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Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 9:09pm On Mar 25
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country.

He told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant.

I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me.

Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born.

I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, I am so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Styluscrib(m): 9:26pm On Mar 25
Please bear it,
Have your baby and
Follow all required process
For him to be convinced he owns
The baby.
For real you will be happy at last.
My heart beat's for your courage.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:27pm On Mar 25
If the baby is his, then you have no right to keep him out of his child's life. That is wrong. Your issues are with him. Don't involve the child in your bitterness as this may lead to your downfall. What if he chooses to fight you through the court system for full custody? Is that something you're up for? Is it even worth it? Swallow your pride & let the man be part of his child's life without your baby mama drama. It's not about you!

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 9:38pm On Mar 25
@XhosaNostra Pls dear read carefully before judging or calling me bitter and tagging me dramatic, coming from a fellow woman, is it okey that he got me in this situation then backed out? To come back wen the storm is over, what sort of man or father is he? What will it cost him to stand by me till is time to confirm his doubt, I hav no issue if he doesn’t even pay the bills but that support mean the world, am new to this no friends or family around but him.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 9:46pm On Mar 25
CiciReally:

@XhosaNostra Pls dear read carefully before judging or calling me bitter and tagging me dramatic, coming from a fellow woman, is it okey that he got me in this situation then backed out? To come back wen the storm is over, what sort of man or father is he? What will it cost him to stand by me till is time to confirm his doubt, I hav no issue if he doesn’t even pay the bills but that support mean the world, am new to this no friends or family around but him.

Well, have it your way. But just know that as a father, he also has as much parental rights as you do, regardless of how you feel or what transpired. Quite frankly, no court cares about feelings. It is in your best interest to adjust your attitude & sort out your feelings before the arrival of the baby because whether you like it or not, co-parenting is a possibility you're going to have to live with for the next 18 years. It's non-negotiable. Oopsie!

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 9:57pm On Mar 25
Thanks , my post is to seek advice not to get judged as i hav not concluded or cut him off yet

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 10:02pm On Mar 25
CiciReally:
Thanks , my post is to seek advice not to get judged as i hav not concluded or cut him off yet

That's not being judgmental, that's being realistic, dearie.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Originalsly: 10:03pm On Mar 25
XhosaNostra:


Well, have it your way. But just know that as a father, he also has as much parental rights as you do, regardless of how you feel or what transpired. Quite frankly, no court cares about feelings. It is in your best interest to adjust your attitude & sort out your feelings before the arrival of the baby because whether you like it or not, co-parenting is a possibility you're going to have to live with for the next 18 years. It's non-negotiable. Oopsie!

@ OP.... the above is the bitter truth. What she advised before .... is very good advice. 95% of guys with that condition will have doubts. That should be expected... you know in your heart you slept with him only.... he cannot know that... that's why he's on pause ..waiting for the DNA results. You are on your own... and in his country.... that's not Nigeria... the baby will be German... father German.... mother Nigerian.... you try denying him time with his child.... he files...he will have custody... where would that leave you? But feel free to return here and lament about feelings and what should be.
Take heed of the above advice. A word is good for the wise.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by JustBeing: 1:01am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country, he told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant, I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me
Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born, I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, iam so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.

Sorry about your predicament. I'll say do what you can for yourself till you put to bed. After your baby is born allow for the DNA testing but weigh your options carefully & be sure you really want to end up with your baby daddy considering the ill-treatment you highlighted.

If you end it up with him or not, that child will always bring you both together so you want to remain civil with your baby daddy.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by dingbang(m): 3:52am On Mar 26
grin so this is the new trick to have sex with a girl without condom

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by aanuoluwami14: 4:02am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country, he told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant, I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me
Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born, I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, iam so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.


He lied to you, also took an advantage of you. Just ignore him and start to take good care of yourself and the baby. You have learnt your lessons

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Gforce2019: 4:32am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country, he told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant, I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me
Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born, I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, iam so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.

The world is full of problem, calamity, woe, cheating , cruelty, deceit, etc. Nobody will likes to experience them but it sometime happens... and it's often caused by people around us.

I'm even tired of all these relationship thing sef because so many relationships are built on falsehood and deceit. You can hardly see true love anymore. It's all about how I can conquer and dominate my partner and leave him/her miserable or encumbered.

My sister, it's so unfortunate that this is not what you bargain for in your relationship, but since it's happened this way, pls summon courage and strength and conquer this challenge.

God will help you.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by ghettochild4u(m): 4:40am On Mar 26
XhosaNostra:
If the baby is his, then you have no right to keep him out of his child's life. That is wrong. Your issues are with him. Don't involve the child in your bitterness as this may lead to your downfall. What if he chooses to fight you through the court system for full custody? Is that something you're up for? Is it even worth it? Swallow your pride & let the man be part of his child's life without your baby mama drama. It's not about you!
Full custody my foot... Which court will grant that for a baby not even toddler.. Use ur brain jor ok I guess u forgot say na abroad dem dey.. Even naija sef.. Which court will do it when d mother is sane n healthy

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by placeofallure(f): 4:51am On Mar 26
CiciReally:

@XhosaNostra Pls dear read carefully before judging or calling me bitter and tagging me dramatic, coming from a fellow woman, is it okey that he got me in this situation then backed out? To come back wen the storm is over, what sort of man or father is he? What will it cost him to stand by me till is time to confirm his doubt, I hav no issue if he doesn’t even pay the bills but that support mean the world, am new to this no friends or family around but him.

I can relate 100% it's really painful when you have nobody around to help you with stuff emotionally and physically, especially when it's your first pregnancy. I have been there and still hold grudges against my in-laws who were supposed to be there for me when it costs them nothing. They're trying hard to make amends now.

Baby girl, you have to be strong for your baby. Ignore whatever tantrums your boyfriend is throwing. Like you said, he would've just tried to be nice pending your delivery to ascertain the paternity of the baby. I know it's not easy to go it all by yourself but what if he's loving and all but died ( God forbid) immediately you took in, won't you survive on your own? Just pretend he doesn't exist for now, gather all the strength you can and forge on. Your baby when he arrives will compensate for all the troubles. Good luck sister.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 4:55am On Mar 26
Thanks so much, just concerned about safe delivery now, definitely won’t be that wicked to deny him right to see his child just that it hurts so much and am stuck with him for long as the child bind us. Ur answers r relieving

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by funmisticqueen(f): 6:16am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country, he told me not to worry that he can’t father a child 90% so since then we been doing it unprotected and I never missed my period for a day, fast forward to after a year plus I missed my period after we spend my birthday together, being that i never cheated, I msg him asking him on scale of 1 to 100 how sure he is that he can’t father a child, he said 90%, I waited for another week still nothing so i did test and behold am pregnant, he was excited and insisted I must keep it as he never got any woman pregnant and it might be his only chance, I was troubled, always scared of 9 months, I hate hospital and all that challenges that come with pregnant, I tried to convince him so we get rid of it but he refused and promised to be there for me
Now 7 months into the pregnancy his behavior changed, from beginning he doesn’t pay for everything i need, hospital bills etc, I do most things on my own cos i felt he’s holding back cos he’s in doubt the baby is his, now flashback to wen i took in he confessed to me how he been going to sm special church in mountain that’s known for helping pple with his issue, prolly God heard his prayer, suddenly he changed, we agreed to get married so my family will get off my neck etc but now he’s giving me conditions, prenup and DNA after baby is born, I have no issue with any of that but how he always bring it up, iam so hurt, I cry daily cos am � sure baby is his, only asked him to support fully as he promised till baby is born but his family and friends discouraging him, now will it be wicked of me to cut him off have my baby send him a pic, have him do DNA then deny him right to own him?? Cos i don’t think i all ever forget how he treated me the time i needed him most.
Dont do prenup. Tell him no prenup if the baby is his or you walk and he will never see the child again. Call him out on his behavior. You dont deserve the treatment you are getting. You have to treaten him and be seroius about it.

What nonsense. Now more than ever you shouldnt be softhearted

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by funmisticqueen(f): 6:18am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Thanks so much, just concerned about safe delivery now, definitely won’t be that wicked to deny him right to see his child just that it hurts so much and am stuck with him for long as the child bind us. Ur answers r relieving
it isnt wickedness but a consequence of his irresponsibility.

Call him out to be a man. It is obvious he doesnt trust you. Call him out simple.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by XhosaNostra(f): 6:50am On Mar 26
ghettochild4u:

Full custody my foot... Which court will grant that for a baby not even toddler.. Use ur brain jor ok I guess u forgot say na abroad dem dey.. Even naija sef.. Which court will do it when d mother is sane n healthy

Then you don't understand how custody works. If she tries to keep him away from the baby, he could file for any type of custody depending on how selfish & spiteful he is. He could claim she's a flight risk or anything really. It happens. Don't underestimate people.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by adamsoghene: 6:53am On Mar 26
He has no right to treat u d way his been doing, u need to do a proper check on him now b4 it's too late because it is obvious he won't be there for u in the future. Give him d hard treatment & watch his attitude, if he doesn't change for good then treat his Bleep up big time. He is too stupid to be taking u forgranted because he doesn't know ur worth.
Teach him a lesson for a life time & be prepare for whatsoever happens, God Almighty will see u through.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Nobody: 6:59am On Mar 26
adamsoghene:
He has no right to treat u d way his been doing, u need to do a proper check on him now b4 it's too late because it is obvious he won't be there for u in the future. Give him d hard treatment & watch his attitude, if he doesn't change for good then treat his Bleep up big time. He is too stupid to be taking u forgranted because he doesn't know ur worth.
Teach him a lesson for a life time & be prepare for whatsoever happens, God Almighty will see u through.

Thanks so much, I really appreciate, hopefully I will do what’s best for my baby and i, I dunno how to use this app yet, emails and private msg @adamsoghene

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by adamsoghene: 7:14am On Mar 26
Funny enough most of the white homes are like this (broken children upbringing). Pls be wise & act fast, beside u need all the love ❤ & care u can get in the world right now. It's not easy carrying an extra life inside of u not to talk of the day of delivery. U honestly need ur love ones now & ur family to see u through it all irrespective of whose interests u want to protect. If need be, u can speak to his parents (mum) if u know her or have her contact or moved over to his parents place to be properly looked after for now. Heaven will strengthen u d more in ur quest for greatness & surely u will deliver safely In Jesus Name, Amen. Remain bless !
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by BareFacedLies: 7:22am On Mar 26
adamsoghene:
Funny enough most of the white homes are like this (broken children upbringing). Pls be wise & act fast, beside u need all the love ❤ & care u can get in the world right now. It's not easy carrying an extra life inside of u not to talk of the day of delivery. U honestly need ur love ones now & ur family to see u through it all irrespective of whose interests u want to protect. If need be, u can speak to his parents (mum) if u know her or have her contact or moved over to his parents place to be properly looked after for now. Heaven will strengthen u d more in ur quest for greatness & surely u will deliver safely In Jesus Name, Amen. Remain bless !

How many white people have you been to their homes to know that they are broken?

What statistics do you have to support your claims?

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by faithfull18(f): 8:48am On Mar 26
Hmmn.
Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by santavonna: 8:49am On Mar 26
CiciReally:
Hello every one, am new here, I hope I can get advice and answer to my confusion and challenge

I been dating my man for almost 2 years, Am Nigerian he’s german, he was open to me from beginning about having some infertility issue, he opened up after we had sex unprotected one day and i was worried about him getting a pill because it happened in his country.

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by CunnyLinguist: 8:49am On Mar 26
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Just read the whole story and i am going to be a FEMINIST for this one


1. He scammed you into skin-to-skin sex

2. He probably isn't desperate for the baby, he is playing on your intelligence.

3. Don't mind the dumb advice that the baby can be talen from you.... in Europe, the West, you have greater rights over the child except he proves you are irresponsible and can't take care of the child.

Dont sign ANYTHING!

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Re: Infertile Boyfriend Mysteriously Impregnates Girlfriend by Opinedecandid(m): 8:49am On Mar 26
Hmmm

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