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Re: What Can I Do About This by Vj15(m): 11:27am On Dec 16, 2023
NewDea4:


Kai! If you tell her she fit break ya head o!
grin
Re: What Can I Do About This by Larrydasilva(m): 11:29am On Dec 16, 2023
You still have a long place to go as an errand boy and a little earner to cope with a banker of that status. What if you approach her and she reported you to along the line, then you find yourself to be blame.

It's normal to develop an interest but you just have to proactively consider the consequences. There are still lots of girls you will meet in the future when you are financially fit and ready to care for them.
Re: What Can I Do About This by jice(m): 11:32am On Dec 16, 2023
Stay clear and concentrate on your future while you are there. Don't let emotions destroy your happiness
Re: What Can I Do About This by obayendo1010(m): 11:33am On Dec 16, 2023
Offpointng:


What forest area in Nigeria should he be looking at?? SW or SS??
Lol, werey even bold the forest trade grin grin

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Re: What Can I Do About This by Tealcrestmedia(m): 11:33am On Dec 16, 2023
It's not even advisable to date your colleague of equal standing. Be careful so you don't lose your job. You don't tell someone of love out of the blue, you must first build chemistry and everything will fall in place if it's meant to be.
Re: What Can I Do About This by Tonytonex(m): 11:35am On Dec 16, 2023
Focus. You are not there to fall in love. Can you take care of her needs.

Without money, forget about love.
Re: What Can I Do About This by Superpack589: 11:35am On Dec 16, 2023
post=127510120:
NaijaÇover is following
Monitoring spirit. Na everywhere them must see you?

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Re: What Can I Do About This by Tonytonex(m): 11:38am On Dec 16, 2023
Stamina777:
Please what do you mean by this
this is a childish question.
Re: What Can I Do About This by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 11:38am On Dec 16, 2023
obayendo1010:

Lol, werey even bold the forest trade grin grin
He wan carry am go Express!!! grin grin
Re: What Can I Do About This by SonofGod231: 11:38am On Dec 16, 2023
Exceed15:



You are very stupid to say if he was not ashamed to work as cleaner. Other point you raised made some sense. Would u have preferred he pointed gun on your face and rob you ? Infact you should be given the most foolish person on NL.
His advice was very lucid.
The Op should work on himself first before chasing women and should be able meet the requirements of what he requires. Poor guys always come last. It's not like the lady in question was giving him greenlight. He should better wash this jonsin off his eyes.Smh

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Re: What Can I Do About This by FinidiGeorge: 11:38am On Dec 16, 2023
aremubabs:




I am talking about friendship. Any of them can initiate, and seeing that he is the one who is in love, he should go ahead and try.




There is a lot to learn about her from merely trying to be her friend. He can learn about how she views people who are below her on the organizational chart.




My wife was assistant HM (ceremonial) when I got employment to the school. In fact, it was she who supervised my micro teaching and practically recommended me for employment. I didn't really notice her at the time because I merely assumed that she was married. But one day, I just looked at her long enough and fell in love.




As Assistant HM, she was also in charge of approving or rejecting lesson notes. So, I started from there. I made sure to write my lesson notes on time. I was always the first to submit. And when she made any corrections, I followed it to the letter because I had overheard her once telling someone that she liked people that were teachable.





There was also another duty of hers that I took seriously. She was in charge of planning assembly schedules and other extracurricular activities like drawing a chart for teachers on duty. Whatever week I was on assembly duty, I made the most of it. Assembly started early and ended 5 minutes to first period. At a point, you would often hear her say that "I like when Mr___ is on duty. No stress."





Mind you, the academic gap was there too. She had an NCE and a bachelor's. I was still in my last year because I got university admission late in life.





But I didn't let all these things deter me. I knew I could not just walk up to her and tell her I loved her. I made her like me. Did everything the way she liked it.





Whenever I was on afternoon duty, she always left school at closing time feeling confident that the school was in safe hands until the last child had been picked up. With other teachers, she had to stay until the last child was picked up because of a previous incident of kidnapping.

Whenever she was on afternoon duty herself, I would stay with her to watch over the children until the last one had been picked up. Then, I would help with shutting the gates.

She is my wife today cheesy
Bad guy... Dangerous hunter cheesy grin grin I salute o.
Re: What Can I Do About This by Juniorangel(m): 11:40am On Dec 16, 2023
This Op get serious malaria... Pls someone close to him should go and check him.
Re: What Can I Do About This by HOSTCOM(m): 11:41am On Dec 16, 2023
Don't do it...cos it may land you in mess. Get money first my brother and all other things shall follow.
Re: What Can I Do About This by tonee45: 11:42am On Dec 16, 2023
That girl will reject you, don't insult yourself, every woman wants their man respected; so you want her to be seeing her other colleagues sending her guy on errands. Boy you better get your straight. Upgrade yourself, that should be your focus.

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Re: What Can I Do About This by Leilami: 11:42am On Dec 16, 2023
All of you advising the poster to go ahead, if the banker was your sister, what advice would you give her?

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Re: What Can I Do About This by iajour(m): 11:43am On Dec 16, 2023
Instead mk u learn how to spell school cert wey u spell as start, u wan toast woman🀣🀣

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Re: What Can I Do About This by sylve11: 11:44am On Dec 16, 2023
TheFreshVanilla:
This is what happens when you watch those youtube Nollywood movies like "How A Poor Cleaner Captured D Heart Of Her Banker Boss". Try your luck. Na slap you go chop.


Normal clickbait. grin cool
Re: What Can I Do About This by garriAndsugar: 11:44am On Dec 16, 2023
Dennisochampa:
......
Question bro....
If your elder sister brings a 24 yrs old cleaner colleague of hers home for marriage.....
A guy she's clearly older than.... Will u, as a loving brother support her decision??
He will definitely upgrade himself before thinking of marriage
Re: What Can I Do About This by Leilami: 11:45am On Dec 16, 2023
spinna:
Forget it..and don't be naive..you a cleaner, are in 'love' with a bank staff.

You have no rapport or friendship with her yet you are already in love

No be love be that

Build yourself ..if you plan to further your study do so

If you want to shoot your shot with banker lady go for friendship first..be her gee.. Have good banter ..cracking jokes with her and leave it at that until you have finished school..then if the friendship is still in place you can try to upgrade it to dating since you are now on same mental and education level

To have friends , you need to be friendly.. but be careful of making bad friends because they can easily wreck your life

But being socially awkward is a no..a man must be confident in every situation.

I advice you to go to school .you can gi for a banking related field in the higher institutions..meanwhile start learning about it now .being in the bank as a cleaner you can still become a bank MD if you work hard and believe in yourself


Foggerrabout love with the girl but try if you guys can be office buddies i.e strictly friends ..do not pressure her in any way or you will lose the job

Build yourself ..become more outgoing..know the Lord now in your youth..be involved in your church units and evangelism where you can build up your self confidence and speaking skills

Its well with you

Of course, he is not in love with the lady. He is just lusting at her beauty. If she was hawking under the hot sun, you think he would notice her?
Re: What Can I Do About This by VeeVeeMyLuv(m): 11:47am On Dec 16, 2023
FinidiGeorge:

Bad guy... Dangerous hunter cheesy grin grin I salute o.
That's a different case, you can't compare female teacher and female banker. These are two different personalities.

Teacher is nurturing, caring. The profession bring out the best quality of feminine nature

But on the other hand, βœ‹ most of the female bankers are downright rude, cocky, egotistical

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Re: What Can I Do About This by ufotunang: 11:47am On Dec 16, 2023
Try your luck...she can accept your love proposal...there are ladies that like handsome and cute guys no matter the level the guy is or whether you are a cleaner.
Re: What Can I Do About This by MT: 11:48am On Dec 16, 2023
Ballzproblem2:
is he not a human being? na una type they push youths into crime

Even the Bible says iron sharpeneth iron.

The dude is about to punch above his weight.

He should concentrate on adding values to his life.

He is about to self destruct.

Too much of Nollywood movie will make anyone believe that a cleaner is deserving of a bank Manager .

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Re: What Can I Do About This by Leilami: 11:48am On Dec 16, 2023
garriAndsugar:

He will definitely upgrade himself before thinking of marriage



So you would advise your sister of marriageable age to wait to put her life on hold and wait for a younger guy to grow up
Financially
Emotionally
Mentally etc
Knowing fully well age is not on her side and the young guy tomorrow may come to nairaland land and be advised to go for a younger lady.

Very funny

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Re: What Can I Do About This by Leilami: 11:49am On Dec 16, 2023
Dennisochampa:
......
Question bro....
If your elder sister brings a 24 yrs old cleaner colleague of hers home for marriage.....
A guy she's clearly older than.... Will u, as a loving brother support her decision??

Thank you! I already asked this question before seeing you already asked.
Don't mind them.
Re: What Can I Do About This by SaintUlot: 11:49am On Dec 16, 2023
aremubabs:




I am talking about friendship. Any of them can initiate, and seeing that he is the one who is in love, he should go ahead and try.




There is a lot to learn about her from merely trying to be her friend. He can learn about how she views people who are below her on the organizational chart.




My wife was assistant HM (ceremonial) when I got employment to the school. In fact, it was she who supervised my micro teaching and practically recommended me for employment. I didn't really notice her at the time because I merely assumed that she was married. But one day, I just looked at her long enough and fell in love.




As Assistant HM, she was also in charge of approving or rejecting lesson notes. So, I started from there. I made sure to write my lesson notes on time. I was always the first to submit. And when she made any corrections, I followed it to the letter because I had overheard her once telling someone that she liked people that were teachable.





There was also another duty of hers that I took seriously. She was in charge of planning assembly schedules and other extracurricular activities like drawing a chart for teachers on duty. Whatever week I was on assembly duty, I made the most of it. Assembly started early and ended 5 minutes to first period. At a point, you would often hear her say that "I like when Mr___ is on duty. No stress."





Mind you, the academic gap was there too. She had an NCE and a bachelor's. I was still in my last year because I got university admission late in life.





But I didn't let all these things deter me. I knew I could not just walk up to her and tell her I loved her. I made her like me. Did everything the way she liked it.





Whenever I was on afternoon duty, she always left school at closing time feeling confident that the school was in safe hands until the last child had been picked up. With other teachers, she had to stay until the last child was picked up because of a previous incident of kidnapping.





Whenever she was on afternoon duty herself, I would stay with her to watch over the children until the last one had been picked up. Then, I would help with shutting the gates.





She is my wife today cheesy


I was following this your suspense filled story with keen interest, until you decided to wrap it up hurriedly. Abeg we need the detail story. It is very important.
Re: What Can I Do About This by vickydevoka(m): 11:50am On Dec 16, 2023
Stamina777:
Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time cry

Please what should I do
She will never agree. Unless she very old or ugly. Nigeria ladies dating are like business transactions. Only guys date blindly or solely on beauty.
A very fine neighbour of mine have lots of handsome male friends that comes around sometimes to sleep with her when ever she's honey but when she wants to marry whe went and marry a 45 year old ugly witch men.
Women apply sense die when it comes to marriage. Not all though, mostly the beauty ones

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Re: What Can I Do About This by SimonRose(m): 11:53am On Dec 16, 2023
TheFreshVanilla:
This is what happens when you watch those youtube Nollywood movies like "How A Poor Cleaner Captured D Heart Of Her Banker Boss". Try your luck. Na slap you go chop.
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Re: What Can I Do About This by SirLakes: 11:56am On Dec 16, 2023
pansophist:


Should he go and thief?

There is always someone who will do the menial jobs, and for now, it is him. His situation can change for the better, and such is life.

Dont shame a hardworking person, its disgusting.

There are no other cleaners he can go chyke, na hin superior dey enter hin eyes grin grin

Dey play grin grin
Re: What Can I Do About This by madmelon: 12:00pm On Dec 16, 2023
You wan lose your errand boy job? Face your job post=127505414]Hello nairalanders, please I need your advice on this. I work in a bank as a cleaner and I go on errands for bankers in the bank. Am 24 year old and I only have my school start with me. I have an ambition to further my education though.

So their is this lady banker I like so much. I do go on errands for her. She is in her youthful age too but might be a little older than I do. I love her but I don't know how to tell her. I fear she might cast me if I tell her my intentions or I might lose my self respect.

Moreover, I always feel lonely because I rarely socialize. I go on errands because of the tips I make from it. Nobody gives me money for not doing anything. I feel less cared for but I care more about my loved ones even though I only give to them. I feel lonely all the time cry

Please what should I do[/quote]
Re: What Can I Do About This by madmelon: 12:01pm On Dec 16, 2023
You wan lose your errand boy job and the tips? Find your level Mr Man
Re: What Can I Do About This by AfahaAbia(m): 12:08pm On Dec 16, 2023
TheFinesseKid:
it's sad but that's the reality of the world that we live in. Men don't care if you're a cleaner as a woman... They love you for who you are. I can't say the same for women. They'll consider you a bum.

You sound American! Are you Nigerian or?
Re: What Can I Do About This by Leilami: 12:08pm On Dec 16, 2023
nairalanda1:


Unfortunately, we are a patriachial society, which means in any relationship, the man is supposed to be of higher status, educationally and financially, than the woman. Preferably both.

Then there is the massive class difference.

I effing wish it wasn't so., but here we are. Even if she says yes to a relationship with him, the relations on her side will ask her if she is ment.

Even most men love younger women. It is a subconscious need to be older than your woman age wise and that need must permeates every other aspect which includes the financial aspect.

Why do you think it is always said the man is the head? Anyone who is the head of a company is expected to have more experience and training., same with romantic relationships.

It is how life is and I don't know why some people here are saying it is unfair. If you are the Head, normally the onus is on you to be better in almost all ramifications.

I am even surprised most nairalander who would castigate older ladies are overlooking the age and telling him to go ahead based on sentiment. If he had said he was an engineer and he is in love with an older lady most people here telling him to go ahead would have told him to abort mission and get younger girls. That is because men deep down feel they have to be the older one but these same men suddenly are pretending like it is a crime that people are advising the poster to level up in other areas if he wants to be her husband.

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