₦airaland Forum

Kelechi009:
Yes well said, I'm just so happy it was Zikoko that made such post & not some stupid red pill content because it may seem like people are making this up. Many people feel disappointed or even disillusioned by the disparity between the ideal of “love” and the reality they encounter, particularly when financial status has become a key measure of worth in relationships. I used to wonder why Nigerian men cheat a lot, now thinking back at it. I can clearly see the reason. There is simply no incentive of staying faithful to someone who is with you for financial gain. They wouldn't stick by you if the money isn't there, so what exactly is the point.

I am glad you mentioned this as well. I was one of those Nairalanders who criticised Nigerian married men for cheating on their wives. But after seeing the cognitive dissonance by so-called women in coming to terms with hypergamy and the result of stiffer competition for scarce economic resources for young men, I understood the reason why our men "explore" (I don't call it cheating as he is exploring the same options women have had since the age of 15. Life na turn by turn.

Additionally, one of the eye-opening posts was by another Nairalander who narrated how his then GF started drifting away when he experienced financial challenges. This was the same woman who was lovey-dovey when the going was good. Suddenly, everything changed. Another factor that changed my stance is learning that women DON'T like frequent sex, especially after childbearing. Nymphos are the exception. _{How many nymphs even dey Nigeria sef?} Meanwhile, testosterone does not care about this. We have women ARROGANTLY asking "if sex is food?". But they would not stay with the man if he fails to provide or outrightly disrespect the man if they decide to remain.

Sometimes, I sympathise with much older men who japa'd in their words "for the children". Working odd hours while being deprived of sex all in the name of providing for the family. It is another reason I advocate for as few children as possible. Men have to realise that the world where they are seen as protectors has passed. That gratitude isn't there any longer.

In my books, any man who has provided well enough as his hand can carry for his family should explore his options with as many women as he can handle. It is his right. Provided no disease, extra children (depending on cultural norms) are brought home. Many married men out there are starved of sex. Funny enough, the same modern women loathe sex workers when they are married, but outrightly deny their husbands sex. I haven't even mentioned that black men are the biggest sufferers of prostrate sex and frequent sex has been identified as one of the preventive factors.

It cannot be me sha. I cannot beg for sex. I will buy it outrightly.

Another scenario which women paint is that there are a lot of poor people getting married which means women don't marry for money, the cognitive dissonance here is they do not realise women who marry poor men are also extremely poor, moreso even ugly looking because women always find the best person available they can have. I mean a lady who is from Makoko, extremely poor can only marry another man who is also slightly less poorer. I do not understand how that proves any point against women marrying for money.

Hypergamy exists across economic levels. Women are hypergamous. Good luck to men who believe otherwise. Testosterone is a hormone, not a mo.ron.

Gerrard59:
I am glad you mentioned this as well. I was one of those Nairalanders who criticised Nigerian married men for cheating on their wives. But after seeing the cognitive dissonance by so-called women in coming to terms with hypergamy and the result of stiffer competition for scarce economic resources for young men, I understood the reason why our men "explore" (I don't call it cheating as he is exploring the same options women have had since the age of 15. Life na turn by turn.

Additionally, one of the eye-opening posts was by another Nairalander who narrated how his then GF started drifting away when he experienced financial challenges. This was the same woman who was lovey-dovey when the going was good. Suddenly, everything changed. Another factor that changed my stance is learning that women DON'T like frequent sex, especially after childbearing. Nymphos are the exception. _{How many nymphs even dey Nigeria sef?} Meanwhile, testosterone does not care about this. We have women PROUDLY asking "if sex is food?". But they would not stay with the man if he fails to provide or outrightly disrespect the man if they decide to remain.

Sometimes, I sympathise with much older men who japa'd in their words "for the children". Working odd hours while being deprived of sex all in the name of providing for the family. It is another reason I advocate for as few children as possible. Men have to realise that the world where they are seen as protectors has passed. That gratitude isn't there any longer.

In my books, any man who has provided well enough as his hand can carry for his family should explore his options with as many women as he can handle. It is his right. Provided no disease, extra children (depending on cultural norms) are brought home. Many married men out there are starved of sex. Funny enough, the same modern women loathe sex workers when they are married, but outrightly deny their husbands sex. I haven't even mentioned that black men are the biggest sufferers of prostrate sex and frequent sex has been identified as one of the preventive factors.

It cannot be me sha. I cannot beg for sex. I will buy it outrightly.


Hypergamy exists across economic levels. Women are hypergamous. Good luck to men who believe otherwise. Testosterone is a hormone, not a mo.ron.

Yes and yes, I agree wholeheartedly and let me even digress a bit in this, sincere apologies to any religious folks like me who will end up reading this.

After a thorough study of the Bible, I’ve come to see that while God didn’t establish polygamy as a principle, He also didn’t explicitly forbid it. Whether this indicates it wasn’t a priority to Him, I can’t say for sure. If it had been of utmost importance, it’s likely He would have included it among the commandments given to Moses on Mount Sinai. God strongly condemned adultery, yet He did not issue a similar directive against polygamy. If He had intended men to avoid multiple marriages altogether, it seems He would have clearly prohibited it.

Consider Solomon, for instance: God allowed him to marry many wives without immediate punishment. It makes me wonder why this was permitted. Similarly, when David committed adultery and murder to take another man’s wife, he faced harsh punishment from God instantly, yet he was still allowed to have multiple wives.

I’ve come to believe that perhaps there’s something inherent in human nature that inclines men to take more than one wife, testosterone. This is a recent perspective for me; I used to be firmly against polygamy, particularly given how it can contribute to poverty in northern Nigeria.

I’m still monogamous, but now I have a better understanding of why polygamy exists. It’s taken time and reflection to reach this point.

Kelechi009:
Yes and yes, I agree wholeheartedly and let me even digress a bit in this, sincere apologies to any religious folks like me who will end up reading this. After a thorough study of the Bible, I’ve come to see that while God didn’t establish polygamy as a principle, He also didn’t explicitly forbid it. Whether this indicates it wasn’t a priority to Him, I can’t say for sure. If it had been of utmost importance, it’s likely He would have included it among the commandments given to Moses on Mount Sinai.

I have asked that question countless times but got irrelevant answers. For someone who attends churches for social reasons, it seems I know the Bible than most Nigerian Christians. Compared to say homosexuality or stealing, there is no explicit condemnation of polygamy. The same Bible also praises nude and scantily clad women while offering praises on a woman's breasts for sexual purposes not breastfeeding. Polygamy can be disagreed upon in countries with lots of men, but not for biblical reasons.

I’ve come to believe that perhaps there’s something inherent in human nature that inclines men to take more than one wife, testosterone. This is a recent perspective for me; I used to be firmly against polygamy, particularly given how it can contribute to poverty in northern Nigeria.

The bold is my reasons for men to have sex with as many women as they can carry/afford (sex itself is not free). Testosterone does not support monogamy. Good luck to those who want to fight nature/biology.

I think with all these experience u have gotten, it will be better u desist from these stuffs. Travel out of the country and get a better life.
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Gerrard59:
I am glad you mentioned this as well. I was one of those Nairalanders who criticised Nigerian married men for cheating on their wives. But after seeing the cognitive dissonance by so-called women in coming to terms with hypergamy and the result of stiffer competition for scarce economic resources for young men, I understood the reason why our men "explore" (I don't call it cheating as he is exploring the same options women have had since the age of 15. Life na turn by turn.

Additionally, one of the eye-opening posts was by another Nairalander who narrated how his then GF started drifting away when he experienced financial challenges. This was the same woman who was lovey-dovey when the going was good. Suddenly, everything changed. Another factor that changed my stance is learning that women DON'T like frequent sex, especially after childbearing. Nymphos are the exception. _{How many nymphs even dey Nigeria sef?} Meanwhile, testosterone does not care about this. We have women PROUDLY asking "if sex is food?". But they would not stay with the man if he fails to provide or outrightly disrespect the man if they decide to remain.

Sometimes, I sympathise with much older men who japa'd in their words "for the children". Working odd hours while being deprived of sex all in the name of providing for the family. It is another reason I advocate for as few children as possible. Men have to realise that the world where they are seen as protectors has passed. That gratitude isn't there any longer.

In my books, any man who has provided well enough as his hand can carry for his family should explore his options with as many women as he can handle. It is his right. Provided no disease, extra children (depending on cultural norms) are brought home. Many married men out there are starved of sex. Funny enough, the same modern women loathe sex workers when they are married, but outrightly deny their husbands sex. I haven't even mentioned that black men are the biggest sufferers of prostrate sex and frequent sex has been identified as one of the preventive factors.

It cannot be me sha. I cannot beg for sex. I will buy it outrightly.


Hypergamy exists across economic levels. Women are hypergamous. Good luck to men who believe otherwise. Testosterone is a hormone, not a mo.ron.

Thank you for your well researched text.

My add-on if you want to live long longer have side chick discreetly as you adviced

Gerrard59:
I am glad you mentioned this as well. I was one of those Nairalanders who criticised Nigerian married men for cheating on their wives. But after seeing the cognitive dissonance by so-called women in coming to terms with hypergamy and the result of stiffer competition for scarce economic resources for young men, I understood the reason why our men "explore" (I don't call it cheating as he is exploring the same options women have had since the age of 15. Life na turn by turn.

Additionally, one of the eye-opening posts was by another Nairalander who narrated how his then GF started drifting away when he experienced financial challenges. This was the same woman who was lovey-dovey when the going was good. Suddenly, everything changed. Another factor that changed my stance is learning that women DON'T like frequent sex, especially after childbearing. Nymphos are the exception. _{How many nymphs even dey Nigeria sef?} Meanwhile, testosterone does not care about this. We have women ARROGANTLY asking "if sex is food?". But they would not stay with the man if he fails to provide or outrightly disrespect the man if they decide to remain.

Sometimes, I sympathise with much older men who japa'd in their words "for the children". Working odd hours while being deprived of sex all in the name of providing for the family. It is another reason I advocate for as few children as possible. Men have to realise that the world where they are seen as protectors has passed. That gratitude isn't there any longer.

In my books, any man who has provided well enough as his hand can carry for his family should explore his options with as many women as he can handle. It is his right. Provided no disease, extra children (depending on cultural norms) are brought home. Many married men out there are starved of sex. Funny enough, the same modern women loathe sex workers when they are married, but outrightly deny their husbands sex. I haven't even mentioned that black men are the biggest sufferers of prostrate sex and frequent sex has been identified as one of the preventive factors.

It cannot be me sha. I cannot beg for sex. I will buy it outrightly.


Hypergamy exists across economic levels. Women are hypergamous. Good luck to men who believe otherwise. Testosterone is a hormone, not a mo.ron.

You have evolved

Hitherto, you had this penchant of bashing Nigerian men who just flash money to get women.

Although men from a certain region are way too overt in using money to woo women, stoking the flame of Hypergamy to a higher degre

But now I understand why as I observed more

0neal:
You have evolved

lol

Oh yes! I have, and considering the hypocrisy of so-called modern women. I see them criticising men who explore, but I am yet to see any condemn their fellow women for withholding sex from men and weaponising it. The hypergamy is intact and the man must provide yet he must beg for sex. It just does not make sense.

Hitherto, you had this penchant of bashing Nigerian men who just flash money to get women.

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This is because the same men criticise the women for loving money whereas na fellow men dey use money to entice the women. It is men's fault here.

Although men from a certain region are way too overt in using money to woo women, stoking the flame of Hypergamy to a higher degre

But now I understand why as I observed more

Those men caused it, else why do they apply the same monetary pressure on non-ethnic women? Mind you, they apply this pressure in regions/countries where the native men don't practice the same culture. So, it now looks like those non-ethnic women love them for who they are, rather than the money they press. In Nigeria, it is limited because the two other big ethnic groups can out-spend these men. So, they focus on their women, and the minority ethnic groups within their sphere where the women from these closely related groups like them because again, they spend more than their own men.