What you did to her is very right..I pray when you give birth to a baby girl people will treat her in same way. Also may those who has helped you are any point in time end up treating you nicely like you treated her. Hope that answers your question.

She had only one job to do but she refused, the dude made his intentions known over the phone and she accepted so why refusing when the time came or she only came for the food as usual?...girls sha...

AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

You called her for something which she agreed to come and do it but she came and fumble it's not a bad thing to treat her fvck up

Op you Bleep up from the beginning of your parole with that girl.

If you're doing favor for a girl she will believe it's because of the power of her pussy that is why you should always bang a girl before doing her any favor,unless she's your blood.

She wan just do you small shakara so that you go beg am and her entitlement to your favors go come increase but instead you show am sey na man you be who has options and don't condone nonsense. You did the right thing in my own point of view.

Another thing,stop coming to a public forum to seek approval over your actions and decisions.

Nothing screams weakness more than this singular act.

You are a man. Build and develop your own frame. If your frame tells you something is right then you don't need another opinion whatsoever to do it.

Me i go send the girl papa comot from my house and warn am for her life mek she no step foot for my house again. If e like mek e be around 1 am at night i don't fuvking care!

Looking for somebody to concur with your twisted mind

Call her and apologize to her. She go give you chop the day you do that. She has learned her lesson. Trust me.

NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

Na man you be. You deserve all the good things of life

AyobamiOluwole:


Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

Let's face the facts, you told her what you wanted even before she came around and she agreed to it, so what wrong did he do?, it's high time we stop allowing this girl to use emotions on us, we are all humans and no one is super human, guy was in his lowest mode and needed emotional support but babe only came to eat drink and flex....in her mind "ABEG MAKE I GO CHOP FREE FOOD" as in na her papa house she dey go or her uncle house, what stopped her from staying back in her father's house? And all of you are here blaming the guy for sending her back home, the guy did what was best because some animals will want to resort to rapee in other to get back at her.

AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

I fear futures trading

If you did the right thing, you wouldn't be here asking.

I can understand your frustration, and not wanting to pass the night with an uncooperative lady, but that shouldn't unleash an inhumane treatment from you.

If she lived not too far away, then just Uber her back home, give her money to find her way home or allow her to stay over, endure just for that one night, and never allow such a scenario to repeat itself.

You acted based on anger, and now that the anger is cleared, you are seeking validation of your actions. But yes, what you did was wrong. Wrong in the sense that her safety should be paramount despite your anger.

So sending her home is not the issue here, because the alternative is to be in a toxic atmosphere until the morning. But sending her without a means to go back home is just wrong. Honour and empathy should not be overruled by your anger.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

We have lots of irresponsible animals these days in the name of men.

You are an animal. You were helping her just because your want sex from her. You had the mind to send her out of the house in the night and bring in another girl.

You're a cheap prostitute.

AyobamiOluwole:


Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

You did not define the relationship . You know cuddling leads to sex. She knows this. Everyone know this. She’s not your girlfriend or your friend with benefits. Buying her gift and feeding her is not consent to her body .
You must Have the conversation from the onset.

It was unfair to treat a human being like that.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Help put this talk into a trash bag

NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

Here is just the reality and best contribution so far... Other commenters above are hypocrites

You know you did bad thing, and you were still of it's good or bad 😔

Atimes I always wonder how mods push some irrelevant topics to front page leaving behind the relevant ones

Abi una they collect bribe ni?

Psoul:


We have lots of irresponsible animals these days in the name of men.

You are an animal. You were helping her just because your want sex from her. You had the mind to send her out of the house in the night and bring in another girl.

You're a cheap prostitute.

The guy did his best to avoid the unthinkable from happening.....the guy did not tell you he's a saint.

Guest911:

You did not define the relationship . You know cuddling leads to sex. She knows this. Everyone know this. She’s not your girlfriend or your friend with benefits. Buying her gift and feeding her is not consent to her body . Have the conversation from the onset

But she could accept gifts from strangers abi.. without her parents consent..

All the Shoppings and takeaways...

tochez24:



Lol 😆😆

Real Men are intentional but these days guys baffles me🙄

You have already done much for a supposed girl you're "helping out of pity" yet you still want her to cuddle you in bed, as what? Your girlfriend or wife?? Or your puppy

You even had to call another girl, probably your hoe in her presence to psychologically abuse her.... But she out smarted you.

And still went home and slept happily all through the night after taking your rubbish!!!!

If that girl is wise she wouldn't come around you ever again!!!!

You're simply toxic and immature⚠️

More reason i work very hard, so my daughters wouldn't have to cuddle rubbish people💯😆😆😆

This is funny 😂😂😂

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

You're very stupid! And you want use to justify your stupidity

AyobamiOluwole:


Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

what you must understand is that women has too much physical and emotional baggage to carry,that girl maybe suffering silently from mensural cramps and you are talking of cuddling,just the fact that she came to your house and is ready sleep is a pass mark,you failed in your haste and anger not to know what baggage she is carrying at that time,next time take it easy and talk gently to a woman with a caring tone,you will be surprised the things you will learn

You should be ashamed of yourself op. Thank God she declined your advances. Cuddle kee you there

AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

Same will be done to your sister. I'm not capping, it's the truth. When u were giving her money, were u doing so cos u wanted something in return? Is she ur girlfriend in the first place? If u needed a cuddle, why didn't u call ur babe or an Olosho? U bleeped up big time. What if she was killed, kidnapped or raped at the time u threw her out?

Sir, you sent someone's daughter out in the middle of the night even when you knew she had no money for transport because you're angry? You confirmed nothing happened to her from someone. You say that as if that after-the-fact confirmation made your actions any less egregious. Would that confirmation have saved her if she was attacked that night? And you're asking if you did something wrong. So if we say no, you'd still have the mind to do something like this again in your life? Sir, you're not here to find out if you're wrong or right, you already know the answer to that question. You brought the story here cause you want validation for your evil act so you can have peace of mind. But the truth is, until you accept your wrong-doing, what you did to that girl will keep haunting you.

You didn't introduce this girl to us as your girlfriend. You described her as "this girl that has been to your place, eat the best and that" (that expression is ridiculous by the way). You had another girl you could easily call, so she was just one of the girls. You also said and I quote "in my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex ...". You don't want to commit but you're angry that she didn't jump into your bed cause of the food you've been buying her. You say cuddling several time as we don't know how that ends up. Let me not go into the dynamics of your relationship and what she might have done wrong or right because that would give the impression that there's a scenario where your action would be justified. The truth is, there isn't. You're a dangerous man.

You see, what you did that night is not about her. She's fine, and she's moving on with her life and dignity. She's not the one creating threads online. Rather, it's about you. If you could send a girl out in the middle of night without transport, you have issues; very serious issues. I'm sure I'm not the first person to tell you this, and I'm sure this is not the first time your action is shocking you into explaining yourself to strangers hoping to be validated. Certainly, if there was no internet, you'd sit down and explain yourself to a dog, a cat or anything around. That is what happens when your conscience is pushing you around. You'd recount the story over and over again in your head hoping to find validation somewhere but you won't. NL boys can hail you all they want, but deep down, you know you have a problem.

Most people commenting on this thread are idiats...

Even underg go follow comment who no know what;s up for this life.

For those saying he wan straff the girl dey use cuddle do undecover...maybe

But don't be a low IQ...

Some of you don't trade futures/leverage, margin or forex.

How your thing go take stand after such a loss...with hot body and almost weeping

All you go desire na words of encouragement and some hugs and assurance.

Maybe sex fit happen along the way sha...but the first intention go be THAT.

I will only take comments of people from the industry serious.

CC. AyobamiOluwole

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

be4 I start, lemme tell you something, you are not a guy man, you supposed calm down cos no be by force stuff, she already wanted and would definitely allow you, but you can't just expect her to just come to you just like that, most woman will not try that.,. Allow her relax, sleep without touching her, na midnight you supposed start your work, her body will be so relax and soft she won't even be able to resist your touch..

Bro but how old are you? As in why should you even remind her why she came, did she tell you she didn't know why she came? Abi na so your people take dey knack woman? Lolz

Las las even if she refuse all your endeavors, just relax and pretend it didn't hurt you, just allow her sleep comfortably,you already know she will come back for those stuff she's always getting from you , and that's when you strike again

GodHimself:
Provide an update pls.

Have you guys spoken since then? Did she apologize?

What ia your perception of the outcome of your decision?

She wouldn't pick my calls. She only replies my chats. I have apologised to her, but she keeps replying with insults. I have deleted all our chats and deleted her number as well. It's all bygones now.

AndrewTate:
The mistakes of this generation are plenty… one of them is young men not having the right knowledge about women.
Women are not as decisive as men, they are softer and more “child like” no matter how hard they try to portray themselves as. I’m sure from the moment he said that to her deep down she was troubled cos she didn’t want to do that but now she can hardly say no cos she has put herself in that situation by ignoring her gut feeling which has probably told her it was a bad idea to keep receiving things from a man she wasn’t in any form of intimate relationship with. Some girls would be able to fight through and struggle with their conscience and allow him have his way then feel damned deep within there after and keep devaluing themselves leading to other acts of self destruction after that. But she couldn’t do it.
The thought process of men is very different from that of women. Women need a lot more guidance from care. As for men, the universe wouldn’t even cut you a slack before you face the consequences instantly and there’s only betterment as a result. But for women the damage is mostly permanent.

Treat women with more care and love today lads! She’s someone’s little girl 📌

Stop post trash here!
Your types are the ones who embolden women to misbehave because you absolve them of responsibilities to their actions. Nonsense!

Let me correct this errorneous belief today: WOMEN ARE NOT CHILDLIKE LIKE THIS YEYE POSTER TYPED UP THERE. Therefore they shouldn't be treated like children but should be held accountable for their actions like every other adult human. They are not less intelligent than men, instead some are smarter than some men.. when a woman wants to deal with a man, she's very decisive and does not show any iota of pity, so there's no need to treat them with levity or show them unmerited kindness.

Women have wreaked many men all over the world. They have thrown men out of their houses and into the jail on flimsy excuses. They have poisoned many men to untimely deaths for little or no serious provocation. They have made men raise other men's children via paternity frauds. The list endless!

A people capable of the above actions cannot be said to be innocent and deserving of any special favourable treatments from the menfolk.

Op, I wouldn't know why you're guilt stripping yourself for doing what was clearly the right thing to do at that time. You didn't do any wrong for sending her out of your house when she could not grant your little request of leaning on her shoulder for consolations due to your loss. The lady is obviously SELFISH and you should stop spending your resources on her. She isn't worth it!

Bros , u told her why u wanted her to come and she agreed. Especially being the first time u'll be asking of anything from her
You took her out to have a nice time and it was time for her to fulfill her own end of the deal, she chickened out! She deserves what she got.

I'll advise you do away with such selfish leeches.

If a man should ask you for money now, you will say no. But you can give it to women just because of pussy, and after they show you shege, you will now come to nairaland and be creating useless threads.

NoahHadNoArk:
So much gaslighting in the comments above me

She knew what she was coming for and she came for that purpose, only to chicken out at the last minute. It’s normal as a human to feel frustrated and believe you’ve been played on. Sending her out to create space for another female who is more than willing is fair if you ask me.
I mean she says that’s not what she’s here for

So telling her someone who is here for that is around and won’t be comfortable seeing her her, anyone would understand that logic.

Now to the part of throwing her out with no money, take to mind you’ve been generous to her in the past. Most girls go around with the so called “vex money” and I’m guessing that’s what she fell back on, otherwise she would have given in to your requests for a simple cuddling and all would have been well.

Don’t allow any vaginarian manipulate you for any reason, all you asked for was a cuddle. That girl is having her brains banged out on a daily by a guy who is not doing even half of what you’ve done for her and that’s the irony of life.

My peace I leave you

you should have allowed her to stay,when the other girl comes then you introduce her as your sister,let her sleep in the living room,then you and the girl will sleep in the bedroom,make sure you Bleep her well and hard so that her moans will reach the living room.I bet you after that she will be the one begging you to Bleep her.girls are naturally Jealous,they always want what another girl has,if she feels that another woman is willingly giving you what she is denying you,then she will let you have the keys to her body.

U can still call another girl with out sending her out..
And tell the other girl that she is your sister

It depends how many room dey your house..
What u did is wrong.

AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

I,understand your frustrations. It happened to me on forex trading last week i lost $1200..
I sent her out that night cos i wasn't just interested to be with anyone at that moment. She's not my girlfriend, just a fling, we were supposed to spend 3 days together but immediately i logged in into my hfm app and saw red on all my trades Vex just full my body. I booked a bolt for her and told her to go.
I got a regular mood swings issues but forex and bitcoin futures trading will humble you 😂