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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Sonnobax15(m): 10:04am On Feb 17
lipsrsealed
Nigerian bannies love comfort.....Op,I see the main reason those bannies aren't responding well to you is due to the fact that your mom still lives with you....

But then again, how can a guyman discard and loose guard his mom just like that because of a banny when he knows he's the only child of his mom?

Op, banny wey go stay go stay...So no put unnecessary pressure upon yourself.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Kingogbotor(m): 10:05am On Feb 17
drimzsmoke:



Yen yen yen yen.... Money will save you a lot of stress and headache and you won't be asking foolish questions like, "have you eaten??"
With money, she will be the 1 asking the stupid questions!!!

So what of when the money no come dey flow like how e dey flow?....

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 10:06am On Feb 17
1Sharon:
Your character.
So fast to take side with your gender, who can't even make Choices. Always confused, and trying to be manipulative.

I have met 10 ladies, in 2 months, which were all rude, arrogant and bitter.

All they all kept saying were men are scum, is it my fault, they dated men, their family can't match up with, and when their coochie got stretched and got dumped. They all took it personal.

All men are scum, who are the all men? How many men can even finance all these fake lifestyles women post on Instagram.

I saw a video, of a woman, talking to her daughter's grave, telling her daughter to hunt down her killer.

That mother, is day dreaming, if she thinks anything would happen. You can't roll with bad boys and expect them to behave responsible. And she the woman or her daughter can't say, they don't know that boy was into alot of shady business.

You women should just continue playing, don't cut your clothe according to your size. Keep going after material benefits. Depression will hook all of you, into loosing your mental feminity.

By the time, these big boys run trains on you all. You all will understand, life have gotten real.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by drimzsmoke(m): 10:08am On Feb 17
Kingogbotor:


So what of when the money no come dey flow like how e dey flow?....


I've not gotten to this stage yet, so I don't have the answer now. Don't worry, when I get there, I'll get back at you!!!
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Kingogbotor(m): 10:13am On Feb 17
So many comments...

But the fact is this... Money makes love sweet.. No doubt... But don't over do it... When u do that it becomes poison... I may be clingy with money.... Cos of past experiences.... U will obviously knows this guy is okay... But I come out cash when it is necessary.... I don't just do freebies... I give u when u need it.... Not giving you just becos I want to satisfy your curiosity that the guy get money... So what of when I don't have.... What will she now do....

In my own view.... The female gender are funny beings.. With diverse characters... U just have to apply your brain when dealing with them.. So that u don't get emotionally wise and financially wise..... Cos most guys believe money makes a lady love u... If u start with money u will surely end with money....

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Ohraykon: 10:17am On Feb 17
drimzsmoke:



Yen yen yen yen.... Money will save you a lot of stress and headache and you won't be asking foolish questions like, "have you eaten??"
With money, she will be the 1 asking the stupid questions!!!
lol okay keep paying!!!
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Jman06(m): 10:20am On Feb 17
Ohraykon:
are you a simp? Person wey use money buy love e no pay finish o grin
Forget that thing o. A typical Nigerian lady expect you to prove that you're capable of caring for her and her offsprings. While a few immature ones would be concerned about the infatuation which y'all call 'love', the majority of Nigerian girls would go for guys who are financially capable and generous. You just have to prove your capability to be the man and breadwinner of the house.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Sonnobax15(m): 10:20am On Feb 17
Kingogbotor:
So many comments...

But the fact is this... Money makes love sweet.. No doubt... But don't over do it... When u do that it becomes poison... I may be clingy with money.... Cos of past experiences.... U will obviously knows this guy is okay... But I come out cash when it is necessary.... I don't just do freebies... I give u when u need it.... Not giving you just becos I want to satisfy your curiosity that the guy get money... So what of when I don't have.... What will she now do....

In my own view.... The female gender are funny beings.. With diverse characters... U just have to apply your brain when dealing with them.. So that u don't get emotionally wise and financially wise..... Cos most guys believe money makes a lady love u... If u start with money u will surely end with money....
No be lie op cheesy

Just like when I met mine two years ago,I told her categorically clear that I don't have any money,as she could see I was still struggling and hustling to make ends meet,and if she was comfortable with that....She said no problem and that's how we've been together since then up till this very moment.........

So op,it is well.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by NaBanga: 10:54am On Feb 17
Money makes love sweet for women. Without money, there is no love. Any adult man telling you something different has not lived life or dated very well.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by oilyngbati(m): 11:22am On Feb 17
remsonik:
It's the other way round, it's a responsible man that's hard to find for a serious relationship. Too much lies and dirty lifestyle you notice in most of them is even discouraging ladies from dating......... Abeg let me face my job and be working hard to take good care of myself and not be running helter-skelter after men.


Give your life to christ and live a righteous life you will get the best lady for you
There are lots of good and reasonable guys out there, you just have to be patient and study the guy very well.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 12:08pm On Feb 17
Raalsalghul:


grin grin grin

What is funny? undecided
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Nooneonline(m): 3:17pm On Feb 17
Kingogbotor:
Omo... Me I Don tire like dis.... I think I need to just forget about this relationship stuff and focus on getting more money... Am comfortable though... Live in my own house.. At least do everything a young should be able to do... Dresses well.. But still my relationship life is a mess.... Omo na to find more money....i don tire to dey tell females I need a serious relationship.... They visit... We talk... And yet the talk no dey lead to anywhere... Some sef... We just come to get what they want and leave.... And me sef will just delete your number.. Cos I hate rubbish....
Well.. It is well... We move.
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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Gerrard59(m): 4:20pm On Feb 17
JustPowerApps:


It doesn't go that way believe me, the moment you are cool, you care about her, and you are comfortable as a guy, she start taking you for a fool. Don't let it be a surprise that the girl you are caring for, spending on is busy nacking one street urchin who doesn't care about her existence until he wants to flex his john thomas.

Then that girl/lady doesn't genuinely like you.

No genuine desire, no relationship. You, as a man, deserve to be liked too.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by G00dharddick: 4:38pm On Feb 17
JustPowerApps:
I honestly don't get it likewise, it seems the better a guy gets, the more girls drift away.

It is strange, really strange. Nigerian girls are drawn to touts more than responsible guys.

Are you just knowing this?

Exactly why we put them where they belong after eating them

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by ExudeLoveToAll: 4:59pm On Feb 17
1Sharon:
Your character.

Zero accountability, most women don't have this. In their minds the man is always the problem. You are one of them.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by ExudeLoveToAll: 5:02pm On Feb 17
Jman06:
Op I used to think like you until I understood that giving money and other gifts goes a loooooong way in getting a Nigerian girl. Try it and thank me later.


Giving gift is different from making money a center of attraction for ladies. Gifting is fine but the latter is disastrous.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by ExudeLoveToAll: 5:08pm On Feb 17
remsonik:
It's the other way round, it's a responsible man that's hard to find for a serious relationship. Too much lies and dirty lifestyle you notice in most of them is even discouraging ladies from dating......... Abeg let me face my job and be working hard to take good care of myself and not be running helter-skelter after men.


Give your life to christ and live a righteous life you will get the best lady for you


This has nothing to do with a good wife grin, check starts around you and correct yourself.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by ExudeLoveToAll: 5:12pm On Feb 17
remsonik:
It's the other way round, it's a responsible man that's hard to find for a serious relationship. Too much lies and dirty lifestyle you notice in most of them is even discouraging ladies from dating......... Abeg let me face my job and be working hard to take good care of myself and not be running helter-skelter after men.


Give your life to christ and live a righteous life you will get the best lady for you

Zero accountability for most women, you ain't different. Once you learn accountability for your actions life becomes easier, in your mind everything is caused by men grin

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by 1Sharon(f): 5:58pm On Feb 17
ExudeLoveToAll:


Zero accountability, most women don't have this. In their minds the man is always the problem. You are one of them.

Shut up. When a woman is unmarried past a certain age, you guys always will say " character".

Go through his comments here and you'd actually see that he is the problem.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by 1Sharon(f): 6:08pm On Feb 17
toujurs:
So fast to take side with your gender, who can't even make Choices. Always confused, and trying to be manipulative.

I have met 10 ladies, in 2 months, which were all rude, arrogant and bitter.

All they all kept saying were men are scum, is it my fault, they dated men, their family can't match up with, and when their coochie got stretched and got dumped. They all took it personal.

All men are scum, who are the all men? How many men can even finance all these fake lifestyles women post on Instagram.

I saw a video, of a woman, talking to her daughter's grave, telling her daughter to hunt down her killer.

That mother, is day dreaming, if she thinks anything would happen. You can't roll with bad boys and expect them to behave responsible. And she the woman or her daughter can't say, they don't know that boy was into alot of shady business.

You women should just continue playing, don't cut your clothe according to your size. Keep going after material benefits. Depression will hook all of you, into loosing your mental feminity.

By the time, these big boys run trains on you all. You all will understand, life have gotten real.



Don't be a hypocrite. If it was woman that came here to complain how she can't find a man for a serious relationship, won't you blame her?

Why are unmarried woman in Nigeria called evening newspapers?

Why do women that go and pray for a husband mocked ?

Why do you guys say they turned down "good men" in their youth w/o knowing their situation?

YOU sef why did you punch above your weight? Why did you go for the flashy women obsessed with material things?

Why didn't you go for the plain Jane that is low key?

You met 10 women and they were all bitter and you are arrogant to think there is nothing wrong with your vetting skills?

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 6:37pm On Feb 17
1Sharon:


Don't be a hypocrite. If it was woman that came here to complain how she can't find a man for a serious relationship, [/b]won't you blame her?[b]

[/b]Why are unmarried woman in Nigeria called evening newspapers?[b]

Why do women that go and pray for a husband mocked ?

Why do you guys say they turned down "good men" in their youth w/o knowing their situation?

[/b]YOU sef why did you punch above your weight? Why did you go for the flashy women obsessed with material things?[b]

Why didn't you go for the plain Jane that is low key?

You met 10 women and they were all bitter and you are arrogant to think there is nothing wrong with your vetting skills?

Most girls are greedy, selfish and manipulative, but men are wiser now. It's always what she can benefit from the man, but only for her to be dumped by her choice of her, struggling to attach her self where she can't sustain herself. Which could render her bitter.

This isn't hypocrisy, who accepts a partner, is it the man or the woman, women always have choices on whom to choose, obviously men are coming after her. So why won't she be blamed or called an evening newspaper for her bad choices of choosing a partner out of the men approaching her.

Flashy women, on someone else pocket? No wonder men now use them for sacrifice.

You are complaining about, men mocking women, are you not aware most Nigerian women are into friends with benefits. What condition should someone know about a Lady into FWB, it's all her choices, why can't you women be accountable and own up, to your greed. Which led to those bad choices of men, that treat them like sh*t.

Most women in their late twenties and early to late thirties, i have noticed their coochie is wide. And it's scary. And you expect a man who worked hard, to earn. Especially now the economy is hard, you expect him to marry a second hand coochie.

I will feel cheated, and i don't pray for such to any man.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 6:41pm On Feb 17
Ohraykon:
lol okay keep paying!!!
that guy is a fool, an oshogbo under bridge native doctor. Claiming to be a medical doctor. He opened an account as a female, and later changed it to a male. Some people are just mentally sick, and they don't know.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by 1Sharon(f): 6:43pm On Feb 17
toujurs:


Most girls are greedy, selfish and manipulative, but men are wiser now. It's always what she can benefit from the man, but only for her to be dumped by her choice of her, struggling to attach her self where she can't sustain herself. Which could render her bitter.

This isn't hypocrisy, who accepts a partner, is it the man or the woman, women always have choices on whom to choose, obviously men are coming after her. So why won't she be blamed or called an evening newspaper for her bad choices of choosing a partner out of the men approaching her.

Flashy women, on someone else pocket? No wonder men now use them for sacrifice.

You are complaining about, men mocking women, are you not aware most Nigerian women are into friends with benefits. What condition should someone know about a Lady into FWB, it's all her choices, why can't you women be accountable and own up, to your greed. Which led to those bad choices of men, that treat them like sh*t.

Most women in their late twenties and early to late thirties, i have noticed their coochie is wide. And it's scary. And you expect a man who worked hard, to earn. Especially now the economy is hard, you expect him to marry a second hand coochie.

I will feel cheated, and i don't pray for such to any man.

Since you have that conclusion don't bother getting w/ any woman. Just dey on your own.

If you had been on your own, you wouldn't have this issue of encountering 10 bitter women. Na you mess up. You for know better now?

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 6:45pm On Feb 17
remsonik:
It's the other way round, it's a responsible man that's hard to find for a serious relationship. Too much lies and dirty lifestyle you notice in most of them is even discouraging ladies from dating......... Abeg let me face my job and be working hard to take good care of myself and not be running helter-skelter after men.


Give your life to christ and live a righteous life you will get the best lady for you
too much lies? Who started this lies?

Women don't only tell, unimaginable lies, they also live a fake life, so they can attract the rich. And you think the rich don't know who is actually rich, and who is faking it.

How old are you? I hope you haven't clocked 34 sha. Because menopause is ticking.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 6:47pm On Feb 17
1Sharon:


Since you have that conclusion don't bother getting w/ any woman. Just dey on your own.

If you had been on your own, you wouldn't have this issue of encountering 10 bitter women.
Stay on my own? So where would i be emptying my stuff grin.

Rest.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by 1Sharon(f): 6:48pm On Feb 17
toujurs:
Stay on my own? So where would i be emptying my stuff grin.

Rest.

You can go to an olosho. You don't need a woman by your side for that.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 6:50pm On Feb 17
1Sharon:


You can go to an olosho. You don't need a woman by your side for that.
i don't do, olosho. I do people like you. cheesy

Aids is real

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by 1Sharon(f): 6:54pm On Feb 17
toujurs:
i don't do, olosho. I do people like you. cheesy

Aids is real

That's funny. Because you can't sleep with an olosho w/ o condoms.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 7:01pm On Feb 17
1Sharon:


That's funny. Because you can't sleep with an olosho w/ o condoms.
You do know what's best.
Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by remsonik(f): 7:45pm On Feb 17
toujurs:
too much lies? Who started this lies?

Women don't only tell, unimaginable lies, they also live a fake life, so they can attract the rich. And you think the rich don't know who is actually rich, and who is faking it.

How old are you? I hope you haven't clocked 34 sha. Because menopause is ticking.
Yes that's my age my last relationship ended since 2017 . What I have found out from so many guys asking me out is scary....... Infact many are laughing at me saying I am too rigid,I do alot of investigation. Let it tick I will wait for God's son who he made as bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. Not in a hurry

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by toujurs: 7:54pm On Feb 17
remsonik:

Yes that's my age my last relationship ended since 2017 . What I have found out from so many guys asking me out is scary....... Infact many are laughing at me saying I am too rigid,I do alot of investigation. Let it tick I will wait for God's son who he made as bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh. Not in a hurry
I see the problem, you are not engaging, and not fun in having a conversation with. If you are rigid. You are only doing yourself, because there are alot of other women out there. I think you should work on yourself on how to socialize with people. You can keep waiting, whie others are working on how to find a partner. Keep waiting! grin. 34 years old, commenting like a child. Continue waiting o! A man would have worked hard to create a conducive lifestyle, and you expect him to leave these young women in their twenties for someone in her thirties heading to 40. Just continue.

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Re: Why Is It So Hard To Find A Lady For A Serious Relationship by Ohraykon: 1:24am On Feb 18
toujurs:
that guy is a fool, an oshogbo under bridge native doctor. Claiming to be a medical doctor. He opened an account as a female, and later changed it to a male. Some people are just mentally sick, and they don't know.
you can imagine lol a very sick dude no wonder.

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