| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Little21: 11:42am On Nov 11, 2023 |
After yelling on this thread, they are gonna use paracetamol for the headache they have developed from this thread   4 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by djkaneo(m): 11:47am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands You have been meeting bad men. 1 Like |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by braine(m): 11:47am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands You wrote a lot without actually saying anything. 4 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by plaetton: 11:48am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands Everything you wrote up there is true. However, 100% of it can also be said of Nigerian women. And to prove that Nigerian women are worse than Nigerian men , we see that outside Nigeria, Nigerian men are highly sought after by foreign women because they say Nigerian men are emotionally engaging and resourceful( the exact opposite of what you allege), whereas, outside Nigerian, Nigerian women are hardly desired or sought after by non- Nigerian men. From my experience and what I have seen, I think Nigerian women are more transactional when it comes to relationships and marriage than the Nigerian men. Nigerian women come into relationships and marriage as a means to one end or another, without sowing the vital and necessary emotionally seeds, and then they complain and become resentful when the emotional fruits do not materialize. Nature endowed women with all the tools to emotionally capture a man. If a woman does not first CAPTURE a man emotionally in a relationship, then that relationship is like a house built on sand. " Seek Ye First the kingdom of God, and all other benefits will be added unto ye ". This is my favorite quote to my prospective lovers. 4 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by GLouis: 11:49am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands Alaye if you like no go marry ,be allowing vibrator and Telemundo to be deceiving you 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by cooooooks(m): 11:49am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Nigerian men must do better, have higher standards for themselves, regardless of what they have been conditioned to take as normal. Use this same energy with all posts on NL Mrs. Kobo. Kobojunkie:
Please stop spreading this nonsense! Are these Nigerian men FORCED into these relationships why the women then? 
2. That is relationship commonsense so why paint men as victims of the women when they aren't? 1 Like |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by nigmarelli(m): 11:50am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands Greetings Ma'am. Hope you are doing great? Abeg no vex I want ask how many Nigerian men have you met that made you come up with this conclusion? Are you really sure you looked at this from the place God wants you to see it or this is just your own perception? It's not that I don't see a few points you made here especially the aspect of financial prowess only but that can be subject to both sexes as there are some females who see only men who have the said financial prowess as the in thing too. Well those things are only applicable to those who have lost sight to see what is really important. Thank God by God's grace I pray never to lose sight things that are important. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Nahunger(m): 11:50am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
Example 2
They are too lazy to read, once it is not erotica magazine Lamentations of an evening newspaper, they lodge in hotel with different men every weekend, depend on Nigerian men to pay her bills and can't go 2 days without dem penetrating her, after wasting her flower the men fled and then she opened a book called lamentations 😂😂😂😂 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by thomasjoe(m): 11:51am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
Example 2
They are too lazy to read, once it is not erotica magazine The joke is on you .... You can't give what you don't have and you want what you can't give ...which is love ... 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by thomasjoe(m): 11:51am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands The joke is on you .... You can't give what you don't have and you want what you can't give ...which is love ... 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by cooooooks(m): 11:52am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Na my quote being am back up. She commented something sensible on another thread. Only for me to check her account and see this rubbish. No wonder you and her are buddies. 😁 Magnoliaa:
Persephone!!!!!!! 😂
Which kind mod did you dirty this early Saturday morning? 😭😭
Thread since when? |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Nobody: 11:53am On Nov 11, 2023 |
ukaface:
See them
Y’all are so fast to say ‘ marrying or dating a Nigerian woman is one of the biggest mistakes’ and y’all will be proud to say it while shining teeth, so quick to downgrade Nigerian women
Now person don give analysis why she can’t Mary a Nigerian man and y’all are wailing.
Instead make Una read Wetin she write and try to reason with her, y’all are bashing her. Una think say after fried rice na Una? Mtcheeew
Omo! I reason with you @OP.
You get point jare
Nigerian men lack empathy and compassion. And yes! I blame the society, because all what they know is to ‘ provide’ now e reach to ‘ provide’ them go still Dey complain.
Their hypocrisy stinks to high heavens. Same men that said they don't benefit from Marriage or Nigerian women are useless. They can't take half of what they dish out. Now Nigerian woman don help them solve their mystery they are wailing
The few intelligent ones have developed ways to balance their lives and enjoy their partners while the unthinking typical ones are busy crying on Nl. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by GUNITGuy: 11:56am On Nov 11, 2023 |
You don't know what you have...Men with sense responsibility inspite of the harsh conditions... 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Sillymoderators: 11:57am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Na the upbringing of your father dey wrong not mine! When a man has disappointed you, you come here to cast aspersions on all men!......As if Nigerian women are better, worst set of women on earth. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by potland: 11:57am On Nov 11, 2023 |
Magnoliaa:
Says the one nursing an headache about my restlessness.
When you wear yourself out, you will find the exit out of my Mentions.
useless good for nothing whøre. I pity your future husband |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by almarthins(m): 11:59am On Nov 11, 2023 |
pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. Truly you are in the mood to look for trouble. I feel the same way. That is why I looked towards Cambodia. Cambo wetin? What's going with you people? Na economy make some Nigerian men bad. God give you your own may be else where not Nigeria. I fear this Cambodia wey u just mention o. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by almarthins(m): 12:01pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
nigmarelli:
Greetings Ma'am. Hope you are doing great? Abeg no vex I want ask how many Nigerian men have you met that made you come up with this conclusion? Are you really sure you looked at this from the place God wants you to see it or this is just your own perception? It's not that I don't see a few points you made here especially the aspect of financial prowess only but that can be subject to both sexes as there are some females who see only men who have the said financial prowess as the in thing too. Well those things are only applicable to those who have lost sight to see what is really important. Thank God by God's grace I pray never to lose sight things that are important. 'Nigerian men make terrible horseband" We are not horses na, so how can we be band again na? |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by DWJOBScom(m): 12:01pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:
wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.
I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.
SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.
THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....
Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.
Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.
Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.
ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... [b]BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL.[/b] Money is important for all o But marriage is for everyone who is willing to learn and unlearn. It is designed to open and full of love without personal gain except for the team that is why the Bible says ....2 shall become one. Those with happy marriages gained the lessons and it worked. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 12:02pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Magnoliaa:
You think the embarrassment is my own to bear? Continue showing your cringe-y ass. I will help you. embarrassment? Lmfaaaaaaoooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭🤣😭😭🤣😭😂😂😂😂 |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by okoroemeka(m): 12:02pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
PerfectStranger:
Cry of a lonely girl
the cry is an understatement ,in 30yrs time with no husband or child then the wailing and Lamentations will begin,what the op is missing is the future,men are gradually no longer interested in marriage and even relationship is now transactional 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 12:10pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
cooooooks:
Na my quote being am back up.
She commented something sensible on another thread. Only for me to check her account and see this rubbish.
No wonder you and her are buddies.
😁 Okay. TheFinesseKid:
embarrassment? Lmfaaaaaaoooo🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣😭😭😭🤣😭😭🤣😭😂😂😂😂 You still aren't crying to my satisfaction. Wail those eyeballs out. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by profmallor: 12:10pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Why are some men so angry? I believe she has aired her opinion which she is entitled too. Nigerian men are coveted in many African countries and by many Nigerian woman. Not everyone would like you, thats just the reality. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 12:11pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Magnoliaa:
Okay.
You aren't crying to my satisfaction yet. Wail those eyeballs out. you really wish I was crying? You want it to be true.. so bad huh? 😂😭🤣 It's really amusing that you still don't know why I'm laughing my ass out rn |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by killsmith(f): 12:12pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
They were raised in a dark continent, what do you expect? |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Alusiizizi(m): 12:12pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
2times2:
It's a mutual feeling my dear... Nigerian men feel the same way bout' you.
P.S: didn't read a single line of whatever ya typed up there. Me too, didn't read a single line of what is essentially packaged cow-shit, just the usual wailings of another confused feminist/lesbian. 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Magnoliaa(f): 12:14pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
TheFinesseKid:
you really wish I was crying? You want it to be true.. so bad huh? 😂😭🤣 It's really amusing that you still don't know why I'm laughing my ass out rn This is the best you can do? Tch. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Alusiizizi(m): 12:15pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
yrhuhfy113:
wow, awesome... you are right and have a strong point
A very compeling piece of idea about Nigerian men... sadly its true but wholistically its myopic.
I am not here to make a CASE for men... i acknowledge your expressed thoughts as reality but as INCOMPLETE.
SEE, MEN ARE NOT LOVED UNCONDITIONALLY... We are only LOVED BY MERIT, RAISED AS HUNTERS TO COMPETE AND PROVIDE else we are not competent.
THE THINGS YOU MENTION WE LACK ARE ACTUALLY NOT LACKING BUT SURPRESSED BY THE HARSH REALITIES OF LIFE WE HAVE LIVED THROUGH....
Let me explain... EVEN on the case of wooing or getting a LADY for sex or marriage... LADIES GENERALLY FEEL SAFER WITH A RICH DUDE, THAN A CARING, EMPATHETIC S.O.B. Whyyy because the COUNTRY IS HARD.... and Ladies think of the FUTURE ALOT.
So after being drilled by our parents to always COME FIRST IN CLASS, and being punished for not coming first or not outdoing others.... we now enter a tetiary institution where only the BEST GRADUANDS are assured of jobs or connections... so we have to compete, hustle for money and do everything possible to be among those who thrive or survive.. AFTER YEARS OF LIVING AS A SURVIVOR.... we now marry, with HOOOOOGEE responsibilities, wife and kids... most likely WIFE HAS NOTHING DOING OR EARNS LITTLE YET FEELS ENTITLED TO BE TREATED LIKE A QUEEN.... Then we should let down our GUARD and still be as caring, as emotionally sensitive, as all that you women want us to be??
C'mon sis... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL.
Marry unambitious men from other countries who are not living in the same terrible conditions we have had in NIGERIA... they have emotions to spare, because THEIR FINANCIAL SYSTEM WORKS and is DEPENDABLE... not here. So you can't come here and GENERALIZE, when majority of your GENDER.... WILL CHOOSE SIX CARS OVER SIX PACKS. Pls... have some balance.
Little wonder why MEN are no longer interested in MARRIAGE... because it has become like an orphanage, so baby mama is now what many opt for, so as to retain their freedom. Ladies wanting EVERYTHING yet offering so little JUST BECAUSE THEY EXIST, is the highest form of lowkey witchcraft ever.
ALL MEN ARE NOT THE SAME, ALL WOMEN ARE NOT THE SAME..... MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE..... BUT MONEY IS IMPORTANT TO ALL. Wait, you actually took the time to read that rubbish? You try oo! 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by TheFinesseKid: 12:15pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Magnoliaa:
This is the best you can do? Tch. you're still doing it. 😭😭🤣😭😭omg. I'm close to tears. I didn't know I was dealing with a child. |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Rejouir: 12:16pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Best wishes 1 Like |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Alusiizizi(m): 12:17pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Persephone1:
[i]"Marry a typical Nigerian Man at your own peril"
When I type these words, it's not from a place of hate towards men ( I don't hate anybody) It is from careful analysis of marriages to Nigerian Men which mostly lack genuine love, empathy and kindness. Nigerian Marriages are mostly driven by "needs" and "means" to an end. Too systematic and unnatural and the one with the highest bargaining chip gets the most benefit.
Our mothers didn't teach us enough about Men. They didn't know either until they got married, unfortunately they are still learning about Men too. That is why the popular saying "Ile oko ile eko ni" (Your husband house is a school) is usually the soothing balm to unfavourable experiences a wife has with her husband. One question I always ask myself when I hear these words as parting words of advice for young wife is. Does that mean she is getting married into a strange,unknown and possibly unfavourable world? Why represent her husband as an unending course? And will she ever graduate and be relieved of painful lessons?. Ask these women these questions and they will shake their heads in mockery but the truth is, They weren't taught enough about the Men they are getting married to. How would they when they didn't know who they are either. To understand another person there must be a certain level of self awareness you have reached yourself. This way you have enough level of intelligence to be a perfect judge of character. But when a woman believe all she needs to be is a good cook and good konji reliever then all she will seek is a man who has Kitchen and bed.
Men are the worst in this joke of an institution. Configured to believe all they need to posses is Financial ability to provide. The upbringing of the typical Nigerian Man is very very wrong. Trained with little to no empathy,kindness, self care, sense of belonging, self love but burdened with sense of responsibility brought up like a robot to "provide" only. Most Nigerian men are robotic minded, unable to connect emotionally without aide yet this men are expected to naturally see their brides as a part of themselves. Wishful thinking if you ask me. And when some men luckily achieve this, the society (Men and Women) mock him. Aside this, they don't readily know what they want and are easily tossed by the society.
We create a society devoid of emotional engagement but want the benefits emotions birth. Compassion and affections brings liberty, a man who lacks these will see his wife as his slave and property, he gets to do with her what he seem best and not what is good for her. We really have a long way to go as a Society.
Nigerian Men make terrible horsebands Do you do anal? 2 Likes |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by Wellington123: 12:22pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
Boss u finish work.. what a wonderful response… now let me see how d op will respond to this… Nigerian women are so entitled… u didn’t even mention thier family responsibilities of their parents and younger siblings that their husbands also have to support financially oh.. they think if Nigerian men were not to be stuck with them we would marry them? 1 Like |
| Re: Why I May Not Marry A Nigerian Man (opinion) by dauntless15(m): 12:24pm On Nov 11, 2023 |
pocohantas:
Hahahahaha. Truly you are in the mood to look for trouble. I feel the same way. That is why I looked towards Cambodia. ehn add somalia make e complete 2 Likes |
