Georgejeez:
she's gonnnnnneee .

Na now you wan learn say no matter how long dem put pap inside freezer , e no fit turn to Ice-cream

Once she see grab one sweet Oyibo , na to save your number with Co tenant ,, just pray make she de send you Monthly allowance for the baby upkeep

Mindlog:


She should go ALONE, you should get your female relatives or hers to assist in childcare and you should also learn the basics of childcare because you will be 100% involved with taking care of your child here in the UK.

Then after about 6 months, arrangements to join her can start.

Arriving, she should rent a furnished room in a shared house that is bills inclusive. Alongside her sponsored job, she should get a 20hrs per week part time job as allowed by the visa and after about 4 months, she should start looking for a 2 bedroom flat in preparation for the arrival of you and the baby, getting a house for a family is not a day's job.

When you and the baby come over, you will be taking care of the baby when she is at work and you can only go to work when she is off work, this means you will work with her work rota.

Mindlog:


Let her go with the baby....is OP not the child's father and what is the big deal in a man taking care of his baby in the physical absence of the baby's mother?

Mindlog:


Who will be looking after the baby when she is at work?

Mind you a paramedic is not a 9 to 5 job.

samsard:

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

orohbirodeysmel:
Ur own don be. ...

If she come back to you or allow you come over, make I bend.

You don't know 21st Century women abi

BRATISLAVA:
Why must he get a female relative? Why can't he do it, or isn't it his child? Or will he never need to care for his own spawn himself? What he really needs is a mistress, otherwise he wouldn't be asking anyone.

dreamwords:
a 5 month baby needs the mother more than the father at this stage

samsard:
LMAO. You want a man to take care of a 5 month old baby while the mother is alive? Are you normal?

MuslimIgbo:

Some of una, na noodles full una head, instead of brain.
How does a man take care of a 5-months old baby?

casualobserver:



This is what I have been trying to tell him in a nutshell. Every divorce na “I love you” start am.

MuslimIgbo:
Some of una, na noodles full una head, instead of brain. How does a man take care of a 5-months old baby?

MuslimIgbo:

Some of una, na noodles full una head, instead of brain.
How does a man take care of a 5-months old baby?

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

Mindlog:


A Nigerian man was arrested in Birmingham last week by the police for messing up......he was having sex with his wife's 13 year old niece who lived with them and their 2 daughters. I guess na the wife cause am.

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

SonofGod231:
■ Uncle,there are breast milk formulas for zero-six months old babies like Similac and aptamil. I told you of a 14 weeks old baby that the mum absconded coz of money.
The baby survived on breast milk formulas and became even fresher and fatter each day. Expensive though but they can do the job perfectly for a dad.

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

casualobserver:


You are being extreme. You don’t know a woman until she has power over you. Uk is tough place especially for a new settler. It is a regimented environment and you are constantly stressed by bills. You are forever in the work/ bill trap. You dread opening your mail because it’s one bill or another.

It is not the environment where you as a man want to be dependent on your wife. She will start to resent you. Fights will start. She will start alto see normal behaviour as you messing up because the real problem is while the job sounds good on paper, in the cold light of day the pay for a paramedic is not enough.

Where. Is your wife going to stay, where are you going to stay when you get there…room or flat? Rent/ council tax will take half her income, transport/ food and bills will take the rest. She will eventually get frustrated that despite all her work she has no savings left and you are not contributing.

So if you make the mistake of not greeting her properly, you have messed up, She goes to work and comes back and the house is not clean to her taste, you have messed up, even to sleep you are messing up. You are applying for jobs but have not secured One…you have messed up. The baby is crying and you even suggest she looks after the baby after her long shift at work…..yep you’ve messed up. You dare ti ask why she came back late….. you’ve messed up. That’s life in the UK for a man dependent on his wife.

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

Kobojunkie:
Maybe he wishes to argue that a man is incapable of the intelligence required to not follow the directions necessary for making baby formula meals for his child or something.

Mindlog:


I live in Cambridge, UK with my family, so tell me more about how tough living in the UK is.

fykes:
Did you say 5months old?
How do you plan to take care of a 5month old baby?
I will advise you to do whatever it takes to go along with her and the baby.
Or better still let her go with the baby as long as she's not working in London, y'all can survive in the Uk

Mindlog:


She should go ALONE, you should get your female relatives or hers to assist in childcare and you should also learn the basics of childcare because you will be 100% involved with taking care of your child here in the UK.

Then after about 6 months, arrangements to join her can start.

Arriving, she should rent a furnished room in a shared house that is bills inclusive. Alongside her sponsored job, she should get a 20hrs per week part time job as allowed by the visa and after about 4 months, she should start looking for a 2 bedroom flat in preparation for the arrival of you and the baby, getting a house for a family is not a day's job.

When you and the baby come over, you will be taking care of the baby when she is at work and you can only go to work when she is off work, this means you will work with her work rota.