descarado:

I love that a lot.
Actually, I will tell you the truth.
A lot of males here love and admire you. Some that are fighting you are simply those who fantasies to get a babe like you.
They rile you up cos they love the interactions whichever way it comes as long as they are interacting.
Just reminds me of a younger me and much older me at work having some black men under me.

Hahaha. I know right, because I wonder why they can't stay away from someone they claim to hate, that supposedly hates them too. I have decided to starve them of the interraction until they become submissive and respectful.

descarado:

Darling, I have no clue.
A friend watching it live on Instagram called to tell me.
Paramedics got to her fast and sprayed something on her to reduce the effect of the acid.

My friend was crying on the phone. Check Instagram.

That lady has been through a lot. I am short of words. Let me go check IG

She is just entitled.

This sort of ladies turn into a major liability ahead

Ladies believe they are doing guys a favour by opening their legs for them. I'm not more a child that a girl will use sex as a bait for her to get what she want. I'm beginning to feel less concern about sex. If you dont want it I dont want it.

Proserpina:
You are no where near being a smarty-pants if you do not realize that I typed figuratively. And you are being dishonest if you admit that when "send back to her father's house" does not mean she will be going to her father's house but can't apply the same logic to my comment.

No I can't feed, as nah you dey feed me Smarty-pants indeed . Get out!

You don't know the meaning of figuratively. In any case even if you had made a metaphor, which you didn't, you should understand thatyour choice of metaphor is a reflection of your state of mind.

The rest of your post is is unintelligible. Good luck.

This is example of tryin to say the right thing but puttin it in a foolish manner. Every sensible man knows it’s his right to care for a woman, but involving sex like a cheap LovePeddler is stupid.

With her ideology once she gives birth to 3 kids and the husband no longer finds her attractive what will happen? That means he has every right to throw her out of the house!!

Marriage should be patience & sacrifice come good or bad , not pay as you go or hookup transaction.

Proserpina:
Where's the lie in her post?

As a man it is your responsibility to take care of your woman, if you can't you have no business with marriage.

When de wrote the bible men are more employed than women, most women stay at home. If more women are now employed, where do you think guys will get delivered money. Quoting bible written when there was no gender equality n women emancipation is totally senseless.
You don't need to go to church to have sense. Just sit and think .

Men don’t need to be reminded of their responsibility, once you can provide the basics then you are okay as a man, the problem is this modern women want to outshine each other and they want to pressure you as a man to do beyond your capability , while they shine teeth at the passenger’s seat. Men make una no do pass una sef. If you are yet to marry normalize prudent spending so she won’t get use to the high life and think you’ve got it like that 24/7. Because when e red the broad will go lay camp to the next maga.

tollyboy5:
This lady made this statement on a thread. I would love to know if that's how ladies think so I can also update Elon musk chip in my head with the latest IA

Biooos just stay single, marriage no be for u

pocohantas:
1. A wife's role is to support not to provide.
2. She expects her husband to be a major provider.
3. She can't be sexually available for a non-provider husband.


Anyone arguing this is being unrealistic.

If men wanted women to be providers, they won't expect providing women to hide it from the public. Neither would they call women richer than their men, the HUSBAND. Tell me about "na she marry man keep for house".

We all know the truth. But let's argue...

Quote me when you are knacking your wife without providing as an able-bodied man.

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Don't follow crowd. Do what you know it's right. Following crowd has led people into the wrong path.
A man had an opportunity for his wife to be a millionaire in an oil company, but the friends were convincing him not to give the wife the long time contract and give it to his brother bcus the wife wil be way richer and will stop respecting him and his marriage might crash.
I gave him an advice, if you have trust issue open a joint account, your wife will definitely agree, trust me. That was it. Now the have up 10 houses together.
Stop following crowd it won't help you. Marriage this days is like partnership, we should be there for each other at all time.
Common sense is not common

pocohantas:
1. A wife's role is to support not to provide.
2. She expects her husband to be a major provider.
3. She can't be sexually available for a non-provider husband.


Anyone arguing this is being unrealistic.

If men wanted women to be providers, they won't expect providing women to hide it from the public. Neither would they call women richer than their men, the HUSBAND. Tell me about "na she marry man keep for house".

We all know the truth. But let's argue...

Quote me when you are knacking your wife without providing as an able-bodied man.

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No 1 & 2 are valid points but no 3 is just bullshit.

Any woman married or not equating sex with the ability to provide is just a glorified harlot.

Sex is not a milk or cake that you give to someone, once you begin to see sex as transactional, well! You have downgraded to harlot mode. It's just like saying, once I can provide she must give me sex.

So the Op wife is on her way to sleeping around. A point of note, there's no man on the planet capable of providing everything you want or need, if you want to get everything you want, you will eventually sleep with everyone in the world.

Proserpina:
Eyah... Sorry ehn

So you want your wife to bring food stuff that she will eat from her father's house while being married to you.

May I not be unfortunate in life

Oshi len she

Listen n learn. Life is full of mysteries, no one can see or predict tomorrow's outcome. A man that is doing well financially can go down tomorrow. Sometimes in life we pass through unpredictable circumstances that affects our lively hood, so, in this situation the lady is saying she will pack n leave the man. She is not a wife material. Na gold digger she be.

I really had a good laugh reading majority of the comments. At the end of the day, nothing in life is a must or by force. IF you desire marriage as a SENSIBLE man or woman, marry a SENSIBLE person. Someone who can always have your back in and out of season, and you're on the same page about life in general. Do what works for you both as one flesh. Love and light!

Balablue64:

I never said the wife should provide, but she must contribute.
As a person i believe in equality, equality in marriage, Equality in mind and everything except for physical strength.
She must be able to contribute to some extent, while growing up my mom was very industrious she takes care of mostly feeding. While my dad pays the utility bills and buys bulk gari and rice.
Only an unwise man will marry a girl that he will be sharing his salary for feeding and providing for her as if she's a handicap, children sef never come oh, abeg leave nonsense

God bless you - sonce I saw this video- my mentality about women changed drastically



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2AWxfnVwQJE?si=uhMYQGMpzkJen4qX


Please IF you are a Man still simping about and living like your life depends on the love of a woman - watch this video made by an American woman and receive sense - thank you!

Apart from childbirth, women are useless. So why will I suffer so much to please a liability who's only useful to just one objective.

Proserpina:
Where's the lie in her post?

As a man it is your responsibility to take care of your woman, if you can't you have no business with marriage.

First of all, I read most of your replies. Quite frankly to an extent, I see your point. But what I can't wrap my head around is that for someone that's obviously as sound as you are, how then do you not see the silliness, and stupidness of according sex as transactional. What in the world does the term *free sex* has to do in a marriage? How do you justify sex as a reward for good graces? Is this supposed to be like a positive reinforcement strategy? I mean, are you training a dog(husband) where his reward is a bone(sex) whenever he is a good boy?. I mean just think about it.

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The idea here is for a perfect balance, that of course a woman should contribute, I personally as a lady I will contribute to my last

penny. However I want my man to have the mentality of not expecting me to contribute. That's the masculinity of a true alpha male. My Dad used to say all his friends who had the 50- 50 mentality struggled to make money, where's those of them who never cared for a woman's contribution always made the money. This is the wisdom men of today are lacking,. Just focus on your role as the Bible intended, find a good woman( don't follow yansh and a pretty face o) get you a good woman and watch yourself live your life in peace and prosperity. ✌️

Danielnicks:


First of all, I read most of your replies. Quite frankly to an extent, I see your point. But what I can't wrap my head around is that for someone that's obviously as sound as you are, how then do you not see the silliness, and stupidness of according sex as transactional. What in the world does the term *free sex* has to do in a marriage? How do you justify sex as a reward for good graces? Is this supposed to be like a positive reinforcement strategy? I mean, are you training a dog(husband) where his reward is a bone(sex) whenever he is a good boy?. I mean just think about it.

You are wasting your time. She and her ilks are not ready to listen. But then, they are not married so I guess they will learn in time

pocohantas:


Hahaha. I know right, because I wonder why they can't stay away from someone they claim to hate, that supposedly hates them too. I have decided to starve them of the interraction until they become submissive and respectful.

That lady has been through a lot. I am short of words. Let me go check IG

Dem dey give you zobo, you sef dey drink am.

See dis 1

One thing is clear about a prostitute, you can only fvck her so long as you give her money for her services.

The writer is talking on the standpoint of that.

However that's not applicable to a godly marriage. A man must have to provide but that's not the basis for getting sexual gratification from his wife.

She has not committed any sacralage

Proserpina:
Read the lady's post, she's never against support or contribution but what she's against is this "the moment my feeding is no longer my husband's problem" i.e the husband is not providing or bringing anything to the family.
A woman can support if she chooses but it is not her duty to provide for the family. Let's get that straight.

In the lady's case the man doesn't nothing but wants to enjoy benefit of marriage? That's her point.

Well on another thread a guy like you said we should focus on our beauty . We shouldn't drag the "provider" title with you men

Seriously I really don't get where you people get this info of how a man must be the provider. Marriage is a union of a man and a woman. Anyone can be the main provider depending on who earns or work more . There is no law that states the man must be the provider its just a mindset we have all decided to assume.
It's only in Africa due to poverty of the mind and entitlement that women always want men that will provide all their needs like she is handicapped or disabled.

When you don't see marriage as partnership and see as a transactional there's a problem. If you want your man to die early, leave all the bills and expenses to him. I pity the coming generation as they think marriage is transactional. You help each other. Two must agree for their marriage to work. Besides sex is just one aspect of marriage. Hmmm... Smh

tollyboy5:
This lady made this statement on a thread. I would love to know if that's how ladies think so I can also update Elon musk chip in my head with the latest IA

Omo, this is old age or adage for old age/old age adage... Adage of old age... Adam and eve, una weldone o...

MrBrownJay1:


again...this is what i deducted from what she said:



she doesnt understand that a wife's role is to do whatever she needs, in order to help the family... (whether support OR provide)



any smart person knows that SEX IS NOT A REWARD FROM WOMEN TO MEN... they both enjoy sex and both provide sex for one another. the minute a woman uses sex like a reward for men, as if this is what he gets in return for providing for the family, thats when she has lost the plot. whether a man provides for the family or not, he is entitled to mounting his wife.



the above is as arrogant/ignorant as a man saying to his wife:"i paid bride price so the toto is mine.... whether you like it or not"



again, this woman regards sex in marriage as a reward for her husband doing whatever he needs to do to provide for his family (whether good or bad)... so technically, when all is good she has sex with husband, and if business is not great, no sex for him. what kind of narrow minded yeye nonsense is this?!

yes some yeye men have left their wives for less than that, but just because these ignoramus did so, doesnt mean we should today make such foul way of life a great thing for marriage.

Your analysis, I think it's on point!

This is a mentality of untrained woman who is not ready for marriage . Marriage is a mutual partnership ..it is not a burdensome relationship. God can bless a woman because of her husband and it can also be the other way round. God told woman to submit to her husband..it means if she is a billionaire she must submit her account too for the running of the family. Whoever can't run marriage like this should never go into it .. Though man must take care of the family as a bread winner. But the situation can change and we need understandable woman

missyblissy:
When you don't see marriage as partnership and see as a transactional there's a problem. If you want your man to die early, leave all the bills and expenses to him. I pity the coming generation as they think marriage is transactional. You help each other. Two must agree for their marriage to work. Besides sex is just one aspect of marriage. Hmmm... Smh

Omo, geddifuck or get the Bleep... Marriage na scam and it would harms you on your way to farm...? You have no fams... Scam is when you are using cam or webcam... To do what...? Scam is when u are using cam and webcam to harm... They are using cam and webcam to scam... Scam are imam and mam... Imam and mallam are scam... They are using cam and webcam to scam... It would harms... It would harms your fams and your farms... Imam and mam, imam and mallam, stop using cam and webcam to scam... U are a scam... U are a scam that would harm... Stop doing imam and or stop becoming imam and mallam/mam, it's a scam...scam...

daneni1:
Let us all know that roles can be flexed but can't be changed.

Roles can be flexed but can't be changed...so a man can become feminine when he loses his job, and a woman can become masculine when she steps in to take care of the family, in other words? Okay.

I would have thought it's never possible for these "masculine/feminine roles" to be switched before lol.

tollyboy5:
This lady made this statement on a thread. I would love to know if that's how ladies think so I can also update Elon musk chip in my head with the latest IA

she should wait till she is married than she will really know if most men give a fork about sex

Newusername:
Why will a man get married if he is not ready to provide? From what I know, provision is the primary duty of a man while nurturing is the primary duty of a woman.

Why, as a man and father, will nurturing your own kids not be a primary duty to you? Will heaven fall if you're both responsible for providing and nurturing?

pocohantas:


They will learn...

There have been successful marriages (or at least by the couples' definition) and there will continue to be successful marriages that do not run on this "a man is a man and a woman is a woman" stuff that y'all are prescribing sha. It doesn't even translate to real life where the lines of characters/personalities are blurred.

The fact that you that don't even believe a man should be an 100% provider is telling that you concede to compromises on the gender roles. They are not "fixed rules".

tollyboy5:

First of all do you think to pay house rent is easy?
I'm sorry I grew up with an apt ideology and I'm still trying to understand relationship matters. Because I don't understand many things I have come to notice and understand.
My parents for instance are old fashioned.
My mum does little trade while my dad provide almost everything.
My mum got established by my dad in the 90s and later my dad lost his job.
We moved from our quarters in garki Abuja then back to Lagos. My dad was the bread winner of his family back then.
After coming back to Lagos my dad then returned to Abuja to start working as contractor, things were not as good as before but my mum was never prepared for this newly kind of life.
She came from a nice family also and she's a strong willed person.
Immediately she started doing more also to provide for me and my sister her nagging increased. There is not always peace whenever my dad return from Abuja. I was the mummy's boi so I always took side with my mum no matter what, while my elder sis is always compassionate towards my dad now reverse is almost the case tho.
My daddy being a gentle person reduce his visit to Lagos. Despite being the landlord lol. My mum was 70% in charge of the house.
Fast forward till now, me and my dad are not close while me and my mum are no more close like we use to.
The last time I went home and wanted to demarcate some extension of the building my mum challenged me that I dare not.
I did not waste time to tell her to return to her father's house if she's not pleased.
I've imagined all the wahala she gave my dad wen I was still her strongest ally. If she felt my dad was not providing enough as a man she should have gone outside to rent 3 bedroom flat and a shop to know if my dad did not provide shelter.

If a man provides shelter for his family I feel he has done a good job. If both party contribute feeding as 50/50 there is nothing bad about that.
The man will still need to pay school fees and other house related bills etc.
So with all this provision and expenses if a lady feels he must also provide all feeding. Then what is the support she's giving to him?
Thanks I'm just trying to learn so I won't be expecting more than I could get from a lady.

@bold:

Often times, most parties want to eat their cake and have it. A man wants a 'supportive, understanding' wife until it is time to pick up chores, childcare,set boundaries with his family,be faithful or involve his wife in decision making then he suddenly remembers he is a 'man'.

If you want a marriage when all resources (money, time, assets) etc are treated as one, then both parties must put in their all and be on their best behaviour; no cheating, no bullying, no making decisions to the detriment of the other, no leaving one person to do all the chores, no maltreatment of in-laws, no in-laws who lack boundaries, no one person's life on hold for the other, no one person overburdened by finances or chores, no abuse (physical, emotional, verbal, financial, sexual) etc. You get the idea.

To be honest, a number of women are insistent on a man who provides to cover up their numerous defects. The man probably doesn't give her peace or isn't useful any other way so they make do with the money.

Like my people say, one can't suffer in two ways.