₦airaland Forum

tonykel1:
Marriage happens when a dowry is paid and received. Other things are cosmetics

Sageez:
I am sorry I disagree with you. The man is not a fool, infact, he is right. I am a Christian. The church doesn't have the right to pronounce them man and wife, what they do is marriage blessing.

The person who has the right to do so is the bride's father. He is the one to hand over his daughter to the man and pronounce them man and wife I.e after he must have completed the traditional rights. Please be careful how you use the word 'fool'

Thanks

kingphilip:
Marriage for me takes place when the bride price is paid and the traditional rights have been carried out by the groom.

The bride's father was right.

Dancebreaker:
This is where our leaders have failed woefully. Ideally, the local Oba/Igwe/Emir/duke's palace recognised by the Local Govt and Chieftaincy affairs Ministry of bride's paternal homestead/place of marriage should play a big role. A palace official approved by the ministry ought to witness traditional marriages and issue a recognised/valid Customary Marriage Certificate. This can then be forward to govt marriage registry.

So that one can decades later obtain a copy from marriage registry, say kids or grandkids, in the future.

We don't seem to be truly proud of our African heritage or take it to the next level. Eating oha or Ewedu soup, or wearing agbada or Ishiagwu is not how to be African. Anyone can eat any food or wear any clothes but not promote that culture.

But by looking at a core part of culture and make it modern to endure into the future. Traditional marriage/bride price is part of it.

Dancebreaker:
Nope. This is the problem, Always talk of money. I mean our traditional palaces as custodians of our culture (marriage/bride price are part of it)
Should be enough to witness it. So long they have synchronised with modern realities of govt. Simple.

Angelfrost:
Biblically, it is the parents of the bride that declare them man and wife when they give their blessings to the couple in the presence of witnesses...!

That's what gives Traditional Weddings actual precedence over the borrowed culture of Church weddings (if we can call blessing of a marriage the same as a wedding).

...And yes, what the church does is bless a Marriage that has already started the moment both families agreed, and Bride Price received.

Angelfrost:
Please, don't get it twisted... There is no Biblical foundation for what you call Church Wedding.

Honestly, it is largely a Colonial thing. Every nation and every culture should have its own pattern of traditional wedding couples.

The role of the Church is strictly to bless or pray for the Marriage... Haven't you wondered why it is rightly termed, in wedding invitations, Solemnization of Holy Matrimony??!

By the time the couple gets to church, they should already be Husband and Wife either via traditional or court pronouncement.

TheEnforcer:
Thats right, you aren't in Nigeria?

Dreambeat:
Church wedding is the traditional marriage of the white man

kabillionaire:
The father was right 100%

Matrix137:
As a Christian, a bride is officially yours to wife after paying the bride price to the parents and there is an agreement with both of you and the respective families. Wedding or not isn't compulsory (traditional or White). That's the biblical instructions. Thanks


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Iseoluwani:


Actually after the traditional/ engagement, they are married.

church is just a formality

TenQ:
No sir.

A marriage becomes official after the LAST marriage rite has been performed. I it is as simple as that

Matrix137:
As a Christian, a bride is officially yours to wife after paying the bride price to the parents and there is an agreement with both of you and the respective families. Wedding or not isn't compulsory (traditional or White). That's the biblical instructions. Thanks
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SIGE:
It's interesting how we sometimes overlook the sacred aspect of marriage, considering it as Holy Matrimony. There seems to be a trend where the sanctity is being questioned, and efforts are being made to secularize it, allowing almost anyone to officiate weddings. In the Western world, I've noticed instances where same-sex couples officiate weddings, and this concept is being promoted to us. In my view, a father's involvement in a wedding, particularly when making declarations, may not necessarily contribute to the sanctity of the occasion; it could be seen as more of a personal desire or ego-driven action.

FashionCookie:
Well, to each his own...bcus I'm yet to understand why people are bent on Church weddings. Pastors go continue to show una shege.
You don do your normal traditional marriage and probably registry...u no go rest?
You still have to borrow from the whites

TenQ:
No sir.

If traditional wedding is their last marriage rites, yes!
If the marriage rites include a church wedding, I then the church ceremony becomes the last marriage rite

atiku4President:
At holy sacrament or in a village meeting?

Fiscus105:
Oga, who is right to pronounce them husband and wife?


NB. For u to be christian doesn't make u knowledgeable enough to right from left ooo

Matrix137:
It's not just about saying it. Can you kindly show me a bible verse validating your stance?

lexy2014:
Read his post again. He clearly answered your question

lexy2014:
How did u come by this?

TenQ:
Just as yourself a basic question

Is a couple officially married while they haven't concluded the last marriage rite?

If traditional wedding is their last marriage rites, yes!
If the marriage rites include a church wedding, I then the church ceremony becomes the last marriage rite

prophetfire:
Biblically, the man was right. No pastor has any business joining couple together in marriage. It's a family affair and the prerogative of the parents.