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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 11:56pm On Aug 29, 2023
dawnomike:
You need to let him know that you know the truth!
Disclose it to him in the midst polite way possible and say no more about it! Let his guilty concience judge him

She can as well get to a safe place first, what if he gets angry and beats her up..
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 11:56pm On Aug 29, 2023
So sad. What a disgusting girl. I wonder what you will see in another lady’s husband. And you still have mind to commit such atrocities between your parents house and your childhood neighbour, tufiakwa what a disgrace.

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 11:57pm On Aug 29, 2023
yankison:
■ When u are done divorcing ur husband like ur mommy's have advised u here pls let us know so we can hail u for been strong ... I just pity u with stress u de give ursef .. Why not tell him u have seen everything he is hiding then from there problem go solve .. Country hard u go hear am hot if u divorce and u no get money
So, after you tell your cheating wife you have seen everything she has been hiding from you, there and then the problem of her cheating has been resolved, and your peace of mind restored? That's how you envision it happening when you catch your wife cheating on you? Oh... country is hard so that somehow makes it less of a hassle to deal with for you? undecided
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 12:04am On Aug 30, 2023
Foodqueen:


As someone has suggested go to their house and dial the girl's no, if she picks then confront her.

Do not fight, just confront her.

For you to go to their house for cooking matter means you are close to her family too.... That's betrayal.

Do not tell your husband anything.

Conscience go nearly make him run mad

Good and classy idea. I like this
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:07am On Aug 30, 2023
sunsweet33:
■ Good and classy idea. I like this
She may be close to that family but the one who in fact betrayed her isn't the family but her husband. Unless she and the Vicky in question are tied buddies, I don't see how Vicky's conduct may be considered betrayal particularly since Vicky is just a 23-year-old kid. undecided
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sunsweet33: 12:18am On Aug 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
She may be close to that family but the one who in fact betrayed her isn't the family but her husband. Unless she and the Vicky in question are tied buddies, I don't see how Vicky's conduct may be considered betrayal particularly since Vicky is just a 23-year-old kid. undecided

Sister what on earth is a “23 year old kid?” 23 is old enough to mind her manners abeg.

Anyway the reason I say it’s a good idea is because it allows her to leverage her losing position by getting to the husband through “Vicky”.

And the further step would be to confront her parents without even saying anything to her, which would really teach both adulterers a good lesson (not because she’s a “kid” but because of the embarrassment it would cause).
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 12:36am On Aug 30, 2023
highchief1:
too much findings will kill u.ask urself why ur husband is cheating on u.maybe u r not doing well.it’s a mama world here Nthg when u go discover when go make the world attack your husband.If u do anyhow e go marry the girl join u.

It is now her fault her husband is cheating ?

Were you dropped on your head at birth?

Asking for a friend undecided

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Liverpoolfc(m): 12:38am On Aug 30, 2023
[quote author=jaeyking post=125426809]What you don't know doesn't kill you

But since you know, run your STI test and you could file for a divorce if you are not comfortable.

It's quite simple or more easier to say[/quote wrong advice. Don't think of divorcing your husband. Iron things out. Do not let husbandless person advise you against your husband.
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:49am On Aug 30, 2023
sunsweet33:
Sister what on earth is a “23 year old kid?” 23 is old enough to mind her manners abeg.
■ Anyway the reason I say it’s a good idea is because it allows her to leverage her losing position by getting to the husband through “Vicky”.
■ And the further step would be to confront her parents without even saying anything to her, which would really teach both adulterers a good lesson (not because she’s a “kid” but because of the embarrassment it would cause).
Well, if the old man— OP's husband— who is boinking Vicky had minded his manners, Vicky, a child, would have maybe learned to mind her manners from him. But sadly, OP's husband is the adult here who failed to show a good example. undecided

2. Attacking Vicky, the child, would only make OP seem like a desperate wife trying to defend her probable community dick of a husband. There is no way that will end up looking good for OP unless she moves from that community immediately after that confrontation. lipsrsealed

3. You make the mistake of assuming Vicky's parents are able to control or speak to Vicky about her habits. Too risky if you ask me. Worse the parents might turn on OP and accuse her of not being able to keep her own husband. It would be terrible if OP loses the rest of what is left of her dignity in all of this. Remember say na OP dey go borrow oven from her neighbors; no be the neighbors' dey come to her house to borrow oven. lipsrsealed
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 12:50am On Aug 30, 2023
Skyview01:
It is now her fault her husband is cheating ?
Were you dropped on your head at birth?
Asking for a friend undecided

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 1:02am On Aug 30, 2023
Kobojunkie:
No be your pastors and mogs dey commit adultery full everywhere? Abegi, make we hear word o'jare! undecided

I can't leave my child in the care of a pastor/GO or GS as I don't trust them.
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 1:03am On Aug 30, 2023
Skyview01:
■ I can't leave my child in the care of a pastor/GO or GS as I don't trust them.
As far as I see this world, na dem person suppose fear most. Wolves in sheep clothing indeed! lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Nobody: 1:08am On Aug 30, 2023
mcprince32:
The first confrontation is take a 3 days fast and pray if you are born again child of God. Don't destroy your marriage.
Discuss with him about it.
Then do well give your husband good sex.

With all due respect, no single sense in your advice.

Pray for 3 days while the husband is busy sleeping with a sidechick.
He will eventually bring to her in the home while you go continue your prayers on the outside.

You have a wierd sense of humor.

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by amba2017: 2:50am On Aug 30, 2023
Buy huge quantity of con don and give to him as gift. Tell him to be using it incase if he tempted and seduced by victy hook up girls.
If he is reasonable man, he will never cheat on you again
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Yugoslavia247(m): 3:26am On Aug 30, 2023
UnfairLife7:
Ned do not cheat with his wife with hook-up. He do marry them and he has made it known to them before marriage that he's polygamist by nature.

U Just dey cap nonsense

Ned nwoko assistant.

You know so much pass about it 😁

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Samadict(f): 3:38am On Aug 30, 2023
Scared of confronting him? What would your husband do if you were the one cheating? If he'll be scared to confront you, then stay scared.
But wait, must you confront him? Drop some of his lines or Vicky's lines during discussions with him. If he doesn't care, then you know what to do. And go check your self!!!!
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by koolaid87: 4:41am On Aug 30, 2023
Yugoslavia247:


Your marriage is about to see shege.

Do you bother about your husband sexual feeling the same way you bother about him cheating on you.

Most times that's what you all do.

Like you don't know it is the sex he needs.

Focus on understand his sexual appetite.

If Vicky leaves the scene
Antonia
Anabel
Cinderella
Senorita

Are waiting in line.

Now he would become smarter or furious.

She must have worked so hard to satisfy your husband for her to ask such questions.

Who is sweeter between me and your wife?

Imagine the kind eyes she go dey use dey look you.

Anytime you are at peace with your husband she go dey vex.

Better up the game and claim your husband not just from Vicky but others.

Be insightful.
Observe him
Know why.
What if na the gal give am green light.

You don't need to rush.

If you rush you no go fit borrow oven.

Sit your husband down and discuss it.

It might be difficult but try. Don't try and fight the gal. You go embarrass yourself, your husband and the family.

Call his family instead.

If possible make una go out and settle the issue because you na go too shout.

You need to be smart.

Imagine that you know and act like you don't.

Even your husband go fear.

Leave the gal and face your husband.

Na im get problem.

E Kon be neighbors

Kaya mata self fit dey work.

Maybe the gal dey wear braless cloth and pantless.

The thing he want the gal understand

U want use Vicky hook up play.

She go Sabi suck dick

When last u suck him dick.

That alone go make am never leave Vicky hook up.


Your anointing no go dry

I laugh mehn
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by koolaid87: 4:43am On Aug 30, 2023
Mjshexy:
Are you certain she's the one? Yes you finally confirmed he's cheating on you and you need to confront him with the evidence and very importantly check your health status.
If i may help you out, just nicely visit your neighbors house again and quietly dial the Vicky's number gotten from your husband's phone while the suspect is home, at least that should help you in your investigation somehow cool

Ori e bi ori tolontolo yen

Hope you get brothers wey go marry her once she divorced him.
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by sulakishop(m): 5:31am On Aug 30, 2023
Madam FBI/CIA
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Mjshexy(f): 5:39am On Aug 30, 2023
koolaid87:


Ori e bi ori tolontolo yen

Hope you get brothers wey go marry her once she divorced him.

You lack manners, you're sick and have a big problem, eranko undecided
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by GorillaApp(m): 5:41am On Aug 30, 2023
Yugoslavia247:


Your marriage is about to see shege.

Do you bother about your husband sexual feeling the same way you bother about him cheating on you.

Most times that's what you all do.

Like you don't know it is the sex he needs.

Focus on understand his sexual appetite.

If Vicky leaves the scene
Antonia
Anabel
Cinderella
Senorita

Are waiting in line.

Now he would become smarter or furious.

She must have worked so hard to satisfy your husband for her to ask such questions.

Who is sweeter between me and your wife?

Imagine the kind eyes she go dey use dey look you.

Anytime you are at peace with your husband she go dey vex.

Better up the game and claim your husband not just from Vicky but others.

Be insightful.
Observe him
Know why.
What if na the gal give am green light.

You don't need to rush.

If you rush you no go fit borrow oven.

Sit your husband down and discuss it.

It might be difficult but try. Don't try and fight the gal. You go embarrass yourself, your husband and the family.

Call his family instead.

If possible make una go out and settle the issue because you na go too shout.

You need to be smart.

Imagine that you know and act like you don't.

Even your husband go fear.

Leave the gal and face your husband.

Na im get problem.

E Kon be neighbors

Kaya mata self fit dey work.

Maybe the gal dey wear braless cloth and pantless.

The thing he want the gal understand

U want use Vicky hook up play.

She go Sabi suck dick

When last u suck him dick.

That alone go make am never leave Vicky hook up.

Street wisdom!
Madam op pay attention to this
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 5:42am On Aug 30, 2023
labake1:



Shut up and listen to yourself.
Oh, maybe she has a contract or business deal for him abi. If he has any other business aside szx, he would have involved his wife.
I pity women that marry men like you tho
Why em dey pain u specially. So hookup girl no fit do another business again grin
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by ddeola: 6:42am On Aug 30, 2023
Your husband has really disappointed you no b lie but really there's nothing new under the sun. You need to handle the situation with godly wisdom and carefulness because it's your home we are talking about, it must not crash for vultures outside to come and take over. I believe your husband loves you but he just can't handle that side very well (konji na bastard when e hold you especially if you can't control yourself), am not trying to excuse your hubby but am just trying to help you see that he can still be faithful to you if he can handle the situation well going forward. Am not a relationship expert but I will suggest the following steps if one or two will help:
1. Take the matter to God in prayers. your closest ally here is God and He will fight for you. Reclaim your husband from all these strange women (the girl might not be the only one in the picture). Decree no more erection for him when he's with another woman. Take charge in the spirit because the Bible say em bodi na your own and your bodi na em own in marriage. Decree that every other woman’s “thing” should become irritating like gutter to him say na only your own “thing” go dey appealing to am. Decree that anytime konji hold am, you will be the only woman on his mind and na only your “thing” must dey hungry am to “chop”.
2. Have a heart-to-heart talk with your hubby, don’t be confrontational and don’t raise your voice of fight with him. Let him know how you discovered that he is sleeping with d girl and express how it broke your heart and betrays your confidence in him. Let him know that:
- He put both of you in danger by sleeping with her without protection STDs can destroy any marriage. My own elder sister’s husband gave her HIV, now they are separated but not divorced even their daughter also have HIV. This is a truth am sharing with you
- He is hindering his own prayers because God will never grant his prayers because of unfaithfulness (whether you discovered or not it is still d same because nothing is hidden before God)
- He has united himself with strange forces/spirits by sleeping with another woman. You can’t tell the level of damage spiritually because you don’t know what these ladies have gotten themselves into and when they sleep with a man, they share their demons
- One woman is enough to give him sexual satisfaction all his life. He just needs to be creative and spice up your marital bed. The main thing a man needs in sex is satisfaction, as long as you can give him that satisfaction most of the time even if not all the time it will help
- He can be faithful to you whether or not there are other ladies that are coming at him freely. He only needs to make up his mind to stop being unfaithful and God will help him.
3. Get him to make a commitment never to sleep with any other woman again but you only. You should also make the same commitment to him.
4. You may need to find out why he fell into the habit. e.g. maybe you started it by being unfaithful to him, maybe you no dey give am well or you no dey service em “thing” as he liked, maybe you dey always give excuse when em wan do, maybe you don’t appeal to him sexually like wearing wrapper all d time wey your appearance no dey give an erection, he is your husband you must always seduce him, make him want to grab you and do nasty things if he gets the opportunity, afterall na em get dat “honeypot” let him lick, drink, and be drunk with you ecstasy, that is the only place he is permitted by God to get really jiggy allow him explore the kingdom and chop till “belle-ful” everytime, he no go see another woman again etc. To be honest, if he stops, you have to fill in the gap for him, grant him full access anytime and everytime he wan “chop”, you also must pursue him constantly and regularly say you wan “chop”or say make he come “chop”. (At times, when a man is getting full satisfaction and is well-serviced at home, he will not be bothered about wetin dem dey throw for em face outside, he will always look away)
5. Pray together, forgive each other, hold hands and promise to work on your marriage and ensure that there is no crack for any funny thing to creep in. If your marriage sweet well well, na una go enjoy am with una children. Be a good Christian or Muslim (I don’t know your faith) and render quality worship to God
6. Pray, pray and never stop praying for your husband, you are his watchman, his backbone, his ally, his everything only after God. He will be absolutely helpless without you, so you are that important in his life as his wife (some men don’t know this unfortunately)
7. Be a blessing to him and the whole world. May God make your home a model home worthy of emulation and not an excuse to avoid in Jesus name
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 6:48am On Aug 30, 2023
Rochasstatue:
Your husband is a danger to your and your family.
Even if you confront him, he will devise another method of concealing his cheating runs..
If you are financially stable, cheat on him.
If you are not yet financially independent,build yourself up and cheat on him.
Allow him find out and divorce the assholē
How can u be advising her to cheat on him? That's how u ladies useless ur life. Why can't she go her own way if she can't stay married? And when she cheats and starts fvcking random guys she starts another chapter of men are scum because no one wants to keep a cum dump undecided
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 7:18am On Aug 30, 2023
dkidd:

Why em dey pain u specially. So hookup girl no fit do another business again grin


Pack one side
I dislike men that cheat or has the potential of cheating

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Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by dkidd: 7:21am On Aug 30, 2023
labake1:



Pack one side
I dislike men that cheat or has the potential of cheating
But u know I'm only doing what u ladies do on here when ever a guy complains like this op. And btw I don't cheat or support cheating I only want u people to know how it feels to be blamed all the time and u can't even take it a little
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by nurudeen181(m): 7:40am On Aug 30, 2023
jaeyking:
What you don't know doesn't kill you

But since you know, run your STI test and you could file for a divorce if you are not comfortable.

It's quite simple or more easier to say
if she paid for the wedding, i believe she wont ask for divorce like you make it simple.. if head dey pain you next time no use panadol, cut the head off
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by countryman13: 7:44am On Aug 30, 2023
Versitee:
I have been feeling like my husband has been cheating on me with our neighbors daughter. She is just about 23 years.

Yesterday which was Sunday, I went to our neighbors house around 6pm to ask if I could use their oven.

Their compound is not fenced so I just walked in straight to their backyard if I would see the man's wife.

I overheard this girl making a call. Apparently she was the only one at home and she wasn't expecting anyone.

She was asking the man over the fone who was sexualy better between his wife and her.

My attention was arrested immediately. I stopped to hear more of the conversation. When I had enough, I made my presence known. She quickly hung up and tried to put up an innocent face.

I also pretended like I heard nothing, I asked to use the oven and left .
Getting back home, I was worried if that was my husband that girl was talking to, so I decided to find out.


I got my husbands fone later that night and went through the call log. The time that girl was making that call was few minutes past 6. I checked my husbands fone and there was a number he called around that time.

The number was not saved on the fone so I decided to call that number on my own fone and my true caller identified the number as "Vicky hookup".

Guess what, the girls name is Victoria.

I was surprised because I have the girls number saved on my fone. But I guess the number I have is for her family and friends. The one my husband has is for clients.

I opened his WhatsApp and found no chat with the girl, so I decided to check his telegram. ( Normally I don't like telegram so I never open it on either my fone or husband's)

My husbands telegram was locked. I was surprised cos that is the only app locked on his fone.


To cut the long story short, I found a way to open the app, and I saw his chat with that girl.


It pains me to say that my husband has been having sex with that girl without protection.

I want to go for HIV test tomorrow. Please how do I confront my husband about this.

Also I am scared I might be infected with an sti.
U go get BP for nothing sake! Why don't you just hold your peace as long as d man is doing that which he's suppose to do as a father. Confronting him won't stop him coz no b today. U are just lucky to know ds singular one of Vicky
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Emaprince: 8:24am On Aug 30, 2023
extremelygolden:


Hey there! Not every woman is promiscuous, ok? For those of us one-man-woman, the hurt usually cuts soooo deep when the one we loved betrays us.

Why would you date a neighbour's daughter, for crying out loud? Just tell me why? So you'll reduce me to nothing in the neighborhood?

Common man, that's absolutely wrong, you know. Not right at all, I tell you!
I understand you better now.

I wish you well and peace in your union.
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Kobojunkie: 8:33am On Aug 30, 2023
countryman13:

U go get BP for nothing sake! Why don't you just hold your peace as long as d man is doing that which he's suppose to do as a father. Confronting him won't stop him coz no b today. U are just lucky to know ds singular one of Vicky
If you were to find out your wife has been cheating on you with your next door neighbor, are you telling us that you will hold your peace as long as she is a doing what she is supposed to do as a mother to your kids? Would you also forego confronting her because you know it won't stop her and consider yourself lucky to know say na only Victor for next door she dey boing? undecided
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by labake1(f): 8:43am On Aug 30, 2023
dkidd:

But u know I'm only doing what u ladies do on here when ever a guy complains like this op. And btw I don't cheat or support cheating I only want u people to know how it feels to be blamed all the time and u can't even take it a little


The society supports whatever actions a man do whether positive or negative. It's not the same with women that's why women are starting to talk down on men's actions. I am sure if she should report him to his parents, they will advise her to endure it or even tell her that he is capable of marrying another wife. African culture doesn't favour women, men thinks they can do anything they like
Re: How Do I Confront My Husband About This Issue? by Pjoe238: 8:43am On Aug 30, 2023
Online marriage counselors without any qualification or marriage experience. Skip the post if you don't have better advice to give to the lady and that's if her story is true.

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