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PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

I'm planning to go see my in-laws too...how many days did u stay there

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

omg... you are not wise and come across as corky. i pray the poor girl is able to dodge you.
You don't choose gifts people give you, you appreciate and collect the gift, which you can give to someone else if you don't like it. Drivers, gatemen, etc. Also, it is not the material gift that matters, but the thought and kindness behind it. And lastly, even if you are to be corky, it is not before your future in-laws or any family member.
Please that your fiancee should run ooooo, because you are annoyingly stup!d

Dem never grind beans my guy say moi-moi don dey smell, what a mess!

You never marry before, you dey argue symbolism of gifts with your elders, how wise of you! If that is how you intend to argue every step of the way to the altar, just rest now till you're matured enough!

yoniehuin:
Na man you be

You know your worth and i like your courage

Giving a visitor 2 slice of bread is an insult and not a good thing

It's 2 loaf and not 2 slice

He is traveling a long distance (pH back to Lagos) so it not out of place for the prospective mother in law to give him something that might come in handy in the journey

She definitely will have given her daughter same if her daughter is going on long journey too

PuZZyNegro:
I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

Personally it's weird for an in-law to give a son in-law bread. Who does that? Jezz! Personally I won't even accept anything. Na me supposed dey give them gifts not the other way round.

However, in your case, you're supposed to buy them bread bro. It's the normal Nigerian custom thing. Na U supposed buy them that bread but because U thought you're in the west you decided to buy them biscuit. Dey play

Why U go visit your future in-law without the girl being there? She didn't tell U about her family ways or what exactly? Una never serious.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Your attitude is as a result of moral decay and lost traditional values in our society today. Despite your wrong altercation and unacceptable action your inlaw to be, you still have the got to report them here. My brother, you deserve to be scolded.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

U went to visit ur future inlaw without her present? Indeed u started your papa Ajasco with drama and little wonder it ended in drama.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You didn't act wisely. That's a disrespect to your in laws. Your reason for the rejection even makes it worse.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

I'll just believe you made this story up if not, it'll mean you no get orientation at all honestly. That so called common bread is a symbolic gesture to show that they appreciate your coming there, some people give other foodstuff like garri or plantain bunches or palm oil but the message is still the same. If you can't appreciate little gestures, I'm sorry, you'll have regular problems in your marriage by the time see finish has happened. Please call and apologize

Empathic yes, op you should have collected the bread.
👇🏾

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

Mad oo.

They gave you gift and you rejected it.

Mad o

Small nursery school test wey dem set for you, you fall like dodo

Why u first dey buy biscuits for your inlaws?

Na Beta gbege dey wait for u so

Whatever your in-laws gives you, you take it.
Its very disrespectful to reject gifts from them.

They prepare better elder for ground make e help you when the time reach sha

You are still a young man. Probably you have no life experience.
Do u know what it means to renect gift from your in-law to be?

Abeg fine way and correct that mistake. Even if it was palm kernel nuts u could have collected.
What ever u do with it is left for u.

Or she is passing a message to u that next time buy bread not biscuits

Guy you f*ck up big time. Go apologize to your inlaws.

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You give biscuit n juice, they reciprocate by given you bread.

Your in-law try you are the problem here.

PuZZyNegro:
It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

what of if her family found ur own biscuits gifts awkward bt yet in other to accept u decided to accept ur awkward gifts?

what is doing u is what we call "I too know" or over sabi.

PuZZyNegro:
It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

You find bread awkward but didn't find biscuits and juice awkward, what an irony.

fyzaila:
My opinion is different, i totally did not see anything wrong in what the op did. He said, the in-laws offered them food and they ate it. Isn't that already sign of trust and acceptance from his own part as a potential son in-law? Is it now turning down the bread offered that is now a crime?

I'm a female, i wouldn't see anything wrong if my finace did what op did. I would only be hurt if he visited them without eating they food the offered. Because they must have taken their time to prepare it for his visit.

Op don't feel any bad, let them all be castigating you as you kill person. If your girlfriend like, let her use that flimsy thing as an excuse not to marry you again. It wouldn't be your loss 😌

Read the reason he rejected the gift first before commenting

PuZZyNegro:
You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

Irrespective of where you take it to.
It's a gift from your prospective in-laws and gift from someone who is much older and meant well for you. You shouldn't have rejected it.
It is too loaves. You could show appreciation and tell them wow this is very plenty o and they ware very generous to give you too bread.
But one will be sufficient fo you and your friend

Maturity is far from this one........

PuZZyNegro:
It's not about it being local or little. The Bread was gotten from Market Square super market. I just find it awkward giving bread to your son-in-law to be on the first meeting.

Gifts are symbolic you know.

were u expecting a car

PuZZyNegro:
You guys are just foaming in the mouth. These people already served us food and we ate.

I don't really think we need bread again to take home.

Your ego too much, accept you made a mistake, learn from your mistake and stop arguing.

Biola67:
Maybe the mama see how you quick chop the first food finish .. she see say you dey hungry

Red flag husband. Making an issue out of nothing, accept the bread and dash hungry people on the road. Someone that bought biscuit as gift dey complain about bread hahaahah

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

You never see wife

PuZZyNegro:
I accept I would have collected it. My friend told me that but I needed a broader opinion

What if they rejected your own gift?

O proud na you bring matter and people are telling you wat you did was wrong you re till arguing, using strong head like Fan Ndubisi.

Ginaz:
You are a shame to your family cos it's obvious you were not trained properly from home. that's why you are going about behaving like a badly raised child in a grown man's form.

go and apologise and stop being so stupid.

Abegi e never reach like that, yeah he should have collected it. But the way the parents immediately told thier daughter and her reaction is even a more reason for serious concern. U can refer to his actions as a mistake but can we refer to girls deliberate insults or angry talk as a mistake.

Honestly you should have collected it ,out of love at least na your in law... It's normal bro just call her and tell her you are sorry that you were just shy ..Finish

osazsky:
were u expecting a car

The annoying thing be say the mumu no still want take correction, he is still arguing

PuZZyNegro:
I traveled from Lagos to Port Harcourt to see my future in laws family. My girl wasn't around as she's still in Lagos schooling.

I went there with a family member and got them some items like shortcake biscuits and juice.

They offered us food and we ate. After the meeting and normal questioning, we were set to go when surprisingly, this people brought out two loaves of bread and gave us. I told them that the food we ate was enough, that we don't need the bread.

We haven't even gone far when my girl started texting me on WhatsApp angrily asking me why I rejected her mother's gift. That she gave it out of love, this and that.

I told her that bread is the wrongest gift the mother could give me. I am supposed to buy them bread and not the one way round. I intentionally refused to buy bread for them because I assumed bread is an everyday food that people buy and eat, so I decided to go with the package biscuits instead and here they are offering me bread.

If it were something produced locally by them like coconut or something, I can understand but bread?

Please, did I do anything wrong rejecting the bread?

How exactly??
This crazy and arrogant Gen Z people. Una don already reach to marry, abi? Nawaoo, see children of yesterday.

My own generation would have smiled, collected it and profusely thanked her, but trashed it on our way home.

Now, you've created an unnecessary enemy.

SMH for this misguided Gen Z folks.

Something you should have collected and joke about tearing it apart with beans later in the day.