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He Travelled Without Telling Me by Flywheel212(op): 1:28pm On Sep 15, 2024

So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by zed7: 1:40pm On Sep 15, 2024*

Learn to recognise when you're not wanted.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Akinzola: 1:41pm On Sep 15, 2024

He left you, but I'm 100% sure that you have your senses with you (no offence), you don't need anybody to tell you what's happening.
Be wise.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by otipoju(m): 1:56pm On Sep 15, 2024

Flywheel212:
So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

May Hod save us from time wasters...and may we never wait in vain.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by ItisWell22(f): 2:07pm On Sep 15, 2024*

Isn’t it obvious enough?

It’s glaringly clear, babe.

otipoju:
May God save us from time wasters...and may we never wait in vain.

Amen. 🙏

Juliearth:
My dear, the signs are glaring. Apparently, he is using the word, "love" to keep you in check. If he loves you, would he travel without you?
Did you contribute financially towards the trip? If yes, then there goes your answer.

He didn’t even tell her when his travel plans clicked, until he got there.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by eazzzy1(m): 2:11pm On Sep 15, 2024*

He likes you but isn’t ready to marry now and doesn’t have an immediate plan to. What you are doing is trying to impose your timeline on him. Understand that he has plans for his life that doesn’t include a family at the moment.

Don’t mistake his not wanting to marry now for not wanting to marry you. You can wait it out for when he’s ready or you could leave. Most women would advise you to keep him while exploring other options.

It is my personal conviction that if you leave someone because they aren’t ready to settle down, you are more interested in settling down than in the person. While there’s nothing wrong with that, you are allowed to prioritize, but so is he.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by dawnomike(m): 3:42pm On Sep 15, 2024

Flywheel212:
So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

My sister in the Lord, please; move on!!!

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Juliearth(f): 4:18pm On Sep 15, 2024

Flywheel212:
So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

My dear, the signs are glaring. Apparently, he is using the word, "love" to keep you in check. If he loves you, would he travel without you?

Did you contribute financially towards the trip? If yes, then there goes your answer.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Karleb(m): 9:49pm On Sep 15, 2024

He is most likely in UK and can not get a girlfriend. grin

Forgive him my sister. Old things have passed away.

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by APOPTOSIS: 10:01pm On Sep 15, 2024

Flywheel212:
So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

So, what exactly do you want us to do now?
You didn't specifically make any request
Do you want us to commit him or you into prayers?
Do you want us to pray for him to be deported back to you?
IF you still feel something for him why not cleave to him, after all he has made his request.
He was secretive for reasons best known to him.
People visit Nigeria without even revealing their travel plans to their parents, not to talk of siblings....so are you in any way superior to bloodline relatives?

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by LandMann: 10:06pm On Sep 15, 2024*

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by lastkingsman: 10:52pm On Sep 15, 2024

Karleb:
He is most likely in UK and can not get a girlfriend.

Forgive him my sister. Old things have passed away.

Winter cold is coming. My man don dey try arrange woman to hold body. grin

He fit do run stainless steel for like one year, so konji won finish am

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Maysdevices(f): 10:59pm On Sep 15, 2024

LandMann:
I just pity for the next set of guys that will find their way into this lady's life.

She'll become a chronic cheat and player because her eyes is set on her abroad boyfriend.

She'll contact and distribute STIs and STDs in the process... until the abroad guy comes to marry her.

She'll never be able to build a new relationship with anyone in Nigeria.

The making of a cheat.

Nairaland and non inventive low iq analysis 🫱🏿‍🫲🏼

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by oz4real83(m): 5:32am On Sep 16, 2024

I think you want to become "lady of the rings" with an abroad fiance that never comes home cheesy

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Bighead9: 6:00am On Sep 16, 2024

Flywheel212:
So I met this guy like three years ago and within a year I noticed he was keeping me on a low so I felt he wasn't serious with me and I had a discussion with him that if he isn't interested in something more it's best we go our separate ways since I wanted a serious relationship which will eventually lead to marriage, he cried and begged that he was serious, things went on still no formal introduction to his family members or friends.
Then he started making plans to travel, I was part of it, the plan was for us to get married then travel together, before I knew it he became secretive and and avoiding me, fast forward to some months back he called me on a WhatsApp call crying for me to forgive him that he was abroad and doesn't know what came over him and why he couldn't tell me, he claims he is still in love with me and wants us to work, without a promise as to what all this will lead to, he wants us to lean on hope for the best.

But in your old thread you claimed you are married. Where did you now meet a another man and hoping to marry him when you are a married woman?

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Mikespecialone(m): 6:04am On Sep 16, 2024

Bighead9:
But in your old thread you claimed you are married. Where did you now meet a another man and hoping to marry him when you are a married woman?

Busted

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by idahme(m): 6:33am On Sep 16, 2024

LandMann:
I just pity for the next set of guys that will find their way into this lady's life.

She'll become a chronic cheat and player because her eyes is set on her abroad boyfriend.

She'll contact and distribute STIs and STDs in the process... until the abroad guy comes to marry her.

She'll never be able to build a new relationship with anyone in Nigeria.

The making of a cheat.

Did she tell u she wasn't a cheat or wasn't a street lady? She only told us what she wants us to know why then take her account as the whole truth? People like u Dem go sabi manipulate u well well

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by APOPTOSIS: 7:09am On Sep 16, 2024

Bighead9:
But in your old thread you claimed you are married. Where did you now meet a another man and hoping to marry him when you are a married woman?

That one was a spirit husband 😂

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Vocalessence(f): 7:32am On Sep 16, 2024

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Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Juliearth(f): 8:10am On Sep 16, 2024

ItisWell22:
Isn’t it obvious enough?

It’s glaringly clear, babe.

Amen. 🙏

He didn’t even tell her when his travel plans clicked, until he got there.

So freaking disrespectful. Imagine the years wasted with this one and the outcome eventually.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by JovialJune(f): 8:34am On Sep 16, 2024

eazzzy1:
He likes you but isn’t ready to marry now and doesn’t have an immediate plan to. What you are doing is trying to impose your timeline on him. Understand that he has plans for his life that doesn’t include a family at the moment.

Don’t mistake his not wanting to marry now for not wanting to marry you. You can wait it out for when he’s ready or you could leave. Most women would advise you to keep him while exploring other options.

It is my personal conviction that if you leave someone because they aren’t ready to settle down, you are more interested in settling down than in the person. While there’s nothing wrong with that, you are allowed to prioritize, but so is he.

So if he's not ready to marry now and wants to marry her later, why can't he introduce her to his friends and family so they'd know she is his intended? Why does he have to be secretive about his travelling out till he left, then come up with a sob story just to emotionally blackmail her?

It's not by force to comment, even your fellow males can see that the guy is not a good person, a huge red flag, it's obvious you are not really smart to know when someone is a manipulative narcissist.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by JovialJune(f): 8:39am On Sep 16, 2024

LandMann:
I just pity for the next set of guys that will find their way into this lady's life.

She'll become a chronic cheat and player because her eyes is set on her abroad boyfriend.

She'll contact and distribute STIs and STDs in the process... until the abroad guy comes to marry her.

She'll never be able to build a new relationship with anyone in Nigeria.

The making of a cheat.

Something is wrong with your thinking faculty

This is all your brain could come up with despite what the guy did? Of everything she said you know abroad men are the goal? Must every lady be cheats just like the ones that broke your fragile raggedy heart?

The way some of you think has to be studied.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Everydaylove: 10:24am On Sep 16, 2024

He cried and begged u.. Emotional blackmail. He used it to confuse. It's time to say yes to that otherguy that truly loves u.

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by KingNom(m): 12:10pm On Sep 16, 2024

It's well dear

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Talkisneeded(m): 12:40pm On Sep 16, 2024

So you mean you are still single after three years or you want to cheat on your current man because he's in oyinbo land....

I sell herbs ooo

Re: He Travelled Without Telling Me by Bighead9: 10:05pm On Sep 16, 2024

APOPTOSIS:
That one was a spirit husband 😂

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