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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Onefornaija24: 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by KIDfurniture(m): 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

What pressure exactly ?? That you re 30 & you can’t feed yourself or that you are looking for a man to bankroll ur lazy ass !!!

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Nobleou(m): 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

Angelfrost:
Most educated ladies nowadays, get married when they are over 30... This seems to have become the norm these days.

I don't see any big deal in it... In several years to come, cohabitation will largely replace marriages.

A lot of the ones in marriage are either enduring or considering Divorce.

African culture is fast degrading in most areas including the areas of matrimony and home-making.

Final truth

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Towncrier007(m): 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

Too much shakara will make them single at 30

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by ecolime(m): 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

IconicR:
At 60+ I'm still not feeling any pressure
We move

He that is down needs fear no more.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by twosquare(m): 2:53pm On Aug 18, 2023

Do people still care about that in this Tinubunomics??

Na how to survive now people dey care about and not pai...

Na your business if you marry above or below 30.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by obembet(f): 2:55pm On Aug 18, 2023

I don tired o... Pray for us o

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by jackmrandy: 2:57pm On Aug 18, 2023

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

don't be scared of your age. i can see the fear in you, you are going to 31 now now man coming for your hand in marriage or relationship, thinking about the old days you dished those who came for you, how you rejected them. you wished God can turn back time so you can say yes again. but guess what, nope. enjoy your single life.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by jamesversion: 2:57pm On Aug 18, 2023

obembet:
I don tired o... Pray for us o

I'm there for you. grin

Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Angelfrost(m): 2:57pm On Aug 18, 2023

AmyNwa10:
It's for this very reason; the dear of being unmarried at 30 as a lady that has pushed a lot of women to ending up with any man just to be tagged, "she married early."

The men aren't even helping, since they have a knack for calling >30 unmarried ladies derogatory names such as evening newspaper.
We'll just marry anyhow to avoid all of that.

Many married anyhow and suffered far worse fates than being termed "Evening Newspaper".

Do you think every married person out there is fulfilled and happy??! Honestly, there might likely be more miserable and depressed married people than single.

I'm not taking sides on this argument, but no one should be pressured or age-shamed into a marriage they are ill-prepared for or unhappy with... It makes no sense.

It's better to be married late and fulfilled with your soulmate than marry early into misery, unhappiness, and endless drama.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by DenreleDave(m): 2:58pm On Aug 18, 2023

It's not a crime Pls

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by joepepsy(m): 2:59pm On Aug 18, 2023

Because una no get importante thing una dey use una Life do for tha Africa,you guys dont have meaningful goals and aspirations.

b3llo:
Am a guy but the feeling of being single over 30 years of age is not funny.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by shantti(m): 3:00pm On Aug 18, 2023

IconicR:
At 60+ I'm still not feeling any pressure
We move

Wow
Ebony cougar

Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Usenix: 3:00pm On Aug 18, 2023

ednut1:
Opening a topic like this shows you are also scared . Regardless of all the wishes and prayers. Reality is fewer men will be able to afford marriage these days. With the western world influence on southerner Nigeria via media and internet . Many ladies will also have unrealistic expectations. They want weddings of 10m to 15m in a country where many earn less than 50k. Nothing like its not my portion. It can be your portion. Just live ya life if husband comes fine, if he no come find alternatives like linda ikeji run am or adoption

Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Angelfrost(m): 3:00pm On Aug 18, 2023

Towncrier007:
Too much shakara will make them single at 30

So, what makes a man single at 30 and above??! Too much Shakara??!... Because most men today, even at 40 are nowhere prepared to be husbands or heads of families.

It's not always enough to make these things about gender.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by darealez(m): 3:01pm On Aug 18, 2023

EconomistXplain:

all graduate ladies marry above 30

biggest lie ever. That's prolly what you're exposed to. In fact, 90% of all wedding I've been to in the last 7yrs had been graduates...with both spouses less than 30.

I particularly became an advocate for early marriage recently.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Fiscus105(m): 3:02pm On Aug 18, 2023

I pity single ladies from ages 28- 35, Even ladies 25yrs of today already putting pressure on themselves wen they are not into serious relationships.
Many of female students in 300level already disturbed about the man they want to settle down with, when they will be totally less concerned about how they would get jobs after schoolings.
I imagine pressure that families and friends would be putting on ladies at ages 30 to 35.

This is more reason, guys taking advantage of girls of marriageble ages.

By 36 ,even family members would start giving up and leave her alone for her destiny.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Mosba: 3:03pm On Aug 18, 2023

Being 30 should worry every woman because no sensible guy will marry a lady at 30. Any girl age 30 and still single is never going to make a loving wife. They would have over used themselves and when the husband now need them after marriage then they will start giving all kinds of excuses as to why they hate sex. Avoid 30 years old and above ladies for marriage and have peace

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by blessingnenye(f): 3:04pm On Aug 18, 2023

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Luu40: 3:04pm On Aug 18, 2023

I'm 29, malebof northern extraction. In a few months to come I'll clock 30. I'm working and have already started dating someone in hopes of tying the knot very soon. Marriage is my most pressing objective now. Nothing is more important.

For a lady of this age - 30, I pray you find love and settle down soonest.

Life's not only about having a career. Having a family is relatively more important.
My opinion

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by jaxxy(m): 3:06pm On Aug 18, 2023

30 and single is getting into the yellow zone. There is no logical reason why a girl should be 34 snd single. She will need to have some explanation.

We all know guys marry older because they need to hussle to be the provider and that takes most of their years bt what is the girls excuse?

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by dondodo: 3:07pm On Aug 18, 2023

Obi is coming

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Hahnemann: 3:07pm On Aug 18, 2023

zed7:
Do women still marry under 30? I haven't seen any in a long while. Seems the average age of marriage for a woman is now 30 to 35 and men is between 35 to 40.

The modern woman doesn't marry as early anymore, most women want to graduate and settle in their career before getting married. This has also caused an increase in the birth of special needs children. All my opinion and observations.

I love this your comment

The pressure though is both on male and female.
I'm currently 31 but the pressure to marry now no be here o when I'm busy thinking on how to Japa and get my masters first, wat concerns family is for me to get married and start having kids. E tire me o.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Kevineleven(m): 3:10pm On Aug 18, 2023

b3llo:
Am a guy but the feeling of being single over 30 years of age is not funny.

It means you are under society pressure, it is like a demonic attack, its women that will attack you the most, they are always the one most available to the devil.
These are the attacks
1: If you are single guy above 30 they will know, because you will look far much younger than your age, handsome, at peace and clean.
2 They will start coming close to you even married women, you will think this is friendship but they are trying to find out your age, they are looking at your body for a sign that you are above 30, signs like, small bald hair, wrinkles on forehead or gray hair on your beards, once they see any of these.
3: The attack, they will start putting sir in their greeting even though they are older than youu(Good morning sir, how your family) , this is not out of respect but they are looking for a way to tell you that you are old enough for marriage.
4: They will gossip about you
5: You will hear birthday songs often in your neighborhood, even in the church, again the song is to tell you that you are old.
6: They will send their children to play in your compound.

Solution
Become harsh and intolerable

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Checkwell: 3:10pm On Aug 18, 2023

Just be calm and maintain your cool. Some are up to 40 years old and still very at peace with the society. Whatever floats your boat. Life no be competiton. Be comfortable in your own skin.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Angelfrost(m): 3:11pm On Aug 18, 2023

Mosba:
Being 30 should worry every woman because no sensible guy will marry a lady at 30. Any girl age 30 and still single is never going to make a loving wife. They would have over used themselves and when the husband now need them after marriage then they will start giving all kinds of excuses as to why they hate sex. Avoid 30 years old and above ladies for marriage and have peace

Your generalization is weak and amusing (Ignorant too)...!

In today's hyper-sexed generation, do you know how many sexual encounters ladies and guys below 30 have had??!

The day some girls below 18 opened up about their sex life, my lower jaw almost knack ground... Those girls had seen it all!

The truth is... Marriage no longer holds the attraction and lure on young people as it did decades ago. I have seen young men grow serious cold feet a few days before their weddings, and the same with brides.

Like it or not, in years to come, young people will turn their backs on marriage, and opt for cohabiting.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by uuzba(m): 3:11pm On Aug 18, 2023

blessingnenye:
A lot of ladies are scared of 30. What's really wrong with 30? Why so dreadful with the age, after all it's just a number!!! Even with a lot of accomplishments, being 30 and single can be so pressurizing among out ladies, owing to the pressures from families and society to get married. Sometimes, this pressure sums up the reason why majority delve into an unfruitful marriage.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pi20NFK8bnM&pp=ygUMa2V2aW4gc2FtdWFs

May watch a little of this man, Kevin Samuels.
He gives relationship advice to women and tells them what is what.
The importance of their age, what type of women men like, what type of man would likely find you and why
... etc.
Women have biological clock to menopause. And the older you get unmarried, the less likely they are to bear children,
settle down and live with a family.
Modern working-all-the-time women with their degrees and certificates all over the place, tend to head towards lonely single life.
Don't let western women's ideals detract you from being a proper woman.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by akinmusi(m): 3:13pm On Aug 18, 2023

No urge. Don't feel pressured

Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Luckysbab: 3:13pm On Aug 18, 2023

ednut1:
Opening a topic like this shows you are also scared .

Abi

Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Blitzking: 3:14pm On Aug 18, 2023

Ladies should marry between 18 and 34 yrs best between 21and 26 yrs. Its actually easier to marry in the past than now.. after filling a box with over 2m you still want someone son to rent hall 1.5m..photographer dey call 1m just becos e wan give u drone view. Event decor dey call 1m cake woman dey say 5 layer na 600k brides and more dey say fitted white dress for he lady na 500k church dey ask you to drop something. During pops time bring everything wey dey list,buy trad wears.. buy 1 cow and a bag of rice make dem cook for the gal compound invite family and friends notify the fsmily elders give the gal mama extra cash for other ingredients buy clothes for papa and mama bring your ppl, carry your wife go house.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Osibajo2023: 3:15pm On Aug 18, 2023

I am available, and I am 40, a civil servant, and a single father. Pls I want responsible girl, graduate and gainfully employed.

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Re: Being 30 And Single Lady, How Do You Cope With Pressures From The Society? by Ade1177: 3:17pm On Aug 18, 2023

Na mumu dey marry from pressure

Even if I am 40yrs o

I no dey marry anybody

True love is not for everybody

Many people will DEFINITELY marry the wrong person
After few months will regret it

Only very very few will marry someone that will make their lives better

Many will marry wahala

Even wahala will go and marry good person

Just grind make your money

Enjoy your life

If you need child
Find someone you can tolerate

Have a baby together when you're 40+

Only get married when "your own version of true love" is met

If not

Marriage has sent so many people into what they wish they can reverse time for

If you're among the very few that marriage favour

Congrats

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