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Slynation:
If she was'nt good enough for that her supposed husband to be, then she ain't good enough for you. And most importantly never accept back your EX, you guys never learn because you play too much...

Just see how she carry you over 2.5...!! While she's depriving you of her puss, another guy was busy banging it 24/7 while you thought she's doing business. But guess what, she will return back crying and begging as usual and you will still accept her because your simping level is on a very fast bullet train...!!

As if half of the people are good enough for their spouses, going by your claims. Just because a person doesn't get married to who they intended to and they broke things off, it doesn't mean they aren't good enough. People break up for many reasons.

Maybe she should tell us why she focused solely on her business. You'd be surprised who was cheating, abusing or battering a lot and expecting to be taken back as if nothing had happened.

There's a lot nobody here knows except the OP. And his ex-wife, who on the forum to tell us her side of it.

BRATISLAVA:
It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.

What's the problem if he opens the business in his name? If the profits are going to her?

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

Pls first and foremost, confirm that this story is real....and not made up....then il advice you cos o don't want to waste my time typing long texts for nothing....

Kobojunkie:
Rubbish 🗑!

no be rubbish, for me if you make a mistake in a relationship especially someone you want to marry, hhhhmmm it would be greater issue in the future, that is why single mothers full every corner of Nigeria till today

You should have IMPREGNATED her first before even opening shop for her In this way you wont loose on both side.

DONT repeat this mistake again

You just do sara for OLOSHO

Chetas81:
■ no be rubbish, for me if you make a mistake in a relationship especially someone you want to marry, hhhhmmm it would be greater, that is why single mothers full every corner of Nigeria till today

Stop deceiving yourselves with what is sputum which many of you mistake for reasonable analysis! The real world out there is none of that!

BigBashiru:
■ Pls first and foremost, confirm that this story is real....and not made up....then il advice you cos o don't want to waste my time typing long texts for nothing....

Op doesn't need advice! Relationships, and even marriage has always been and remain "Try your Luck!" OP did just that with his heart, and does not need to be ashamed of it or get advice on it.

Kobojunkie:
Stop deceiving yourselves with what amounts to sputum which you mistake for reasonable analysis!

Mr and Mrs junkie, there must be a reason why single mothers full everywhere, I hope you know this, continue said rubbish

defendedvictim:
What's the problem if he opens the business in his name? If the profits are going to her?

That's not what trust means. You expect her to work for his business so that one day he will take it from her after she's put in all the hard work? Any woman with such a man is better off poisoning him.

Trust indeed.

chatinent:
Where do you live? I have a surprise for you.

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Delta

Chetas81:
■ there must be a reason why single mothers full everywhere, I hope you know this, continue said rubbish

Don't mistake the delusions shared mainly by what seems southern Nigerian boys with the world at large. Even up in Northern Nigeria, single mothers don't experience the same patterns you lot delude yourselves with down there. So, focus!

Mhizzard:
A woman you love wholeheartedly,initially left you for another man just because she foolishly thought ahead about how your striving for success after your service would be.meanwhile she later asked for reconcilation of which you accepted her cus of the love you have for her;you are not to be blame for that though,from the on set you should have know that she is a Gold digger.

Op no wise

Marriage please.

Kobojunkie:
Don't mistake delusions of southern Nigerians with the world at large. Even up in northern Nigeria, single mothers don't experience the same patterns you lot delude yourselves with down there. So, focus!

mr and Mrs junkie, you need help, based on your Mentality, the way I see things around you

Chetas81:
mr and Mrs junkie, you need help, based on your Mentality, the way I see things around you

Abeg get away!

Kobojunkie:
Abeg get away!

abnormality become normal in your world, and you're happy 😂

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

see mumu man

She fool u once she’s a fool but twice u are d fool

She was never for u, she fell out with the love she love n fall for d last mugu like u

djon78:
Infatuation not Love is a disease

Take it from me, love doesn't exist with human.

It doesn't pay to be simpish and bluepilled. Your foolish attitude, silly feelings, and lack of self-respect can never inspire respect and sexual desire from ANY woman. Act like a simp and incur the bitter and humiliating lots of a simp.

Your woman doesn't rate you and is not sexually attracted to you; she has made this clear to you. In fact, you don't have a woman... you are simply married to yourself. Finally, dump her and go swallow the red pill... you really need it. Learn or perish.

If you decide not to heed my advice, you are very much welcome to remain foolish and keep deluding yourself. If you like, maintain your onetitis and keep trying to rescue the sinking titanic you call marriage (which is actually a laughable sham and debacle). You will see more shege and humiliation if you don't have sense and grow some spine.

Chetas81:
abnormality become normal in your world, and you're happy 😂

If you have yet to figure out at this stage in your development that your normal is not everyone else's normal, then I am afraid hope may indeed be lost!

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

Your first and biggest mistake was taking her back after 2 Fucƙing years!

Her bodycount when she left you could have been 4 or 5, but believe me, it'll never be less than 20 when you took her back.
God forbid any lady uses fake cry and emotions to get anything from me.... It's impossible. Their cry never moves me.

THE BEST YOU CAN DO NOW IS TO RUIN HER BUSINESS AND NEVER TAKE HER BACK STILL.

Kobojunkie:
Franxiz, don't mind these small boys whose worlds are still defined by their many losses in the game they think relationships are. You did nothing wrong. You can only try your best to make a relationship work. In the end, you cannot force anyone to remain in a relationship longer than they choose to or want to be in it for. This happens to everyone, male or female.

All your comments are always trash.... You really don't know anything about life.

People don't just line up to tell the Op he's stupid for giving the lady a second chance. Especially how they departed I. The first instance. You're the only one talking nonsense here.

The moment a woman leaves you, she never see anything goo in you. If she comes back, then she thinks you're the weakest man to manipulate. Women only prey in guys that loves them but worship guys that set standards.


If you simp, you lose.

franxiz:
Good evening wonderful people on the forum.

I just want to share my depression, regrets and failed marriage experience just to let out this load in my heart and move on with life. I will be brief and straight to the point

I met this lady back in our university days, we shared a lot in common and interest. The relationship was good till graduation when we both served in different states, some months into NYSC, she messaged me to forgive her actions and try to move on with life as she had found someone who is ready to settle down and since am still serving I need time to establish myself, that message broke my heart, I tried calling her but she block me on all platforms...

Fast-forward 2years later after NYSC, I got a call from a familiar number but was not sure who the caller might be.. wow it's her! After hearing her voice... before I could say anything, she was already crying and begging me for forgiveness on the phone etc, I tried acting like commando, but the love and fellings we shared took the better of me. I let the past and we started all over again.

Few years later, we are married no kids yet and no peace in the house, we can't spend one full week in a month happy as husband and wife without quarry and not speaking to each other, I have tried to find solution to this issues, but nothing, sometimes it's goes on for months... I have tried talking the her family about it our issues but they feel less concerned as if it's my cross, I have to bear it alone.

My problem began few months after our marriage, wifey complain of being lonely at home each time I go out for work and wanted a small business to run so as to support the family, good idea I though but am regretting it today. As wifey is so engrossed in this business and forgetting she has a husband to attend to, Monday to Sunday, even Christmas, easter, salla holidays, she goes to shop from 7am and comes back at night by 9 or 9:30pm with the excuse of traffic on the way or my supplies where bringing me goods so I have to wait for them to come...

Mine most worried issue is that she is not concerned in starting a family, each time I want her attention, all I get is am tired, body dey pain me, tomorrow we do it... but she can't fail to attend to her business matters even as late as 10:30pm she is ordering goods or calling her customs of the goods she has in store from her phone....

I finally man up and told her to choose between her marriage or Business, my people this lady shock me, she walked out of the marriage to focus on her business after wasting my time and resources...

It hurts but I will overcome this depression with time... thank you all and good night.

A lady left you for 2 yrs without reason, she came back and you accepted her.

That's where you got it wrong

UncleKoboko:
Your first and biggest mistake was taking her back after 2 Fucƙing years!

Her bodycount when she left you could have been 4 or 5, but believe me, it'll never be less than 20 when you took her back.
God forbid any lady uses fake cry and emotions to get anything from me.... It's impossible. Their cry never moves me.

THE BEST YOU CAN DO NOW IS TO RUIN HER BUSINESS AND NEVER TAKE HER BACK STILL.

I wonder what must have been running through the girl's mind when he foolishly accepted her back. In her psyche, he simply and permanently cemented his status as a spineless and idiotic simp not worthy of respect and sexual attraction; a simp worthy of low quality treatment and dog food. What a lamentable state for a man and his masculinity.

He should just have sense, grow balls, and dump her. If possible, he should ruin the business and take what he can that he purchased for her. To make this worse, we smart ones know that different d1cks have been pounding the girl's kitty cat during marriage. If the OP does not know this, then he is in a more pitiable state than I think.

BRATISLAVA:
It's built on trust, but you wanted him to open the business in his name, while she would slave away at him for him?

Some of you love talking about red flags in women without really seeing what you feel is a red flag for what it is: another unrealistic expectation.

I think we use the word 'slavery' in marriage a little too frequently and it's disturbing. Running a business and earning money for your use is not a slavery.
Using your capital(money) to start up a business in your name is never a crime. Deciding to put your wife to be in charge of the business is a trust. Every responsible man would will his fortunes and estates to his wife and children as a priority.
A man should learn to lead his family and take charge of things. This does not relegate a woman's role. Both men and women have their roles and where we have a lot of conflict is when one or both parties fail in their role.

In this case, the woman failed in her role as a wife..due to the business. If the business is in her name, she can do whatever she wants. If it is in his name, he can call her to order.

She will come back again to beg. You will accept her and the whole process will be repeated.
I sincerely hope I will be proven wrong.

Aaaaarghmed:
OP you are a fool for taking back someone who dumped you and came back 2 years later,you are master simp.i have Always said it,if a woman comes back to you,she is a ticking time bomb and her next suprise will be a fatal explosion to you.you fit no survive am.some guys need to learn alot from me I swear

OP should be d most foolish guy on planet earth. Same is applicable to some idiots parading themselves as men while they are female in man body

jubrilELsudan:
ALL I WILL SAY IS INDEED YOU ARE VERY STUPID

YOUR MAIN ISSUE APART FROM THE FVCK THAT YOU SAY SHE IS NOT GIVING YOU IS THAT YOU ARE INSECURE AND BELIEVE THAT SINCE SHE SPENDS MOST TIMES ON HER BUSINESS.....SHE IS OUT THERE FVCKING OTHER MEN

YOUR ARE SCARED THAT SHE WILL BECOME A MILLIONAIRE FROM HER BUSINESS AND YOU CAN'T BOSS AND DOMINATE HER ANYMORE

YOU NIGERIAN MEN ARE EXTREMELY INSECURE AND ALWAYS FEEL THREATENED WHEN YOU SEE A POTENTIAL SUCCESS WOMAN

You lack wisdom and common sense, and that's why you have been stagnant and unproductive.
Someone said he took back a whóre after she dumped him for two years, DO YOU KNOW WHAT HER BODYCOUNT WILL BE WITHIN THOSE TWO YEARS?

2, He forgave her, took her back and even married the bastarɗ.
After marriage, it's always one problem to another.

3, she complained about being lonely and jobless and the MUMU husband still opened business for her.
Now, she no longer attends to his needs as a wife, and you think he's asking too much and complaining.
All that you could think of is that the husband is insecure
I pity the miserable fooI that will end up marrying somebody like you.
Una always dey over value unasef. You think the world revolves around you
If God want destroy you completely, make you jam man like me, you will be very sorry you ever existed... I won't say more than that.

Una no dey hear word.

Be simping for fake love upandan like you had been denied motherly love.

Kobojunkie:
Rubbish 🗑!

Olodo

You are a Mumu man