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TheSuperX:
Na only u dey post and like ur posts with your alternate accounts, omoh low self-esteem no go kill una for here. 😂😂

I don't understand, are you this jealous?
You really have alot of time monitoring my comments and likes.

Jeon:
You make me laff. So a person shouldn't divorce if abuse, violence, not getting what you want, lack of peace,happiness,trust e. t. c are going on in the marriage apart from sexually immorals. No wonder religion do kill gullible peeps.


New update
A new divorce just came in, Joe Jonas and Sophie Turner are divorcing.
Those shouting Money this, Money that ,it gives and save relationship. "when money dy love sweet ". 😂


Are those two not rich?..Why can't the money save the ship?.

You are really naive and lost... usa is not the benchmark.... go and check Asia, Eastern Europe and South America... they still practise the traditional marriage...divorce is very low in those places ... what they are doing in the United States and western Europe is nothing but Evil powered by the devil...only a selfish person will leave a marriage because he or she isn't happy... its best u avoid marriage, its not for u ... u have allowed western social construct to deceive u

Are you tired of hiding as a female online to advise Women to stay put in a Marriage that's not favorable to them?. That's what you always do, I have been seeing it, remember you gave me mentions on other threads but I just ignored them. But today I want to let you know that you can't push your opinion down into everyone's throat.

Beverlyjean:
You are really naive and lost... usa is not the benchmark.... go and check Asia, Eastern Europe and South America... they still practise the traditional marriage...divorce is very low in those places ... what they are doing in the United States and western Europe is nothing but Evil powered by the devil...

I'm not talking about traditional marriage ,I'm taking about people wanting traditional spouses [especially Men yet most can't meet the standards. And may abuse it ].



Was happiness the only thing I put down in the previous conversation?

only a selfish person will leave a marriage because he or she isn't happy... its best u avoid marriage, its not for u ... u have allowed western social construct to deceive u

Please do read @bolded when you are down from ur cocoa powder.


abeg, rest. This conv is getting boring.

Marriage no be by force,its not for everyone!!!.

DarkLover:
Difficult af especially for someone like me.
I know what I want in my lady but I don’t really know if I want a lady, I mean I don’t really know what I want.

My standards are high and I don’t know how to trim them down to accommodate a partner, so I get tired of these relationships easily. I may never get married.

There's a purpose for marriage, once you didn't know the purpose, neither the man who instituted this institution, you will certainly miss it.That's the problem,most young men have including you. Until, these are known man will continue to grope in darkness.

Evestar200:
Two to four is a lot.

I stopped anything relationship since 2021.

The society is too full of heartless and selfish people.

Everyone is just after profits without considering the feelings and mental health of others.

I can't even begin to imagine it! Very heartless people. They cheat on you and boldly come up with excuses to make you feel stupid to the point that if you aren't smart enough you will start blaming yourself for their act. Very wicked and cursed people everywhere.

MrNipplesLover:
The benefits that the both gender get in relationship is toto and money...

When u're making money, why do u have to go into any relationship when u can actually get toto everywhere?

U people just like suffering Unaselves....

With the bolded you just confirmed it that what majority of people want in a marriage is beyond sex and money. Or how else will you explain why a rich Playboy still wants to get married and a woman from a rich home still wants to get married.

Beverlyjean:
......only a selfish person will leave a marriage because he or she isn't happy...

Big fat lie. If you understood the importance of mental health you wouldn't say this.

Obaaderemi2:
Big fat lie. If you understood the importance of mental health you wouldn't say this.

Mental health Kor ... where ur fore fathers having mental health...only lazy people blame mental health...

Jeon:
Are you tired of hiding as a female online to advise Women to stay put in a Marriage that's not favorable to them?. That's what you always do, I have been seeing it, remember you gave me mentions on other threads but I just ignored them. But today I want to let you know that you can't push your opinion down into everyone's throat.



I'm not talking about traditional marriage ,I'm taking about people wanting traditional spouses [especially Men yet most can't meet the standards. And may abuse it ].



Was happiness the only thing I put down in the previous conversation?


Please do read @bolded when you are down from ur cocoa powder.


abeg, rest. This conv is getting boring.

Marriage no be by force,its not for everyone!!!.

Marriage is not for you..but one thing is for sure ...u will hate decisions u are making now in the future

Beverlyjean:
Mental health Kor ... where ur fore fathers having mental health...only lazy people blame mental health...

Women and men reading this specimen's posts here should be careful. She/He is either confused or is saying nonsense all for the sake of argument.

So your forefathers didn't suffer from mental health challenges brought about by bad marriages? You must think divorce is a new invention. 😅😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Obaaderemi2:
Women and men reading this specimen's posts here should be careful. She/He is either confused or is saying nonsense all for the sake of argument.

So your forefathers didn't suffer from mental health challenges brought about by bad marriages? You must think divorce is a new invention. 😅😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

What is mental health?? U keep on downloading trash into ur head... u scream at someone and they will claim mental health... u deny someone what they want , they claim mental health , u loose ur job , u claim mental health.... u must be a very weak man

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Everything about relationship smell scam to me.

Beverlyjean:
What is mental health?? U keep on downloading trash into ur head... u scream at someone and they will claim mental health... u deny someone what they want , they claim mental health , u loose ur job , u claim mental health.... u must be a very weak man

And you must be a very stupid man/woman if you didn't know mental health is everything. So many people have lost their lives or have done the unthinkable to others because of it. You have someone toying with another person's life and emotions without remorse and also getting physically abusive along the way and you are here preaching absolute tolerance in such situations without exception! That's the height of stupidity. Securing your life and mental health (in your face again ) is not weakness.

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

Well said. In addition, " hurting people hurt other people".

The partner with the greater emotional investment in a relationship ends up getting hurt. This partner will refuse to be the fool in their next relationship. So, the cycle continues.

A very sad reality.

Obaaderemi2:
Women and men reading this specimen's posts here should be careful. She/He is either confused or is saying nonsense all for the sake of argument.

So your forefathers didn't suffer from mental health challenges brought about by bad marriages? You must think divorce is a new invention. 😅😅🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Maybe he's high in the realm of cocoa caning.
or
Maybe he's just being sarcastic.

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.

This is true, is scary wlh

Desusi:
There's a purpose for marriage, once you didn't know the purpose, neither the man who instituted this institution, you will certainly miss it.That's the problem,most young men have including you. Until, these are known man will continue to grope in darkness.

What’s the purpose please? I’m willing to learn.

izonborn098:
All i know is marriage sweet but with the right person..
Don't play with red flags and don't go after oloshos who are good in packaging..
Before relationship work perfect' there are alot of understanding and maturity between the two people in question..
Many girls are after material things so one man can't satisfy their needs, so they look for other options making her to lack loyalty and understanding.
Another reason is' women now also have trust issue against men so many of them date more than one person incase any of them break their heart they will flow with the your deputy.. Even men don't trust women again because majority of men and women has taste the bitter side of love.. Nobody want to be preyed on..

Your deputy got me laughing. 😂 Lol

IamAtAnger:
But every Saturday people dey wed na abi na staged?

Cars and planes kill people, we've not stopped using them.

Myer:
Kindly elaborate on the bolded.

I mean I easily gets tired of them. I’m kind of a perfectionist who lives in his own world in his mind. The girls would say I will never see any girl that will satisfy my desires.

I feel like I make them look inferior or not competent enough, I wish they could think and have understanding like me. These thongs aren’t there so I’ve been scattering all my relationships by myself.

It’s daunting.

Beverlyjean:
Mental health Kor ... where ur fore fathers having mental health...only lazy people blame mental health...

Hmm...Someone else has finally said it.
Mental health has turned into the available excuse for people's numerous inadequacies in today's world

No one wants to waste their time on dates, spend money, etc.
I judge by my surroundings and everyone wants to communicate online (s*xting, intimacy via video call, remote toys for intimacy)

DarkLover:
What’s the purpose please? I’m willing to learn.

Great thanks dark lover, the Great God who created heaven and earth instituted marriage.Having created man in His own image and place him in Eden, He said it's not good that the man should be alone.He needs counselor, helpmeet, friendship, warmness, and to avoid loneliness, God created woman from the rib He extracted from man.Has God committed offence? Unfortunately, however, this same woman led to the fall of man.This led to the poor relationship between man and God,man no longer enjoyed the favour of God. This was what motivated God to make way for reconciliation with man through Christ.Except. The moment this offer of Christ is accepted by any man, this will pave way for peace in any home where no peace reside.He, Jesus make provisions for wine of love when it is finished in the family. You said you do not know what you really want in a woman. That's normal for a carnal man. Jesus makes the different, accept Him today,your life will never remained the same.God bless you.

Everyone knows the basic and most important impediment to marriage or even healthy romantic relationships today, but it can't be mentioned in polite company.

I'm not anonymous so I won't do the honors. Besides I'm a married man, enemies might might read it and tell on me Or let me drop a hint....oxytocin and vasopressin. Mix those with POVERTY and the matter becomes toxic!!!!
I will go no further. My wife knows my views sha so whatever.

Everyone knows what to do but the vast majority CHOOSE to instead gamble on the possibility of eating cake and still have it.

Like I've said before, everyone will LIKELY pay for their choices...some will be lucky and get away unscathed.

Good Luck to everyone.

DarkLover:
I mean I easily gets tired of them. I’m kind of a perfectionist who lives in his own world in his mind. The girls would say I will never see any girl that will satisfy my desires.

I feel like I make them look inferior or not competent enough, I wish they could think and have understanding like me. These thongs aren’t there so I’ve been scattering all my relationships by myself.

It’s daunting.

Just wanted to be sure you weren't giving up on heterosexuality.lol
It's good you have standards. This generation is awash with men and women with little or no standards.
It is also important not to have a standard that's unrealistic.

That said, every thing makes sense when you follow God's way/standard.

Relationship no dey difficult na we dey put body for where dem no want us. Have you seen a Saturday wey wedding no sup? Who dey always marry na ghost dem be?
Dats the narrative that the society is trying to make us believe. If you believe that relationship is hard when the opposite sex give you small attention you sharply dey think of you and him/her forever

Stephen2324:
Relationships are now more difficult than ever. Everyone is being wary and careful of the other person. Men don't trust ladies and ladies don't trust men. Everyone is on the edge, suspicious of the words and actions of other person. Distrust everywhere.

Voluntary unions are now built on falsehood and distrust. No one wants to be the fool. No one wants to be the "mugu". Everyone wants to be the smart one.

The winner of this unfortunate battlefield is he who has the least emotions and who cares less. It is more sad when one realises that these are two species that are meant to work together in a physical and spiritual upbuilding but this is where we are today.

More sad is that, it will get worse as time passes because even these wrong values are being passed on to the younger generation who cling to it more firmly and build on it. Building on the wrong values with so much energy and talent, directed in the wrong direction. And when one seeks to find the root cause of this pain and scar we all bear, we end up going round in circles and plunging ourselves into the very entities that birthed these false attitudes. A vicious cycle.

We are like a legion of lost souls in a dark enclosed tunnel, getting in eachother's way just to find a way out but without a genuine desire to change from within.

Sad but true. Until we as a people humble ourselves, acknowledge we are the problem, turn from our wicked ways and dedicate ourselves to doing right we will keep suffering the consequences of our wickedness. We often insult corrupt politicians but we forget that these same evil politicians are Nigerians. If the population is overwhelmingly corrupt then the sample must be overwhelmingly corrupt. This is a truism. No one can argue against it. We just have to repent of our evil ways and commit ourselves to righteousness. This is the only solution to all our woes as a people. In my own case I was so graced by GOD that after several failed relationships I landed a very sweet marriage. I pray that others find mercy too.

Eriokanmi:
Relationships are difficult nowadays because we've either lost or abandoned the process. You're sleeping with ladies/men when you're not yet married. In those days, my heart would be beating fast just because I wanted to toast a girl because I wouldn't know the kind of response she'd give me. Girls were God-fearing, just like boys. The reverse is the case today

Most of us lost our virginity in our late 20s and early 30s. I married my wife a virgin at the age of 29 years, she was almost 30 years old. As pretty as she was, long, pointed-nosed, dark and skinny with amazing frontside lol. She's escaped 2 times from rapists who pretended to be friends. One of them was a head of campus fellowship.

Many today have lost body count. There's an unseen and spiritual bond in sexual intercourrse which many are oblivious of today. You share in his/her spiritual problem and bondage when you sleep with that guy/girl. You can now imagine the number of wahala on your head when you sleep with many.

A friend of mine won Gbenga Daniel scholarship in those days when he was Ogun governor. This guy was so poor. Luckily for him, he was among those selected,alongside children of senators and powerful politicians. A week to their interview at the British embassy for their visa, 2 ladies who didn't know each other visited him. They said they just wanted to see him as he's refused to check on them, they came separately and on separate days. Meanwhile, he had wooed these girls before but they turned him down while in the university. In short, he slept with them, one after the other on their visit.

Everyone got visa approval, except my friend. I now told him to not give up but avoid sexual sin cos the devil had seen the future and set a trap , using those ladies to destroy him. He didn't appeal but reapplied. He was on 3 days fasting when he went back to the embassy. His visa was approved. Today, he's a great man, an entrepreneur of repute.

Many have entered a wrong relationship today because they abandoned the process. I prayed and fasted over my relationship. I was interested in 3 ladies but I didn't show it. I had to take their names before God. I also engaged my pastors. They never knew each other but God revealed samething to them. There was one of them whom a man of God said had 4 spiritual eyes and possessed with a marine spirit. That I shouldn't near her. To confirm this, there was a day she called me and told me what I was doing. I had malaria and she told me so. GSM was just a year old in Nigeria then. Today, you don't need to toast. They meet on social media, dating app and enter a relationship just like that. No wonder there are rampant divorce cases and family wahala nowadays .

People should go back to God and everything will be ok, including marriages, jobs and spiritual life. Even in the olden days, both families would do some ritual
rites and consult oracles before going for their life partner. Marriage no be beans. Happy Sunday people

And I will Go back to God tonight

My thoughts exactly. Nigerians now see it as a game of chess. No wonder the massive rate of heartbreaks and divorce in the society.

jimcaddy:
My thoughts exactly. Nigerians now see it as a game of chess. No wonder the massive rate of heartbreaks and divorce in the society.

Poverty....material insecurity...risk and fear of tomorrow. That's what's driving the total breakdown of society in Nigeria, not just marriage. Everything is dissolving.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

Jeon:
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Do you think our foremothers, will even take Marriage if there were freedom? making their own Money? being independent? the way it is today?.

You're right anyway. The same happens in developed countries where there are almost equal economic opportunities for women. Most women aren't interested in marriage for financial reasons, unlike in poorer countries, since they can earn their own money.