AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

You messed up big time. No be by force na. You lose for futures trading but you still wan bleep. The girl was smart enough to know that you were going to fvckk the futures loss out of her. Na she send you work?

Why would you throw her out in the dark like that? You are the wicked and the selfish one. What if she fell into the trap of ritualists, rapistss and what have you? You are an evil being

Pls look for a way to apologize to her. If possible, make her happy by buying her stuff

funkemary:




Where is the hypocrisy? Where is it coz I can't find any

Of course it's okay for the girl to receive gift(s) did he mention that she has been denying him material gift? Oh, i get you... The gift you are referring to is her body. You are not serious.

It's a gift remember she did not force him to extend his act of generosity so why forcefully ask her to pay back with her body?

You may be right in the sense that she isn't stupid to spend time alone with a guy but hey, she isn't stupid either to know that this guy only want her for the night and probably as a fling so she declined. I think she is a smart girl who know what she wants

So you as a babe if a guy that has been giving you gifts asks you to come to his house to 'cuddle' will you honestly go there not knowing what could happen? Why agree to go and cuddle someone from the opposite sex and not expect anything to happen if you are really smart? The worst part is that the girl went there and did not even go with her TP just in case something goes wrong? And you call her smart? Perhaps you are also as 'smart' as her! No free lunch anywhere my sister. If you think you've been smart all this while eating men's money and getting away with it, it's only a matter of time before the cock will come home to roost!

Yes on your anger but No on the other aspects..
She is not interested and sees you as a simp ! Move on to reclaim your dignity... IMHO there was no need trying to show her back . Next time ,.ignore her and sleep. ! Or light your weed or drink up !

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

flatROCKhead:
You messed up big time. No be by force na. You lose for futures trading but you still wan bleep. The girl was smart enough to know that you were going to fvckk the futures loss out of her. Na she send you work?

Why would you throw her out in the dark like that? You are the wicked and the selfish one. What if she fell into the trap of ritualists, rapistss and what have you? You are an evil being

Pls look for a way to apologize to her. If possible, make her happy by buying her stuff

You're joking right? If he feels like buying stuff, he should buy gifts and send to his parents who sacrificed to raise him or better still go to the nearest motherless babies home and invest!

If anything the girl should be the one apologising for leading him on! From the onset she should have clearly defined the rules of engagement and let the boy decide if he wanted to continue with this weird relationship/friendship thingy.

Nackzy:
so you mean you support someone kicking a girl out in the middle of the night, me I don't support it no matter what the girl did

Until you are in that situation, then you will know if you can do it or not.

Mind you, another lady was coming to OP's house and there was no way both ladies will be comfortable staying under the same roof. So, it was better for the other lady to go.

At the Heat of Anger, don't React.
Good morning

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

riverbird:


The guy did his best to avoid the unthinkable from happening.....the guy did not tell you he's a saint.

He did his best how?
Right from day one, the guy knows that he will devour the girl. He was just waiting for the right time.
The way he sent her out and brought in another woman said it all. He's an animal.

How can you tell a girl to just come and cuddle you in a bed and want her to believe they will not have sex. He want to put the girl in the mood and finally have her. That was why he was very angry that he may not have that girl that night.

He can help the girl without wanting to be compensated with sex or stop helping entirely

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

What a disgusting human being.
You want to turn a girl you have no intention of marrying into a sex worker, because you bought her fish and moi moi? You then leave her for who?

You did not see any of the already messed up ones parading at junctions, with full HIV waiting for you. You just want to add this innocent and morally sound girl to their pool. Are there no brothels in your area?

To you it's a few minutes of pleasure and ejaculated. To her it could be the starting point of a lifetime of responsibilities, raising a child you will deny, or the lifetime trauma of aborting a baby and living with the memory, or life changing sexually transmitted disease since you obviously sleep around. What is the worth of the money you lost, to the future of the young lady, with the minions of ways you could ruin her life with sex? The selfishness of even equating the two is unthinkable. Do you even have a sister?

Whats funny, is that you lack shame, and feel so entitled that you brought your dirtiest to an online forum.
It's one thing to play with morally bankrupt female like yourself, it's an entirely different level of toxicity to pressure a responsible naive girl into sexual relations with you.

No, u did the right thing , imagine you taking Viagra thinking she will come, and she did not show up.

you did the right thing....many nigerian girls are good for nothing.....imagine she dont even have tfare to take go home....where una de see all these type of cockroaches una de call GF,..

@OP stop wasting time on Nigerian girls....just bang dem and throw dem out no one ever love you , many are just coded oloshos

because you gave her things, you feel entitled that she is supposed to curdle you because you lost money, she came to give you moral support not sex. Hmmmm you are annoying

Bro, firstly it's a good indicator You realized the outcome of your anger which needs be in check for future events.
Secondly, You wanna take off a lot from Your mind, there are lotta other things or activities that could achieve that and don't rely on women for all your joy and happiness or normal decluttering.
And lastly, call up this lady and apologize plus give her another good treatment.
Get some good books on personal development.
Light and Love.
#Candle

No hard feelings man.
A girl did similar thing to me and I dumped her in the hotel room the next morning without transportation back.

She probably called home for her fares from Port Harcourt to Uyo..

I had every opportunity to rape her or drug her but am no beast. I just got to know I wasted time and effort on her and dumped her fast.

My opinion is she wasn't sexually attracted to you. Just because you spent money or time on her doesn’t change this; it may have made it worse. She was willing to be there for you, and that’s why she came over, but your temper after she rejected your advances revealed how childish you were. Women pick up on these things.

I believe you somehow know you’re in the wrong here. Apologize to her by text or WhatsApp. Possibly send her money, but don’t try to pursue her romantically. Move on, and invest in yourself regarding the “game” and how not to be a simp or wuss.

obi58:


So you as a babe if a guy that has been giving you gifts asks you to come to his house to 'cuddle' will you honestly go there not knowing what could happen? Why agree to go and cuddle someone from the opposite sex and not expect anything to happen if you are really smart? The worst part is that the girl went there and did not even go with her TP just in case something goes wrong? And you call her smart? Perhaps you are also as 'smart' as her! No free lunch anywhere my sister. If you think you've been smart all this while eating men's money and getting away with it, it's only a matter of time before the cock will come home to roost!

He invited me over and I accepted. Fine. Do you have to rub it on my face? Manner of approach matters a lot you know right. The fact that you are buoyant financially doesn't mean you should not checkmate how you approach people coz your intention may be right but I tell you this, your approach can make it look bad.

P.s I never supported her for not going with T.P and I wonder why you are not seeing what the guy did wrong. Are you saying you can even do worse?

meanwhile this is what you get when you are completely dependent. For me, I rather learn with peoples mistakes than wait until it gets to me

Happy Sunday

NoahHadNoArk:


Seen, Bless

I wouldn’t claim or lie when it comes to hunger otherwise I will starve to death

Thanks again, you’ve given me bfast this morning.

For resorting to help me, a complete stranger out of nothing and in the midst of my hopelessness, I am forever indebted to you.

Thank you too bro.

Blessings always.

etrange:
You sent someone's daughter out in the middle of the night even when you knew she had no money for transport because you're angry? You confirmed nothing happened to her from someone. You say that as if that after-the-fact confirmation made your actions any less egregious. Would that confirmation have saved her if she was attacked that night? And you're asking if you did something wrong. So if we say no, you'd still have the mind to do something like this again in your life? Sir, you're not here to find out if you're wrong or right, you already know the answer to that question. You brought the story here cause you want validation for your evil act so you can have peace of mind. But the truth is, until you accept your wrong-doing, what you did to that girl will keep haunting you.

You didn't introduce this girl to us as your girlfriend. You described her as "this girl that has been to your place, eat the best and that" (that expression is stupid by the way). You had another girl you could easily call, so she was just one of the girls. You also said and I quote "in my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex ...". You don't want to commit but you're angry that she didn't jump into your bed cause of the food you've been buying her. You say cuddling several time as we don't know how that ends up. Let me not go into the dynamics of your relationship and what she might have done wrong or right because that would give the impression that there's a scenario where your action would be justified. The truth is, there isn't. You're a dangerous man.

You see, what you did that night is not about her. She's fine, and she's moving on with her life and dignity. She's not the one creating threads online. Rather, it's about you. If you could send a girl out in the middle of night without transport, you have issues; very serious issues. I'm sure I'm not the first person to tell you this, and I'm sure this is not the first time your action is shocking you into explaining yourself to strangers hoping to be validated. Certainly, if there was no internet, you'd sit down and explain yourself to a dog, a cat or anything around. That is what happens when your conscience is pushing you around. You'd recount the story over and over again in your head hoping to find validation somewhere but you won't. NL boys can hail you all they want, but deep down, you know you have a problem.

I am learning

And some girl self y do they keep accepting gift from men knowing fully well they can't give wat d guy ask of, abi them think say men na father Christmas? If u know u won't give into a request from men then stop accepting gift from them period

AyobamiOluwole:


Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

Don't worry online traders are like that their emotions runs with the market tick. It takes a special kind of people to be in relationship with them. Beg her if she can't understand Find yourself another Girl and continue your quest for riches.

Nackzy:
so you mean you support someone kicking a girl out in the middle of the night, me I don't support it no matter what the girl did

You never jam wahala. Say na "no matter what the girl did". Just keep praying trouble stays far away from you.

abba190:
my friend u are a bloody simp

You abba190, The expelled paed0phile ex school teacher called Victor Omerigwe aka HellVictorinho6 aka abba190 aka TrustNone aka EbenezerTriumph aka keet13 aka MrsAminaBello (and 40 other monikers) , the internet scammer and perpetual banbiala beggar is calling another man a s!MP.

You a l0ser in real life is the real definition of a s!MP!


See ehn, I will keep coming for you until you cough out every penny you sc@mmed from the p00r widowed mother of 4. She will be your last victim. I assure you.

Typical women
Always on the receiving end, but cannot for once in their lives give to the giver ..

You told her why you want her to come to your place , she agreed . so why is she trying to manipulate you .?

She probably didn't take what you told her serious and thought it was another day for her to receive free offerings from the church of man .

Next time op, give to your fellow man , if to say nah your padi you call that night ... Story no go long but you choose to give eve a chance but eve prefer the devil in her 😍 😁🎉

But what’s her problem ? She can’t cuddle someone ? These naija women can be very weird sometimes . In the uk if you are feeling down or unloved women give you sympathy hugs, over here you ask a woman for a hug only she thinks you are asking her for a million dollars

You’re a terrible human being. You wanted sex all along, but wanted to form nice and decent guy. You endangered a girl’s life cos of sex, even after she told you she has no means of getting home. That means she used all the cash on her to come visit you.
Imagine it’s your daughter or sister.

Na you go first spend on woman?

You should be ashamed of yourself.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Una de try ooh,me I no fit keep female platonic friend ooh

hopeforcharles:

Don't mind all those peeps nailing you. In the public every body just want to condemn you no body really cares about you.

Should I tell you what my wife did for me?
She noticed my mood.
Came and hugged me and told me don't worry you will win another day.
Made food and gave me
When the child was disturbing my eating time she called them off
Served me chilled drink
And faced the fan to my side.
After some minutes I felt better and energized.

That girl has lost a good friend
A Friend in need is a Friend indeed.
You needed her then and she didn't show up for you.

You mentioned your "wife"! He had no right to her body. OP work on yourself about rejection ok? She isn't attracted to you.

At the very least, you should have booked a bolt for her to get home.

After that, have nothing more to do with her.

That way, you will seem mature.

You didn't necessarily do any wrong, cos you both had a transaction agreed to by both parties, but putting her safety and being childish aren't super traits.

Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time. Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time. Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me....

AyobamiOluwole:


Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

you seem like a confused fellow. Which one is you are expecting cuddles, bit thinking it will lead to sex but not expecting sex again?

You called her to your house to dump your negative emotions and negativity laden cum unto her because you lost your money to crypto. She no gree and you kicked someone's daughter out unto the unsafe streets in anger. What you did is a bad omen and the girl is lucky she dodged a bullet. You are an energy vampire. What you wanted wanted was a bootÝ call and A LOWKEY FETISH SPIRITUAL SACRIFICE.

I hope ladies can learn that not all that glitters is gold.
Imagine if this babe 'cuddled' the guy and inherited all that negativity from you. Her life and fortune will stagnate. She will be wondering why her life is jot moving forward and be running from one deliverance center to another.

@ ebhaleleme51490

sukkot:
But what’s her problem ? She can’t cuddle someone ? These naija women can be very weird sometimes . In the uk if you are feeling down or unloved women give you sympathy hugs, over here you ask a woman for a hug only she thinks you are asking her for a million dollars

Nigeria is too hot to be hugging and smelling body odour.

GerogeI:


What a disgusting human being.
You want to turn a girl you have no intention of marrying into a sex worker, because you bought her fish and moi moi? You then leave her for who?

You did not see any of the already messed up ones parading at junctions, with full HIV waiting for you. You just want to add this innocent and morally sound girl to their pool. Are there no brothels in your area?

To you it's a few minutes of pleasure and ejaculated. To her it could be the starting point of a lifetime of responsibilities, raising a child you will deny, or the lifetime trauma of aborting a baby and living with the memory, or life changing sexually transmitted disease since you obviously sleep around. What is the worth of the money you lost, to the future of the young lady, with the minions of ways you could ruin her life with sex? The selfishness of even equating the two is unthinkable. Do you even have a sister?

Whats funny, is that you lack shame, and feel so entitled that you brought your dirtiest to an online forum.
It's one thing to play with morally bankrupt female like yourself, it's an entirely different level of toxicity to pressure a responsible naive girl into sexual relations with you.

God bless you

obi58:


You're joking right? If he feels like buying stuff, he should buy gifts and send to his parents who sacrificed to raise him or better still go to the nearest motherless babies home and invest!

If anything the girl should be the one apologising for leading him on! From the onset she should have clearly defined the rules of engagement and let the boy decide if he wanted to continue with this weird relationship/friendship thing.

I believe he should apologize and possibly send her money or buy her a gift as a way of making things up. He shouldn't try to get together with her anymore as trust has been broken. The essence of the apology or gift or cash is to move on and for the lady to forget and forgive.