Luckysbab:


I haven't given that much thought.

Acidosis:


This mentality dey always vex my spirit. The funny thing is many of these "experienced" folks also show a strong sense of entitlement, as if their greater experience in promiscuity makes them more deserving of a spouse.

The world has really gone cr@,zy sha

pansophist:



Weak men, aka simps, are the cause of all these. If you have a younger sister in her teens or early 20s who is close to you and who is pretty, even average, you will have a glimpse of how useless some men can be.

If she wants to live a life of affluence courtesy of men, she would. Men in their 50s with no shame chasing her, some can beg for a living. Come see begging, promises, and dolling of cash as a lubricant to soften her heart.

It will be difficult not to be vapid and entitled if this is your reality as a teen when one's mind is still developing and havent grasped the concept of responsibilities.

They grow old and are shocked the world is a different place, and that they rode through life on easy mode not because they are special, but because they are young.

Lots of young girls even will find a man earning 500k naira in this recent day Nigeria as too broke for her because a stupid sugar daddy has pushed the bar so high, and stretched her taste, that even dashing 100k is seen as chicken change.

Later she will say a man can't satisfy her sexually because her ex was a home-based pornsta who drank all kinds of rubbish to nack her overnight. Damage her mind of what a healthy sex should look like, but blame you for it.

Na men spoil them. SImps are the problem. After going through the vices, she wants me to see it as an experience

emmaodet:


@ the bolded is Soo true.... Who needs an experienced woman? An experienced woman is a woman full of baggages and no man who knows his onions will go for that.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.

This your statement for men is true also.
It is actually what my immediate brother is facing.
He has squandered his 20s and his 30s are slowly drifting away in his own eyes.
He will be 33 next month..jobless, penniless, no wife, no children, no investment, no savings, no properties, no girlfriend... Just virtually Nothing.
He is frustrated and depressed. Resorted to hard drugs for consolation about his terrible life.
At first, when he came back from UAE after 5 years without anything, I was frustrated.
I wanted to explode at him for been a useless man but on getting home, I saw a highly depressed, suicidal man.
Statements like he should just die and go and meet his mum wasn't uncommon.
Even over there in UAE, my uncle working in the same company with him said prior to when the company deported him, he was going about for 3 weeks with knife contemplating commiting suicide.
Na so so suicide suicide suicide just dey him brain.
Omoh....I just had to adjust and borrow myself brain the way I talk to him make him no come kill himself kill me join.
All my angers and sharp mouth I don close am. I don jam wetin pass me. I have to respect myself.
I pick my words when advising him now. Conscious of my statement to avoid anything thing that will make him harm me.
He says I am doing well and just prefer them to surfer.
Why will I send him to UAE when there is Canada. Now, he wants to travel again.
I should bring money. He believes there is no future in Nigeria. He has no business skills, he can't even hustle. He is practically useless and very hard to help.

descarado:

Nigerian men has been doing that since time immemorial and its a competition among men. Sign of stroking their ego.
The same way women can go to any expensive length to look beautiful cos she want to pepper her fellow women. All has nothing to do with the opposite sex. They just milk the situation.

pansophist:


Your brother is lucky he has a family like you that are softening the blows life is jabbing him. The beauty of being irresponsible is that others who are responsible will carry your load.

emmaodet:


@ the bolded is Soo true.... Who needs an experienced woman? An experienced woman is a woman full of baggages and no man who knows his onions will go for that.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.

This your statement for men is true also.
It is actually what my immediate brother is facing.
He has squandered his 20s and his 30s are slowly drifting away in his own eyes.
He will be 33 next month..jobless, penniless, no wife, no children, no investment, no savings, no properties, no girlfriend... Just virtually Nothing.
He is frustrated and depressed. Resorted to hard drugs for consolation about his terrible life.
At first, when he came back from UAE after 5 years without anything, I was frustrated.
I wanted to explode at him for been a useless man but on getting home, I saw a highly depressed, suicidal man.
Statements like he should just die and go and meet his mum wasn't uncommon.
Even over there in UAE, my uncle working in the same company with him said prior to when the company deported him, he was going about for 3 weeks with knife contemplating commiting suicide.
Na so so suicide suicide suicide just dey him brain.
Omoh....I just had to adjust and borrow myself brain the way I talk to him make him no come kill himself kill me join.
All my angers and sharp mouth I don close am. I don jam wetin pass me. I have to respect myself.
I pick my words when advising him now. Conscious of my statement to avoid anything thing that will make him harm me.
He says I am doing well and just prefer them to surfer.
Why will I send him to UAE when there is Canada. Now, he wants to travel again.
I should bring money. He believes there is no future in Nigeria. He has no business skills, he can't even hustle. He is practically useless and very hard to help.

pansophist:



Weak men, aka simps, are the cause of all these. If you have a younger sister in her teens or early 20s who is close to you and who is pretty, even average, you will have a glimpse of how useless some men can be.

If she wants to live a life of affluence courtesy of men, she would. Men in their 50s with no shame chasing her, some can beg for a living. Come see begging, promises, and dolling of cash as a lubricant to soften her heart.

It will be difficult not to be vapid and entitled if this is your reality as a teen when one's mind is still developing and havent grasped the concept of responsibilities.

They grow old and are shocked the world is a different place, and that they rode through life on easy mode not because they are special, but because they are young.

Lots of young girls even will find a man earning 500k naira in this recent day Nigeria as too broke for her because a stupid sugar daddy has pushed the bar so high, and stretched her taste, that even dashing 100k is seen as chicken change.

Later she will say a man can't satisfy her sexually because her ex was a home-based pornsta who drank all kinds of rubbish to nack her overnight. Damage her mind of what a healthy sex should look like, but blame you for it.

Na men spoil them. SImps are the problem. After going through the vices, she wants me to see it as an experience

Regex:


He didn't make it the first time, what makes him think he can make it the second time and in a different place?

emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

Maxxim:

Yes that's the life we've ever imagined but boss, e fit only happen after person don retire or you came as a woman that marries a wealthy man.
I wish life is softer to we men😩

pansophist:


Reality sef don handle you wotowoto offline

Na turn by turn, e go reach all of us. Especially if your family no plan anything down for you, just as Naija no plans anything down for all of us.

This life eh, e de pain me say na when we de inside soup, we de learn. If bad thing never happen, we de stubborn and think say we be the exception.

Na others go suffer, not us. Na others go de jobless, not me. God like me, but maybe hate others, na why life no better for them.

For men, their test in life is to hustle hard in their 20s, to be valuable in their 30s and ride on that as they grow older.

For women, it's to catch the best man in their 20s, then ride into motherhood from there.

Of course there might be delineation to this rule, but at the very basic, it's what it is.

But right now, women go sleep around, turn their womb to graveyard via series of abortion, mess up themselves emotionally, that only manipulation will be degree, certificate and expertise they have, to get what they want in life.

For men, 30s becomes the age of extreme loneliness. Your friends who did well for themselves will bone you. He will be invincible to girls, and parents are old expecting money from him.

He will watch as his life waste away in his eyes, and such a man becomes extremely dangerous, since he is a bag of frustration.

This life. Na as you lay your mat, you go sleep on top am.

Lol.

emmaodet:


The most painful thing is that we were not even expecting much from him since we know UAE is not like UK or US or Canada.
All what we wanted from him is that seriousness.

Atleast, a serious person who has a target should have saved 3m in 5 years from his salary.
That way, the family will be eager to support him not just totally nothing

Badmashii:


Mr pansophist sir, I want to thank you immensely for all your contribution on this great forum,from your comments down to your post. you have no idea of how much knowledge myself and many others have gain from you.

The day wey u go leave nairaland I swear e go pain me die, na why I dey follow you back to back.

pansophist:


Thanks man.

But you suppose dash me money lol. No need talk too much.

emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

Maxxim:

Yes that's the life we've ever imagined but boss, e fit only happen after person don retire or you came as a woman that marries a wealthy man.
I wish life is softer to we men😩

Godsongang:
After them don Bleep everything finish, them they look for husband. some women will go from mountain to mountain, them no go see husband, no be curse. Una think say una wise.

He get 1 relationship wey I won go scatter for evening after work, my bros no go carry olosho put for house, all her video I won play am for the bros, you can't live a wayward life and you think u go come settle down with someone innocent living a good. Mba!!! If I tell u say olosho no good, u no go hear.

Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

Farfalla:


There is no lifestyle that hinders anyone from getting married. People should just look for their match.

omooba969:


If wishes were horses beggars would ride.

You see, this is our lot as men, it's the destiny we have chosen. There's no man that doesn't feel the weight and this is why the female folks outlive us. The burden is just too much for us.

That rich male child, born into a wealthy family is also feeling the burden bcoz of the pressure to keep up and he realises that he's saddled with more responsibilities than his sisters...lol 😂

Now let me blow your mind, the only way out is not to care about anything - that also is very expensive but those who can afford to do so are a rare breed.

Gerrard59:


The life of a man is tough. It is why I am not too hard on men who have concubines. If that is what eases the stress after toiling hard to be who they are, let them have it. The world is unfair to men. I feel it, too. Na why I dey fear marriage because that is another work entirely. It is like studying through school, experiencing strikes and all, graduating with a good grade, do NYSC only to start facing Dragnet and their wicked aptitude tests, all in a bid to get a 150K job.

Argggh I don see reasons why young South Korean men dey shun marriage.

Anny69:
So no woman at all?

emmaodet:


Kai ....... This statement really touch me.
This is a painful reality.
Sometimes, I feel like been irresponsible too. I mean, it's cheap and free. No worrying about tomorrow, no cracking my brain, no hustling to be better etc. Just get little money, smoke, bang, eat, sleep, rinse and repeat again.
I mean, is this not what we want after all?

emmaodet:


My broda. Na really pride goes before a fall.
I have an aunt too who was very beautiful during her prime.
She was very saucy and chased alot of good struggling guys away then with her attitude.
As grows older, quality men dried up and she became very bitter and takes offences at every little thing.
My mum do avoid conversations with her because she can just pick your words and take it out of context and explode.
Any small thing, you are mocking her because she is not married. What you said is stylishly throwing jabs at her because she is not married.
Out of desperation, she fell into the hand of one woli (prophet) at a prayer mountain she went to pray for hubby.
Woli wey be married man with 3 children still collect him own join to the extent my aunty borrowed him 2m wey him tell her to borrow him for whatever.
I was shocked to hear about the money because this is a woman that was chased with money in her prime, now na she dey used money chase man. How the mighty has fallen.
To cut long story short, she fell into depression when the man told her relationship finish and no money to give her back. Dribbling her.
From depression she degraded to mental problem. We had to bundle her to a local psycho home to treat her.
She looks stable presently

flokii:
Men are the prize for that gender.

As a guy, a king, you don't need to slmp for noone, they should be the ones rushing you like imdomie.