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Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by allthingsgood: 10:48pm On Apr 11 |
Proserpina: @bolded Just like a husband can care for the family and do chores if he chooses to. It is not his duty to carry baby or wash dishes. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by tochez24(m): 10:49pm On Apr 11 |
Balablue64: Please you guys should AVOID non virgins⚠️ A virgin can not sound this way i tell you, this is an ideology of a retired worn out LovePeddler looking for a simp to hang her boots on.... I can never be that man for sure 😃 |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by timibare(m): 10:54pm On Apr 11 |
Proserpina:ahh u will be unfortunate ohh |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by pussyAvenger: 10:55pm On Apr 11 |
Proserpina:I tire for una...so it's now ' na you go marry her' instead of two adults agreeing to live together as man and wife.. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by femi4: 10:56pm On Apr 11 |
tollyboy5:this one live by the vjj. Not different from how olosho operate. They fvck for money 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by tochez24(m): 10:59pm On Apr 11 |
Balablue64: My mum sells yam in the local market⚠️ She started that business before she gave birth to me and my siblings over 40 years ago... From that business she personally took care of her 6 children, from feeding to clothings, etc My dad only paid for rent, school fees, light bills and sometimes bought provisions, rice and beans in bags.... Even when they owed my dad salary for years, my mum filled the gap to make her children never went hungry!!!! For me that's a real woman, she didn't wait for my dad to take care of her and planned on leaving when things became difficult 💯💯 Sometimes i wonder the kind of STUPID female creatures we're left with now🙄 2 Likes |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Newusername(m): 10:59pm On Apr 11 |
Eunoiaa:It's good for both parents to nurture their children but it is the primary duty of the mother |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Okechinwadike: 11:16pm On Apr 11 |
see talk, tomorrow now you will see her in Shiloh disturbing God for husband |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Eunoiaa(f): 11:20pm On Apr 11 |
pocohantas: Simple. Not unfairly pushing the bulk of responsibilities to the other person, especially because they "ought to" do it and were made or created for it. Joint ownership of properties. Present parenting. "Sharing" in the experience of pregnancy. I mean, the husband being there during ante- and post-natal hospital visits and care. Say, electricity units got finished, and one of them was home, they reload a new unit and not wait until the other got home (unless they have an agreement otherwise) because "it's their duty." I could link articles to how healthy marriages are to avoid being long-winded. Oh, and see, even the most what you described that I cut out, they are exactly how I understand a healthy marriage to be so I do not disagree with how you've put it (now). Gender roles as in "this is what this person (usually) does in the marriage," is dandy. And they sometimes overlap. Of course, it's not prostitution to want to have sex because someone has shown you love and you want to show how happy they make you feel, too. The OP just made it all seem like some "you-must-stick-to-the-rule-or-this-must-happen" thing. It may be my opinion, but I don't think ultimatums like that are *healthy* for any marriage. It was so selfishly worded and insinuated that she has sex with him because he feeds her, so all the conclusions on the thread that's been drawn from it aren't so far-fetched. It read like a husband who has been doing something, but the moment it seems like he cannot comfortably shoulder her/the financial burdens in the home, then sex is out of the picture. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by pocohantas(f): 11:35pm On Apr 11 |
Eunoiaa: That account was even created newly and I think that was all she posted. But then, this is Nairaland. If a man posted same, I bet they would have made the sense out of his post, not minding the delivery. I simply made sense out of her post because I can't deny not getting her point. Humans know what they are doing. They know what is healthy. They only choose not to do it. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by bitingcool: 11:49pm On Apr 11 |
Balablue64: Anytime a Nigerian man starts a conversation by labeling a woman an ashawo or retired olosho just know he has nothing in his head, is backward and a regressive los.er. same with all those that liked his post. Intelligent conversations can be made without insulting or labeling people when you do not know if it's a fact. know this and know peace. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by tollyboy5(m): 12:31am On Apr 12 |
this poco lady, iffa give am knock 4 head eh! Funny ladies. My grandma wey hustle throughout never came with the mentality of my grandpa must feed her. Everybody dey work to put things together. That's how she trained her daughter's. I was working in my aunt house at around 11pm I was still on my system same with my aunt and her husband already went to sleep. Naso I doze off, she woke me up around 12am to go inside and rest. I went to sleep and woke up 6am my aunt don cook food for the family, she don zoom off with her car to work. I went to ikorodu to see my second aunt alhaja. I met her husband at home and I waited till she came back from office. God bless ijebu/Eko Epe women. The best in world What we have now are below standard we just dey manage them. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by luminouz(m): 12:57am On Apr 12 |
Kingson28:Your brain full of Gboko Cleanser!! See the mindset of a man!!! Your own don finish |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Eaglesence: 12:57am On Apr 12 |
Balablue64: You gat big problem bro... |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Hannaleeyah(f): 1:00am On Apr 12 |
1Sharon: @balablue64, you had better shut up and stop forming an alpha male online, this takes you no where...only if you know what the Bible verses @1Sharon quoted means 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by luminouz(m): 1:01am On Apr 12 |
Proserpina: E pain the guy e come abuse you Pele!!!! E pepper you too small. NL no go kill me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Proserpina: 1:05am On Apr 12 |
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Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by goshee: 1:21am On Apr 12 |
Proserpina:Since i will take care if her simply because I Bleep her, id prefer that we do it pay-as-you-go. Whenever I Bleep her I will pay her. I might keep her in the house for 6 months without touching her. How about that. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by jellybabee(f): 6:19am On Apr 12 |
Balablue64:very well said..... But hope men too will learn to wash their clothes since they aren't handicap too |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by greypencils: 7:14am On Apr 12 |
tollyboy5:There is no need for her to get married since her views about marriage is no different from that of relationships. If hopping in and hopping out at will is her goal in marriage, men should do well to avoid her. Taking care of a woman in a marriage is a no brainer. Men are wired to provide and protect and we would do that but getting hitched to this amount of self-centredness and selfishness in human form will be disservice to value and a great burden on the mental health of such a man that would try to. 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by BoboKush(m): 7:49am On Apr 12 |
This one na hook up na..... Make she kukuma dey charge the husband dey go na.... Abi |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by NEUDUDE: 8:07am On Apr 12 |
This ideology seems one-sided to me. This woman is plain selfish that i am certain off. How guys put up with bitches like this on a long term still remains a mystery to me. It is life. Shit happens! Men are not gods neither are men perfect, at least be humane! I wish more men had this idealogy with women imperfections. Most women are brutal. The moment you hit a bump on the road their instincts is to ditch you . I am all for provision for your woman. but guys beware and tread carefully. This women nowadays are mean. they are out to ruin you 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by justking(m): 8:18am On Apr 12 |
Wahala for her |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by fineberry(m): 9:04am On Apr 12 |
MrBrownJay1:My brother from another mother, God bless you on this your comment, you've said it all. 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Charly68: 9:46am On Apr 12 |
bukatyne:Love your wives |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:22am On Apr 12 |
cococandy: VERY confused lots. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Skepticus: 11:34am On Apr 12 |
tollyboy5: I'm glad you saw this. You became a man the day you started seeing your mother the way, your dad saw her. Your Dad may not be perfect but certainly, your mum was a major part of the issue 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by UyaiIncomparabl(f): 11:52am On Apr 12 |
pocohantas: Kponkwem. You even tried engaging the whole way. I have always been very vocal about people sticking with their choices and standards, more especially, women. Men will rather become priests than bring down their standards, so why do women do the opposite? A man will say he will never marry a woman who isn’t working class or a co-provider and funnily enough, he will get it. But, you see women? They will do all within their might to prove to these men how much they can be co-providers or even reduce their standards to match that of these men. I have no strength to argue with a bunch of strangers on the internet about my life choices. If I say that A is A and you say that B is B, how do I convince you to make you see that A is A and not the other way? For going the whole way, I must commend you greatly because I wouldn’t. No strength. People who believe in equality or a switch in roles trying to make people who are traditional seem as though their choices are wrong. NO. 1 Like |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by erico2k2(m): 12:06pm On Apr 12 |
Proserpina:This can only come from an unmarried person! |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by erico2k2(m): 12:08pm On Apr 12 |
goshee:More like pre-paid |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by Eunoiaa(f): 12:55pm On Apr 12 |
daneni1: Oh, I did. And perfectly got what you mean. That you can support each other in your 'naturally given roles' tells me that you're actually capable of doing the other person's roles. If that were impossible nature should have handicapped us in every way from doing the other person's role. Afolue: Ah, this is the comment. Something must be wrong somewhere then, because the last I check, women like me who think contrary to what the lady said, are in the minority. Women who wants to be taken care of and be provided for are in the MAJORITY, so why haven't you found one to marry? The math ain't mathing. How can I be desperate when my equality stance is a turn off to an average man at the same time? Wouldn't a desperate person conform to what most men want and desire so they can be married off quickly? I fail to understand why some of you guys should marry late when most other people conform to very traditional ideas of what men and women should do o. |
Re: For Men, Can You Marry A Lady With This Ideology? by cococandy(f): 1:37pm On Apr 12 |
UyaiIncomparabl:. You can never please them 1 Like |
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