.

I can be a friend with a narc forever, just to learn more from them, and counter their every move. I don't mind taking a few blows, but it's a small price to pay, to know their operations well.

I haven't dated a narc before I am too smart for them. I already know them from afar, and will never personalize those devilish creatures. And I don't care if they are black goats, in a dark alley, I can sniff them or feel their heartbeat. Pretense doesn't help them.

All this know-how comes with intense knowledge of human nature, a hardcore personal development journey, and not infusing my bias in a situation base on my feelings.

If your actions proves to me that you have narc tendencies, I will believe you. Your words are meaningless, I always look at your actions.

NArcs arer loosers. You don't have to chase them off. Befriend them and learn more from their operations.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Oesophagus99(m): 7:20am On Jul 14, 2023
I'm related to narcs.

I've got both covert and overt NARCISSIST in family

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Cloudflare: 8:00am On Jul 14, 2023
Igboid:


You sound like a Narcissist male.
I bet you are.

Dude I just explained to you how she toyed with you and your feelings and you ended shifting your frustration on me? Oga when a girl sees you're the quiet gentle type (the type who always apologize unnecessarily whether he's the one at fault or not) the girl go use your head play tire. Normally Simps like you don't listen to advise at all. They always learn the hard way. Stay there dey simp. You know no say na Nigerian girls u dey deal with.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Cloudflare: 8:09am On Jul 14, 2023
Saintinoo:


You didn't date a narcissist, you probably date one of these Nigeria girls, date a covert narc and see the story.

I can bet my balls you can't hangout with the narcissist girls have dealt with before let alone dating or knacking them.

Oga the greatest weapon a man has over a woman is ATTENTION. same way the greatest weapon a woman has over a man is SEX.

only real men understands this. It's like you don't know a woman's life revolves around ATTENTION. dude women can't do without attention, real men understands this and play the game very well. Narcissist girls loves attention like mad, this is exactly why even when they're at fault, they would want to shift the blame on you so you can Apologize (your apology will boast their ego and pride). A sane man won't apologize! In fact he'll ghost her like she doesn't exist. Dude we have played this game years ago, Na fact I dey tell you. Dem no born any girl well to do narcissistic for where you dey. They can only do that to weak Simp and gentle guys who think with their emotions. No be for where I dey

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by megabank(m): 8:30am On Jul 14, 2023
It's funny how every engager of this thread is stating how he or she has dated a narcissist at one point or the order, and how he will not hesitate to cut off from one should he find any narcissistic trait in him.
I think this calls for introspection. Some of us may be far worst than the people we call narcissists. Sometimes, the things we do and say, thinking we are right will be adjudged to be narcissistic to an uninterested passerby.
Let's look into our hearts, and start by killing the narcissist in us first.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by megabank(m): 8:32am On Jul 14, 2023
Cloudflare:


I can bet my balls you can't hangout with the narcissist girls have dealt with before let alone dating or knacking them.

Oga the greatest weapon a man has over a woman is ATTENTION. same way the greatest weapon a woman has over a man is SEX.

only real men understands this. It's like you don't know a woman's life revolves around ATTENTION. dude women can't do without attention, real men understands this and play the game very well. Narcissist girls loves attention like mad, this is exactly why even when they're at fault, they would want to shift the blame on you so you can Apologize (your apology will boast their ego and pride). A sane man won't apologize! In fact he'll ghost her like she doesn't exist. Dude we have played this game years ago, Na fact I dey tell you. Dem no born any girl well to do narcissistic for where you dey. They can only do that to weak Simp and gentle guys who think with their emotions. No be for where I dey

This is narcissistic.
Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Cloudflare: 8:32am On Jul 14, 2023
megabank:


This is narcissistic.

It takes a narcissist to know one. Of course when SIMPs sees my write up above they're shocked because that isn't their way of life. You wan dey behave nice and gentlemen attitude for Nigeria girls? Dey play

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Megabig: 8:47am On Jul 14, 2023
Xenry:
Can't be me. When I notice the slightest red flag, I'm out. That's probably why I'm still single.

I thought I’m the only one, people love stress all in the name of love. You will know who is serious and know what they want, you will also know who is there to stress your life

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Xtristopher: 9:09am On Jul 14, 2023
Cloudflare:


It takes a narcissist to know one. Of course when SIMPs sees my write up above they're shocked because that isn't their way of life. You wan dey behave nice and gentlemen attitude for Nigeria girls? Dey play

Not just Nigerian girls, most girls across the globe have that trait

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by dunga09: 10:48am On Jul 14, 2023
It was a terrible experince for me cuz I married one. It was a tough decision to allow her go after destroying my car windscreen. Some are even Millitant in nature.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Saintinoo(m): 10:55am On Jul 14, 2023
thinkmoney:

You show too many signs of weakness man. I have dated more than 100ladies (I am not proud of it), and never as any one show those kind of things to me to such degree.
Women with whatever mental situation still sizes up people

And you think I have not dated many babes? You didn't date a covert narcissist or you were never planning to settle down at that moment. Go online more and see hard guys and ladies being destroyed by covert narcissists.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Saintinoo(m): 10:58am On Jul 14, 2023
thinkmoney:

You have weaknesses. She sensed it and used it against u

What do you think it mean when they say a narcissist destroys you? These people are demonic, going back to them is a mental charm they use on you. Just don't pray to experience a covert narcissist bro, If I tell you everything, you will see that I tried.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by Saintinoo(m): 11:02am On Jul 14, 2023
pansophist:
Narcs are like thieves, their operations are in the dark. They target the inexperienced and believe in their own exceptionalism on manipulation until they jam a narc slayer like me that will deal with them wotowoto.

I can be a friend with a narc forever, just to learn more from them, and counter their every move. I don't mind taking a few blows, but it's a small price to pay, to know their operations well.

I haven't dated a narc before I am too smart for them. I already know them from afar, and will never personalize those devilish creatures. And I don't care if they are black goats, in a dark alley, I can sniff them or feel their heartbeat. Pretense doesn't help them.

All this know-how comes with intense knowledge of human nature, a hardcore personal development journey, and not infusing my bias in a situation base on my feelings.

If your actions proves to me that you have narc tendencies, I will believe you. Your words are meaningless, I always look at your actions.

NArcs arer loosers. You don't have to chase them off. Befriend them and learn more from their operations.

You only need to encounter them to know how to deal with them, many people don't know that those narc are demons on their own. They come in different forms, mine was even a V. For people praying to marry a V, not all that glitter is gold.

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Re: Ever Been In Relationship With A Narcissist, Share Your Experience. by thinkmoney(m): 11:09am On Jul 14, 2023
Saintinoo:


What do you think it mean when they say a narcissist destroys you? These people are demonic, going back to them is a mental charm they use on you. Just don't pray to experience a covert narcissist bro, If I tell you everything, you will see that I tried.
Ok... I see ur experience was traumatic. May you get healing.
All the best bro

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