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| My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 3:00pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
I greet you all Nairalanders. Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me. As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs. My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country. But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment. I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport. He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me. Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food. I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one? He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him. But is this how we should behave as blood brothers? He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship. 61 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Dpen11(f): 3:04pm On Sep 22, 2023*. Modified: 12:18am On Sep 25, 2023 |
Try to have savings and leave on your own. He might think you are being a burden to him, maybe that's why he is acting that way. I pray you find something that will pay well so you can stand on your own Contact me for your project writing, PowerPoint presentation, proposal, thesis, dissertation etc Check my signature for more details 78 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 3:08pm On Sep 22, 2023*. Modified: 3:39pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
 Let's get some facts clear 1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation 2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult 3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead... My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare, 4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning Buy Ugwu #50, Okro #100 Okporoko #150 Ponmo #200 Ogbono #50 Cray Fish #100 Dry pepper #100 Onions #100 Locust bean #50 Buy Garri #200 or Fufu That is roughly 1000 Naira Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him . 316 Likes 37 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Omuuvwie(m): 3:29pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
It's good to learn the hard way, you will get use to the system it's just a matter of time. 21 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Acidosis(m): 3:40pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Where are your parents/guardian? 7 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 4:30pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Dpen11:He knows I'm not earning currently. He should do better with me. Thank you for your words 25 Likes |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 4:33pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Openfortruth:Why should he do better for you, are you doing better for him is he responsible for your life 36 Likes 8 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Caaz: 4:43pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
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| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Nazgul: 4:55pm On Sep 22, 2023*. Modified: 11:13am On Sep 23, 2023 |
Your problem with your brother is over familiarity and entitlement mentality. Like someone rightfully pointed out, he doesn't owe you anything, cos he didn't bring you into this world. If you want your current predicament with him to come to an end, do the following... 1. See him as your oga and see yourself as an apprentice in his shop, stop seeing him as your equal. 2. Call him sir whenever he calls you. And run errands for him without grumbling. 3. Wash his clothes, polish his shoes, clean the house and sweep the shop whenever you get there. Make cleanliness your best friend. A lazy person cannot succeeded as an apprentice. 4. Respectfully beg him for lunch, eg. Good afternoon sir, please I'm hungry. Don't ever call him by his name. 119 Likes 10 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mindlog: 5:02pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:If you are the elder brother, will you be confident enough to sit down and eat the served Eba and Okro soup? 88 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 5:03pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Mindlog:Why not... Miracle happens 8 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 5:05pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:What are you saying? 5 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 5:08pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Openfortruth:I am saying you are not a disable or an imbecileee so work for your own food Give others and don't have entitled mentality to recieve like a beggar 15 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mindlog: 5:20pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:Fact is that OP is his younger brother, assisting him while he is still carving out his own path in life with food and the occasional transport fare is not out of place. When he starts earning something from the phone repairs he is learning, then he can contribute. In the future when they are both married and this present issue becomes the root of their acrimonious relationship, na wife whey no know how the problem take start na im dey go dey blame for causing disunity between brothers. 217 Likes 12 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 5:21pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Mindlog:This kind of entitlement mentality is very very wrong 8 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Brandiebird: 5:25pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Maybe you should find work that pays instead of working for free? This is a sign that your current plan isn’t sustainable. Quit this apprenticeship now and look for paying work. Your brother is telling you point blank that he will not support you while you do this apprenticeship thing. He has given you free accommodation with all the amenities and food isn’t part of the package. In conclusion, FIND PAYING WORK! 37 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Pacesetter2021: 5:47pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
It hurts based on say na your big bros. It's possible he doesn't have much and is not a person who can sacrifice for others. Tho this is not a good thing, try to source for something that can sustain you. The work you are learning can be half day then labour half day because of ulcer. Look for car wash place,or anywhere you can be paid either based on number of services provided like number of cars washed or number of hours put in. You can also do dry cleaning. Just do something cos you are in the city and accomodation isn't a problem for now. 27 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Pacesetter2021: 5:56pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Dpen11:There is something that serving does. Not everytime one will be advised to move out and stay alone. Serve for some time. Serve under someone. It grows you inside. 9 Likes |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by vincenteger: 6:00pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:Still checking where you asked for his account number Abi you didn't read what he wrote 126 Likes 6 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by AgentGoat: 6:10pm On Sep 22, 2023*. Modified: 4:13am On Sep 23, 2023 |
MS247:You go send him money to buy all these things? 94 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 6:18pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:When did you start making money? When learning how to make money or after learning how to make money? 31 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by talented321: 6:20pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Openfortruth, your brother is only training you to be a strong man in time to come, don't lose hope, be strong and find other ways to assist yourself. Becareful with your brother because he don't mean good for you.. 8 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 6:22pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:Everything is not entitlement mentality. I guess even a child complains of hunger, the mother should feel he's feeling entitled to her food. 65 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by MS247: 6:23pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
Openfortruth:Is he your mother?! Did your parents feed your own brother also Who have you ever shared your own food with for you to want to eat others food by force 5 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Openfortruth(op): 6:25pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:If I were in his position, I would feed him and help him in any other way I can. 48 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: My Brother Is Not Helping Me. He Prefers To Starve Me. by Mindlog: 6:35pm On Sep 22, 2023 |
MS247:Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city? Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile. What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o. 126 Likes 13 Shares |
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