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You are less of a man!

For the fact that you are now asking us whether you did bad or not, it means that you are still a child in adult body

AyobamiOluwole:
Leave this NOSIMP of a thing. I didn't do it based on whether I'm forming Red pill or not. Anger and frustration is a bad thing. Bleep Futures trading and Crypto. Damn. All this wouldn't have happened.

I don't have any pity to give her, what you wouldn't eat, don't smell it. Wetin she dey find for man house if she no wan do, she even dey collect money on top. No na!

I'm in my Aproko mode.....the other girl jare, did she come? If yes, define wetin con happen in one paragraph.

Rokiat:
She deserve it for dealing with a low bum
Dustie like you.

Hopefully she is young and she will learn because some of them have no self worth and self love left in them.

Just imagine this fucker…y.

JUST SEE WETIN FULL GROWN MAN COME ONLINE TALK... NO SHAME AGAIN. MAN WITH BEAR BEAR FOR FACE AND PREEK.
SO OP DE FEEL REALLY COOL NOW? UNA DE SEE NOW OOOOO, TOMORROW NA THE WOMEN BE ASHAWOOOOO. SEE IDIOT NOW OOOO, WE GO DONATE MONEY SEND OP TO REHAB OOOO.

You should be arrested...I mean,what the fkkk,are a kid or what? Why don't you call your mom to hug?

Her presence alone and talking should've been enough for you to feel ok.
Some people feel ok just talking to someone....you better call her and profusely apologize and importantly stop this childish acts.
It's peeps like you that will be angry and refuse to eat your wife's food.

I am so ashamed!!!

How can you be begging for a cuddle? I need to unsee this post.


You don't beg for cuddle, you make it happen with your brain and how you move.... Chai, men can be dumb. This is why women try to treat us like mugu. This is why they laugh at us when they make hairs and nails...

You are a big fat p*g. Just turn to give and **s to people that needs it. Okpo.

I have never been angered by a post like this before. You sent her away when you could have talked to her and convince her to suck your p or even treat her good. Kai I don't believe this is true. People just pulling our legs.

Friends Jesus Christ loves y'all and he want you to accept him as your personal lord and saviour by giving your life to Christ, believing in him and repenting of your sins.remember tomorrow might be too late. Shalom

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

You for give her transport na. I have faced this too but I gave her transport and never bothered contacting her till date.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

1. Your conscience already judging you therefore go apologize. 2. Futures trading is pure gambling stop it or own one(it's only the house that wins, I am a software developer I understand the algorithms used). 3. Not everybody likes cuddling especially this heat period many Nigerian women don't know how to cuddle men, I don complain tire to my wife.

Rejoice28:
Friends Jesus Christ loves y'all and he want you to accept him as your personal lord and saviour by giving your life to Christ, believing in him and repenting of your sins.remember tomorrow might be too late. Shalom

Sister make you no dey whyne us, tell me any single person wey get em life....na God get all the life so which one you want make we give am again when na gim get everything?

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Well wether you are wrong or right is not the issue now, the issue is that you should thank your God that nothing happened to her that night

If anything had happened to her, that's when you will understand that there are certain laws and rights for everyone in this country

Foolish post.. now seeking validation from another set of fools..

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AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

I BLAME CAPITALISM

Bro you mentioned sex more times than you mentioned cuddle. We all know exactly what you wanted but she denied you, then you let your ego get the best of you.

I blame Capitalism because it allows for all sorts of unexplainable misbehaviours in this generation. Those social values and constructs that used to guide our society and kids have been broken fully! Young Nigerian females are forced to be put in vulnerable states and Nigerian men own na to let QUICKLY MADE MONEY destroy their destiny and turn them into beasts.

I blame Capitalism because if you make money through hard work in the sun not all these pointless office work or tech, it'll teach you patience of hardwork to control your anger, even the vitamin D from the sun will always have you in a good mood regardless of whatever so you won't need cuddle(sex), spending time in a social environment will give you conscience not to leave a sister out in the dark. What kind of society will have a young lady who's working still need to beg to fend for herself?

What a bastardized generation of young men and women with no virtue whatsoever.

funkemary:
You are wrong and it doesn't speak well of you. Based on how you define she is just someone you assist with one thing or the other, no intimacy or whatever connection attached you now call her one day to cuddle and probably lay with her. Haba would you have succumb to it if it was to be you

Not all persons are cool with friends with benefits kind of thing. I'm glad your conscious took a better part. Please apologize for sending her out that late in the night

Lots of hypocrisy on display here.

It's ok for the girl to receive gifts from the guy but not vice versa?

Is the girl that stupid not to understand the poisoned chalice she was drinking from going to spend time alone with a guy in his house and accepting his gifts? Did she imagine the boy was father Christmas?

fitinwell:
But she could accept gifts from strangers abi.. without her parents consent..

All the Shoppings and takeaways...

Strangers?? He’s not a stranger. He’s an adult, he should be straightforward in his intentions. Acting like a nice guy and secretly hoping to bang is not red pill energy .

That’s a simp energy

MOST TIMES WHEN MAJORITY OF COMMENTS/OPINIONS ARE VIEWED OR ANALYZED FROM SHALLOW THINKING, INEXPERIENCE AND LOW KNOWLEDGE AND EMOTIONS, IT MIGHT MAKE A FIRM PERSON LOOSE HIS/HER POTENCY AND STANDARD IN SUCH REGARD. This is why I choose to help you!

Young Man, regardless of what you've heard from others, this is my personal one-on-one chat with you!
1. THE WORST THING YOU COULD HAVE DONE IS NOT SENDING HER OUT THAT NIGHT... No time to explain!
2. Everything that happened that Night was 100% concieved and scripted by herself and probably her advisers too.
3. She probably hoped to trade the cuddling or sex for money having known you lost million on trade - she was waiting for you to feel more frustrated by her words, then ask her how much she wanted for her to cuddle or sex you erasing your tension - It was a deal game gone bad.
4. Women manipulation is in grades, levels and dimension, the one you can't comprehend seniors you - If you are not depth enough, sometimes they will make you feel guilty over a deliberate intension they have against you. No time to explain!

NOTE:
1. The Action of that girl does not in any way shows that she was acting innocently not to disrespect her body or her womanhood!
2. Irrespective of any analogy that may be posted on you to guilt-trip you - It is noll and viod bcoz her intension of coming was 100% faulty! You can't give justice to a faulty intension as victim just bcoz original aims aren't achieved.
3. If the power of gifts doesn't attract passion and concern in anyone's heart towards you - then the reciever of those gifts isn't Innocent & a dangerous fellow, probably your devil - aviod them!
4. We know how decent and innocent girls would behave in such scenario and hers is completely out of it - Don't feel guilty.

OPINION:
1. May be during the day she had over worked her sexual life, hence feeling exhausted and playing those cards.
2. Certainly, she needed to use your predicament to make more money gifts for herself exploiting you indirectly!
3. My thought is not subject to questioning and not on compulsion - If you believe them, maintain your discipline and firmness but if you doubt them, then tilt and do otherwise.

Finally, the best action you took last night was sending her out of your house, REGARDLESS OF THE TIME! No time to digest!

NOTE; Not all counselling are subject to WHY and detailed explanation or reviews. If you doubt them, as you grow, you"ll find correct answers for yourself.

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

You should've been patient with her that night, for her to accept to spend a night with you means she knew sex could happen. If you see it as nothing after rejecting your advance, she would've definitely offer herself withiout being ask again.

The relationship is gone, just forget about her and move on. If she realise her mistake and show a sign that she want to talk to you, you can then apologise to her. Next time, don't spend unnecessary on girls withiout making a demand in return, if she ask you for something, tell her you need sex too. A girl that know how to ask normally know how to collect, na you dey dull yourself since.

Jman06:
Stop post trash here!
Your types are the ones who embolden women to misbehave because you absolve them of responsibilities to their actions. Nonsense!

Let me correct this errorneous belief today: WOMEN ARE NOT CHILDLIKE LIKE THIS YEYE POSTER TYPED UP THERE. Therefore they shouldn't be treated like children but should be held accountable for their actions like every other adult human. They are not less intelligent than men, instead some are smarter than some men.. when a woman wants to deal with a man, she's very decisive and does not show any iota of pity, so there's no need to treat them with levity or show them unmerited kindness.

Women have wreaked many men all over the world. They have thrown men out of their houses and into the jail on flimsy excuses. They have poisoned many men to untimely deaths for little or no serious provocation. They have made men raise other men's children via paternity frauds. The list endless!

A people capable of the above actions cannot be said to be innocent and deserving of any special favourable treatments from the menfolk.

Op, I wouldn't know why you're guilt stripping yourself for doing what was clearly the right thing to do at that time. You didn't do any wrong for sending her out of your house when she could not grant your little request of leaning on her shoulder for consolations due to your loss. The lady is obviously SELFISH and you should stop spending your resources on her. She isn't worth it!

you dey mind that fuuul?
He will learn about women the hard way

Bro but seriously it's either you are not that mentally stable or you have the wrong orientation about women, I think you should work on yourself or oriente yourself about how you see women..
They are one of the easiest thing to handle if only you can pay attention and read signs..,,
Internet (tiktok, IG etc) and pornography have done so much harm to men seriously

Easiest way is just to turned off the lights and then puton a movie on your phone and invite her to come watch with you, laugh and gist with her, make her relax wella(very important), after some time you draw her closer , make a sharp excuse and hold her tight, she may try to break free but insist since you both already know why she's there(but don't overdo o, and don't rape lol), so easy..
There's no way she will just agree to come to your arms unless she's well matured and understands

Oga stop allowing all these SIMP to guilt trip you. You didn't do anything wrong! Nigerian ladies like 'gaslighting' men to the point where he'll question his own sanity.

You told her ab initio what she was coming for and she agreed (hence the reason she showed up). After the spending and dining, she now refused to deliver on the main objective of her visit. Serves her right jare! You have every right to throw her outside like garbbage. Some guys would have forcefully r*ped her self.

I hate unnecessary drama jare

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

Are you sure you wanted a cuddle or s*x? Your case is like that of a man feeding his chicken daily to get fat so he can kill it and eat. You guys didn't have a relationship. You just picked her up and you both started cohabitation. So you were taking care of her just to bleep her whenever you want. It doesn't work like that. if You guys had started bleeping from the beginning, it would not be an issue but you put urself as a messiah and a daddy to her. u have to define what you both have properly first and let it come naturally. If she loves you, she wouldn't even wait for you to make moves. Sending her out at night like that was really childish. Believe me, she is gone bro except she still has mission in your house. You have the tendency to be a wife beater. Go and work on yourself.

Smh, Gen Z!!! So, if you are married and your wife doesn't comfort you, you will throw her out Ladies should learn to set boundaries.

hopeforcharles:
It's a waste of time trying to make u see his situation. But you my good sire is a pretentious and holier-than-thou person. Trying to make sure he is seen as a bad person. You should change your ways.
And with this i will not reply your tagging again.

Indeed, it's a waste of time arguing with Andrewtate. I love the fact you finally ignored him

Fahvvy:
With the exception of Noah's comment, every other comment above is trash ...

You told her exactly why you wanted her, she agreed and she came ...

If she's chickening out at the last minute, then she should leave for someone else to come in and fulfil that need - simple! ...

The only issue I see here is you not kicking her outta your crib sooner! ...

Once she started her nonsense, you would've sent her parking - but alas! It's better late than never ...

Is stupid the trending thing now? Cos I don't get how it's the Op's fault. Come to my house please I will like to cuddle you came I gave you food you didn't say anything then oo, it's when you are supposed to do what you came to do you change mind. Who's at fault then? The Op will spoil everything if he apologises to that girl. The girl will turn him to Mugu 001.

AyobamiOluwole:
Thanks, I wish I can like this comment a million times.

na lagos yoruba babe abi? na dem dey do stingy olosho.

AyobamiOluwole:
Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

You were only interested to satisfy your own gratification not considering her own situation she might not be stable emotionally and mentally do you consider that? Take it easy, work on your own anger and try to be reasonable..

AyobamiOluwole:
So this girl has been coming to my place, eat the best food and all that. I've asked her if she has a boyfriend and she said no. I do give her money without asking her for anything on return because I could see she is not the lazy type and she is really hardworking. I am very much ok with finances and I see no issues with some of her demands.


Yesterday I called her and told her that I'm not happy and that I need cuddle only and not sex(I lost so much Dollars from futures trading that night). She later called and said she will come to my place for that reason. In my mind I was thinking this will go down as sex and all, but I don't really want sex.

All I just needed is someone to cuddle and get distracted with that's all. This is the only time I am demanding something from her.

So she came during the evening time, and later that night we went to supermarket and I got her something's to eat at home for the night. We got back home and everything was going well. We were both on the bed when I reminded her why she came. This is someone I've been doing quite a lot for without even thinking twice out of pity. She wouldn't give in and wouldn't let me know why she can't just allow me to cuddle her.

Mehn, from the loss I had earlier and all that, I got infuriated and called another girl telling to pls come over for the night. Then I told this girl to leave my house since she can be that selfish. I sent her out of my house around 10pm. She was telling me she doesn't have money to go home, I didn't care and I shut my door against her. Though I was scared letting her out on that road and that time of the night but my anger got the better part of me. It was later after getting over the whole thing I confirmed nothing happened to her from someone else.

Pls is there anything wrong with what I did?

Modified: Anger is a bad thing. I am wrong sending her away at that time of the night. This is probably the judgement I'll get 😔

You are a very silly boy!

AyobamiOluwole:
Please tell me. I need to see this from a different perspective. Pls. I regret it and I wouldn't like this to happen another time.

Perhaps my mindset. Pls tell me.

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You were only interested to satisfy your own gratification not considering her own situation she might not be stable emotionally and mentally do you consider that? Take it easy, work on your own anger and try to be reasonable..

folake4u:
@ the bolded.

THISSSSSSSSSSS!!!!

Not like he officially asked her to be his girlfriend.

There are subtle ways to initiate sex or cuddle as he wanted without making oneself look unnecessarily desperate.....

It now projects his longtime care for her as a favour to be repayed with sex whether by agreement or not......

YOU ARE AN ANIMAL

YOU ARE EXTREMELY IMMATURE AND A USELESS BOY WHO JUST FEELS A WOMAN OWES YOU HER BODY BECAUSE YOU HAVE BEEN GIVING HER SOME USELESS TASTELESS FOOD

YOU ARE A COMPLETE IDIOT AND THE LOWEST OF THE LOW IN THE RATING OF USELESS MEN

JUST HOPE YOUR STARS THAT THE GIRL DID NOT CURSE YOU CAUSE TRUST ME IT WILL CATCH YOU

YOU ARE A FVCKTARD

StPete:
Na man you be. You deserve all the good things of life

Aza me na😩