[quote author=Kenn55 post=125510232]@op.
First of all, there is no 100% guarantee in life. Not everyone who migrates or don't migrate abroad will be successful. Have this at the back of your mind. Life itself is a risk.

Let me tell you about my own philosophy. I subscribe to the view that the first 30 years of your life is yours. Enjoy every bit of it, you can think about yourself alone, you can be selfish and take decisions that benefit you and you alone. If you want to explore in sambisa, do it, it's all yours

After 30 years of age with kids coming or about to come, your life is no longer yours alone. You should dedicate your life to your next generation, your kids. At this point, your decision in anything you do should be based on first how it benefits your kids or future kids before yourself. If it benefits you but not your kids, I'll say no but if it benefits my kids and not me, I'll say yes. While you were greedy and selfish before 30, this stage requires you to be selfless and be ready to be a sacrificial lamb and allow your family to be greedy. This is my own philosophy that guides me, anyone can have a different philosophy.

This philosophy helped me make decision years ago about migrating. I asked myself, how do I ensure my children are better positioned with more opportunities when they grow up especially in today's uncertain times? After some research, I came to the conclusion that giving them the opportunity to become global citizens will give them more and better options down the road. They won't be restricted to just Nigeria, they will have options in other countries as well. Since I didn't give birth to them abroad, the only option was to relocate. Because I had the money and opportunity to migrate LEGALLY, I took the chance. I wouldn't have done that if there was no legal way to do that even with my desires. I discourage illegal immigration, it is not worth it.


I had no reason to migrate cos I was doing well but I put them first. Before I left, recognizing that there is no guarantee abroad, I had already conditioned my mind that even if I end up not getting what I worth abroad but my children succeed, I'm okay, it is a sacrifice I'm willing to make. But at the end, thank God it worked fine for me, i made a career pivot when i got abroad and boom, i became even more successful than i was in Nigeria but I was ready to accept my fate if it didn't work out.

As Canadian citizens, I and my children can decide to come back to Nigeria tomorrow to work or do business, can decide to work or do business in Canada or the US. These are 3 options available to my kids now and I have never been happier.

Note that there are kids or people who have 5 strong passports but are useless so it is not always a guarantee but I believe as a parent, it is my duty to do the best I can to position them in a way they can become more successful and hope it works out at the end.

The decision to migrate is solely based on your view. Look at what you desire most and see how your decision will affect it. Again, there are no guarantees anywhere in this world, we just have to do the best we can to achieve our desires.[/quote


So we that we don't have the opportunity to japa and we are struggling to take care of our children here and trying given them.the best ,our future or that of our children are not secured abi.

Going abroad is not the gateway to making it in life and I think to fulfill purpose is all not about going abroad.
I don't say abroad is not good really but don't always tell it to our faces that our children will.ot make it here as well in Nigeria na
Na chance wey u get we no get oo we no kill person pls]

Offpointng:


Adding to your skills also, Learn how to kill snakes in Nigeria, starting from, Boas to Pythons, Vipers and the likes It'd be an essential skill when you get to Australia

Like this like this, I don make like $250 today alone killing snakes for my neighbours. I not only have free money from this skill, I also have free meat for the whole of September. Thank allah for my blasting freezer

You didn't include spiders . Uno Aussie now

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

At 48, you can't a dream job over there. Stay behind

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

Sir, you're still young, don't be discouraged by your age. I don't know why people of your age group are regarded as old in the world of today.

My former head of department where I work is about your age, he relocated to the UK last year, he is doing very well overthere. Just open yourself to new opportunities. You have at least, a minimum of 12 years in active service.

All the best. Cheers!

My guy you have an angel for a wife. I tot u were going to say she has met some one else....

Guy if you can learn any skill like plumbing or carpentary or mevhanic..learn it fast to have the badics. A plumber who goes to Australia now will earn by december what a doctor cannotdream of in Naija. 48 is still young. Thereare many things to do over there.....

I mean the guy who owns Dyson home appliamces hit his first million at 62 years old after inventing things with no success for 40 years....so 48 years old is nothing!

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

Usefulsense:


To be honest with you, the plan is for the entire family to migrate.

In fact, i did my ielts last year and made 7,7, 7.5, 7

As soon as our visa grant came out, I started developing cold feet on account of age.

She has advised that I go and learn forklift driving.
I will commence that this month.

Please move and go meet your wife sir. We know someone here in Canada who did some courses and went into Business Analyst role here at 50! Totally different from what he was doing in Nigeria, please move sir, don't be scared.
God be with you, be strong.

Don't leave your lucrative job and face uncertainty in foreign land.

Making money is really really tough in abroad.

You will cry if you travel abroad for your grave mistake.

Mostly travel abroad is for sapa people.

Kenn55:
@op.
First of all, there is no 100% guarantee in life. Not everyone who migrates or don't migrate abroad will be successful. Have this at the back of your mind. Life itself is a risk.

Let me tell you about my own philosophy. I subscribe to the view that the first 30 years of your life is yours. Enjoy every bit of it, you can think about yourself alone, you can be selfish and take decisions that benefit you and you alone. If you want to explore in sambisa, do it, it's all yours

After 30 years of age with kids coming or about to come, your life is no longer yours alone. You should dedicate your life to your next generation, your kids. At this point, your decision in anything you do should be based on first how it benefits your kids or future kids before yourself. If it benefits you but not your kids, I'll say no but if it benefits my kids and not me, I'll say yes. While you were greedy and selfish before 30, this stage requires you to be selfless and be ready to be a sacrificial lamb and allow your family to be greedy. This is my own philosophy that guides me, anyone can have a different philosophy.

This philosophy helped me make decision years ago about migrating. I asked myself, how do I ensure my children are better positioned with more opportunities when they grow up especially in today's uncertain times? After some research, I came to the conclusion that giving them the opportunity to become global citizens will give them more and better options down the road. They won't be restricted to just Nigeria, they will have options in other countries as well. Since I didn't give birth to them abroad, the only option was to relocate. Because I had the money and opportunity to migrate LEGALLY, I took the chance. I wouldn't have done that if there was no legal way to do that even with my desires. I discourage illegal immigration, it is not worth it.


I had no reason to migrate cos I was doing well but I put them first. Before I left, recognizing that there is no guarantee abroad, I had already conditioned my mind that even if I end up not getting what I worth abroad but my children succeed, I'm okay, it is a sacrifice I'm willing to make. But at the end, thank God it worked fine for me, i made a career pivot when i got abroad and boom, i became even more successful than i was in Nigeria but I was ready to accept my fate if it didn't work out.

As Canadian citizens, I and my children can decide to come back to Nigeria tomorrow to work or do business, can decide to work or do business in Canada or the US. These are 3 options available to my kids now and I have never been happier.

Note that there are kids or people who have 5 strong passports but are useless so it is not always a guarantee but I believe as a parent, it is my duty to do the best I can to position them in a way they can become more successful and hope it works out at the end.

The decision to migrate is solely based on your view. Look at what you desire most and see how your decision will affect it. Again, there are no guarantees anywhere in this world, we just have to do the best we can to achieve our desires.

i so much appreciate dis writes
up is an eye opener op follow this advice it will go a long way

BALLOSKI:
He's afraid of being under his wife care as a man in foreign land.

lol. But her actions so far shows she be better wife na

Usefulsense:


To be honest with you, the plan is for the entire family to migrate.

In fact, i did my ielts last year and made 7,7, 7.5, 7

As soon as our visa grant came out, I started developing cold feet on account of age.

She has advised that I go and learn forklift driving.
I will commence that this month.

abeg wey you dey learn the forklift driving... biko s

There are many guys like you on NL with amazing wives in the west who do everything to support the family, love you, respect themselves and respect you. Why aren’t y’all more vocal about it?

The ones we don’t stop hearing about are the evil western wives who have grown wings and refuse to wear the proverbial red pant and black bra. 😏

Firefunmi2014:


I can relate with your situation because I have been there. I left Nigeria last year to join my wife who left in 2021 on Skilled worker visa to. UK. I was 46yrs when I joined her. I have a relatively good job in Nigeria with an official car and HOD in one of the PFAs in Nigeria. I don't have plans to join them before, I was thinking I will be sending money to them but for almost 6mth I couldn't convert my Naita to Pound.

Fast forward last year Nov, I took the decision to join them, it's been over 7mths now, has is it been easy ? No, but it is a journey. I started working in January, the role is related to finance which is my field, though a junior role for me experience and qualifications but is paying bills.

My wife has been an amasing woman, she earns more than me but her money is our money and vice versa. In a foreign land, be ready to share bills with your wife and also the house chore with her. I usually go to store to do the chopping and atimes cook for the children.

My advice for you is that you should prayerfully join your wife provided she is an amazing woman, trust me you will not regret it.

I wish you best of luck

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

In life you have to take calculated risks no guarantees

Acidosis:
As long as your wife can/will feed you without complaints (just in case things do not turn out well for you), then you will be fine.

Your concerns are very valid. Not many 48 year old men would leave a N1.1m accounting job in Nigeria to go kill snakes in Australia as someone suggests here. I won't do it at gun point.

Nigerians are really trying sha, all because of evil leadership of many years

No fear

Baba make u move ooo.if u do one year there, u will look like u are in ur early 30's

Firefunmi2014:


I can relate with your situation because I have been there. I left Nigeria last year to join my wife who left in 2021 on Skilled worker visa to. UK. I was 46yrs when I joined her. I have a relatively good job in Nigeria with an official car and HOD in one of the PFAs in Nigeria. I don't have plans to join them before, I was thinking I will be sending money to them but for almost 6mth I couldn't convert my Naita to Pound.

Fast forward last year Nov, I took the decision to join them, it's been over 7mths now, has is it been easy ? No, but it is a journey. I started working in January, the role is related to finance which is my field, though a junior role for me experience and qualifications but is paying bills.

My wife has been an amasing woman, she earns more than me but her money is our money and vice versa. In a foreign land, be ready to share bills with your wife and also the house chore with her. I usually go to store to do the chopping and atimes cook for the children.

My advice for you is that you should prayerfully join your wife provided she is an amazing woman, trust me you will not regret it.

I wish you best of luck

Reading all these chilling comments makes me more angry with APC and all their useless supporters.


Just imagine what Nigerian men are going through just to escape APC's 8 years of untold failure, kai.



Na wa oh, it is well oh

Acidosis:


Not necessarily. As I age, I believe I would be less inclined to take certain risks. At 50 years old, I certainly won't exchange certainty for uncertainty. After 20-25 years of accounting practice, I wouldn't consider learning how to kill snakes or operate a forklift, regardless of the $$$ offered.

Please note that these are my personal views, and I'm not advising or suggesting that you go or stay back.

Honestly my brother the comments are shocking and it tells you what bad government have pushed Nigerians into.


Imagine leaving your Accounting job to start all over again as a Forklift operator at 48yrs or snake killer or caregiver when you ought to be planning your retirement, ah, it will never be well with Buhari, all APC supporters and those supporting bad leadership in Nigeria in the name of tribe and religion!

juman:
Don't leave your lucrative job and face uncertainty in foreign land.

Making money is really really tough in abroad.

You will cry if you travel abroad for your grave mistake.

Mostly travel abroad is for sapa people.

And making money is like bread and butter in your shithole country?

Can SAPA people afford to relocate? You're just talking out of point oga

Usefulsense:


To be honest with you, the plan is for the entire family to migrate.

In fact, i did my ielts last year and made 7,7, 7.5, 7

As soon as our visa grant came out, I started developing cold feet on account of age.

She has advised that I go and learn forklift driving.
I will commence that this month.

Pls where can one learn forklift driving? And is it in high demand abroad?

flokii:


You didn't see where he wrote.. 'provided she is an amazing woman' right?
He is already running errands and cooking for the kids while his wife sits there doing nothing.. He is under the control of a woman but can't fully express it. Use your head before mentioning me next time.

His wife works full time job while he joined her in the US. Is she supposed to stop working while her husband looks for job?
Learn to read to comprehend.

Usefulsense:
This is my story. Please advice.

I sent my wife to Australia in 2021 on student visa.

She has invited us, myself and our children aged 12 and 9 and our visa is out. I have also paid like 6 months fees for my children school which was a requirement for the visa.

Owing to her performance at her work place, the company she works for has promised to sponsor for PR. Infact, the process just began and we are sure of having the PR.

I am currently 48 and won't be able to support my family working in Nigeria. Wify has encouraged me that we will be fine that abroad is meant for 2 people.

My only constraint is my age, hence my question. If you are in my shoe, will you travel?

By the way, I work for a private firm here in Nigeria and you know what it is working for a family company.

My brother

If you travel, you go see say at 48,you and your 12yrs go look like agemates

I remember the way some women at 45yrs or 50yrs in naija go dey do like say them don reach 80yrs, for here, everybody dey hustle irrespective of your age

And from your narration, e sure me say you no be igbo


Follow your family,make great plans and go with your family, you can change work or job etc.

My candid advice to all Nigerians, especially the married men above 48yrs earning above 1million Naira in Nigeria in secured job or business is this:


If you are a Nigerian man living in Nigeria and earning above 1million monthly, and you are married and above 48yrs, please forget about relocating permanently abroad, it's a very bad move.


Plan your life well in Nigeria, invest wisely in real estate (secured lands mostly) and open trust accounts for your kids.


Plan for your kids to do their masters abroad if you couldn't afford sending them for undergraduate when they get to university education age.


Abandoning all you have worked for years to relocate abroad to start all over again at 48yrs above in an odd job or low paid career is not a good move. Forget all the nonsense talks of doing it for your kids, you should enjoy your own life too cos those kids may end up not remembering you nor Nigeria after you make all the sacrifice of moving them abroad at early age, what then becomes of you at old age?


Forget all these worries we have in Nigeria, a child that will excel will excel, it is our destiny that matters most, environment play second role.


Yes developed countries offer good opportunities for our kids to succeed, but it also makes it easier for your kids to forget you and forget their Nigerian root as they grow older abroad.


Make una de think this thing well oh, Japa is best for single guys below 30yrs and at worst those below 45yrs and those struggling financially in Nigeria with no visible change in sight.


Nigerians love jumping into every bandwagon without thinking it through.


Cryptocurrency trading came every Nigerian became a cryptocurrency trader.

All those HYIPs aka Ponzi came every Nigerian became an investor investing millions to triple their income overnight.

Yahoo came every Nigerian boy and girl automatically became Yahoo boys and girls.

POS business came, every Nigerian turned to POS business owner.


Mini importation came, every Nigerian turned to Mini Importer.

Skit making came, every Nigerian turned to Skit Maker and Content Creator overnight.


Linda Ikeji made money in Blogging, every Nigerian turned to Blogger wanting to hammer like Linda.


There was a time every Nigerian almost turned to kidnappers kidnapping even their own siblings.


Qatar opened door, every Nigerian wan Japa to Qatar without plans.


UAE opened door every Nigerian wanted to Japa to Dubai.

UK the same.



My people make una de use una brain small oh

[quote author=gbeseun post=125530756][/quote]

Why are you angry? I made sure I stated it clearly that there is no guarantee of success anywhere in the world. I even gave an example that some people can have 5 strong passports and are still useless.
I never said there is no opportunity to be successful in Nigeria, I said I wanted "MORE" opportunities for my family. That means in addition to the opportunity they have in Nigeria, I wanted them to have more options in other countries.
Oga, this your beef is unnecessary

Kenn55:
@op.
First of all, there is no 100% guarantee in life. Not everyone who migrates or don't migrate abroad will be successful. Have this at the back of your mind. Life itself is a risk.

Let me tell you about my own philosophy. I subscribe to the view that the first 30 years of your life is yours. Enjoy every bit of it, you can think about yourself alone, you can be selfish and take decisions that benefit you and you alone. If you want to explore in sambisa, do it, it's all yours

After 30 years of age with kids coming or about to come, your life is no longer yours alone. You should dedicate your life to your next generation, your kids. At this point, your decision in anything you do should be based on first how it benefits your kids or future kids before yourself. If it benefits you but not your kids, I'll say no but if it benefits my kids and not me, I'll say yes. While you were greedy and selfish before 30, this stage requires you to be selfless and be ready to be a sacrificial lamb and allow your family to be greedy. This is my own philosophy that guides me, anyone can have a different philosophy.

This philosophy helped me make decision years ago about migrating. I asked myself, how do I ensure my children are better positioned with more opportunities when they grow up especially in today's uncertain times? After some research, I came to the conclusion that giving them the opportunity to become global citizens will give them more and better options down the road. They won't be restricted to just Nigeria, they will have options in other countries as well. Since I didn't give birth to them abroad, the only option was to relocate. Because I had the money and opportunity to migrate LEGALLY, I took the chance. I wouldn't have done that if there was no legal way to do that even with my desires. I discourage illegal immigration, it is not worth it.


I had no reason to migrate cos I was doing well but I put them first. Before I left, recognizing that there is no guarantee abroad, I had already conditioned my mind that even if I end up not getting what I worth abroad but my children succeed, I'm okay, it is a sacrifice I'm willing to make. But at the end, thank God it worked fine for me, i made a career pivot when i got abroad and boom, i became even more successful than i was in Nigeria but I was ready to accept my fate if it didn't work out.

As Canadian citizens, I and my children can decide to come back to Nigeria tomorrow to work or do business, can decide to work or do business in Canada or the US. These are 3 options available to my kids now and I have never been happier.

Note that there are kids or people who have 5 strong passports but are useless so it is not always a guarantee but I believe as a parent, it is my duty to do the best I can to position them in a way they can become more successful and hope it works out at the end.

The decision to migrate is solely based on your view. Look at what you desire most and see how your decision will affect it. Again, there are no guarantees anywhere in this world, we just have to do the best we can to achieve our desires.

@ops there lies the answer that u need. The few months I have spent abroad is the best years of my life. Please grab this opportunity for the sake of your children. If u miss it ur children will hate you for it. I almost had a bitter experience when all my fathers friends relocated their family while my own parents leaved us in naija to suffer with them. Later , he truthfully regretted that decision and apologised to us children

Muslims don't eat snakes.

Offpointng:


Adding to your skills also, Learn how to kill snakes in Nigeria, starting from, Boas to Pythons, Vipers and the likes It'd be an essential skill when you get to Australia

Like this like this, I don make like $250 today alone killing snakes for my neighbours. I not only have free money from this skill, I also have free meat for the whole of September. Thank allah for my blasting freezer

I would like to have conversations with you.

Pappij:


Age is not a barrier, your mindset could be.

I'm about your age and made a similar move earlier this year, although with a slightly larger family composition.

See, with your work experience; you are good to go. One or two certifications on the side will be the icing on the cake.

Just pray and concentrate on your craft, you will be fine. Jitters are fine but shouldn't deter you.

Usefulsense:


To be honest with you, the plan is for the entire family to migrate.

In fact, i did my ielts last year and made 7,7, 7.5, 7

As soon as our visa grant came out, I started developing cold feet on account of age.

She has advised that I go and learn forklift driving.
I will commence that this month.

The joy of being with your wife after 2 years should have killed that cold feet self.... Boss go first but don't sell any important properties like house and lands

I applied for the UK standard visiting visa to enable me to go and write exam, but during the application, I selected "Other reasons" as the purpose of my visit instead of business. In my document checklist, I saw document for my sponsor, but I don't have a sponsor. I m sponsoring myself. I m confused. What do I do as I have submitted.

franchasofficia:
Honestly my brother the comments are shocking and it tells you what bad government have pushed Nigerians into.


Imagine leaving your Accounting job to start all over again as a Forklift operator at 48yrs or snake killer or caregiver when you ought to be planning your retirement, ah, it will never be well with Buhari, all APC supporters and those supporting bad leadership in Nigeria in the name of tribe and religion!

I tell you! Bad leadership is one of the main reasons middle age men and women are migrating to start all over.

N1.1m (Nigerian value) is a great pay anywhere in the world. There are only a few jobs/countries where your one month salary will conveniently cover your annual rent (12 months). This is the privilege this man wants to leave behind because of bad leadership.

Apart from corruption and stolen money, no governor, senator, or house of rep member in Nigeria earns N1.1m as basic monthly salary. Corruption is the reason this country is dying. On a normal level, this man ought to live larger than a commissioner and house of rep member.

Are there jobs for a Secondary School Teacher in Australia?

Acidosis:


I tell you! Bad leadership is one of the main reasons middle age men and women are migrating to start all over.

N1.1m (Nigerian value) is a great pay anywhere in the world. There are only a few jobs/countries where your one month salary will conveniently cover your annual rent (12 months). This is the privilege this man wants to leave behind because of bad leadership.

Apart from corruption and stolen money, no governor, senator, or house of rep member in Nigeria earns N1.1m as basic monthly salary. Corruption is the reason this country is dying. On a normal level, this man ought to live larger than a commissioner and house of rep member.

Really sad brother.


A lot of Nigerian men above 40yrs abandoned their jobs and businesses paying them over 1million naira monthly to migrate to UK to start all over as caregivers, factory cleaners, etc earning 1,700 pounds that is not enough to pay rent of a 3bed apartment in London, pay car insurance and maybe their utility bills, and when you ask them they say they are doing it for their kids.


Kids that will grow to forget you and forget Nigeria as they grow to embrace western culture that doesn't make it necessary to cater for your aged parents, so to what end are you abandoning your own life for kids that may never take care of you at old age?



Its just that Nigerians like following the bandwagon without weighing their options rationally, it is well oh

UnfairLife7:
why are you sending him that? To discourage him joining his wife and kids?

He's not doing badly in Nigeria too, according him. I'm just looking out for him, you know how this sometimes ends up. Don't pretend like you don't.
He has his doubt already, that's why he posted it here. We all can't sleep and put our heads in the same direction.