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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by tete7000(m): 3:00pm On Jul 30, 2023
You really took a delicate risk, you met a man who was brilliant but years later couldn't graduate and squandered his resources, yet you couldn't suspect anything but went ahead and married him. It is a big cross you chose to carry but with God's grace you can scale through. My only advice is that you spend time in silent prayers asking God on the way forward, only him can tell where to go. In the meantime, what about his family members? Is it that they don't care at all? How about yours too?
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by olutops(m): 3:03pm On Jul 30, 2023
the caption is different from the story line......there's what you are not telling us....
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Dennisochampa: 3:05pm On Jul 30, 2023
Do u know what's out there?

U wanna walk away with 2 kids or leave them with a so called mentally unstable man?

Find a way to get him help and this is the time you gotta be strong and fight for your family....

Win or die trying!!!

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by BigIyanga: 3:05pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best
Medical solution/therapy is the best way to go. Dont give your limited resources to pastropreneurs in the name of healing and miracles.

This is your own cross, you chose to marry a man who is unable to complete his studies as medical student.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Boa4u: 3:05pm On Jul 30, 2023
Here my candid advice to you my dear sister:::::: if you have tried all your means yet no solution, do the following ....
1 APOSTLE JOSHUA SALMAN SAID,,, AND I QUOTE.... IF YOU TRY FASTING THEN NO SOLUTIONS,.... TRY PRAYERS...... BUT IF PRAYERS DOES NOT OFFER SOLUTIONS ..... THEN TRY PROPHETIC AT THE END THY MUST BE SOLUTION.....
2.IT IS WRITTEN THAT PEOPLE PERISHED FOR LACK OF VISIONS.,,. Go out to a true prophet of God, it is written in book of AMAS 3:5 SURELY THE LORD GOD WOULD DO NOTHING BUT REVEAL HIS MISTRY TO HIS SERVANT THE PROPHET......
3. AT THIS VERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE SISTER,,,, PUT ON THE ARMOUR OF GOD ,,,, EPHESIAN 6:12-25
GOD FOR TOLD YOU THAT A TIME LIKE THIS WOULD COME TO YOU, SO SAKE , KNOCK FROM GOD ALMIGHTY , YOU WOULD LAUGH AGAIN IN YOUR MARRIAGE, GOD BLESS YOU
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by HellVictorinho6(m): 3:05pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Yes.
We've tried and still trying.
They said is an attack. Family problem. We have been praying, maybe is yet time for God to intervine otherwise we have tried all our best

U wont find a way out angry
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Frankmorgan: 3:07pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
1. I believe what he meant is that mental illness is typically not a result of a fault committed nor of spiritual issues in one's life. Basically, it is not a result of evil in one's life or character. undecided

2. A daily Adrenaline high does not serve as treatment for mental illness. It is not his body that needs the help but his mind that is broken. undecided

3. There is no truth to this claim. undecided
1 He said mental illness is not bad and a lot of people suffer from it and are still doing okay. And I corrected him that there are different types of mental illness that are deadly.example agarophobia a type of anxiety disorder that makes one afraid of going in public (someone suffering this can stay indoors for years without going out,no working.
Nigerians don't really understand mental issues,that is why they treat it as nothing.
2 I have spent years researching on mental issues,I would have given reasons why I said he should avoid sugar but I didn't want to type much.
3 he can try it for a month,I have researched on this and very confident of my solution.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Nobody: 3:07pm On Jul 30, 2023
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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Diddycsbsb: 3:09pm On Jul 30, 2023
Carry your matter dey go tiktok🎶🎶🎶🎶
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by AdaAwka1: 3:09pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?

There are single mothers with children Dey struggle alone and survive. See Yr husband as one of Yr children don't caste him away since he is not violent. Help him and most of all beg God to heal him and for d grace to carry on. Complain to God not to naira land.



Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kajaard: 3:10pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
But I can be verified

Is this your first nairaland account? Why using a brand new nairaland account to ask for assistance? Very similar to what these useless scammers on nairaland do.

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Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by winner37(m): 3:10pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?







When there was much to enjoy did you create account to write us ?
Now things got derailed you create account to tell us what do you want us to tell you now ?


Go and settled with your husband things will get better again ..
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by JimD(m): 3:11pm On Jul 30, 2023
airsaylongcome:


Is schizo characterized by extreme paranoia? I'm talking really extreme paranoia here, with belief that your friends and close family are out to "get you". Or that you are the target of a "radioactive ray"

Yes. That's psychosis. Could be from schizo or from another mental health issue. But most likely schizophrenia
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Pootle: 3:12pm On Jul 30, 2023
what about family relations on both side
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by efficiencie(m): 3:13pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?




This is sad but the norm. By your admission, the man has been good to you when he is sane but for the mental health challenges he has. It is your responsibility to help him get healing. As with most mental health issues, it is most likely supernatural. You have to pursue supernatural solutions as much as medical solutions to help that man get healed from his disease.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by merits(m): 3:17pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?






Come and marry me.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Pat081: 3:17pm On Jul 30, 2023
You did not tell us about his family members or friends and yours too Godn bless you
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 3:21pm On Jul 30, 2023
tete7000:
You really took a delicate risk, you met a man who was brilliant but years later couldn't graduate and squandered his resources, yet you couldn't suspect anything but went ahead and married him.
■ It is a big cross you chose to carry but with God's grace you can scale through. My only advice is that you spend time in silent prayers asking God on the way forward, only him can tell where to go. In the meantime, what about his family members? Is it that they don't care at all? How about yours too?
Please stop already! A vast number of Nigerians are battling one mental health issue or another and these begin to impair quality of life at different points. If it had not rated its head at tye point it did in OPs husband's case, don't mean it could have happened right after the marriage. So why continue to cast her for it?. undecided

2. God's grace is the solution you offer? Are you kidding? So even though God made it emphatically clear in Isaiah 1, Isaiah 58, and Isaiah 64 that He does not have dealings with the unrighteous; the prayers, praises, offerings, vows, seeds, tithes, etc., of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins and are hence an abomination to God. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by tete7000(m): 3:23pm On Jul 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
Please stop already! A vast number of Nigerians are battling one mental health issue or another and these begin to impair quality of life at different points. If it had not rated its head at tye point it did in OPs husband's case, don't mean it could have happened right after the marriage. So why continue to cast her for it?. undecided

2. God's grace is the solution you offer? Are you kidding? So even though God made it emphatically clear in [b]Isaiah 1, Isaiah 58, and Isaiah 6[/b]4 that He does not have dealings with the unrighteous; the prayers, praises, offerings, vows, seeds, tithes, etc. , of the unrighteous are tainted by their sins and are hence an abomination to God. undecided

What solution did you offer? Let me know bro. For your mind you know more than entire world. Olodo ni e, I have a brother with a psychiatrist issue, I have slept in hospital, lambo ward in uch to be precise with him. We have gone to other hospitals, spent money on him. It was draining and took faith we have in God and bond we have as a family unit to help. So when I talked, I talk from experience and don't issue esoteric advice your type offer here. Bro what we have gone through as family, if your family went through it, you will be broken. So abeg, park and shut up.

The lady open her eyes and made a bad choice. All of you can stay here and be typing all sort of advice, it remains there. Only her can sit, pray, introspect and help herself. And you hear me, only her need to withdraw somewhere and quietly seek for God's help. You have not in your whole wild world see half of what I have seen.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Godmind2022(m): 3:24pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.







Have you found out if it's not depression? It could be occasional relapse owing to not identifying and avoiding triggers of depression. Let him observe intermittent fasting everyday, starting with 14-hour window fasting and 10-hour eating window. He could increase the fasting window as he gets used to fasting. It could literally change his brain chemistry and attendant problems. He add meditation, exercise, deep breathing etc



I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?



Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 3:24pm On Jul 30, 2023
Boa4u:
Here my candid advice to you my dear sister:::::: if you have tried all your means yet no solution, do the following ....
1 APOSTLE JOSHUA SALMAN SAID,,, AND I QUOTE.... IF YOU TRY FASTING THEN NO SOLUTIONS,.... TRY PRAYERS...... BUT IF PRAYERS DOES NOT OFFER SOLUTIONS ..... THEN TRY PROPHETIC AT THE END THY MUST BE SOLUTION.....
2.IT IS WRITTEN THAT PEOPLE PERISHED FOR LACK OF VISIONS.,,. Go out to a true prophet of God, it is written in book of AMAS 3:5 SURELY THE LORD GOD WOULD DO NOTHING BUT REVEAL HIS MISTRY TO HIS SERVANT THE PROPHET......
3. AT THIS VERY MOMENT OF YOUR LIFE SISTER,,,, PUT ON THE ARMOUR OF GOD ,,,, EPHESIAN 6:12-25
GOD FOR TOLD YOU THAT A TIME LIKE THIS WOULD COME TO YOU, SO SAKE , KNOCK FROM GOD ALMIGHTY , YOU WOULD LAUGH AGAIN IN YOUR MARRIAGE, GOD BLESS YOU
Your selman don finish healing all the many thousands of people with similar problems wey they full him churches year after year? Nigerians blindly roping others into the same delusions they have themselves been unable to get out from under, na wa for una! undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by anselm791(m): 3:25pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?




Don’t feel bad about leaving him.
People have let their marriages for less.
Though I know for a fact that he will never leave you if the tables were turned. That’s how men are built.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by AyoEniafe(m): 3:27pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?



This matter requires a divine intervention.

You will be a joker to think all these things happening are natural.

Please find a Godly church, I recommend DUNAMIS INTERNATIONAL GOSPEL CENTER.


The spiritual rules the physical, please fight the battle from the spiritual realms first.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 3:29pm On Jul 30, 2023
Frankmorgan:
1 He said mental illness is not bad and a lot of people suffer from it and are still doing okay. And I corrected him that there are different types of mental illness that are deadly.example agarophobia a type of anxiety disorder that makes one afraid of going in public (someone suffering this can stay indoors for years without going out,no working.
Nigerians don't really understand mental issues,that is why they treat it as nothing.
2 I have spent years researching on mental issues,I would have given reasons why I said he should avoid sugar but I didn't want to type much.
3 he can try it for a month,I have researched on this and very confident of my solution.
1. You are right but knowing that poster, I tend to think what he meant is instead that mental illnesses patients are not to be seen the same as Nigerians used to see and think of witches. undecided

2. I have myself in addition to living with it and I can tell you that exercise and good diets are not solutions. They can serve as a form of coping mechanism but a coping mechanism can also become a problem if care is not taken. undecided

3. I did what you suggested for years after which my brain still crashed. My condition got worse and I eventually had to surrender to treatment. If I had started treatment earlier than I did, I would have probably faired much better than I did. undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by RPG2020(m): 3:31pm On Jul 30, 2023
I hope is not what I'm thinking 🤔
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by GorillaApp(m): 3:32pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?



I read through expecting to see the mental illness or issues but didn't. What I saw was a case of a man no providing for his family.
I know someone who was in that shoe. The husband wasn't lazy, just that things wasn't working out well for him and he was yet to find his bearing. Years later, dude has gained traction. Owned a business, finished his master's program. Planning on PhD and even bought a land.
I really don't know what to advise you. Search your soul and talk to your God. All will be well
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Kobojunkie: 3:33pm On Jul 30, 2023
AyoEniafe:
This matter requires a divine intervention. You will be a joker to think all these things happening are natural.Please find a Godly church, I recommend DUNAMIS INTERNATIONAL GOSPEL CENTER.The spiritual rules the physical, please fight the battle from the spiritual realms first.
You are joking, right? No be the same dunamis wey 10's of 1000s of its members dey dey wait their own turn for healing after so many years? Na there you wan make OP go come shook head enter too? undecided

Why are you people so wicked like this? undecided
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by juman(m): 3:33pm On Jul 30, 2023
Today, mental illness is like having fever.
There are number of people living with mental disturbance and they live normal life.

Let him be regularly using his medication.

But I sense laziness.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by eteba(m): 3:34pm On Jul 30, 2023
I been think say u wan cure craze, I for help!
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by Nobody: 3:39pm On Jul 30, 2023
I can never love you if you dropped out of school talkless of marrying you no matter how beatiful you are.

Period.
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by okewumi: 3:41pm On Jul 30, 2023
fyzaila:
I don't know why members here on nairaland who need financial help will still have the nerve to create a new account. But why? It's ok if you create a new account to seek for advice or counselling but to solicit for financial help is a no no. If you want genuine help then you have to come out clean, there is nothing to be ashamed of and also helpers can be sure you're not a scammer.

Maybe, you have a bad record here or you don't want to bruise the ego you've been carrying on this forum.


Leave that shit. Why must you know her. Some read the story for lesson purpose. Some know each other. I have made comment before and two of my friends in university made comment
Re: I'm Tired, My Husband Is Mentally Challenged by tonididdy(m): 3:45pm On Jul 30, 2023
beautifulsoul12:
Good morning everyone. I have to create this account to post this.
I can't even sleep at night lately.

I'm so tired and I need help right now. I have been doing this all by myself for so long now, without much complain but now, I need help.
Before I got married to my husband, I didn't know he had a seasonal mental health challenge, but not violent.

I met him in the university, he was in medicine, he had dreams, very ambitious, one of the best in his department, Working his way to travel abroad to continue his education. We were just friends, but I liked him. He kept on asking me out, but I declined. I wanted to graduate first.
We parted ways in year two. He changed school, so, I knew nothing about him again till years later.
Reconnected with him years later after graduation, to my greatest surprise, he didn't graduate, wasted all his resources and couldn't travel out. We still love each other, so we got married.
after the birth of my first child, I wanted to leave him, but I couldn't because he was a good man, but with too many changes and I was the only one who truly care and was there for him.
Three years ago, he became much better. He got a small job, Started bringing in little for upkeep. I saw change and I was happy. We had our second child last year after 8yrs.
Since early this year, the whole thing came up again. Since then, he became jobless again.
The financial burden is all on me. Right now, we can't afford to renew our rent.
I lost my business capital some times ago in wrong business, since then, it has been so much struggles.

I'm trying hard but it's not enough.
I'm thinking of working away, but to where? what about my children? Who will be there for them? What about him? But I'm tired of being in a marriage where I have to struggle for everything, where I can not depend on my man.
Pls, help us renew our house rent.

What do I do?



Did you mean financial challenge?

Because your whole post said nothing about a mental challenge.
As for his brokenness, isn’t marriage for better for worse again?
You want to leave the marriage, to the streets? I have no advice for you because I don’t see a problem here, only a woman who thinks she deserves better financially.
Oh well…it’s your life, go out there and see for yourself only then you will know THERES NO PLACE LIKE HOME

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