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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by jeromestarks: 9:24am On Nov 11, 2023
Jeon:
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So I am not alone.
Yes ooo.
Bitter, lonely women who have missed their chance for a happy married life ahbi?
My dear, you're with Persephone1 and her likes.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Jflex07(m): 9:24am On Nov 11, 2023
This one thinks so highly of herself. Hasty generalization as if she never had a father who fccked her mum in order to give birth to her..

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 9:25am On Nov 11, 2023
jeromestarks:


Never invest emotionally in a Nigerian woman else you die daily and shortly.

Give her money. Fvck her. Impregnate her. Take care of her children but never attach your emotions to her.

If you do, you're DEAD!
Do not commit to a Nigerian woman. If you do, you're commiDEAD!
make Una leave Persephone. She go grow up. All of them do eventually. She is still a baby. Forgive her. One thing wey go pain me pass na if na Naija guy dey tear her towotow

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by iLoveYouToo(m): 9:25am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands


You're confused at least that's what you wrote points at. Is your grouse against men or society in general (which women also constitute).

...Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.



The latter part of the bolded statement which emanated from you is an indictment of the Nigerian woman.

It proves you reserved the best benefits for the highest bidder

Most Nigerian women are golddiggers. QED

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 9:26am On Nov 11, 2023
Jflex07:
This one thinks so highly of herself. Hasty generalization as if she never had a father who fccked her mum in order to give birth to her..
ask her to upload her pic now. You'd be utterly disappointed. Most of them fall under the same category. No single sense in their heads. Just grammar.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 9:27am On Nov 11, 2023
iLoveYouToo:



You're confused at least that's what you wrote points at. Is your grouse against men or society in general (which women also constitute).

...Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.



The latter part of the bolded statement which emanated from you is an indictment of the Nigerian woman.

It proves you reserved the best benefits for the highest bidder

Most Nigerian women are golddiggers. QED

apt. She was contradicting herself in the same sentence. Nawa

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Sharpsharp00123: 9:27am On Nov 11, 2023
Goodlady:
To butress the op, Nigerian men lacked empathy. Empathy ll place them in the position of not questioning a lady that they are dating or married about finances, gifts, sex etc.
They don't realise that relationship is responsibility. They ll say what your father can't give you, you dey ask from me.
Why you come toast me (woo)?
As I come gree, am I not entitled to your resources?
They also lacked empathy of hurting their wives or female partners deliberately with cheating. They don't put themselves in women's shoe that how ll I feel if she's the one cheating?
Abeg make I no tok talk in order not to be misquoted. πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚ πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ˜‚πŸ’•πŸ’•πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜˜πŸ˜‚
The violence is needed for cleansing of the minds of the reprobate dirty boys here that can't feed themselves but talk anyhow here against females.
so u want to turn to a responsibility to a man simply because he expressed his love for u

Don’t u know u are more like a material possession?
Meaning u can b bought so if I have money to buy one for now then I can always buy 2 more later when I have d money now

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Sedonxavi: 9:28am On Nov 11, 2023
Go marry Oyinbo to go still collect. Don't come here to cry though

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Jflex07(m): 9:30am On Nov 11, 2023
TheFinesseKid:
ask her to upload her pic now. You'd be utterly disappointed. Most of them fall under the same category. No single sense in their heads. Just grammar.
Internet gave them the Leeway to feel so special and entitled. If them dash most men this person now, many naija men go throw way spit, reject her.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by UncleKoboko: 9:31am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands
After so many BODYCOUNT with Nigerian men, this is now your life.

YOU'VE REACHED A POINT IN YOUR LIFE WHERE YOUR MARKET VALUE IS DECREASING.
MOST GUYS NO LONGER WANT YOU FOR SOMETHING SERIOUS, BESIDES THE ONLY THING YOU CAN OFFER - SEX grin grin grin

You think men are fools not to know what usually resort to you girls having this mentality?
IT'S ONLY WHΓ“RES AND SLÚTS THAT SAY MEN ARE TRASH. YOU WILL NEVER SEE A MODEST AND DECENT GIRL SAY THAT NONSENSE.

BUT WHY WOULD YOU GIRLS ALLOW TRASH TO RUN THROUGH YOUR TRASH?

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Quebec91(m): 9:32am On Nov 11, 2023
You said it all in One Piece! πŸ‘
yrhuhfy113:


wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever. grin

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 9:33am On Nov 11, 2023
TheFinesseKid:
Rest.

And deny you the pleasure of following me?


Never.

PepeXKermit:
It did, that means the modnwho took this to fp is not in their right senses..

It definitely didn't.

That anybody can make any claim, nor mean say dem get sense.

To cap, the sensibility of Nlfp.mod is indecipherable because we hardly see him or her sharing their personal opinions on this site. grin
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by CJStarz: 9:33am On Nov 11, 2023
I learnt that women mean the opposite of what they say πŸ˜ƒ

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by iLoveYouToo(m): 9:34am On Nov 11, 2023
TheFinesseKid:
ask her to upload her pic now. You'd be utterly disappointed. Most of them fall under the same category. No single sense in their heads. Just grammar.



Grammar with no sense of direction or even consistency, contradicting herself upandan

As they say: since birds have learned to fly without perching, hunters have learned to shoot without missing (something like that)

Since Nigerian ladies have continued to see men as providers, meal tickets and pension plans, men have decided to stay strategic and gotten even more strategic in their dealings with women folk

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Preservedfish: 9:35am On Nov 11, 2023
Op is a feminist



Don't take her words seriously

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by komzy589(m): 9:36am On Nov 11, 2023
siofra:
They cannot even intelligently counter this post grin
There are some intelligent comments up there. Try to have an open mind even if the tread was created to devalue a man.

You didn’t see the comment about men being wired to always provide. This may tend to reduce their level of empathy because that is now the basis a man is measured with.
I mean think about it. Go back and read the full comment. One of the reasons why most men are working extra-hard to make money is to provide for another adult.
That can have an effect on how he sees that person who’s capable of providing too but chooses to remain a dependent.
If that doesn’t make sense to you then your problem is even bigger than you know.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by RepoMan007: 9:36am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands
try Kenyan or south African men.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by OBIDIENTNAIJA: 9:36am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands
Evening newspapers feeling funky. What an excuse. After searching here on NL to no avail, u decided to switch gear. Hahahahahaha

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by frugal(m): 9:38am On Nov 11, 2023
Starts with "I don't hate men", then goes ahead to produce a drivel full of hate and bitterness. Nigerian women are so perfect! They have no faults.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Olawade24: 9:40am On Nov 11, 2023
pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. Truly you are in the mood to look for trouble. I feel the same way. That is why I looked towards Cambodia.

You have been the one behind my incessant banning.

Omokri!!!
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Spreadlove8888(m): 9:43am On Nov 11, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever. grin

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

You just spoke my mind

Everyone has his own uniqueness

You can't compare all men with one single mentality.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by sandygechy(f): 9:44am On Nov 11, 2023
See tears everywhere🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣🀣
OP,u are entitled to ur opinion and choice jareeeeee

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Ade3131: 9:44am On Nov 11, 2023
yrhuhfy113:


wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.


I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.

SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.

THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....


Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.

Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.

Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever. grin

ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.

God bless you sir.

I believe you've said it all.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Nobody: 9:52am On Nov 11, 2023
All of you will be alright. cheesy

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by mukthar2000(m): 9:55am On Nov 11, 2023
W some Ladies in other countries gave kudos to Nigerian guys you are here typing rubbish, go marry oyinbo man if u can't marry Niger now, once they are done with u within some mother they throw u out like football by then ur eyes go clear that Niger guys are the world best in handling relationship.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Oluwadare316(m): 9:57am On Nov 11, 2023
Whatever makes u happy 😁
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by tosyne2much(m): 9:58am On Nov 11, 2023
pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. Truly you are in the mood to look for trouble. I feel the same way. That is why I looked towards Cambodia.
OP dey find wahala cheesy
Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by sslcrypt: 9:58am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

You were making sense till you ended up making yourself stupid by writing Nigerian men make terrible horseband.
This is foolishness at its peak because have you ever wondered why Nigerian women fail miserably at understand men? Even tho your mothers try instilling discipline, there's always that inbuilt resistance in Nigerian women. I knew some women from very wealthy background but yet they chose to live life of smoking, drinking, drugging and threesoming.
Now I ask myself why? Then came to conclude peer pressure, the Nigerian female child have the weakest mind amongst their peers in other parts of the world.

Their subconscious mind picks up and gulps the good, bad and ugly but yet they choose to go with the bad. Observe certain dress style, you ladies call it envoug or trending. But I call it stupidity because the ability to stand alone is not built into most of you ladies.

Now look at every girl wanting a man to go down on knees and propose, when the women themselves know they have nothing to offer.

Other African women enjoy the presence and relationship with Nigerian men. I have traveled the breath of Africa and I can see this first hand.

Asian and European women love the Nigerian man also. Now the question you should ask yourself, what is wrong with Nigerian women. Your mothers try hard to train you women but it most of the time turns out useless.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Kaido: 10:00am On Nov 11, 2023
Men wey dey marry dey try o

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by olisaokere(m): 10:04am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"

When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.

Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.


Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.

We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.

Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands

Go and marry Oyibo first.then you come out with your analysis with Nigerian Men

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheSuperX(m): 10:04am On Nov 11, 2023
Persephone1:
Example 1

They can't keep healthy intelligent conversations angry
Like we give a damn about you pests, most Nigerian girls are nothing to write home about, very useless and entitled bitches.

You all should be thanking Nigerian men for managing you all, if not all of you will still be single since other African men don't value you pests.

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Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheSuperX(m): 10:07am On Nov 11, 2023
RepoMan007:
try Kenyan or south African men.
The fact is that Kenya and South African men don't want them at all, they all know that they are entitled pests with nothing to offer.

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