Overthinker:


Hello @Schoolhike I sent you a dm here on nairaland but got no reply, I have an interview with the civil service on a role for product manager, I am researching on YouTube about what I might face during the interview but I won't mind you helping out also since it's something you know more about, thank you

If you check your application, They would have told you the behaviours where your questions would come from, managing a quality service, delivering at pace, changing and improving etc. Get answers for these in STAR format for each of these scenarios(multiple answers for each if you can). The closer your answers are to the job Spec the better. All the best

KOVIC19COVID20:



Once again, thanks to Justwise & Lexusgs430.
I have already used my clipper 8 times now. By every standard, I have saved over £80 already - and still have the clipper.

Na so I come ‘vex’ buy more as Souvenir for my pals.

Its cheaper on Temu

If it wasn’t an anonymous call can you guess where it came from? Do police just pop into people’s homes?

bigtt76:
You really think that was an anonymous call? They just told you that so you don't ask more questions or them revealing identity. Truth is you shouldn't leave your daughter alone to go socialising at night. It's even more understandable if it is for work but to attend birthday or drink out with friends... No no and it doesn't sound good to the ears dear. Kids lives have been lost due to issues bordering around their parents living them unattended to go drinking.

The police telling you your daughter seem well cared for might just be sarcasm and they have you on camera saying you left her for few hours to go out. It's no joke but they have enough evidence on you already. Better you watch it than be sorry later.

Thank you
I am even done with University

bigtt76:
It is the reality of many student immigrants the only difference is that they (students) come with their partner and take turns in minding their underage kids or they use child minders or friendly neighbours. Some take their kids to the school library or lecture theatre to sit out with other kids and they are fine. All the best though.

It’s not an Ego thing
I was good with all my former neighbors
( Nigerians) till they moved out. We can’t be friendlywith everyone
I can’t get them on my side because we don’t even have any issues to start with.
We greet and ask after her kids
I don’t see any issue there

bigtt76:
Sounds like an ego problem? I would advise that you try to amend and make friends with them. They might be the ones ratting you out just to pepper you. They also might not be the ones but trust the authorities they would've been interviewed about your personality in the neighbourhood. Make that call and try to get them on your side if your personal reasons allow that though.

I see what you mean... Definitely from the neighbours 🤦🏿‍♂️

Gift7428:

If it wasn’t an anonymous call can you guess where it came from? Do police just pop into people’s homes?

Ooh great. Look out for opportunities that let you work from home 🙏🏾

Gift7428:

Thank you
I am even done with University

hustla:



Please go for the IT Engineering one and avoid those ones saying health care assistant now and later in life. A lot of people in the UK are dabimoseda FC and they have the capacity to twist your orientation to match theirs. I have heard people saying "Oyinbo no dey give Nigerians jobs apart from care worker" and you wonder where they get that mentality from when a colleague who came into the UK less than 1 month ago has already gotten a Senior DevOps role that pays £85K.

People often can not see beyond their noses and came into the UK with very little plans to rise beyond where they are and you need to be careful how you interact with them.

All the best

People largely underestimate what impact their clique can have on how quickly they settle and rise. Its same case even for those in regulated professions with fairly defined pathways.

If you come in and those in your circle quickly sorted their driving, mortgage, good jobs e.t.c. Those things would all of a suddenly become well achievable. Perception is everything.

For many, when it comes to getting on the housing ladder, schools, investments, pensions, job prospects e.t.c. it's largely dependent on what your clique has achieved.

Raalsalghul:


Quick question: what if the mortgage is in the man's name only?

Does it mean he has to move out if the judge grants custody of the kids to the woman?

Just thinking about different scenarios here.

Others have answered but to add, even your pension earned after marriage is not spared. Na why before you marry, u look well. Also, u have the advantage of being a dual citizen.

rinzylee:
Abeg oooo enough.... make we no dey condition mindset for marriage breakup here ...abeg nah .... We will have good sustainable marriages in Jesus Name. Amen.

Amen and Amen.
'Its not my portion' mentality. No be so?
Well the UK divorce rate sits between 40- 50% with some skew. So statistically, its either you get divorced or others do. What would help is understanding the reasons marriages end in divorce and trying to mitigate against those and the larger impact of divorce if it sadly happens. Burying ones head in sand no be the solution.

jedisco:


Others have answered but to add, even your pension earned after marriage is not spared. Na why before you marry, u look well. Also, u have the advantage of being a dual citizen.



Amen and Amen.
'Its not my portion' mentality. No be so?
Well the UK divorce rate sits between 40- 50% with some skew. So statistically, its either you get divorced or others do. What would help is understanding the reasons marriages end in divorce and trying to mitigate against those and the larger impact of divorce if it sadly happens. Burying ones head in sand no be the solution.

100% agree.

Is that why oyibos do “partners” instead? Does it offer them any protection different from married folk? In terms of house and pensions etc.

jedisco:



For many, when it comes to getting on the housing ladder, schools, investments, pensions, job prospects e.t.c. it's largely dependent on what your clique has achieved.

Info lo n gbe eyan fo

Your journey in life and about everything else is dependent on people who you surround yourself with .

If you walk with 4 Dangotes, you'll likely be the 5th one or at the very least, a Femi Otedola

What’s wrong with this country? Why do we have to pay ourselves for Christmas Party? A whole £40/ person. This is insane. Omo I miss Naija for this one. We Dey even hire music artist come, invite spouses sef, free shayo on top. Mehn British people stingy oo!

Phil46:
Hi guys

Please what's the process of obtaining a Tier 2 worker Visa as a teacher from Nigeria? A friend with extensive years of experience as a teacher in Nigeria is considering the option. Please how does he start the process?

I did some research and found that one must have a job offer first. Please has anyone successfully gotten an offer from Naija as a teacher? Will appreciate any information I can get on this. Thanks

There is a route for teachers which is still fairly new. Might be worth exploring that before it becomes oversaturated. Initially coming over as a carer or for masters should make eventually getting on the teacher route easier.

triplo3:


100% agree.

Is that why oyibos do “partners” instead? Does it offer them any protection different from married folk? In terms of house and pensions etc.

True.. but its more tricky for those on visas moreso if your other half is back home

triplo3:


100% agree.

Is that why oyibos do “partners” instead? Does it offer them any protection different from married folk? In terms of house and pensions etc.

Have you heard of the term '' tenants in common'' ......😂😜

triplo3:
What’s wrong with this country? Why do we have to pay ourselves for Christmas Party? A whole £40/ person. This is insane. Omo I miss Naija for this one. We Dey even hire music artist come, invite spouses sef, free shayo on top. Mehn British people stingy oo!

Wait o...... You want someone else/organisation, to pay for your enjoyment........... 🤣😜😂

jedisco:


Others have answered but to add, even your pension earned after marriage is not spared. Na why before you marry, u look well. Also, u have the advantage of being a dual citizen.



Amen and Amen.
'Its not my portion' mentality. No be so?
Well the UK divorce rate sits between 40- 50% with some skew. So statistically, its either you get divorced or others do. What would help is understanding the reasons marriages end in divorce and trying to mitigate against those and the larger impact of divorce if it sadly happens. Burying ones head in sand no be the solution.

There's a difference between identifying causes of divorce and enlightening people about it, and selling preparation for divorce. The former is preventive medicine and the other is therapeutic. If I know possible pitfalls, I would work on my character and adjust myself to serve my spouse better. Why not sell the positives of marriage and the benefits of a united home front. Why must it be the doom of marriage that would be sounded ??

I see patients who have been married for 60, 70 ,50 years and all I do after consultation is ask them for 2mins of advice on how to have such a healthy peaceful marriage. I don't go about preparing for divorce. I plan for the best of marriages. Let it be that I have done all and trouble springs up, then we can discuss the other side.

I am team it won't be my portion..Yes!

rinzylee:


There's a difference between identifying causes of divorce and enlightening people about it, and selling preparation for divorce. The former is preventive medicine and the other is therapeutic. If I know possible pitfalls, I would work on my character and adjust myself to serve my spouse better. Why not sell the positives of marriage and the benefits of a united home front. Why must it be the doom of marriage that would be sounded ??

I see patients who have been married for 60, 70 ,50 years and all I do after consultation is ask them for 2mins of advice on how to have such a healthy peaceful marriage. I don't go about preparing for divorce. I plan for the best of marriages. Let it be that I have done all and trouble springs up, then we can discuss the other side.

I am team it won't be my portion..Yes!

Do you think Chris Oyakhilome planned for a divorce...... Or you think he did not pray, fast and conduct vigils. ........😂😜

Lexusgs430:


Do you think Chris Oyakhilome planned for a divorce...... Or you think he did not pray, fast and conduct vigils. ........😂😜

I did not mention anybody's name. I'd prefer we discuss that way. Thank you sir.

Yet again... what has fasting and prayer got to do with this discussion...or is it to shame Christianity again?

Smh

rinzylee:


I did not mention anybody's name. I'd prefer we discuss that way. Thank you sir.

Yet again... what has fasting and prayer got to do with this discussion...or is it to shame Christianity again?

Smh

The point remains, no reasonable person would go into marriage, expecting a divorce.......

You could have put in all the hardwork, prayed, fasted etc etc...... But, do you know the real intentions of the other party........

Keep shaking your head....... 😭😂

triplo3:
What’s wrong with this country? Why do we have to pay ourselves for Christmas Party? A whole £40/ person. This is insane. Omo I miss Naija for this one. We Dey even hire music artist come, invite spouses sef, free shayo on top. Mehn British people stingy oo!

Maybe your company stingy...

Perhaps they are not stingy, maybe it's not in their policy to do Christmas party but some folks just feel it will be nice to do hence the contribution.

My company organise party...when I say party, I mean party. I shock the first time I attended see strippers dey perform at different strategic points in the event center. Different live artists too positioned at different points.

Lexusgs430:



The point remains, no reasonable person would go into marriage, expecting a divorce.......

You could have put in all the hardwork, prayed, fasted etc etc...... But, do you know the real intentions of the other party........

Keep shaking your head....... 😭😂

Some folks on this thread are going into marriage expecting a divorce that's why they are taking all necessary precautions. 😑

Well like your statement, not all persons are reasonable.

Lexusgs430:



The point remains, no reasonable person would go into marriage, expecting a divorce.......

You could have put in all the hardwork, prayed, fasted etc etc...... But, do you know the real intentions of the other party........

Keep shaking your head....... 😭😂

If you want us to discuss this objectively , we can. I didn't mention praying and fasting as the only elements of building a foundation for a strong lasting marriage relationship.

You dey find my mouth.

Marriage is run on principles and principles don't respect anyone. You break it, it breaks you.

Knowledge of the elements to enjoy a good marriage is more important than seeking for how to share properties or protect oneself after a divorce.

The mindset with which you choose to engage this journey is very important.


I say again... you can either choose to build a stable fortress or go seeking Knowledge of how to leave with the chunk sum when the house collapses.


Through wisdom is a house built, by Knowledge it is established and by understanding it's Chambers are furnished .


Daalụ

Thank you very much

justwise:

My wife gave birth few months ago and she got the same letter, I can’t remember the exact wording but I think they are trying to know the immigration status of the parent so as to know if you need to pay for NHS services you used. If you are on student or work visa then you have nothing to worry about. Follow the instructions on that letter.

Lexusgs430:


Have you heard of the term '' tenants in common'' ......😂😜

Explain abeg.

We haven’t gotten any letter oo, and it’s exactly two months my wife gave birth today. Abi NHS don forget us 😂

justwise:

My wife gave birth few months ago and she got the same letter, I can’t remember the exact wording but I think they are trying to know the immigration status of the parent so as to know if you need to pay for NHS services you used. If you are on student or work visa then you have nothing to worry about. Follow the instructions on that letter.

AgentXxx:
We haven’t gotten any letter oo, and it’s exactly two months my wife gave birth today. Abi NHS don forget us 😂

That means they know your status in the country then, may be somewhere on record

rinzylee:



If you want us to discuss this objectively , we can. I didn't mention praying and fasting as the only elements of building a foundation for a strong lasting marriage relationship.

You dey find my mouth.

Marriage is run on principles and principles don't respect anyone. You break it, it breaks you.

Knowledge of the elements to enjoy a good marriage is more important than seeking for how to share properties or protect oneself after a divorce.

The mindset with which you choose to engage this journey is very important.


I say again... you can either choose to build a stable fortress or go seeking Knowledge of how to leave with the chunk sum when the house collapses.


Through wisdom is a house built, by Knowledge it is established and by understanding it's Chambers are furnished .


Daalụ

You really know how to speak in tongues

Viruses:


Maybe your company stingy...

Perhaps they are not stingy, maybe it's not in their policy to do Christmas party but some folks just feel it will be nice to do hence the contribution.

My company organise party...when I say party, I mean party. I shock the first time I attended see strippers dey perform at different strategic points in the event center. Different live artists too positioned at different points.

Can you give me the name and location of the next party? I just need it for research purposes

Lexusgs430:


Do you think Chris Oyakhilome planned for a divorce...... Or you think he did not pray, fast and conduct vigils. ........😂😜

LOL The comments and replies to your standpoint are mostly emotional, not based on reality that you have to prepare for both sun and possible rain based on previous forecasts

hustla:



LOL The comments and replies to your standpoint are mostly emotional, not based on reality that you have to prepare for both sun and possible rain based on previous forecasts

Honestly some people here are funny,
we are talking about what happens when marriage breaks down in the western world and some people are getting worked up about it.

You can be the best husband or wife and work hard to make your marriage work but if your better half thinks otherwise then you have to face the reality.