Teymanhenry:
I recall my dad rejecting my sister's fiancee because he is from Anambra state and we are from Nasarawa State. He said those people don't treat their wives with respect 😆. My kid sis went ahead to marry him and they are very happy together.

Teymanhenry:
I recall my dad rejecting my sister's fiancee because he is from Anambra state and we are from Nasarawa State. He said those people don't treat their wives with respect 😆. My kid sis went ahead to marry him and they are very happy together.

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

Persephone1:
Let me wait for the Igbos to help Op.

We Yorubas have no issues, nah person we see we follow go

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

flokii:
So this OSU Caste thing is still existing in Igboland.. I wonder the kind of prayers these people claim to pray when they still regard some of their fellow kiths and kins as outcasts.

talented321:
Your mama and the elders see more than u see'' you are in love why they are not'' you want to please ur girl why they are not''
Don't play with it whenever ur parents bring up issues like this'' many of them are talking from experience''

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.


I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

Blaze14k:


I suspect it cos my parents once lived in abia state before I was born

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

POWERFULGOD:



This is different though to OSU issues , yours has to do with tribe issue because in whole of Igboland, Anambrians treat their women more than any state in Eastern part of Nigeria ....
P. S
The stigma attached from OSU will 100% affect your children and children children's...

My candid advice to OP Is to send an elderly person to go do investigation as normal igbo tradition to find out if she's truly OSU ... If she's then na to back out because it's like one trying to marry AS while you are AS blood group... The stigma will affect his generations...

talented321:
Your mama and the elders see more than u see'' you are in love why they are not'' you want to please ur girl why they are not''
Don't play with it whenever ur parents bring up issues like this'' many of them are talking from experience''

lonelydora:


Ah! My Ohafia?

First, who told your mum Ohafia people are OSU? Your mum lacks history.

The best thing you will do for yourself is to marry that Ohafia girl.

Ohafia people are hospitable.

Inbox me, let tell you what to do. Which village in Ohafia is the girl from? What's the family name?

Blaze14k:
I would like to use this opportunity to seek guidance based on the issue I have on ground. I believe it's igbos especially elderly person who is in a better position to give me a reasonable explanation. I told my mum my girlfriend is from ohafia, abia state and she instantly told me I can't get married to her. Her reason is because people from ohafia, arochukwu, izombe, and few other places in abia state are regarded as OSU. I complained to other members of my family but they also rejected her.

I have made some research personally and found out people from other part of igboland marry from those places. Now my question is why are they strongly rejecting her cos it doesn't make sense to call everybody from different local government in abia state OSU.

I've made more research on the girls family and found out they are king makers and her father belongs to eze's cabinet.

Her father and mine are no longer alive. They both have a traditional title and belong to eze's cabinet too. Please I need your advice cos I really want marry this girl. I also know that people encounter alot of difficulties when they want to get married. So I need a clarification from someone who has extensive knowledge on igbo tradition. Thank you

yrhuhfy113:


There are traditional rites and things that can still make it work.

My issue is why weren't you informed EARLY before ever finding a woman.....

pansophist:
This is why I like Yoruba weddings.

No unnecessary complications like this. Cheap bride price, unlike the Igbos that see bride price as a means to cash out big time.

Even if the man is broke, he can still get married, and bring the woman to come and live with him in his father's compound, as per landlord pikin.

But Igbo girls? hmm. I fear those ones. If you are financially okay, you are not eligible to marry. You must be very made, and a man is judged solely by how deep his pocket is.

Sorry I have no advice to give, I just want to bash Igbo people small.

1Sharon:


So you believe in OSU?

Jman06:
From my understanding, OSU or OHU or whatever is just a term coined by conmen of yesteryears to take advantage of their fellow humans whose only crime was that they migrated to a land later than others.

The practice is a clear reflection of how selfish and inhuman the black men of those days were.
In those days, people were migrating from one area to another until they found a liveable land to occupy. Once they settled on a land, any other person coming after them is termed an "OSU". Imagine a situation where aboriginal Americans describe immigrants as outcasts!

In some places, especially in Enugu state, the situation is even such that kinsmen who migrated from one place to another also segregated their kinsmen coming behind them and describe them as OSU or Ohu or whatever that is why they bear the same surname. That is why if you trace the origin of some people who are seen as OHUs in one village, you'll discover that same people belong to the so called AMADUs in another village. It is just the greediness and selfishness of humans at play, it has nothing to do with worship of any gods like some people claim.

hammerT:



I HOPE YOU KNOW BRIDE PRICE IS AFRICAN NOT IGBO?


HOW MANY OTHER PEOPLE DO IT LIKE THE YORUBA IN NIGERIA? NONE!

POWERFULGOD:


To be frank with you I have witnessed and hear from my parents as well... It's not an easy ride.... I won't like my children to pass such stigma... Oh if they can be truthful here they will tell you that they do have a sign they to do make to identify themselves in a public gathering..

theamazonguru:


Not in all cases.
I have a family friend who are Yoruba.
Their daughter wanted to get married to a man she loved and really loved and respected her, but her mother said never, because the man is Ibo.

So eventually she got married to a Yoruba man, the parents were happy.
But guess what this lady was not, it turned out the man he got married to is a beast. Never respected her, never loved her.
She got sick to the point of death, yet she was the one slaving away, no rest even when the husband had no job, it was the sick wife that was working to pay bills and run the family, the said yoruba husband her parent desperately wanted her to marry was just a dead beat husband. Only good at preaching in church but at home never there to care for his sick wife nor give a helping hand.

She died eventually, even the night she died, she messed up on her self right in the car, the stupid husband was only concerned about his car, he kept complaining, oh I just washed this car oh.
Imagine.

May we not meet the wrong spouse.

pansophist:


Igbo own are too much, that is my point.

The worse are igbos from imo. Even their men run to other parts of Igbo land for a wife, especially women from Enugu.

hammerT:



MARRIAGE ALWAYS GOES WITH PROBLEMS BUT AT THE END EVERYBODY MAKE THE NECESSARY ADJUSTMENTS AND MOVE ON.


IT CAN NEVER BE EASY, BOTH BEFORE AND AFTER.


IT REQUIRES ALOT OF COMPROMISE AND MATURITY.