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Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 9:27pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Lemme pray this in my dialect 'Ki oluwa maa fi ona ati je wa sibi ti o nira ' God abeg ! Na beg I dey beg ooo 🤲 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:28pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
goodmike7:exactly what I told her. Op stop giving them.carry that money go buy Christmas clothes for your mom, send money to your dad,buy shoes for your brother, take your sister out and spoil them,go to the hospital and ask for those patients who cannot pay hospital bills to by discharged and pay them, support the church in envangelism.stop feeding ungrateful people otherwise they'll bite you.as you can see there are even people like them supporting your neighbour and accusing you of playing god.you will know they're her type.you don try.now Chanel that money to your family and face front |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 1Sharon(f): 9:29pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Fountainofyouth: Since everything is a hazard. Why bother trying to keep yourself safe at all? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 9:30pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY: They will curse you if you're a baby mama and constantly remind you how you're a second hand item which has lost its value. atleast I nor dey worry about wenti my pikin go chop for this wicked economy. Make i enjoy the ignorance of not having a child yet. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:30pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:as you dey pray to God tell him to also give you the spirit of gratitude and take away the spirit of ego and entitlement when he eventually sends your helper to you make you no use your character chase away your helper like op's neighbour with her lousy and bad character |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:31pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:as you dey pray to God tell him to also give you the spirit of gratitude and take away the spirit of ego and entitlement when he eventually sends your helper to you make you no use your character chase away your helper like op's neighbour with her 6 kids and lousy bad character |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 9:32pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY: I don stop now. thanks for standing with me o. I nor fit shout. I've heard all you have said. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:34pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:you dey mind them Madam those people castigating you and saying what you did is wrong are people exactly like your neighbour.they are people who like leeching on others and when they are called to accountability,you now see their full fledged character.you can see for yourself why you should Chanel your resources on your siblings and parents,let her look for her help go front |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:38pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:anybody dey just enter NL dey cap rubbish talk is cheap Na for nl person go say Na him get banana island,Na him build all the bridges for Germany,Na him dey supply Donald Trumps suit Talk is cheap on nl jare |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 9:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:Are you saying your sense of gratitude should involve "enslaving your kids for food" ? Sometimes I wonder why you lots think you MUST receive where you SOW. Isn't this the genesis of "nothing goes for nothing" "you must offer something in return for anything you get" . It's really funny how you lot replace selflessness with selfishness. I have been helped in the past, I didn't pay back immediately but I held them close to my heart. Recently I reached out to the lady who helped me, she was in need and I was fortunate to help out and promised to do more for her. Would i have helped her when she had nothing now if she had made me washed her panties or run errands for her because she helped me. Most of you are just so narrow minded that you believe you should be served because you rendered help oh scratch that you INVESTED . She wasn't held at gunpoint to help anyone, if her help means enslaving her FRIENDS kids then she should stop it. Even the bible says whenever you help your left hand shouldn't know. Sadly here is one who is calling her supposed friend to send her kids over to run errands because she "helps" them. Hain! The lady didn't chase her away, nah op dey chase herself. Lol... No worry leave me and God... Change your own mentality first! 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 9icetoo(m): 9:42pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:Sometimes, it is better to keep silent and be thought to be wise than to open the mouth waaaaa and dismiss all doubts. Carry on ma. You and sambarry can do all you wish to people's kids just cos you are fortunate enough to give them hot meals every once in a while. This life sha. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:49pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
9icetoo:yinmu I love children but I Will never feed anybody's entitlement or ingratitude.even the Bible says the Lord resists the proud and gives grace to the humble and one of the elements of pride is ingratitude,ego and entitlement.besides there's a difference between being kind and being foolish Op like I said,carry that money and buy your mom Christmas clothes, send money to your dad, spoil your siblings and spend on your family and loved ones they'll appreciate it better and pray for you That includes supporting the church financially.if you continue enabling the entitled n them go turn around to bite you and the same nlders will be here to laugh at you and drag you.you already know how caustic they are. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 9:53pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:running errands means enslaving kids? Tufiaaaa.did I say you must do tit for tat.i know you understand what I mean,you just want to misconstrue it but I will not indulge you Nothing wey person no go see for NL o Anyway to each his own.you can keep encouraging leeches till you learn the hard way.by the way who dey hold you and God Even God helps those who will change first before he gives to them.no go read your Bible |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 10:04pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:Yes it is, sending kids errands, calling kids or asking parents to send their kids over so you can send them errands is downgrading and disrespectful. It's like you reminding them of their condition and rubbing it in. For a minute think of this from the woman's perspective! No mother will be happy with that not even you! I'm not misconstruing, there's absolutely nothing to misconstrue here we are simply seeing from different perspective. So not indulging is a wise decision. Yes nothing wey person no go see for Nl, because lot of you in support of Op will act exactly the way the mother did and even more if you were in her position. Help and forget! If you can't, make it a business deal with clear terms and conditions. Don't make someone go to bed in tears because you decided to "help" Leeches? Again i ask, was Op held at gunpoint to help? In times she couldn't help was she resented for it? Leeches you say! This is terrible! 4 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by 9icetoo(m): 10:08pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1: As simple as that. Kudos. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 10:20pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
9icetoo: you dey wise how your life don go? |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 10:21pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
9icetoo:Don't mind these people, they think life is all black and white... Balance is required in everything one does in this life, as you think of yourself rendering assistance also think of way of doing in a non offensive or belittling way. It's very simple. Going through the thread from Op's responses I realize she's not giving with humility and if she's a Christian like her friend has been calling God's name everywhere she should know how that is bad and dangerous. Give and let go.... Very simple! My dad taught me this and I enjoyed benefits of his good deeds years after. He would house students back then without requesting for a dime. Sometimes strangers we don't know, some with chop and carry bumbum without looking back but that didn't stopped him. Guess what, one of those students is my business partner and he has really helped me with building my business. That is life. If you can't help, no one is holding you for it but don't help and siddon there! Phew! 2 Likes |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Magnoliaa(f): 10:29pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Davidoff2000: 10:35pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Offpointng: Dont mind the useless entitled woman maswurading as helper. Very entitled woman..may we never be in a postion to accept help from that ginaz woman. Tufiakwah 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 10:36pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1: your hypocrisy is very disgusting. why didn't you stop one of those students from helping you With your business ? why are you enjoying his inputs rather than letting go or cover your ears when he tells you all the juicy details you needed to know? so how is your so called christainity different from mine since you also have enjoyed from the proceeds of kindness you gave out? remove the forest from your eyes before you point at the grass in mine. it's you who show is showing humility right? are you not exploiting the student cos he's giving out info you should have paid for. he's building your business and its sweeting you, but mine is not good based on your twisted way of reasoning right? 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Davidoff2000: 10:39pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz: You are a very stewpeed woman..ashweaer to God..i hv never seen someone as dumb as you. May God protect us all from gettimg help from a devil like you. Better not to 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 10:43pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Davidoff2000: Tufiakwah on your head. it's people like you will criticise king David who took Jonathan's son from nothing to be eating at his table but when he found out Jonathan's son didn't accompany him to flee from his son Absalom he gave his inheritance to his servant. what do you have to say about what David did? If Its in this modern world I know you will say David is wicked and abused him. you people don't care about nobody apart from what you gain from them. it's only about your needs and wants, never mind if the giver is hurt. Una go open mouth waaaa, begin talk rubbish. you that is talking can't put 5 kids at once in your house to feed for 2days let alone 4weeks. Tufia on your mango head. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 10:46pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Davidoff2000: Your stupidity is an embarrassment to sloths which are the most stupid animals. shut up your rubbish mouth and go to bed. you're mistaking everyone to be stupid as you. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 10:47pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:Was I the one who helped the students? is how low your brain capacity is? Was that the only thing you could get from the story? Anything to justify yourself I guess! . If I had requested he washed our plates or sing abusive songs like someone like you would have would he be of help to me years later? Your problem is delayed gratification, you can't just wait! You believe because someone did it to you it is the right and single way to go about life. You have tried so much to justify yourself on this thread that i doubt if your intentions were pure from the beginning! Na your type dey show up on outreach day to snap pictures and carry volunteer label while you do nothing! Lol see me ooo I dey help my poor friend with her 6 kids . Where's the hypocrisy in what I wrote, you just wan talk. Which proceed? Which help I gave out? Better go back to that post and read with a clear mind! Aunty if you want to break the friendship with your friend, go on. Your grouse is with the mother not the kids! Leave the kids out of your repayment plan, you fit send their mama go market if you like! She said exploit like she's my secretary and she sees us talk business You do have a creative imagination . Anyways... okay no ways... I owe you no explanation . So kids running errands for you is your priority? The best gain you can ever get. Bottom line is leave the kids out of your repayment plan. Move on. 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 10:50pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:continue. Pele o saviour of the world.you go soon learn the hard way them never press am for your eye before You soon jam op neighbour type but I know you will be too ashamed to talk Oshi rata marayo 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 10:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:lmaooo Na them.fly monkeys everywhere.this is exactly like the op's neighbour.she is defending the neighbour because it's her type that's always feeling entitled on top of another person's thing. Op have you seen another reason to face front? Leave the woman at her 6 burdens alone and face your front oooo I am sure your family also needs your assistance.i am sure if you call your sister once she will answer you twice.now this should teach you a lesson that before you help first study the behaviour of the person and know whether he/she has characteristics similar to these clowns on NL justifying mediocre behaviour before you know whether or not to help 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 10:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1: hahaha you're shifting post o. see person who is saying her dad taught her to help and let go, why didn't you follow the instruction of letting go of your student's knowledge. Why abuse the fact cos your dad helped him it meant you would now exploit his knowledge to grow your business? isn't it the same thing you're accusing me of doing to my friend's kids? the similarity is glaring. look at how you perfectly made excuse for yourself that it wasn't you who helped your student so it justified you using the student to build your business cos of your dad's help? if we go by the narrative here , you're as guilty as you charged me. same similarity of reaping off from help rendered. You should have let go of receiving the help, I guessed your it's nice to see a |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 10:56pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:Says the person who have been calling God's name like tomorrow no dey Now you mock selflessness and expect me to take you seriously? Nahhhh when I help i move on, I will not be expecting the person and his or her generations to serve my lineage . Help and move on, no turn Mario there. It's that simple! Later una go dey complain of how unkind people are or how they make everything about money and favour. Una go complain of being objectified because you need help. Nah like this everything dey start. Palapala iwa apala 1 Like |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 11:00pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Ginaz:shebi I told you If they cannot see anything to justify their parasitic behaviour after calling them to accountability, insults Will follow.this is so typical of fly monkeys. Like Nigerians like their leaders.a lot of Nigerians are as wicked as their leaders. |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Ginaz(f): 11:01pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1: says madam righteousness who is reaping her student based on the help her father gave. she's building her business from someone's sweat of information and sees nothing wrong from enjoying the proceeds. Kettle calling pot black. let go of the business Information that your student is giving you. stop exploiting based on your father's help. Clear the river from your eyes first before telling me to clear drops from my eyes. 🎤 |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by Nobody: 11:04pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
SAMBARRY:I'm defending the woman because I know people like you who take advantage of other people's vulnerabilities. People like you would will maltreat the poor and needy because you are privileged enough to have more than them. People like you who turn themselves to almighty because they are able to render little help. I defend the woman because people like you will turn her kids to maids and maltreat them because you believe you own them. Op couldn't even talk to the woman to confront her, she blocked means of communication and possible reconciliation just to come to Nl to rant of her goodness. And mumu you saw no wrong in that. How does this make sense? Op you do whatever with her stipend, no one cares. We wouldn't know if she doesn't bring it here. If you need a nanny, employ one! It's very very simple! 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: was I Wrong In Wanting To End Friendship With My Friend? by SAMBARRY: 11:04pm On Nov 23, 2023 |
Persephone1:yes o I have to call God's name since you brought religion into the matter Help and move on.pele o.mother Theresa of Africa I no know say to now send children Na insult only in nigeria This one still dey lala land who told you people don't do things for a purpose? As per you wan outdo Jesus? Oni Kati Kati 1 Like |
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