Mindlog:


Fact is that OP is his younger brother, assisting him while he is still carving out his own path in life with food and the occasional transport fare is not out of place. When he starts earning something from the phone repairs he is learning, then he can contribute.

In the future when they are both married and this present issue becomes the root of their acrimonious relationship, na wife whey no know how the problem take start na im dey go dey blame for causing disunity between brothers.

The most reasonable response so far. God bless you for this.

his blood brother and some peeps here are saying
he owes you nothing
asin blood brother?? you both grew up together
that means y'all can starve your sister or brother to death
mehn smh

Gajagojo:

Did he bring him?

Did he tell him to go away? Could he have come and stayed in his house without his consent? Your answer lies in your response to those questions.

I doubt many of you here are born within a functional family or have an idea what a functional family ought to look like.

tete7000:


Did he tell him to go away? Could he have come and stayed in his house without his consent? Your answer lies in your response to those questions.

I doubt many of you here are born within a functional family or have an idea what a functional family ought to look like.

You talk like the product of a functional family

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

You are extremely dumh and stupid
and the 150 people who liked this are dumb aswell

imagine saying my own blood sister owes me nothing
it's very obvious you grew up on the street or you family is not an happy home

No offense, but isn't this a nairaland recycled storyline?
Seems familiar to me though. Hmm!

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

Spanishmilf:
You are extremely dumh and stupid
and the 150 people who liked this are dumb aswell

imagine saying my own blood sister owes me nothing
it's very obvious you grew up on the street or you family is not an happy home

Many Nigerians grow up on the street
Many families in Nigeria are not happy homes
It is not because they are bad people
That is how Nigeria happens to them
Those from happy hopes or growing up in Mansions are not better people
That is no basis for insults or condescension
Nigeria is a very hard place.
When times are good people can be generous and when times are hard mothers sell their babies
If you have a good life be grateful and humble you are not better or more deserving than those that don't

God I am grateful 🙏 if not I will be a great fool too bad I am f**ing faithful ( corizo)

Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

I remember when my younger brother came to Lagos to stay with me. He was totally my responsibility. Even though he was working and earning some pennies, I still fed him 3 square meals every day. This is what my father could not even do when he was in the village. From childhood to adulthood I shouldered him. His school fees was me. The clothes he wore were mine, plus the ones I bought for him. I was practically his mother and father.

All I did for him was all from the goodness of my heart. By right I owe him nothing. Unfortunately, not everyone is this compassionate. The parents are the ones who should be sending him monthly stipends especially since he doesn't have a job.

But I understand that the parents are very poor hence, they can't. This is why I am an antinatalist. Poor people should stop breeding children they cannot take care of. In this present economy, having another mouth to feed is not easy, especially when you are still hustling to make something out of your life.

Omo! Life really no balance! Truly, OP, you may not like to hear it but your older brother is NOT responsible for you! All things being equal, in an average home in Nigeria, an older brother is 2 years older. If he is your immediate, he would be just 2 years ahead of you. You came out of the same womb, have the same parent. What makes you think he had/has better opportunities/advantage over you? If he does, it is because he was intentional about it. This idea of “Older brother/sister or first born” has made so many people LAZY (I am not saying you are). Waiting for the older sibling to do all the hustling and make life easy for others, pushing them into stress, high BP and depression. Why can’t all of you share the burden?

On the flip side, we are Africans and family means a lot to us. We try so much to make our family better. Your older bro helping you shouldn’t be an entitlement. Reading your story breaks my heart because I am currently trying to support my younger brother and he is not taking his life seriously. Spending money on gambling, alcohol and women. Recently stopped sending him funds. But then, as his older bro, I still have fears of him doing something illegal, because I know deep down, there is no way I will watch him rot in prison.

So OP, just talk to your bro respectfully until you are stable. I wish you guys the best. Also ask your brother what he is going through. He may be starving low key too.

Is that how you do in your own family?
And to say you're Yoruba is even an insult.

We're not this wicked.

I would rather go hungry than to starve even a very close associate not to talk ofy blood.

Wickedness is what you lots see as sophistication in this age

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

GodWrites:


I remember when my younger brother came to Lagos to stay with me. He was totally my responsibility. Even though he was working and earning some pennies, I still fed him 3 square meals every day. This is what my father could not even do when he was in the village. From childhood to adulthood I shouldered him. His school fees was me. The clothes he wore were mine, plus the ones I bought for him. I was practically his mother and father.

All I did for him was all from the goodness of my heart. By right I owe him nothing. Unfortunately, not everyone is this compassionate. The parents are the ones who should be sending him monthly stipends especially since he doesn't have a job.

But I understand that the parents are very poor hence, they can't. This is why I am an antinatalist. Poor people should stop breeding children they cannot take care of. In this present economy, having another mouth to feed is not easy, especially when you are still hustling to make something out of your life.

People always mix things up
First you start by telling us your biography
That is not relevant
You were in a position to feed your brother 3square meals

This person that is cooking noodles and washing pot does he sound like he is eating 3 square meals

You are right on your final point about making babies
But the personal comparison is unclear
What is your point
That you have
"Goodness of heart"

the only test of goodness of heart comes when you are poor and cannot feed yourself
Then when you can go hungry for another person to eat we can talk of goodness of heart

Openfortruth:
Same thing I'm going through this night. I'm going to bed hungry.

...Take your mind off you big brother from this moment, start thinking on how to make little-little money to feed while you are learning that phone repair.

Your Tommorow is bigger and brighter than what ever you are going through today.

Don't quit the phone repair work.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

Where will he find 50 naira ugwu in today's Nigeria?

Openfortruth:
I greet you all Nairalanders.

Please permit me to share this thing my brother is doing to me.

As my life was about to become useless in the village, I came to the city to stay with my older brother and learn phone repairs.

My plan is to have this handwork so that when i gain admission, i wont rely totally only on education which has failed many in the country.

But my blood brother I'm staying with is behaving unkind to me as though i am a total stranger to him. Even total strangers deserve better treatment.

I'm only an apprenctice and yet to start making money. Most of the days, i trek to the place and return because I dont have transport.

He leave house first before me and return before me too. Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me.

Except there's another way for me, that is how I would go hungry throughout the night and as early as possible in the morning, he would leave the house without reasoning anything food.

I'm seriously starving. I thought he would share the little he has with me till I also start making money. Is this how a senior brother should behave with the junior one?

He's being unkind to me and now I feel like hiding the Garri I brought from the village from him.

But is this how we should behave as blood brothers?

He can't even be there for me to free from this apprenticeship.

u shouldn't be eating more than once a day when living with someone,,you have entitlement mentality

This is heart breaking. We are 8 we lost our parents. They are under my care and I am happy providing for them .
Where is this lovelessness comes from now 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
God will make a way for u.
Don't be going to the apprenticeship everyday. Pause like twice a week to enter sites and find something doing . He doesn't want to be part of ur history for good but God will shock him . Sorry bro. I feel ur pain

MS247:


[s]
Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him[/s]

.

All the things you said here is trash.


Mtcheewww

Omuuvwie:
It's good to learn the hard way, you will get use to the system it's just a matter of time.

Are you from Uvwie in Delta State?

OMO, the comments for frontpage just dey muzz me maybe some of dem no read wetin di OP write abi dem just want write 'nobody owe you anything' just to impress the imaginary fans.

Na why people dey wicked be this o, once dem pick and dem reason say nobody send their papa not even their own blood, na to comot conscience do wetin dey your mind remain.

Lest I forget, anything self made is ambiguous, someway, somehow you had people or system that see you through.

OP, I pray you find the needed help.

vincenteger:


Still checking where you asked for his account number

Abi you didn't read what he wrote

allow all this unreasonable people on nairaland. Dem go just open mouth wahhh... How can someone be stingy to his little brother n people still see it as ok. That's nonsense

Don’t hide the garri;rather use it to show him what that is expected of him.Also there is a friend that sticketh much more closer than a brother.Look for Him to help you and He will;His Name is Jesus Christ.

Pzpropertylimit:
This is heart breaking. We are 8 we lost our parents. They are under my care and I am happy providing for them .
Where is this lovelessness comes from now 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
God will make a way for u.
Don't be going to the apprenticeship everyday. Pause like twice a week to enter sites and find something doing . He doesn't want to be part of ur history for good but God will shock him . Sorry bro. I feel ur pain

Lovelessness comes from poverty
So spare us the holier than thou crap
You can only feed 8 people if you have the means
If you don't will you kill yourself?
Stop making it sound like you are some kind of Angel
If you haven't walked in someone else's shoes don't judge them

MS247:


Is he your mother?! Did your parents feed your own brother also

Who have you ever shared your own food with for you to want to eat others food by force

Wicked soul. You are not fit to share advice online.

MS247:


Is he your mother?! Did your parents feed your own brother also

Who have you ever shared your own food with for you to want to eat others food by force

You will pay for your sins.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

This is wrong as much as you trying to wake him to reality of not feeling entitled, I get it but definitely not to the point of starving him.

I lost my Father early I'm life and my elder brother who is the first child played a key role in the success of all my siblings simply because he looked out for me until I found my fit and supported him too to stabilize and I'm also currently sponsoring my two younger ones in higher institution, my immediate younger brother too has graduated courtesy of me and my elder brother's support. My point is, a little kindness trickles down and have ripple effects especially within the confines of a nuclear family. I can boldly tell you that love l, care and compassion exists amongst us and we look out for one another simply because my elder brother choose to be responsible and this today has impacted positively on all of us. As much as we all hate entitlement mentality, there should be a limit to this sort of wickedness coz that's what I call it. If tomorrow this young guy survives the odds and become rich and God forbid his elder brother has issues and this young guy refuses to help, will you maintain the same energy of "oh he didn't bring him into the world" let's show a little compassion, people are going through hell abeg

...

GO0DHardDick:
Lol you have a point.
The op is yet to clarify any of those.

However, it beats my imagination why foodstuffs wouldn't be at home in the house of a man who claims to go to work everyday! Or perhaps the said brother hides the foodstuffs at home.

True. Because his elder brother could be struggling. Phone repair business isn't as profitable as it used to be.

Also there could be serious rivalry between them. Children from struggling homes tend to hate each other than children from financially buyouant homes. There's this Everyman to himself attitude they display towards one another.

About not keeping foodstuffs at home, most single guys eat outside. I'm guilty of that myself. It's just these Tinubu's administration that has forced me to start cooking at home.

Gajagojo:

You are talking your own

You did what you did I because you can
If you don't have the means so because you are first born you should become an armed robber?

Nigeria is very hard that is why most girls are prostitutes in their father's homes
When there is money there is no problem but we are seeing people sell their own children in Nigeria because of poverty

It is like you don't understand how had things are for some people.

When things are hard that person you are helping will become a witch,you will see them chasing you in your dream and some pastors will back it up . Parents will call their own children witch
What have we not seen as a result of poverty

No matter how hard things may be. As long as a brother has little, he must share.

This brother of his isn't lazy. He's learning a trade and still planning admissions. That's the stage the guy is right now in his life. His elder brother is supposed to offer support. We're all in a family for support. A family is useless without it.

That elder brother in this picture is callous. If you're not ready to support your brother why did you allow him to leave the village to stay with you? Did he actually tell you he wasn't feeding in the village? Why starve your younger brother? That's very callous of him. He didn't even sit the guy down to tell him what he's capable of contributing and what he wouldn't be contributing. Just pure wickedness of watching him starve without any brotherly kindness. I can't even to do that to a total stranger.

Mindlog:


Dropping something for younger ones according to your capacity, is not entitlement mentality. If Nigerian police pick any of them up, no be the other one go run around abi is their parents with them in the city?

Reality is that time flies so fast, 5 years from now the stupidity of this moments will look so infantile.

What really touched me is this "Before I would come back, he would cook noodles and finish it, washed the pot and everything and keep them clean as though nothing happened. Sometimes he eat outside and come back home and ignore me".......your own blood, your younger sibling goes to bed hungry after trekking back from where he is learning a skill, while you have eaten.....Schizoid Personality Disorder no pass this one o.

You made the only sane comment in the first page and this part you boldened made me emotional.
That his brother may even have a girlfriend he's fending for somewhere over his blood brother.
I wonder what people call family these days if sacrificing and sharing with one's younger sibling before they stand on their feet is termed "entitlement".

EruditeSupport:

No matter how hard things may be. As long as a brother has little, he must share.

This brother of his isn't lazy. He's learning a trade and still planning admissions. That's the stage the guy is right now in his life. His elder brother is supposed to offer support. We're out in a family for support. A family is useless without it.

That elder brother in this picture is callous. If you're not ready to support your brother why did you allow him to leave the village to stay with you? Did he actually tell him he wasn't feeding in the village? Why starve your younger brother? That's very callous of him. He didn't even sit the guy down to tell him what he's capable of contributing and what he wouldn't be contributing. Just pure wickedness of watching him starve without any brotherly kindness. I can't even to do that to a total stranger.

You are preaching
Talk is very cheap
Reality is very different for most Nigerians in the trenches
I hate hypocrisy
Pretending as if it is not this Nigeria we all know

Why did he allow him leave the village you ask? Where did you read that the brother invited him?

He is sharing his house with him
That is not callous

He should be grateful for that
What if he does not accommodate him?
Is that unheard of?

erniok:

Don't mind that guy. He might be in the western world where it is all man for himself or might come from a family that holds similar notion. Where I come from, it is one for all, all for one. No man must be left behind.

I love the bolded. I don't think being in a foreign country influences such viewpoints. My thought is that he comes from a dysfunctional family and thinks such settings as his are normal.

MS247:



Let's get some facts clear

1: Your brother owes you nothing , you owe your brother cost of rent and accomodation

2: Your Parents owe you education, shelter and welfare until you are 18, or 21 when you are legally adult

3: If you want your brother to feed you after providing you accomodations, you humbly go to him and plead...

My dear brother, kindly assist me with feeding pending the time I get something doing fetching money and I can contribute to our welfare,

4: whenever you get any Money, try and refill your brothers cooking gas, buy some spaghetti or noddles, or Golden penny Semo, Vegetables Oil and present it to your brother




Now I want you to surprise your brother this Weekend for Saturday morning

Buy

Ugwu #50,
Okro #100
Okporoko #150
Ponmo #200
Ogbono #50
Cray Fish #100
Dry pepper #100
Onions #100
Locust bean #50
Buy Garri #200 or Fufu

That is roughly 1000 Naira

Cook Eba and Okro soup for your brother tomorrow morning and serve him

.

You go too wicked sha... And person wey get you as sibling no get anybody.