alexogbebor:
I am currently dating a single mother for almost a year now, before she got pregnant for her ex I actually approach her and asked her out but it didn't work out that was in 2018, fast forward to 2022 I met her after a long time no see and still had that feelings for her, I reconnect with her and boom we start dating and banging, she actually told me about the child before we started dating but I didn't have problem with it at that time, I had no intention to have a Long term relationship with her but boom we are a year in this relationship and i Don't think I would love to spend the rest of my life with a single mom. Please I need your advice

Nicepoker:
Ajax vs feyeboord. Started from 2:0 down.

Fahvvy:
It's the way the society demeans a man's choice that irritates me, yikes!!! ...

OP...
The reason why most men don't want to marry a single mother is not because of any St.upid "fear", it's because of CHOICE!!!! ...

Most men don't want single mothers, PERIOD!!!!! ...

Y'all need to start accepting men's choice(s) in women and stop trying to demean men for having and exercising it ...


Personally, single mothers are a no go area for me, and my son's relationship wise ...

I don't care how she became a single mother, that's IRRELEVANT!!! ...

But as long as there's a well cultured 18 - 24year old virgin out there, I'd rather be castrated than marry a single mother AND THAT'S MY CHOICE!! ...

Nextt:
There is so much at stake marrying single mothers. When the relationship fails, you lose her, you lose the child by default, you lose your time and property to her, you lose your sanity. You lose on all sides. When you are together, you hear things like, "My child", from the woman when issues come up, when she invests it is for her child, not the family, you take the risk to invest in the child who may later take sides with his/her mother, it is always you against them. The risks far outweigh the benefits of marrying a single mother.

The ONLY exception is when God directs you to marry one. Such single mother will be different from the herd.

donwily:
Any little misunderstanding, she will post her baby with caption, "The love of my life".

izonborn098:
Bro i want to tell what you don't want to hear.. I have single mom who is married now but my child is with me, this woman want to sleep with me till date, though i was sleeping with her when she was dating the said guy but i give up when she got married to him. Single moms are very dangerous and shameless.
Another of my guy has the same experience and the said child need dna because she was sleeping with both men before she get pregnant and the child is a photo copy of my friend, but she said the child belong to her present guy because my guy Bleep her up.. Never in my life will i ever marry any single mom except circumstances which is rare..

LeeSmart:

Lol why you the disguise?

Blitzking:

Single women are with lots of emotional baggages that single guys shouldn't venture into for peace of mind..I don't mind single dads going for single women..even women who have dated several men might av been damaged emotionally and become highly distrustful or toxic while some become less assertive for fear of them being dumped again..so not good for themselves and their new partner.

tonicyril:
and is that a complete football match??

VIKTO83:





First thing that comes to mind is that what chased her out of Celestial church will also chase her from Catholic church.

franktech:
Meet a girl as young as 16 and she will tell you that she will only marry a rich, handsome man (not considering how ugly and poor she may be).
Men need to start setting high standards too.
For me
1) my wife must come from rich family or have very good business
2) Must be beautiful
3) Must high iq ( I no wan born kids wey books no go fit enter their head)
4) Will be between 18-24
4) Finally must respect and submit.

If you have such characteristics then dm, if not then i better enjoy my single life

diggindeep:


Maybe yes maybe not

Sisqoman:
Once you said I love you, billing don start

Blendy77:
With the kind of comments i read here, most single mothers will just continue to deceive men that their kids are their siblings cos majority have the mindset that single mums are no go area. Am not a single mum but I can assure you that most single mums are great to be with. If not for anything, men should go for them for the fact that they are fertile and can give birth. Secondly having a child already calling you Dad and u learning parenting skills before yours arrive is not something u pay from the market. And children provoke Gods blessing most times so when u dedicate your time to father a child that is not yours biologically, you are invoking Gods blessing. The few men I've interviewed concerning this issue gave excuses like "I don't want to compete or share my love with another man's child. Haba? na small pikin dey give some men complex? Give single mothers a chance cos many of them already learnt their lessons and will become great spouse if given the opportunity to love again. Otherwise dem go just dey deceive una say na my Mama last born and u will still train the child either directly or indirectly

wisdomkid:



Stop shouting please. You've made your stance, we've seen and heard you. No reason to scream out loud.

Nicepoker:
But with my perfect example your last line about a football match not starting from a nil down no longer holds

Nicepoker:
Ajax vs feyeboord. Started from 2:0 down.

Dancebreaker:


If you can, avoid marrying a single mother. It does not matter why she is single. It also does not matter how young the kids are when you married their mum as people erroneously believe. They will soon know you are not their real father.

She might be grieving over a guy she loved or bitter over a guy who broke her heart. Either way, she's wounded. You are not to be mending a heart as a starting point in a relationship. Women only truly love their own biological child. Her love is primarily towards a child that is not yours before you even start.

This is not theory. I have seen it up close in several families. 40 to 60 years later, the men suffered in the hands of their stepchildren, especially if the men outlived the women. Step kids abandoned them.

The men used their youth/vital resources that could have built wealth/energy to help raise their stepchildren but whatever they did was NEVER enough.

Over the years, the men even had to become very careful when disciplining the step kids, otherwise accusations of being wicked because they were not their biological kids flew around.

Only an exceptionally good woman is worth marrying as a single mother. Because you can't be sure if the single mother you want to get involved with is among the exceptional 1%, it's a massive gamble. Not what a single guy should be doing. Frustration and ingratitude are almost certain ahead.

You can date a single mum but marriage, be extremely careful.

Blendy77:
With the kind of comments i read here, most single mothers will just continue to deceive men that their kids are their siblings cos majority have the mindset that single mums are no go area. Am not a single mum but I can assure you that most single mums are great to be with. If not for anything, men should go for them for the fact that they are fertile and can give birth. Secondly having a child already calling you Dad and u learning parenting skills before yours arrive is not something u pay from the market. And children provoke Gods blessing most times so when u dedicate your time to father a child that is not yours biologically, you are invoking Gods blessing. The few men I've interviewed concerning this issue gave excuses like "I don't want to compete or share my love with another man's child. Haba? na small pikin dey give some men complex? Give single mothers a chance cos many of them already learnt their lessons and will become great spouse if given the opportunity to love again. Otherwise dem go just dey deceive una say na my Mama last born and u will still train the child either directly or indirectly

Blendy77:
With the kind of comments i read here, most single mothers will just continue to deceive men that their kids are their siblings cos majority have the mindset that single mums are no go area. Am not a single mum but I can assure you that most single mums are great to be with. If not for anything, men should go for them for the fact that they are fertile and can give birth. Secondly having a child already calling you Dad and u learning parenting skills before yours arrive is not something u pay from the market. And children provoke Gods blessing most times so when u dedicate your time to father a child that is not yours biologically, you are invoking Gods blessing. The few men I've interviewed concerning this issue gave excuses like "I don't want to compete or share my love with another man's child. Haba? na small pikin dey give some men complex? Give single mothers a chance cos many of them already learnt their lessons and will become great spouse if given the opportunity to love again. Otherwise dem go just dey deceive una say na my Mama last born and u will still train the child either directly or indirectly

pocohantas:


Are you his account officer?





They don't need to deceive men. This is akin to men who deceive women under the premise that women love lies. You can just say the truth and hope he accepts you that way.

There is something called secondary infertility. You can born one and not be able to born another. Nothing to say single mothers are certified fertile for life.

FireUpNow:
A widow, divorced woman and singl in any form na heavy trap, avoid her

sylve11:


Having stayed in most riverine terrains, I believe you. The single mothers there are extremely terrible, far different from the ones in the cities.

Blendy77:
With the kind of comments i read here, most single mothers will just continue to deceive men that their kids are their siblings cos majority have the mindset that single mums are no go area.

Styluss:
HIGHLY MANIPULATIVE
BIGGER RESPONSIBILITIES
PRETENDERS
ENTITLED
EMOTIONALLY DAMAGED / DEPRESSED
BABY DADDY WAHALA / POSSIBILITY OF FUCKING AGAIN
SERIAL BLACKMAILERS.
As a single Man, A single mother is not something to ever think of.

TayusKilzEasyjay:


The game was restarted ode