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A young Nigerian man narrates the tough decision of calling off his relationship with his fiancee after she made a hurtful statement to him about his inability to buy her a wig.

A social media user identified as I am Ekene took to social media to narrate the tale of his past relationship with an ex-fiancee.
According to the young man, his fiancee had pleaded with him to buy a particular wig for her but due to financial constraints, he couldn’t afford it.

His fiancee, however, made a statement in an attempt to guilt trip him into buying the wig, he immediately severed their relationship.

His post;

A woman I was dating and engaged asked me to purchase a wig for her.
I told her I didn’t have the resources for it at the moment.

She looked me in the eye with bitterness and told me as long as I kept “maltreating” her by denying her wants, God will keep doing same to me.

I stood up from the bed at that moment, had my bath and went to work.

I spent the whole day in introspection.
I projected 10 years into the future and I didn’t see any scenario I was going to have a supportive human as a wife or be really happy if I didn’t constantly renew my subscription with her.

I had to let her go for good. It was an extremely though decision as we had gone really far with preps to spending together for a lifetime but I knew that lifetime will be hell if I eventually sealed it.

2023 taught me a-lot and I will rather stay single or a baby daddy than settle for nonsense.”

Credit: Fendi Ekene

I will rather stay single or a baby daddy than settle for nonsense.”

Words on a marble.



A broke Nigerian girl getting angry at her boyfriend for not providing what she can't provide for herself.


Humans dating Nigerian girls are the strongest!

If she nor Suck and She nor Fcvk,

Who go Pay for her Wig and Handbag- Odumodublvck and Shallipopi.

Your decision was too drastic and rash. You should have tried to reason with her on why she made such statement, cut her some slack and see if she would do it again before leaving her. I mean... For someone to make such weighty statement, you must have really pushed her to the wall. Like you rightly said, she said you keep denying her, which means it's not that once you did it.

The girl too should have been more patient as what she requested for is not something that will kill her if she doesn't get it. The Wig can always wait or better still let her go and hustle and buy it herself.

Both of you were wrong .no be every small thing go enter I no do again.

shaming tactics don't work on me .dear men before you enter relationship don't be afraid what she does for a living and of she's capable of taking care of herself. A must criteria don't date rubbish.

She's probably one of those youngies wey never feel the heat of life and what it takes to be an aspiring future victim of meno-stop

The nigha really did well.....Banny wey get sense no dey hard to know......Just within,at least,2 seconds of interacting with her,you go don suppose know whether na head she carry for her neck or na empty gallon

Truth be told, both were already tired of the relationship and by that looking for the slightest opportunity to end it .

Jewessgratitud3:
Your decision was too drastic and rash. You should tried to reason with her on why she made such statement, cut her some slack and see if she would do it again before leaving her. I mean... For someone to make such weighty statement, you must have really pushed her to the wall. Like you rightly said, she said you keep denying her, which means it's not that once you did it.

The girl too should have been more patient as what she requested for is not something that will kill her if she doesn't get it. The Wig can always wait or better still let her go and hustle and buy it herself.

Both of you were wrong .no be every small thing go enter I no do again.

How is the guy wrong??

A lady placing a curse on him cos of wig and he shouldn't walk away??

Sometimes I wonder if this entitlement mentality is actually a society problem or family problem.

Once you aiin't able to give what they want next ting is to emotionally blackmail you.

Justkatty:
Truth be told, both were already tired of the relationship and by that looking for the slightest opportunity to end it .

. No be only tired...In fact,the nigha was actually 'TYRED'. and he had to run for his dear life before she could apply her own wheel (burden) to his tyre

Because of wig this one dey break up with his woman. In as much as I see some women as materialistic and golddiggers but as a man you should be able to take care of your woman in your own little way. No be everything be break up.

Sonnobax15:
. No be only tired...In fact,the nigha was actually 'TYRED'. and he had to run for his dear life before she could apply her own wheel (burden) to his tyre

problems plenty pass solutions

OKOATA:
Because of wig this one dey break up with his woman. In as much as I see some women as materialistic and golddiggers but as a man you should be able to take care of your woman at some point.

. . The way some of una dey reason sometimes dey make me dey wonder if na pap dey inside una brains or e just empty throway

So simply because I'm in a relationship with a woman,she should now see it as a MUST-DO something that I must provide all her needs? . Come on nigha, which particular pap dey inside your brain exactly? Guinea corn,or custard?

Justkatty:
problems plenty pass solutions

my sister,I love the way he 'RAN'

Pecoleee345:
How is the guy wrong??

A lady placing a curse on him cos of wig and he shouldn't walk away??

Sometimes I wonder if this entitled mentality is actually a society problem or family problem.

Once you aiin't able to give what they want next ting is to emotionally blackmail you.

The words were said out of anger. If you check well, she may not really mean it as a curse. She acted on her feelings at the time. She only needs to be corrected not thrown out like that.

What if she didn't say it out and is cursing him behind his back? That one too dey happen and the man will never know.

Abeg the lady spoke out of pain. The man too stingy

OKOATA:
Because of wig this one dey break up with his woman. In as much as I see some women as materialistic and golddiggers but as a man you should be able to take care of your woman in your own little way. No be everything be break up.

So once he can't take care of her need at that point next thing Is to curse him??

Like is wig even something that important??

Jewessgratitud3:
The words were said out of anger. If you check well, she may not really mean it as a curse. She acted on her feelings at the time. She only needs to be corrected not thrown out like that. What if she didn't say it out and is cursing him behind his back? That one dey and the man will never know.

Abeg the lady spoke out of pain. The man too stingy

Spoke out of pain cos of wig??

Once again I think the problem is actually family base.

A lady well brought up and not from a hungry home won't behave such a way cos of nonsense wig.

You ain't financially stable as a woman and you disturbing a man to buy you wig isn't that an act of foolishness.


Lastly kindly Google the meaning of An Adult so you can stop calling anyone stingy.

Sonnobax15:
my sister,I love the way he 'RAN'

A lot dey happen o for this so called relationship

Sonnobax15:
. . The way some of una dey reason sometimes dey make me dey wonder if na pap dey inside una brains or e just empty throway

So simply because I'm in a relationship with a woman,she should now see it as a MUST-DO something that I must provide all her needs? . Come on nigha, which particular pap dey inside your brain exactly? Guinea corn,or custard?

Oga I can bet it with you that you are a broke ass nigga, so you like to be in a relationship with a Naija girl and you expect not to atleast spend? I'm not saying he should buy the wig but give her what you can afford. So if you were rich and your lady tells you to buy her something you won't because you are forming Mr red pill or what? No be everything you go dey form hard guy for woman Mr dadandidin.

Pecoleee345:
So once he can take care of her need at that point next thing Is to curse him??

Like is wig even something that important??

I can't afford the wig or give her atleast part of it not showing his broke ass self by breaking up that's my point. I care less whether he buys it or not. No be everything person go dey show him brokeness ontop. Na only broke guys dey too worry ontop all these kain issues.

OKOATA:
Oga I can bet it with you that you are a broke ass nigga, so you like to be in a relationship with a Naija girl and you expect not to atleast spend? I'm not saying he should buy the wig but give her what you can afford. So if you were rich and your lady tells you to buy her something you won't because you are forming Mr red pill or what? No be everything you go dey form hard guy for woman Mr dadandidin.

ok oh mr. Rich nigha .

Justkatty:
A lot dey happen o for this so called relationship

. . Las las relationship isn't for the faint hearted ones at all..

OKOATA:
I can't afford the wig or give her atleast part of it not showing his broke ass self by breaking up that's my point. I care less whether he buys it or not. No be everything person go dey show him brokeness ontop. Na only broke guys dey too worry ontop all these kain issues.

Brokenness??

Anyway have gone through your profile and I understand.

Sonnobax15:
. . Las las relationship isn't for the faint hearted ones at all..

Abi na
Make person just focus on getting the 💰 then, other things can follow.

Sonnobax15:
ok oh mr. Rich nigha .

Nah working boy.........his profile say it all.

Justkatty:
Abi na
Make person just focus on getting the 💰 then, other things can follow.

. Swears😊

Pecoleee345:
Nah working boy.........his profile say it all.

. Even tho self . I get working guys wey sabi use their heads when it comes to banny matter.........No be everything wey banny order guyman dey deliver even if he get the money excess..........A man must learn how to say NO sometimes...No be stinginess or wickedness......

I only pity that guy..I pray make he no shift that him kind of mentality down to him younger ones and offsprings cha..

HisSexcellency:
A young Nigerian man narrates the tough decision of calling off his relationship with his fiancee after she made a hurtful statement to him about his inability to buy her a wig.

A social media user identified as IamEkene_ took to the microblogging platform, X to narrate the tale of his past relationship with an ex-fiancee.
According to the young man, his fiancee had pleaded with him to buy a particular wig for her but due to financial constraints, he couldn’t afford it.

His fiancee, however, made a statement in an attempt to guilt trip him into buying the wig, he immediately severed their realtionship.

His post;
“A woman I was dating and engaged asked me to purchase a wig for her.
I told her I didn’t have the resources for it at the moment.

She looked me in the eye with bitterness and told me as long as I kept “maltreating” her by denying her wants, God will keep doing same to me.
I stood up from the bed at that moment, had my bath and went to work.

I spent the whole day in introspection.
I projected 10 years into the future and I didn’t see any scenario I was going to have a supportive human as a wife or be really happy if I didn’t constantly renew my subscription with her.

I had to let her go for good. It was an extremely though decision as we had gone really far with preps to spending together for a lifetime but I knew that lifetime will be hell if I eventually sealed it.

2023 taught me a-lot and I will rather stay single or a baby daddy than settle for nonsense.”

https://nigerianstreet.com/2024/01/08/man-dumps-fiancee-over-inability-to-afford-wig/

Man, you did the right thing. What kind of entitlement mentality is that? She was so desperate she placed a curse on the man, no nah!

It feels good to collect money from your man, every woman loves that sense of financial security, but you won't have him break the bank for you. Especially when he doesn't have and it's not a life threatening situation. All through the yuletide season, I no make any hair o, I just comb my hair in a bun and I'm ready to go, it was my best Christmas ever cause I didn't lack anything. I just made the hair this Saturday in readiness for work this week. This is a big, huge, humongous red flag. Thank goodness he had the sense to leave.

Moreso, she should be able to buy the wig herself, that's what real slay queens do.

Women should be up and doing on their own. What if something happens to the man - sickness or death - will you go a begging for the rest of your life?

Jewessgratitud3:
The words were said out of anger. If you check well, she may not really mean it as a curse. She acted on her feelings at the time. She only needs to be corrected not thrown out like that.

What if she didn't say it out and is cursing him behind his back? That one too dey happen and the man will never know.

Abeg the lady spoke out of pain. The man too stingy

The problem is that most of u women like getting away with every wrong u do..
...u never admit u are wrong...
...u justify all ur wrong doing with "he made me do it or im just retaliating"... What kinda a retaliation is cursing ur man because of wig...

I know say if na ur son person curse because of wig ..na u go personally go throw that yeye girlfriend out ....

They are only good as daily subscription.

Jewessgratitud3:
The words were said out of anger. If you check well, she may not really mean it as a curse. She acted on her feelings at the time. She only needs to be corrected not thrown out like that.

What if she didn't say it out and is cursing him behind his back? That one too dey happen and the man will never know.

Abeg the lady spoke out of pain. The man too stingy

No wonder the most longest of all your numerous relationships lasted for just 5hrs 13mins and 22 seconds.

Nicepoker:
No wonder the most longest of all your numerous relationships lasted for just 5hrs 13mins and 22 seconds.

You sabi keep records, bro

Justkatty:
Truth be told, both were already tired of the relationship and by that looking for the slightest opportunity to end it .

You're wrong, as always.

Read here;

we had gone really far with preps to spending together for a lifetime

The guy envisioned 'together-forever' with the girl, not knowing she's a flat liability.