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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Anny69(f): 11:43am On Sep 06, 2023
Luckysbab:


I haven't given that much thought. grin
So no woman at all? sad
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 12:03pm On Sep 06, 2023
Acidosis:


This mentality dey always vex my spirit. The funny thing is many of these "experienced" folks also show a strong sense of entitlement, as if their greater experience in promiscuity makes them more deserving of a spouse.

The world has really gone cr@,zy sha


Weak men, aka simps, are the cause of all these. If you have a younger sister in her teens or early 20s who is close to you and who is pretty, even average, you will have a glimpse of how useless some men can be.

If she wants to live a life of affluence courtesy of men, she would. Men in their 50s with no shame chasing her, some can beg for a living. Come see begging, promises, and dolling of cash as a lubricant to soften her heart.

It will be difficult not to be vapid and entitled if this is your reality as a teen when one's mind is still developing and havent grasped the concept of responsibilities.

They grow old and are shocked the world is a different place, and that they rode through life on easy mode not because they are special, but because they are young.

Lots of young girls even will find a man earning 500k naira in this recent day Nigeria as too broke for her because a stupid sugar daddy has pushed the bar so high, and stretched her taste, that even dashing 100k is seen as chicken change.

Later she will say a man can't satisfy her sexually because her ex was a home-based pornsta who drank all kinds of rubbish to nack her overnight. Damage her mind of what a healthy sex should look like, but blame you for it.

Na men spoil them. SImps are the problem. After going through the vices, she wants me to see it as an experience grin

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by descarado: 12:18pm On Sep 06, 2023
pansophist:



Weak men, aka simps, are the cause of all these. If you have a younger sister in her teens or early 20s who is close to you and who is pretty, even average, you will have a glimpse of how useless some men can be.

If she wants to live a life of affluence courtesy of men, she would. Men in their 50s with no shame chasing her, some can beg for a living. Come see begging, promises, and dolling of cash as a lubricant to soften her heart.

It will be difficult not to be vapid and entitled if this is your reality as a teen when one's mind is still developing and havent grasped the concept of responsibilities.

They grow old and are shocked the world is a different place, and that they rode through life on easy mode not because they are special, but because they are young.

Lots of young girls even will find a man earning 500k naira in this recent day Nigeria as too broke for her because a stupid sugar daddy has pushed the bar so high, and stretched her taste, that even dashing 100k is seen as chicken change.

Later she will say a man can't satisfy her sexually because her ex was a home-based pornsta who drank all kinds of rubbish to nack her overnight. Damage her mind of what a healthy sex should look like, but blame you for it.

Na men spoil them. SImps are the problem. After going through the vices, she wants me to see it as an experience grin

Nigerian men has been doing that since time immemorial and its a competition among men. Sign of stroking their ego.
The same way women can go to any expensive length to look beautiful cos she want to pepper her fellow women. All has nothing to do with the opposite sex. They just milk the situation.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 12:19pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


@ the bolded is Soo true.... Who needs an experienced woman? An experienced woman is a woman full of baggages and no man who knows his onions will go for that.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.


This your statement for men is true also.
It is actually what my immediate brother is facing.
He has squandered his 20s and his 30s are slowly drifting away in his own eyes.
He will be 33 next month..jobless, penniless, no wife, no children, no investment, no savings, no properties, no girlfriend... Just virtually Nothing.
He is frustrated and depressed. Resorted to hard drugs for consolation about his terrible life.
At first, when he came back from UAE after 5 years without anything, I was frustrated.
I wanted to explode at him for been a useless man but on getting home, I saw a highly depressed, suicidal man.
Statements like he should just die and go and meet his mum wasn't uncommon.
Even over there in UAE, my uncle working in the same company with him said prior to when the company deported him, he was going about for 3 weeks with knife contemplating commiting suicide.
Na so so suicide suicide suicide just dey him brain.
Omoh....I just had to adjust and borrow myself brain the way I talk to him make him no come kill himself kill me join.
All my angers and sharp mouth I don close am. I don jam wetin pass me. I have to respect myself.
I pick my words when advising him now. Conscious of my statement to avoid anything thing that will make him harm me.
He says I am doing well and just prefer them to surfer.
Why will I send him to UAE when there is Canada. Now, he wants to travel again.
I should bring money. He believes there is no future in Nigeria. He has no business skills, he can't even hustle. He is practically useless and very hard to help.

Sebi na this Nigeria, sadly, it will hardly get better for him. I am not cursing him o, just saying the fact.

You see, Nigeria is not a place that has a system for recuperation. If you fall, then more likely than not, you will not rise up again. And I am referring to people who even lived responsibly and did everything right.

No social system, weak currency, bad governance that the past is brighter than the future, no education on demand to upgrade, etc. If a man understands these things against him in Nigeria, how on earth can he slack for God's sake?

Reality is very unforgiven, and Nigeria in particular is not only unforgiven, it is punishing to even the good man.

Your brother is lucky he has a family like you that are softening the blows life is jabbing him. The beauty of being irresponsible is that others who are responsible will carry your load.

The sad truth is that in life, there will always be opposites, and you must accept that such opposites can be even your twin. By that I mean, if you are good, then your twin may be bad. If you are a healer, your sister may be a killer.

If you are responsible, your brother may not. That's how life works. The idea that it is others that have the bad ones, but not us is living in delusion.

my advice would be to assist from far proportionally. So do not do for him what he can do for himself. In life, people must lift themselves up. You can assist them, but they must walk that path themselves.

If you help them walk that path, then when you leave, they will revert to their previous position. Like a seed, it must grow up into a tree by itself. If you throw a seed up, it will descend downwards when the elevating force dissipates.

Here comes acceptance. Freedom in life also means freedom to be useless. If one has chosen that path, let them be. After all, seventy years from now, we will all die and all these things will be meaningless.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 12:28pm On Sep 06, 2023
descarado:

Nigerian men has been doing that since time immemorial and its a competition among men. Sign of stroking their ego.
The same way women can go to any expensive length to look beautiful cos she want to pepper her fellow women. All has nothing to do with the opposite sex. They just milk the situation.

Make them continue. Reality is always offline patiently waiting for you to fork up.

To deal with you wotowoto. grin

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by emmaodet: 12:33pm On Sep 06, 2023
pansophist:


Your brother is lucky he has a family like you that are softening the blows life is jabbing him. The beauty of being irresponsible is that others who are responsible will carry your load.


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Regex: 12:43pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


@ the bolded is Soo true.... Who needs an experienced woman? An experienced woman is a woman full of baggages and no man who knows his onions will go for that.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.


This your statement for men is true also.
It is actually what my immediate brother is facing.
He has squandered his 20s and his 30s are slowly drifting away in his own eyes.
He will be 33 next month..jobless, penniless, no wife, no children, no investment, no savings, no properties, no girlfriend... Just virtually Nothing.
He is frustrated and depressed. Resorted to hard drugs for consolation about his terrible life.
At first, when he came back from UAE after 5 years without anything, I was frustrated.
I wanted to explode at him for been a useless man but on getting home, I saw a highly depressed, suicidal man.
Statements like he should just die and go and meet his mum wasn't uncommon.
Even over there in UAE, my uncle working in the same company with him said prior to when the company deported him, he was going about for 3 weeks with knife contemplating commiting suicide.
Na so so suicide suicide suicide just dey him brain.
Omoh....I just had to adjust and borrow myself brain the way I talk to him make him no come kill himself kill me join.
All my angers and sharp mouth I don close am. I don jam wetin pass me. I have to respect myself.
I pick my words when advising him now. Conscious of my statement to avoid anything thing that will make him harm me.
He says I am doing well and just prefer them to surfer.
Why will I send him to UAE when there is Canada. Now, he wants to travel again.
I should bring money. He believes there is no future in Nigeria. He has no business skills, he can't even hustle. He is practically useless and very hard to help.

He didn't make it the first time, what makes him think he can make it the second time and in a different place?

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Acidosis(m): 12:54pm On Sep 06, 2023
pansophist:



Weak men, aka simps, are the cause of all these. If you have a younger sister in her teens or early 20s who is close to you and who is pretty, even average, you will have a glimpse of how useless some men can be.

If she wants to live a life of affluence courtesy of men, she would. Men in their 50s with no shame chasing her, some can beg for a living. Come see begging, promises, and dolling of cash as a lubricant to soften her heart.

It will be difficult not to be vapid and entitled if this is your reality as a teen when one's mind is still developing and havent grasped the concept of responsibilities.

They grow old and are shocked the world is a different place, and that they rode through life on easy mode not because they are special, but because they are young.

Lots of young girls even will find a man earning 500k naira in this recent day Nigeria as too broke for her because a stupid sugar daddy has pushed the bar so high, and stretched her taste, that even dashing 100k is seen as chicken change.

Later she will say a man can't satisfy her sexually because her ex was a home-based pornsta who drank all kinds of rubbish to nack her overnight. Damage her mind of what a healthy sex should look like, but blame you for it.

Na men spoil them. SImps are the problem. After going through the vices, she wants me to see it as an experience grin


10/10 !!!


Nothing else to add. Nigerian men are responsible for the things they complain about.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by emmaodet: 12:55pm On Sep 06, 2023
Regex:


He didn't make it the first time, what makes him think he can make it the second time and in a different place?

The most painful thing is that we were not even expecting much from him since we know UAE is not like UK or US or Canada.
All what we wanted from him is that seriousness.

Atleast, a serious person who has a target should have saved 3m in 5 years from his salary.
That way, the family will be eager to support him not just totally nothing

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Maxxim: 12:58pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?
Yes that's the life we've ever imagined but boss, e fit only happen after person don retire or you came as a woman that marries a wealthy man.
I wish life is softer to we men😩

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by emmaodet: 12:59pm On Sep 06, 2023
Maxxim:

Yes that's the life we've ever imagined but boss, e fit only happen after person don retire or you came as a woman that marries a wealthy man.
I wish life is softer to we men😩

cry cry cry

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Badmashii(m): 1:38pm On Sep 06, 2023
pansophist:


Reality sef don handle you wotowoto offline grin

Na turn by turn, e go reach all of us. Especially if your family no plan anything down for you, just as Naija no plans anything down for all of us.

This life eh, e de pain me say na when we de inside soup, we de learn. If bad thing never happen, we de stubborn and think say we be the exception.

Na others go suffer, not us. Na others go de jobless, not me. God like me, but maybe hate others, na why life no better for them.

For men, their test in life is to hustle hard in their 20s, to be valuable in their 30s and ride on that as they grow older.

For women, it's to catch the best man in their 20s, then ride into motherhood from there.

Of course there might be delineation to this rule, but at the very basic, it's what it is.

But right now, women go sleep around, turn their womb to graveyard via series of abortion, mess up themselves emotionally, that only manipulation will be degree, certificate and expertise they have, to get what they want in life.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.

This life. Na as you lay your mat, you go sleep on top am.

Lol.

Mr pansophist sir, I want to thank you immensely for all your contribution on this great forum,from your comments down to your post. you have no idea of how much knowledge myself and many others have gain from you.

The day wey u go leave nairaland I swear e go pain me die, na why I dey follow you back to back.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Regex: 1:58pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


The most painful thing is that we were not even expecting much from him since we know UAE is not like UK or US or Canada.
All what we wanted from him is that seriousness.

Atleast, a serious person who has a target should have saved 3m in 5 years from his salary.
That way, the family will be eager to support him not just totally nothing

That's true.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 2:05pm On Sep 06, 2023
Badmashii:


Mr pansophist sir, I want to thank you immensely for all your contribution on this great forum,from your comments down to your post. you have no idea of how much knowledge myself and many others have gain from you.

The day wey u go leave nairaland I swear e go pain me die, na why I dey follow you back to back.

Thanks man.

But you suppose dash me money lol. No need talk too much.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Badmashii(m): 2:15pm On Sep 06, 2023
pansophist:


Thanks man.

But you suppose dash me money lol. No need talk too much.

cheesy grin you na boss na.
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Gerrard59(m): 3:07pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by emmaodet: 4:38pm On Sep 06, 2023
Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

Hmmmmmmmm

I really fear for the future bro.
Also your reasons for not criticizing married men with concubines is true. Reason why I don't even reply those throwing jabs at married men with concubines.
If he easy, go do am now. I mean, if not for having concubines, what exactly is the incentive for been a man? Please just tell me because I don't see.
It is a life filled with hardship, struggling, lonely and boring because you don't have resources for dating and most women won't even look at your side including the so called wife, no one will give you gifts on your birthday unless you have struggled to be a man to be recognized, no one will invite you to occasions or events or parties because you are struggling, all your life you are worried with bills and more bills to tell me what are the incentives of been a man?
Of none, then I will rather be a woman. Who no like better thing.
Who come this world just to come surfer?

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 5:13pm On Sep 06, 2023
Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

I don't want peace. I want violence. Always grin

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Regex: 5:25pm On Sep 06, 2023
Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

Come where you come from πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚

Omo, people get mind oh.... Choi!
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by omooba969(m): 6:01pm On Sep 06, 2023
Maxxim:

Yes that's the life we've ever imagined but boss, e fit only happen after person don retire or you came as a woman that marries a wealthy man.
I wish life is softer to we men😩

If wishes were horses beggars would ride. grin

You see, this is our lot as men, it's the destiny we have chosen. There's no man that doesn't feel the weight and this is why the female folks outlive us. The burden is just too much for us.

That rich male child, born into a wealthy family, is also feeling the burden bcoz of the pressure to keep up and he realises that he's saddled with more responsibilities than his sisters...lol πŸ˜‚

Now let me blow your mind, the only way out is not to care about anything - that also is very expensive but those who can afford to do so are a rare breed. grin

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by omooba969(m): 6:08pm On Sep 06, 2023
Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by omooba969(m): 6:15pm On Sep 06, 2023
Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

Dem know say una no go like the idea of marriage at some point, na why dem dey give una certificate before una enter the institution. grin

The certificate is to give a false sense of belonging - it's an enduring scam we have come to embrace...lol 🀣🀣🀣

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Testimony1988(m): 6:17pm On Sep 06, 2023
Farfalla:


There is no lifestyle that hinders anyone from getting married. People should just look for their match.
Hmmmm, there is.
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Maxxim: 7:07pm On Sep 06, 2023
omooba969:


If wishes were horses beggars would ride. grin

You see, this is our lot as men, it's the destiny we have chosen. There's no man that doesn't feel the weight and this is why the female folks outlive us. The burden is just too much for us.

That rich male child, born into a wealthy family is also feeling the burden bcoz of the pressure to keep up and he realises that he's saddled with more responsibilities than his sisters...lol πŸ˜‚

Now let me blow your mind, the only way out is not to care about anything - that also is very expensive but those who can afford to do so are a rare breed. grin

It's serious boss, sometimes I used to feel like receiving a long hug from someone and hear the word you don try, most of the time sef 10 percent out the money we make ain't spent on ourselves, Shey you go dey watch your old people and those around you suffer ni, person gats sacrifice nw.
When you say not to care hope it's not what I'm thinking 😁
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by funkemary(f): 7:22pm On Sep 06, 2023
😭😭😭
God cannot be mocked in my life
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by killsmith(f): 7:29pm On Sep 06, 2023
That one concern una. Na 19 years old virgin we dey find like this.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by lastkingsman: 9:59pm On Sep 06, 2023
Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

That dragnet exam do me strong thing for total foreign scholarship exam to France
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Luckysbab: 10:33pm On Sep 06, 2023
Anny69:
So no woman at all? sad

Not even prospects.

Reflecting on that now, even I find it weird.
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 11:05pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

Irresponsibility has a price. It might seems like the easy way out, but like regret, it weighs a tonne. Below was a comment I made about start living responsible early.

https://www.nairaland.com/7249793/early-20s-need-read#115134828

But irresponsible people are at the mercy of those that are responsible. Irresponsibility is a weakness, And if such an irresponsible man offends those who subsist him, he is gone.

A man must not orient his life in a way that his survival and subsistence are at the mercy of others. That's a sad way to live. It's not dignifying, and won't make one respect himself.

And the worst thing is time. Time is all we have. Lots of responsible people have already started enjoying the fruits of their responsibility, so if you sow your seed early, you reap quickly.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by aalangel(f): 11:13pm On Sep 06, 2023
Cool.
Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by pansophist(m): 11:42pm On Sep 06, 2023
emmaodet:


My broda. Na really pride goes before a fall.
I have an aunt too who was very beautiful during her prime.
She was very saucy and chased alot of good struggling guys away then with her attitude.
As grows older, quality men dried up and she became very bitter and takes offences at every little thing.
My mum do avoid conversations with her because she can just pick your words and take it out of context and explode.
Any small thing, you are mocking her because she is not married. What you said is stylishly throwing jabs at her because she is not married.
Out of desperation, she fell into the hand of one woli (prophet) at a prayer mountain she went to pray for hubby.
Woli wey be married man with 3 children still collect him own join to the extent my aunty borrowed him 2m wey him tell her to borrow him for whatever.
I was shocked to hear about the money because this is a woman that was chased with money in her prime, now na she dey used money chase man. How the mighty has fallen.
To cut long story short, she fell into depression when the man told her relationship finish and no money to give her back. Dribbling her.
From depression she degraded to mental problem. We had to bundle her to a local psycho home to treat her.
She looks stable presently


I've been thinking about why many women squander their prime and chase good men off, and I think I have a valid explanation for that.

You see, women start life first at easymode, then it gets harder if she misses her chances. Since women begin to bloom like a flower from their teens, it's typical for her to assume life is like that, after all, she has no experience that negates her reality.

With all the multitudes of toasters at her call, media worship, men ignoring her bad attitudes just to have their way with her, this is a perfect recipe for a sad future if she has no guidance or refuses to be guided.

Since men will overlook the bad behavior of a fine girl, she won't notice how bad she had rotten, because her beauty is still covering for her. But as she grows older and does not bloom like before, the softhand from society decreases, and she is left to deal with her mess.

Of course she won't notice her decline in attraction, in her head, she is still as hot as she thought she was years ago, but men are the one to decide that, and men are not seeing her the way she sees herself.

If her character was good, it may be her saving grace, but since society has ignored her behavior because she is fine, being rude is a norm to her, and correcting her may seem like an attack.

In fact right now, pointing out bad female behavior is seen as misogyny. That you hate women. But it's not so. Men don't have the privilege to live in delusion, since society is not soft on us.

There was this American feminist called Norah Vincent. She genuinely believed that men have an easier life than women, and wanted to find out for herself.

Then she went to a doctor who camouflaged her to look like a man, so she can live and experience life as a man. She quitted after a year and a half, even though she is supposed to carry the experiment for a longer period.

Norah talked about how bad women treated her when they thought she was a man, how no one give a shit about men, and how her problems and persons felt so invincible to the society at large.

The lack of seeing men as human, and being inhumane. That experience changed her completely, that she committed suicide later. She wrote a book titled "Self Made man", and it's on Amazon, you can buy it and read about her experiences.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Norah_Vincent

I have never seen any feminist talked about her to correct their views that men's lives are very difficult, or correct their stance of always claiming victims. But anyways, what I am pointing at in this story is that lots of women have very bad attitudes and they don't know.

The way they treat men, which makes it harder to settle down with one later, or seeing most men as not worthy enough. A legitly broke factory worker girl doesn't even see his fellow factory worker guy as good enough for her.

Many come to this realization of how bad they let themselves rot, when they use up their youthfulness and life is not as soft as before, but many will never admit that they are their own "village people", because of their ego.

But one thing about life is that, it doesn't care if you're soft on yourself, or live in delusion, or think you deserve Dangote. It's as you lay your mat, you'll lie on it.

Pride always goes before a fall.

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Re: How Far Is Too Far? Single Ladies Pray In Wedding Gowns by Merry100: 11:47pm On Sep 06, 2023
flokii:
Men are the prize for that gender.

As a guy, a king, you don't need to slmp for noone, they should be the ones rushing you like imdomie.
No be only indomie na spaghetti.

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