chccho:

Its funny how this just happened to me last month and I am just getting over it after some weeks
Mehnnn, Ghosting dey pain oooo!! Especially when u know u did everything right and were doing your best to tick all the right boxes then Boom!!! Somebody just disappears nafter getting so emotionally attached, going out on dates, spending money and probably falling in love that thing cuts like a knife!!
In my case we could talk from now till forever, never got tired of each other, connected on the same wave length, liked each other, went out on dates and i was beginning to tell myself "e be like say i don find wife oo! If we can work it out I go just propose!!! Hmmn!!!
I noticed something about some ladies, some can easily be carried away by the most trivial things. Most times when a lady ghosts u, there's a very high tendency she's already talking to someone else and carried away by rubbish but they don't realize it until it blows up.
If u were genuinely interested and vested in someone and had great plans for the person and the person ghosts u, just take it, ITS FOR YOUR GOOD!! it's gonna hurt for a while but u gotta move.. The wrong person has to go for the right person to step in.
One day they will look back and regret, u will also look back and be glad they ghosted u..
Shalom

Sorry about your recent "breakfast in bed". Before the real ghosting started, there were certain red flags you noticed but chose to ignore because you thought you were in love. Not all will regret they ghosted someone though. Take it from me.
All the ladies I have ghosted so far showed little signs of what was to come if I decided to ignore the warnings and not use my head and be one step ahead.
All of them got pained because, in their quest to start their silly weighing of options between Guy A, B and C, I don "Japa" before they even realise, and in turn, I beat them to their own game.

Once again, take heart, bro. But in reality, you don't need a heart when dealing with these funny broads.

Being ghosted is really bad. I have a friend then we were very close talk everyday talk about even the slightest thing that ever happened, and then I started noticing if I text him he leaves it on read. So I started asking what was wrong said he was busy... So it started off just like, then just like that we didn't talked till date still have is number just view status nothing more

Uchemus:

So this bungalow is 45 million. Is there gold mine onside the house?

Lol

BreezyRita:
Happened to me last month. I'm still reeling from the effect.

Reason for your dp?

Heroicvic:
As a guy, I've once ghosted my girl for a month due to financial issue ..

See some of us do this as we don't have better option to think of, not that we're evil or wicked

Infact you won't understand

That's a wrong way to go about it.

narite:
Yeah! Ghosting almost 4 to 5 ladies right now. I got sick of them all, too tired and kind to tell them I am done. It my hope they are intelligent enough to get the message.

What goes around comes around. You really do not have 5 girls in your life, it's in your imagination. Dating5 girls at a go with equal commitment to all will break you. But if what claim is a fact, then you're not in anyway nice to treat them that way. Be straight with them. Don't play with their emotions as this would be costly.

I've actually been ghosted and I felt stabbed. It's heart-wrenching to be put through that pain without being told what you actually did so you ask for forgiveness or say sorry. Even if you want to go, tell me. Don't put me through that cos I can never forget or forgive that treatment.


I'm beyond that now... It's just a stupid thing to even fall in love in the first place. I've gone back to my old self after that short spell of stupidity.

I am a professional ghoster.na my field be dat.i sent a msg to my last ex complaining about all the hurtful things she did to me,she no reply ,she ignore the msg.i kuku ghost am.after 6 months she send me long pained msg insulting me and saying nonsense.i still ignore.i know say e go pain am die,she was expecting me to reply,but nah..I don waka tey as a professional ghoster.

jeromestarks:

Verily verily I saw unto you, he sees through your shenanigans and it will be his time to treat you like shit when you come back. That man is smarter than you and he will never truly commit to you again.

You will lose him. It will pain you. And you will never find a man to love you again. You will try commiting suicide when the time comes.

it's obvious you related to the man.

Currently ghosting my GF, my mental way of dealing with issues bothering my mind whioe trying to be a better person.

DANIEL5050:
This is the exact thing I have been experiencing lately. Been dating this lady for close to 3 years now and all of a sudden she started ghosting me.

Perhaps, it's because I'm still a student and I'm not funding her I don't really know. That sh*t sucks...

Keep us updated bro

blesskewe:


It hurts though, when you're so used to someone and the person Just poof

Haba na

I understand my sister. I take everything wey dey make you happy beg you. Ahbeg forgive ahm. I no know ahm ooo, but try forgive ahm abeg.

IyaTola:
It is cruel, I prefer closure. The Ghoster may feel they are doing the best thing by not hurting the Ghostee's feelings. As a Ghostee, it hurts and he/she will wonder what went wrong.
This exactly what I did to my current man..
I no even dey pick his call again....

I wan focus on my life abeg....I need my own attention...

But to be honest, the reason I didn't say anything to him (about me excommunicating myself from him) is to ensure my coming back to him .I can cook up any story about my absence ( that's if another woman no wa take him oo)....

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blesskewe:
This happened to me of recent, he ghosted me for 3months.....
Just this week, he just came up
Wanting to continue the relationship

Without Explanation
Ntn

Las las you'll still go back and he'll knack you. that's the power of ghosting. It's psychologically power! Only real men understands this. It's fun to ghost a girl and then return back to chop her kpekus. In fact, men who knows their Worth use the "ghosting game" alot, it makes a girl wonder what you're up to, where and what she did wrong etc! Girls love guys can't get easily. They love guys who can toy and break their hearts to piece. They love guys who can make them cry and make their hearts skips. This is why the ghosting mode is important. Scarcity makes ones valuable. Being available all time brings see finish.

Ghosting a girl makes one to avoid see finish. It is better to ghost her now and return back later to continue chopping her kpekus than for her to completely "see you finish". See finish no good. It brings disrespect. If girl don see guy finish nothing go ever make her allow that guy chop her kpekus again.

When a girl ghost a guy, be rest assured that she has since found a new guy who's chopping her kpekus and she's now dating him. 💯

NACE13:

Yes, he is.
I wonder where he is now though.

To some, he is a hero. To a few, he is a Misogynistic maniac but to all, he is a Legend!

He is still on nairaland.

Ubunja is a lifesaver to me. The first time i read his thread, it was as if a veil fell off my eyes.

concho:
Currently ghosting my partner

Had bank issues and doesnt have access to funds this weekend. She was the first I told and didn't even bother to ask her for money since she is always claiming that she doesn't have.

Only for me to overheard her female friend on phone telling her “thanks my love, God should keep blessing you so you send me more “

She sent her money yesterday when we had non at home thinking I won't find out.

How sane guys still manages to date Nigerian girls is still a mystery to me till this day.

Dude, you better dump that stingy girl ASAP! Girls full everywhere. Dump that girl now

BALLOSKI:
What goes around comes around. You really do not have 5 girls in your life, it's in your imagination. Dating5 girls at a go with equal commitment to all will break you. But if what claim is a fact, then you're not in anyway nice to treat them that way. Be straight with them. Don't play with their emotions as this would be costly.

I am an ardent believer in the laws of creation, particularly “ The Karmic Effects” for this reason; when we get to a particular point in the relationship, a point not too far, I quickly tell them I am a chronic womanizer ( not really a womanizer but that for another day), emotionally unstable person.

I always advise them to have boyfriends some of them are not always comfortable with this cause they are seeing things from a different perspective and I try to make them see things through my eyes. I try to make them know things do not always turn out the way we want so they should prepare for such scenarios.

All in all, I try as much as possible to shield myself from wrath of nature and from all this lady’s wrath. Curses are real.

BreezyRita:
Happened to me last month. I'm still reeling from the effect.

This is exactly why I tell guys to always be the first to ghost and dump a girl. Ghosting is awesome! Guys should learn this and use the ghosting game! It is psychologically powerful!

It makes the girls heart to completely skip, shattered and keep dreaming and waiting for your messages which will never come! It is the chasing game! Ghost her and watch her chase after you, directly and indirectly! It makes the man powerful!

Dear Men, just as SEX is the most powerful tool a woman has over a man, ATTENTION is the most powerful tool you have as a man over a woman. Use it wisely!

NACE13:
My last 3 relationship/situationship I ghosted them all. I don't need to be told before I can read their intentions.
One tried it and came back to beg. I asked her, "If Bobo didn't break your heart, would you have thought about coming back?". She was all about the lies and shii- Telling me she was with another guy while thinking about me and it was obvious she wasn't over me, that's why the other Bobo broke things off with her.

The next one stood me up when I had already made plans for our dinner date. She didn't even call to apologize. I just deleted her number straight and cut communication. She called and called, sent me multiple texts. I just replied her with "I am busy, I'll talk to you later".

The one that just ended this year, I was noticing some funny tones and behaviours when we talk on phone. She hardly replied my texts, always telling me about guys wooing her just to fill her ego-meter and trying to make me feel jealous. I just shook my head and smiled to myself. I just went "Willy-Willy" mode on her. She got the message after calling me a few times and I was cold in my replies. Told me she missed me, wanna hear my voice and I was like "Oh, really? OK, you've heard it,are you OK now?".

I learnt to smell their BS from a mile away and take off before they even realise I'm gone. [[/b]They most times come back if they notice that you don't really give a damn.
I'm not a redpiller but I learnt a thing or two from Ubunja

At the bolded.

This is exactly why girls love bad boys alot. have said it several times here that girls love guys who don't care about them (calling to check up on her, chatting, texting etc). To an average Nigerian girl, she'll see those traits as signs of desperation and will definitely ignites her ego-meter. Girls prefers guys who doesn't give a damn about them! They prefer guys who can toy and break their hearts to piece! Guys who can make them cry! This is the power of psychology! Bad boys have those traits above and hence are highly being chased by girls. Those traits makes the bad boys instantly hot.

They prefer guys who are unavailable. This is because scarcity makes one valuable. It is better to ghost a girl than for to her "see you finish". Never allow a girl use the see finish game on you, it's devastating!

When a girl ghost a guy, be rest assured that she has another guy elsewhere she's into.

ATTENTION is the most powerful tool a man has over a woman! However, I Must salute Ubunja, a senior comrade on this forum. Respect to him!

chccho:

Same happened to me too last month, I was mentally sick for some weeks.
I still wonder what I did till today

Sorry. We'll be fine

BreezyRita:


Sorry. We'll be fine

Small thing. Time heals n unvercomes everything

Una go just dey feel say bad boys get all the girls,don't give a Bleep and blabla,even d baddest boy has a woman he simps for. It's nature you can't escape it. Just hope u find a woman that matches ur chemistry,ur madness,ur ego and ur personality

Stedakudz:
Una go just dey feel say bad boys get all the girls,don't give a Bleep and blabla,even d baddest boy has a woman he simps for. It's nature you can't escape it. Just hope u find a woman that matches ur chemistry,ur madness,ur ego and ur personality

What's your definition of simp?

Rooneyx:
The guy na real MUGU and a MUMU. My dear chop him dry like okporoko

Unfortunately she can't do this. It is the guy that will suck her dry instead. You still don't understand the power of ghosting. Ghosting is powerful! It is emotionally devastating. I have ghosted lots of girls before so I know what I'm saying. Especially when she's already emotionally attached to you. U can't dry him so relax. You'll be the one feeling self pity and emotionally down for yourself! And you probably can't stop thinking about him. So drying him is out of the equation

Heroicvic:
As a guy, I've once ghosted my girl for a month due to financial issue ..

See some of us do this as we don't have better option to think of, not that we're evil or wicked

Infact you won't understand

My girl made it clear that without money no love, then I had to start my ghost mode.
Or which kind explanation you want make I dey make for a woman!

GO0DHardDick:


What's your definition of simp?

The opposite of what he does as a bad boy

Adeoye11:



My girl made it clear that without money no love, then I had to start my ghost mode.
Or which kind explanation you want make I dey make for a woman!

Stop using the phase "my girl" . How you guys use the phrase surprises me.

Your beloved girlfriend is just like the average Nigerian girl who can be knack with money. Promise a girl money and watch her spread her legs wide open for you. Your beloved sweetheart made it clear that without money you can't access her honeypot, in this category, any guy ready to offer her money Will penetrate her defense. that is, she'll glady open it for him. inconclusion, you're dating a prostitute! An olosho who goes around trading her kpekus for the highest bidder. The choice is yours to either dump her or keep waiting in line

Stedakudz:


The opposite of what he does as a bad boy

Unfortunately he clearly has no tendency of doing the opposite, this is because his mind is firm, solid and unmovable unlike the good gentle Guy. So I asked again what's your definition of simp?

GO0DHardDick:


Unfortunately he clearly has no tendency of doing the opposite, this is because his mind is firm, solid and unmovable unlike the good gentle Guy. So I asked again what's your definition of simp?

The opposite of the bad boy traits that's my definition and there's nothing like he doesn't have a tendency of doing the opposite,in fact the firm,solid and unmovable mind is what makes hard,strong,bad guys end up with women who wreck their lives cos they keep fighting nature's love of which they're unconsciously getting attached,falling in love with that one woman that matches their chemistry,don't let it get too late before u understand this. Fear of being broken is what makes men hard and bad,know this and know peace.

Stedakudz:


The opposite of the bad boy traits that's my definition and there's nothing like he doesn't have a tendency of doing the opposite,in fact the firm,solid and unmovable mind is what makes hard,strong,bad guys end up with women who wreck their lives cos they keep fighting nature's love of which they're unconsciously getting attached,falling in love with that one woman that matches their chemistry,don't let it get too late before u understand this. Fear of being broken is what makes men hard and bad,know this and know peace.

We ain't fighting Dude. In one word, bad boys are consider bad and hot because they understand the power of ATTENTION. they know their attention is the greatest weapon they have over a woman.

Fear of being broken can never make a man hard sir. It can only make u to be wise in terms of spending and handling your financies. Read up Ubunja's threads for proper understanding.

GO0DHardDick:


We ain't fighting Dude. In one word, bad boys are consider bad and hot because they understand the power of ATTENTION. they know their attention is the greatest weapon they have over a woman.

Fear of being broken can never make a man hard sir. It can only make u to be wise in terms of spending and handling your financies. Read up Ubunja's threads for proper understanding.

There ain't a message of fight in my conversations with u boss,and I ain't saying those things don't work they really do,I do it too,it's just normal to chase after that which doesn't want us,it's nature but when u get that woman that matches ur vibes don't use the toughy whatever chase her away,such is always rare with all the mad women out there now,the reason to being tough is to be able to discern when it's real and genuine,u can bleep as many as u like when u notice it ain't genuine,but when u see that one that's real,u should know better to keep her,that's d purpose of being toughy. Every f**kboy has a woman he craves her attention,it's a law too,if u can get ubunju ask him,he knows that too well. How funny is it to form tough and still pay to have sex with a woman, directly or indirectly. Accept nature first and believe me you won't struggle balancing being a f**kboy and a loverboy

NACE13:


Sorry about your recent "breakfast in bed". Before the real ghosting started, there were certain red flags you noticed but chose to ignore because you thought you were in love. Not all will regret they ghosted someone though. Take it from me.
All the ladies I have ghosted so far showed little signs of what was to come if I decided to ignore the warnings and not use my head and be one step ahead.
All of them got pained because, in their quest to start their silly weighing of options between Guy A, B and C, I don "Japa" before they even realise, and in turn, I beat them to their own game.

Once again, take heart, bro. But in reality, you don't need a heart when dealing with these funny broads.

Brains over heart.