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talented321:
My concern is why do u choose marriage before sex' as OG way u be.
Fine she may be a virgin or not but that is not enough reason to wait till marriage for this present age.
What if after marriage u discovered she don't have a kpekus or she is not a virgin' but with a borehole
Oga if her claim of virginity is real' then she is masturbating.

Honeybadgerxx:
Exactly what I'm thinking. But this girl swore with her life that she hasn't even kissed a guy before not to talk of sex, I guess she masturbates.

Now bro, what do you think, let's assume she hasn't been penetrated by anyone before and she lost her virginity to masturbation, should one go on with the wedding plans with such lady? Since the whole reason behind this virginity stuffs is to avoid fornication. I really don't care about her masturbating provided she will stop it after getting married, my problem is her having sex with someone else. Should I go on and marry her, I really love her and she loves me more than I do to her, she's respectful, she's beautiful, she's educated and sensible at least for a lady.

And I also want to know if masturbation is same thing with fornication?

blackgold2018:
my dear all virgins know their hymen status. They feel it or they touch to checkmate it. Discuss with your female friends often

Honeybadgerxx:
Tell us why every men you dated have been dumping you, you are forming an independent woman cos no one is ready to cope with your overstretched p*ssy

Honeybadgerxx:
There's this church girl I'm currently dating, I love her so much and she loves me too. She claimed to be a virgin and insisted on no sex till marriage, I really do not have a problem with that cos I'm not a virgin and I told her about it and she said she's cool with it.

Now this is where the issue is, suddenly one day she chatted me up and asked if I know about hymen in ladies, I said yes and she popped another question asking if the hymen of a lady can be broken without penetration, I told her yes that sometimes the thickness of the hymen varies amongst ladies, some are very light that too much of heat and stress can make a lady discover a little discharge of blood underneath her thereby breaking the hymen ( I actually learnt this during school days). But the question got me curious and forced me to ask her if hers was still intact, she replied me by saying she doesn't know, that she only saw it online and decided to ask me cos she knew I'm knowledgeable, like how possible is this? Why shouldn't you know? We fought about this for days and she still insist that she's isn't aware, she was nearly crying saying this. Well, I noticed some innocence in her statements and let go of it.

Now my question is, is it possible for a lady not to know if her hymen is still intact or not? Ladies in the house please help me out.

Note: I'm not a simp, I be correct OG but decided to give love a chance and trusted this girl not because she's a church girl, not because she claimed to be a virgin, but because everyone tends to vouch for her including those kiss and tell guys around, none of them fit play her tape like they talk about other ladies around. Even in her uni days, I was opportuned to have a friend in her school hostel area of which he's unknown to her and the comments he gave about her are very impressive.
Even when I stylishly engage her in some sex topics, she tends to ask me the meaning of some erotic words.

She's a good girl, never billed me before, though I do send her funds atimes, she dresses moderately and hates going out.

But considering how ladies pretends and how some good girls turns bad, I still have this doubt within me, what could make her asked me such question?

Please I need answers as I'm planning towards our marriage soon, she's in her mid 20s and now a grad

Sonnetoshodi:
My bro she doesn't want to lose the OP.
So call it lies, deceit, manipulation.
At least she cares, the girl sees a future with him.
Now the main question is; does the OP see one with him.
Ball is in his court for now.

blackgold2018:
lol.. so by the time she will probably Bleep another man after marriage and still keep it secret from him. Just because in the name of she loves him. And wouldn’t want to loose him.

My dear it’s better she come clean now. Because sin beget another sin, lies beget another lies. And reoccurring. It’s better corrected early.

Blitzking:
Naso one girl tell me say she dey bathroom con slip off land untop that brush wey ppl dey use wash toilet..una know say the rod dey always long small..but na plastic
Naso she sey she take disvirgin. I judt dey laugh.

Sonnetoshodi:
My bro, women are special creatures.
As a man, you need to know this.
My two cents; if you love her, and see her as your future partner, then please overlook the virginity issue.
From what I read; she's no longer a virgin(this is established, don't get clouded with emotions) and that is if she was one before you met her.
When women try to be smart or concealing, to a 'man' they are only revealing the true matter.
She couldn't just bring up the hymen breakage matter from the blue, something must have happened.
So don't bug yourself,let her know you chose her not entirely cause of her virginity.
Don't lose someone you value, and also know there'll always be someone better.
The ball is in your court today, it could be in hers sometimes later.
Women are wired differently my bro.

Lazyreporta:
Stop misleading people.

Most people don't know if their hymen is still intact.

Tell me, how do they know?

As long no sex yet, no masturbation, nothing you dip inside the virginal.

If you agree not all broken hymen also bleed, then kindly tell me why you think they all know it's broken

Xpol:
lol real men doesn't believe those fairy tales if at all I will be manipulated by a woman not in those aspect coz even those she's saying the truth truth I hear the opposite.

Dyfynezz12:
If those qualities u said about her are true,whether she be virgin or not wife her.
U av gotten urself a decent or semi decent girl.
Believe good girls are far going into extinction.
Me, by dy time I want marry if I see girl with even 5 body counts and she has good character I no go waste time to wife her,because wetin girls dy do now ehh.

Honeybadgerxx:
There's this church girl I'm currently dating, I love her so much and she loves me too. She claimed to be a virgin and insisted on no sex till marriage, I really do not have a problem with that cos I'm not a virgin and I told her about it and she said she's cool with it.

Now this is where the issue is, suddenly one day she chatted me up and asked if I know about hymen in ladies, I said yes and she popped another question asking if the hymen of a lady can be broken without penetration, I told her yes that sometimes the thickness of the hymen varies amongst ladies, some are very light that too much of heat and stress can make a lady discover a little discharge of blood underneath her thereby breaking the hymen ( I actually learnt this during school days). But the question got me curious and forced me to ask her if hers was still intact, she replied me by saying she doesn't know, that she only saw it online and decided to ask me cos she knew I'm knowledgeable, like how possible is this? Why shouldn't you know? We fought about this for days and she still insist that she's isn't aware, she was nearly crying saying this. Well, I noticed some innocence in her statements and let go of it.

Now my question is, is it possible for a lady not to know if her hymen is still intact or not? Ladies in the house please help me out.

Note: I'm not a simp, I be correct OG but decided to give love a chance and trusted this girl not because she's a church girl, not because she claimed to be a virgin, but because everyone tends to vouch for her including those kiss and tell guys around, none of them fit play her tape like they talk about other ladies around. Even in her uni days, I was opportuned to have a friend in her school hostel area of which he's unknown to her and the comments he gave about her are very impressive.
Even when I stylishly engage her in some sex topics, she tends to ask me the meaning of some erotic words.

She's a good girl, never billed me before, though I do send her funds atimes, she dresses moderately and hates going out.

But considering how ladies pretends and how some good girls turns bad, I still have this doubt within me, what could make her asked me such question?

Please I need answers as I'm planning towards our marriage soon, she's in her mid 20s and now a grad

lollybizzu:
OP if you're still reading...
This is an experience advice for you.
Best comment so far. You typed my mind

blackgold2018:
I'm not misleading anybody and I’ll like a lady to respond to me rather to object my claim.

You are not really getting me. This virgins feel Hot too. They sex chat dirty too. Some checkmate either knowing or unknowingly by fingering their pussy surface.

While most know from the sharp pain they feel when their boyfriends try to penetrate at the surface. Or their boyfriends trying to finger her but feels the hymen along the way

Honeybadgerxx:
Exactly what I'm thinking. But this girl swore with her life that she hasn't even kissed a guy before not to talk of sex, I guess she masturbates.

Now bro, what do you think, let's assume she hasn't been penetrated by anyone before and she lost her virginity to masturbation, should one go on with the wedding plans with such lady? Since the whole reason behind this virginity stuffs is to avoid fornication. I really don't care about her masturbating provided she will stop it after getting married, my problem is her having sex with someone else. Should I go on and marry her, I really love her and she loves me more than I do to her, she's respectful, she's beautiful, she's educated and sensible at least for a lady.

And I also want to know if masturbation is same thing with fornication?

Honeybadgerxx:
Exactly what I'm thinking. But this girl swore with her life that she hasn't even kissed a guy before not to talk of sex, I guess she masturbates.

Now bro, what do you think, let's assume she hasn't been penetrated by anyone before and she lost her virginity to masturbation, should one go on with the wedding plans with such lady? Since the whole reason behind this virginity stuffs is to avoid fornication. I really don't care about her masturbating provided she will stop it after getting married, my problem is her having sex with someone else. Should I go on and marry her, I really love her and she loves me more than I do to her, she's respectful, she's beautiful, she's educated and sensible at least for a lady.

And I also want to know if masturbation is same thing with fornication?

Maobichek:
It's quite unfortunate that you don't know what you want, you are talking about marriage and the primary thing to you is "virginity," this is absorbed!

Character, understanding and ability to forgive and be forgiven are the things you look out for while talking about marriage and not virginity. If a lady was a virgin and didn't have sex for a while, her vagina will be tight and you will definitely apply pressure before you will penetrate her.

If really want to marry, virginity should not be your primary concern, thank you.

Wawelexy:
She might not be having sexual intercourse with men but mistakenly breaks the hymen via masturbation... There are different grades for virgins, some doesn't fornicates with men but they engages in masturbation, some had sex once maybe by youthful exuberance or rape and then enters into celibacy, and some are genuine virgins but corrupt in the mind. All of them will claim virgins, it's you that needs to ask them the grades they belongs to... Be wise

athaliya:
A virgin told you this?

Dialpad:
Dont ever be deceived by all those no sex before marriage crap.

If you are financially OK, I will suggest you put a specific app on the phone, what you will see will not only shock you but make you FEAR the opposite sex.

You will be shocked to realize that she may be sleeping with 5 other guys at the same time.

Don't be so stupid to fall for all that..... she is a manipulator.....

FYI, if you decide to go the app route, you must be super strong to manage the outcome emotionally, trust me it is impossible for you to find anyone clean, it will expose a whole lot of BS

BTW, the app is not on playstore, the best hacker can never detect it. Sms, listen to her surroundings especially when she is being fu-cked by another guy, the names she calls you etc, whatsapp chats etc.

Good luck if you choose to be manipulated

blackgold2018:
I'm not misleading anybody and I’ll like a lady to respond to me rather to object my claim.

You are not really getting me. This virgins feel Hot too. They sex chat dirty too. Some checkmate either knowing or unknowingly by fingering their pussy surface.

While most know from the sharp pain they feel when their boyfriends try to penetrate at the surface. Or their boyfriends trying to finger her but feels the hymen along the way