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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by seanery: 2:27pm On Jul 30, 2023

how sure u not a guy pretending to be a lady

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 2:28pm On Jul 30, 2023

airsaylongcome:
■ Are you a psychiatrist?

I might as well be a mental health counselor grin

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Passionate1(m): 2:29pm On Jul 30, 2023

Don't believe everything a woman says. .
Stress can cause mental health problems and people cope with stress differently. .

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 2:30pm On Jul 30, 2023

airsaylongcome:
■ What are the types of mental illness? What kind of mental illness could be characterized by extreme paranoia and beliefs that people close to you are actively seeking to harm you.

Did OP say any of that? undecided

Mindlog is a psychologist you can speak to if this is instead personal. undecided

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by enemyofprogress: 2:30pm On Jul 30, 2023

I'm inkless. I don't even know what to write.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Ashirioluwa: 2:33pm On Jul 30, 2023

Yankee101:
I thought you wanted a solution for his mental health

No, she’s looking for financial help to pay house rent.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Blitzking: 2:33pm On Jul 30, 2023

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

Is marriage a joke to you..I know things are not easy remember for better for worse..just that ppl these day want for better for best. Support him to recover and this too shall pass..this life na risk.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by airsaylongcome: 2:33pm On Jul 30, 2023

JimD:
Your husband seems like he suffers from schizophrenia. And those episodes are psychotic. He needs therapy. And he needs to stay on his meds. The reality is, until he finds himself with your support, you'll be the "man of the house". These were things you should have looked at before marriage, especially for the sake of your kids. He can live a healthy and normal life but not until he learns how to read the signs and manage the disease. It's a disease of the mind. And it has no cure. But it can be managed.

How can you tell its schizo?

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Frankmorgan: 2:35pm On Jul 30, 2023

Purvan:
Mental illness is not a bad thing

There are people that are living with mental illnesses and earning a living
Elon musk has aspengers syndrome

Find out the type of mental illness your husband has and look for a way to take care of it

Btw you and your husband need to go for marriage counseling

Your type of person annoys me,mental illness is not a bad thing? How many types of mental illness do you know because elon musk has aspergers whatever,mental illness is now okay.
Do you know anxiety disorder,bullimia nervosa,clinical depression are all mental illness that can lead one to commit suicide?
Op I will just give you an advise that will help your husband,let him start exercising,jogging or walking every morning,let him cut off sugar from his diet(no added sugar,no food that is high in sugar and will increase his blood sugar),let him feed on probiotics(yoghurt,sauerkraut)
Let him eat just this food
Beans,oat,millet(pap),vegetables
I assure you he will be himself in a months time,just help him in this dark phase of his life,avoid saying negative things to him bcus it will worsen his condition.
Going to a psychiatrist and getting medication is 50/50 and he will be on it for life.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by article1: 2:36pm On Jul 30, 2023

I didn't see anything that depict mental challenge here in your write up, or is it the fact that he's jobless and can no longer afford to pay the rent and perhaps he's depressed that you attribute to mental challenge? All you need is keep encouraging and pray for him. With prayers and constant contact with God all things are possible.
Good luck

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by callmevirus(m): 2:36pm On Jul 30, 2023

[quote author=beautifulsoul12 post=124752769]Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best [/quote

Connect to Nsppd

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by AutoChick4U(f): 2:37pm On Jul 30, 2023

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

He didn't graduate and had no job but you married him because of love. So the love is Dead cos of no money? Didn't you see all this before marrying him?

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by overseasnbeyond: 2:37pm On Jul 30, 2023

was he seen by Mental Health Professional?
What medication was recommended for him?
He has to stay on the medication all the time, mental health doesn't go away but suppressed with medication.
Good luck to you.

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by OmoOshodi(m): 2:39pm On Jul 30, 2023

If you can see this....thank your God

There is deity in his father's house....he neglected it.....if only e can retrace back to it...he will live a fulfilled life

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 2:39pm On Jul 30, 2023

Frankmorgan:
■ Your type of person annoys me,mental illness is not a bad thing? How many types of mental illness do you know because elon musk has aspergers whatever,mental illness is now okay.Do you know anxiety disorder,bullimia nervosa,clinical depression are all mental illness that can lead one to commit suicide?
■ Op I will just give you an advise that will help your husband, let him start exercising,jogging or walking every morning,let him cut off sugar from his diet(no added sugar,no food that is high in sugar and will increase his blood sugar),let him feed on probiotics(yoghurt,sauerkraut). Let him eat just this food, Beans,oat,millet(pap),vegetables. I assure you he will be himself in a months time,just help him in this dark phase of his life,avoid saying negative things to him bcus it will worsen his condition.
■ Going to a psychiatrist and getting medication is 50/50 and he will be on it for life.

1. I believe what he meant is that mental illness is typically not a result of a fault committed nor of spiritual issues in one's life. Basically, it is not a result of evil in one's life or character. undecided

2. A daily Adrenaline high does not serve as treatment for mental illness. It is not his body that needs the help but his mind that is broken. undecided

3. There is no truth to this claim. undecided

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Benwallt(m): 2:42pm On Jul 30, 2023

Foodqueen:
Your story is incomplete o jare.

His family members should care about him.

You know weather she has turned him against his family when the going was good? She said the man didn't finish school yet she married him. Guyman must be doing well before the nut

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by JimD(m): 2:43pm On Jul 30, 2023

airsaylongcome:
How can you tell its schizo?

It's more common than you'd think. Him not being able to keep a job or to graduate despite being a smart student also point to it.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Komu1048(m): 2:44pm On Jul 30, 2023

immortalcrown:
May God help you and your family.

If he is not violent and abusive, I advise you to cope. Those who have suffered abuse in rich homes understand that happiness is not always determined by money. Those who have not suffered in rich homes, claim money is everything.

It’s only from poor peoples mouth I do hear that statement most, I’ve worked for few multimillionaire n I’ve not heard them making such statement cox they do suffer too

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Ellasure: 2:44pm On Jul 30, 2023

Yankee101:
There’s a process
Mental illness has various types
He needs diagnosis then a prescription of requisite medication
The best place to take him to is a specialist psychiatrist
And if he is given medication, supervise him to ensure he takes it in the RIGHT quantity and time

What’s your location?

hello dearest sister, your story is challenges and true of most homes/families today in Nigeria nay the world. mental challenges incubated by economic challenges is challenging but not difficult to overcome.

your faith in whatever you have believed is true and correct to do is under serious threat your resolutions and your way forward could bring peace and progress to your family or scatter it further.

first check your faith and hold fast all you have accepted as true and correct and continue to do them.

further, you have to help your husband he surely need you most at this time in his lifetime. your children need you too.

seek help from good pastors or imaam that have known reputation that you are already familiar with. if it is not in your current place of worship do not hesitate to try the new recommendations.

carry along members of your family ie husband people and your own people.

for business and new incomes, kindly look around you to provide services needed by people in your immediate vicinity and build on it. a woman can partake in all kinds of business. also try to increase your scope of friends to accommodate more life experiences. jettison anyone you can label NFA immediately.

May the good Lord send his angels to help you and relieve you of your fears. Ijmn.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by franchasofficia: 2:44pm On Jul 30, 2023

jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by JimD(m): 2:46pm On Jul 30, 2023

Self love is opening your eyes fully before entering into a life-long contract with anyone (marriage). The signs would always be there. Just like I wrote in my recent post about girls with "daddy issues".

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by SlaveforChrist: 2:49pm On Jul 30, 2023

beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

When you get home today place your hands of him and say this " Jesus took your infermities and bore you diseases, you are healed in Jesus name". Say it and believe he is healed from every ounce of your being and he will be healed. Jesus, God is the best doctor ever to exist and ever will.

Read Isaiah 53:5 and Ephesians 3:13

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by CJStarz: 2:51pm On Jul 30, 2023

I don't wanna believe this story.
All in d name of love,you...
1) Married a medical school dropout
2) Married a jobless man who later got something doing but lost it sooner
3) Married a mentally challenged man, though unknowingly, and had a child for him,then after discovering he had mental issues,you went ahead to have another child for him!
4)You are asking for rent renewal.....is this your main challenge? Will that solve your husband's mental state?

This no be love,na mumuism.....if all the story is true.
What about his family members? What efforts have they made to treat your husband's I'll health ?
This is not to discourage anyone from helping you. Women go thru stuff,but fill up d loopholes

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by cococandy(f): 2:53pm On Jul 30, 2023

ednut1:
Person no graduate or get job but you married him 😏

aren’t you guys the ones that chastise them for being gold diggers if they want a man who’s got something going for himself?

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Gbabe2: 2:54pm On Jul 30, 2023

jeromestarks:
Handle your problem alone.
You rejected good men who approached you when you were younger and beautiful to marry this mentally retardant.
You chose your destiny. You should suffer it alone.

Never pity a woman who is suffering in her home. Good men came for her but she rejected them saying "he's too short, he doesn't have money, he's to tall, he doesn't have a car etc" and settled for a guy who used suya to bribe her.

Many women wished the men they rejected came back. But guess what, none will come back.

Kid,

May life never happen to you. If you don’t have anything to contribute, just waka pass. Your input is unnecessary.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Ofadaman(m): 2:56pm On Jul 30, 2023

Have you found out why he has money troubles?.

Is he gambling or taking substances?.

Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by ednut1(m): 2:58pm On Jul 30, 2023

cococandy:
aren’t you guys the ones that chastise them for being gold diggers if they want a man who’s got something going for himself?

hardworking with a vision man or a work in progress man. This one was a sitting duck

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by airsaylongcome: 2:58pm On Jul 30, 2023

JimD:
It's more common than you'd think. Him not being able to keep a job or to graduate despite being a smart student also point to it.

Is schizo characterized by extreme paranoia? I'm talking really extreme paranoia here, with belief that your friends and close family are out to "get you". Or that you are the target of a "radioactive ray"

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 2:59pm On Jul 30, 2023

SlaveforChrist:
■ When you get home today place your hands of him and say this " Jesus took your infermities and bore you diseases, you are healed in Jesus name". Say it and believe he is healed from every ounce of your being and he will be healed. Jesus, God is the best doctor ever to exist and ever will.
Read Isaiah 53:5 and Ephesians 3:13

Religion rubbish! undecided

Why not reason Isaiah 1 and Isaiah 59 where God basically informs you that He does not answer the prayers of the unrighteous and for good reasons.. undecided

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