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odi1278:
You do not need marriage certificate to get such visas. they have whatsapp chats, rent payment and pictorial evience.

Wrong info. You will need a valid court approved marriage certificate for travelling.

Ololade4:
You're judging the book by its cover.. She even want the marriage more than me, I always have my emotion on check when dealing with a woman.. do u know how many emotional trauma I don give am?? Trust me she's even the one doing the chasing...

No wonder the lady is not ready to go down with you

Continue giving her red pills from alphamalus 🤣🤣

Person wey don get pikin before, you think say she go rush you like indomie 😅

What exactly do you guys want , you guys ain't interested in court marriage and you see a lady rejecting one , are you not supposed to be happy

If anything like divorce happens tomorrow, it will be much easier for you guys.

With the kind of mindset you've towards her , already shows the kind of person you are .

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

you be mumu


Leave her and look for another virgin lady
Marry her and regret

32 years still dey hard to play

Guy don't be a Simp look for a decent girl to marry

Caaz:
Mindy say she dey village dey crack palm nuts...lolz.

Op said....baby mamas are prone to be loved...awwwww
And he had to open new acct to post this.

You see this nairaland....na better cruise.

AdvanceDNA HOW MARKET....YOU DON TANDA TEYTEY FOR THIS THREAD...ANY ADVICE FOR YOUR FELLOW GUY?

I love this . So Mindlog is female !!! Some men actually need this "attack" once in a while like they also do.

talented321:
Anything court marriage'' i no dey....
Is she having any contact with her ex? Many single moms are bleeped by their baby dads, do your findings well. There is something she is not telling you bro...
But you are a simp...

Big Simp

Make him go marry better lady

I am sure she is still fucking her baby daddy

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

why big foool


Go and marry decent lady

U wan carry wahala for ur head

She is still sleeping with her baby daddy

Na second hand wife u wan marry

Look for a decent virgin lady to marry

Kobojunkie:
The family's support, or lack thereof, likely has to do with the rapport they have observed between OP and the gal. So OP needs work on figuring out his situation rather than looking here and there for who to blame.

OK o

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

She's probably married but separated from her husband

DMerciful:
You like that one abi? I know say you be good wife.

Longest time....you just abandoned us

Hehehe. I have been around. If you don't see me, na you abandon me be that.

modernWays:
You are hopelessly battling with a serious low self esteem. Imagine a woman you will house, feed, take care of all her other needs and sometimes that of her family dictating to you?

Are you not suppose to be happy she don't want court marriage sef?

The guy himself is a low value guy. Every woman wants a court marriage with a high value man.

delpee:
@OP
The woman isn't 100% sure that marriage with you will last and[b] divorce is more expensive and cumbersome when it's a legal marriage[/b]. Search your mind or find out what you're doing that is showing her a red flag. Remember that she's had an experience before and will be wary of another mistake.

I don't agree with this notion of divorce at all. It all depends on the couple in question. If both agree that parting ways is the sensible way forward, then all they really need do is negotiate and sign the necessary documents to get divorced. The cumbersome only comes in when both aren't ready or trying to battle to the finish.

Ololade4, she is only killing time with you. Another dude is around the corner.

You seem desperate while she's relaxed. Damn, move a piece on your board and observe her next reaction.

Walk out now that you can..

She's still attached to her Baby Daddy and probably hoping for reconcilation or his Net Worth is more than yours..in this life do not carry woman matters on your head.

If it doesn't seem right then it's not..my man walk away from the Unnecessary Burden..except there are other things you are not telling us.

This thread still here

Ololade4:
Good day House.. I am an ardent Nairalander but I am using another identity to cover up..

It's almost over a year now that i started the journey with her, I met her parents 4 months ago, I was told by her day that thier daughter is not free( bride price things) normally... we talked it out and we decided to get marriage.. I am 35, she's 32. She has a 8 years old boy out of wedlock, the boy stays with her parent.. I don't have any problem with that, Single mother is not a disease.. we have being living together since March this year, just like a couple and i decided to tie the knot with her later in the year which we both agreed on.

So we both agreed to go for registry then normal engagement and rest the case.. she later changed her mind, she doesn't want the court registry anymore (i am not move with this anyway, but why? Is she having another secret affairs elsewhere, or maybe she's thinking she may leave if things go south, like she doesn't want to get into a legal marriage that will hinder her from having choice in the nearest future, because I don't understand..).. She only want Engagement, without the court registry for now.
Anytime her parents, especially her mom ask her about it in the wedding plan, she will tell her we will do it later in the future .
As a man in the first place I don't need to worry about this in the first place, because all this court marriage registration only favor the woman and I know most of them crave for it...

But she... What is she up to??

Why are you worried? She is even doing you a big favor by refusing court wedding. You better wise up. Na single mom you dey deal with o. They are very sharp. She likely has other plans. She might probably be hoping to still enjoy the gbola of her baby father. So the best way for her to do that is to avoid court cos of litigation

Skyview01:
Wrong info. You will need a valid court approved marriage certificate for travelling.

U are the one that doesnt know current immigration law.... the west recognizes civil partnerships between couples that ddnt marry offcially........
visas areapproved as long as proof of continous relationship(2years or more) can be submitted ... which can be whatsapp chat, family pics, proof of address, names of couples on document that show theyve been together for two years or more

advanceDNA:
U are the one that doesnt know current immigration law.... the west recognizes civil partnerships between couples that ddnt marry offcially........
visas areapproved as long as proof of continous relationship(2years or more) can be submitted ... which can be whatsapp chat, family pics, proof of address, names of couples on document that show theyve been together for two years or more

ok

You should be happy because both sides can easily part ways when things goes south..

Be happy bro...

Ololade4:
You're judging the book by its cover.. She even want the marriage more than me, I always have my emotion on check when dealing with a woman.. do u know how many emotional trauma I don give am?? Trust me she's even the one doing the chasing...

Why do you want to do the journey of life (marriage) with a woman you 'hate' enough to give plenty emotional trauma?

Why are you surprised she doesn't want a binding arrangement with you after the plenty emotional trauma?

My wonder is why both of you are still stringing yourselves along.

Take her to shrine

Kobojunkiee:
If your marriage is not registered in the courts, what that means is that the woman can equally up and abandon you one day too without penalty. It has happened to many people out there many of whom refuse to tell their story for shame.

Oh Kobojunkee...

The development of the discuss has been ignored.... Oya, this daddy will explain..

He made mention of: "State acknowledgement favouring only women" , and I talked about him being right when knowledge of "what's what" in said relationship is under consideration.... Emphasis on what's what.. if you get what I'm implying.

It's not like this ancestor didn't consider a case where the woman is trying to protect her own assets and is unawares of other ways to declare a separation of such. So, refusal to bite is normal...

The woman could've gotten new info, and is now unsure of her earlier decision. That's why this daddy recommended transparency. If that's the case, I expect OP to be aware first,.

After all, there's nothing to be shameful or afraid of when prenups are being considered...

But what does an old bachelor know about marriage?...

It's either she's richer than you and sees you as a gold digger or using you to wait for her baby daddy.

The choice is yours.

ariesbull:
she is married and hasn't divorced her baby father and marrying another man will make her a criminal ...Bigamy is a crime in Nigeria


Dude open eyes like fish

Exactly my thought too.

pocohantas:
I will add 2 crates.

Sooooo, a lady is the one in question?!!!! I never would have guessed! When I saw the topic on FP, I said I was going to avoid because I thought it was a woman coming to complain that her man doesn't want a court wedding, and I know the direction the comments would take.

So, what exactly is the problem now that a woman is saying she doesn't want one?? Should he not be jumping for joy and screaming to the high heavens?

Persephone1:
I don land ooo. Make I run through the thread fess. I dey see emotional trauma

Euo niaa bring bazooka when you are coming


MODIFIED:

There's no need for bazooka, Poco don use machine gun finish the thread self

I did not fuvking see this quick enough!!!!!!

But damn, I am still feeling the after-shock of violence as I am reading like this.

Persephone1:


No time to be typing in foreign language, he should make his point clear and brief.

Lol Layi! One of my favorite TikToker . Crazy dude with long legs.

So we gather dey? Layians for life, fam 👊.

Fountainofyouth:
This guy and connecting everything to psychology 🤣🤣🤣

Nahhhh. Fr. That is like her signature persona on here. Or make she tell you say she don see your type (not you) for psych ward before. You don't even have to see the moniker first, you go don know. 😂

In the minds of these men here, they actually consider the OP to be a simp and not one like them abi?

I can't laugh.

Didn't the OP say that he's an ardent user hiding under a yet anonymous moniker? And he's bragging about giving someone emotional trauma?

I am very sure that the guy is one of you who's bragged about being a strong man at one point or the other and called other men simps and insulted single moms. And all of these is just letting me see that y'all will be simps to some woman in your life, sooner or later.

But make una dey cap dey go. Online la wa.

Caaz:
The kwin yaff arrived....lolz

Queen of what. Queen of the coast?

To all those ladies commenting up there.

This is how they want the upcoming ladies to follow their footsteps, they want them to fall in their traps, like they see no value in men. Most of these ladies are emotionally depressed because they’ve passed their prime.

How women say they are the price baffles me😂. A woman without a man can develop fibroid and menopause, e get why. I have not seen any man go into depression or commit suicide because he’s not yet married.

Few weeks ago, a lady committed suicide because she had no man to marry her. Yet they claim to be the prize.

A woman can be rich and still end her life without a man of her own, you will never see a man do that.

Them they use David as example 😂 why not mention Solomon weh women no let am rest; weh they knack as he like because he no send any of them. Even queen carry herself from another country come collect her own wisdom😂

pocohantas:
I love that girl.



I hope other ladies can read and learn. The reason some men claim they don't want marriage or they have more to lose is because women carry it for head. Always fighting tooth and nail for (registry) marriage. So they sit back and allow you do all the work while acting like they did you a favour marrying you. Have you ever considered the fact that you would be the one needing to escape from an evil man in record time? Breaking head over a man's property even at the expense of your life.

This OP claims it favours women more but he is restless because he met a woman who has mastered her emotions. He wishes she were chasing him upandan for a legal wedding and flying to catch ring. He is bothered because he doesn't hold all the ACES.

Isn't this the kinda arrangement they claim to want online? #TEAMBABYMAMA? Why is OP worried and why the responses from his fellow men above?

Men want this marriage as much as you do if not more. If they hated marriage so much, they wouldn't be open to polygamy or rushing to marry another wife after a divorce or death of the first wife. No man keeps two (polygamy), even four of what he doesn't benefit from. They benefit heavily from marriage. In fact, after tasting marriage, they find it hard to stay alone again. Unlike women who would rather enjoy companionship without commitment.

Stop fighting these men over registry. Tell him you don't want. Let him be the one to create thread and beg you to sign those lines. Stop begging them to see the usefulness in marriage. Stop answering stupid NL questions like "what can you offer a man?" He has the option of remaining single or marrying a fellow man or new yam.

You are the prize.
If he isn't giving you same energy, disembark.

Poco can you swear with your life that you will never ask for court wedding, when the time comes?

Eunoiaa:
Sooooo, a lady is the one in question?!!!! I never would have guessed! When I saw the topic on FP, I said I was going to avoid because I thought it was a woman coming to complain that her man doesn't want a court wedding, and I know the direction the comments would take.

So, what exactly is the problem now that a woman is saying she doesn't want one?? Should he not be jumping for joy and screaming to the high heavens?

Yes na. It is a lady. The main alpha female. Suddenly they know registry also gives them some security. I thought they don't benefit from marriage? Nonsense liars and manipulators.