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Op na laziness dey worry you,na watin push you enter the situation you dey now. It's not that you really love this woman but becos of what you are getting back from her. See it's a big task marrying a single mother not talk of having 3 kids, are you ready for the task ahead cos I bet you, it will drain you In all ramifications,why put your self in such when you can easily go for young single woman . Single mothers are know to be toxic with bad characters which made them become a single mother, no reasonable man will leave a good woman to the street, men value women that are worthy. All what she is doing for you is just to gain ground into your life, it's a trap from the pit of hell, once you fully commit and marry her, she will let down her guard and show you the stuff she is made of. All stories have heard from men that married single mother don't end well, those men always bite the dust and regret it. Pls focus on your hustle and make your own money and don't depend on another woman money, it makes you vulnerable to stuff like this. All those story she told you about tribalism are just format, you can get the real truth from her man. Life is hard brother, don't open your eyes and make it more harder. You gonna regret it

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Marriage issues are always complex.

Ordinarily marrying her shouldn't have been an issue if you are convinced you love.

I'll ask you a couple of questions and a couple of submissions for you to consider.

QUESTIONS
1. Has she divorced the Ex?

2. When was their separation?

3. Has her family agreed that she move on?

4. Is the Ex's family aware they've parted ways?

5. Have you people quarreled since you started dating?

6. Have you had a previous relationship before this one?

7. Do you agree that her children are yours now from day one irrespective of the behavior of the woman's Ex.

8. Have you considered her age and yours?

9. Are you ready to do wedding for the world to witness that she has left her Ex finally?

10. Have you considered that she has more experience in this marriage business than you and you might have to respect her and learn from her?

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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my issue is not even you, it is the lady who thinks she can get a guy like you. Run, She’s no good for you. Any right thinking lady will not even want to date your class of guy. Na papas’ them she suppose dey go for. Men wey their children don graduate. Retired divorcees. Her category ain’t near yours. If she should succeed over you by getting hooked, just know you are done for, an outright 4th citizen & a 2nd husband. cos she’s got 3 kids. She could even abandon you and go to that man later. Her kids are her most priority whether you like it or not. Don’t be lazy, ignore her funds!

Wickedfacts:
By the time she gets into your house, you will see the reason why the father of her kids ran away.

Japa

Don't rely on people's advice, someone may give you a very nice counsel by his experience but it may not work out for you. Just know what you want and go for it

dopedealer:
She is acting alright because she wants to win your heart and ofcourse want you to accept and marry her. She de spend on you and you are happy, MY GUY, YOU GO REGRET AM LATER 😭
When she start telling as asking you are not a man, or is it not your fellow men providing for there family? Just know say problem don start !

I can relate with this,comrade.

No single advantage in marrying a single mother

udocity2:
Oga don't compare friendship to marriage... she is just showing you her front and you are happy.. hmmm when she go show you her back you go know say love is wicked

Leave am. Eyes go soon bright like tortoise car head lamps.

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Hahaha, oga use ur tongue count ur teeth, it was because of tribalism she birth 1, 2. And 3 . Guy it seems ur pics is with ur village people, note women like place that are comfortable and secure

Not advisable

lailo:
I'm already weeping for you in advance
Suicide mission

I don't even know how to describe him, maybe the guy too is from dysfunctional home because a single man with right upbringing will never thought of dating a woman of 3 kids, let alone marry her.

That woman too is very wicked and highly a self centered. A sensible or selfless woman will simply find someone who is also a single father or elderly man that just want to have someone to talk and not single guy who just want to start his own family.

If you can deal with okafor's law, ba wahala. She will always have sexual relations with her ex. I hope you can deal with that.

MrHighSea:
It's the men that will give you insights. Been there, thought that, now married to another.

Because of space and time.

Cancel any marriage thoughts wrt a single Mom (no hating or stereotyping). Not that the individual is bad. Possiblity of complexities to creep-in is enormous.

It'll be easier marrying three typical single ladies same day, staying married for long with your blood pressure intact than marrying one single mother with kids and a living ex.

The word living has been underlined. The guy is better off if her ex was dead.

Why single mother of three, of all the girls in this world?

BareFacedLies:
Are you with her for love or are you with her for the money because we all know no single Nigerian guy would willingly marry a single mother with 3 children if there is no potential financial benefit at play?

Lol fact

OGwales:
You are finished bro... She will keep weaponizing your love/feelings to feed her children, whose father will show up somewhere in the future to claim his kids.

I hope the father(s) of her Children is/are not in same town with you? Because he/them go dey knack steadily. Anytime she go check on the other children go collect 😂😂😂

You carry SIMP mindset enter 2025. Weldon service chief 😋😋🤗 she is richer than you, you claimed 🤣 you are already transacting your future for expired overused kpekus, that is if you even have a future to start with because no young man with good future will mumu like this.

Tarh!! I forbid

Haha bad guy he needs her money he thinks women are stupid, he will learn

Sincerely speaking, you don't like the fact she had 3 children.but because of what she giving you and other thing , you assume you can ..
See , if your parents heard about this , na serious fight between you guys ( though they can't choose for you ) but they know more than you could imagine..

You see , I can't say do this or that , just that follow your mind . But me , I can never try this .. one gan self , I don't think I can . No one of your friend will support this , your siblings won't , even you pastor for church go first ask you . Why and are sure and all that ...

If because of the money or what she always gives ( that I am very sure ) , you better think of it. Make person no go put one leg inside river make crocodile dey drag am o ..

Hassanmaye:
Haha bad guy he needs her money he thinks women are stupid, he will learn

I swear

And you think she is ready to give birth again after three kids. think twice and ask questions

Creamypussy:
If u like her and she's ok for u, pls go ahead and marry her, it's conditions that make crayfish to bend. She's human too. Most people learn from their past mistakes and improve better good luck.
I know most of us has been bitten by snakes, even when we see a rob we screen thinking it's a snake.

Women supporting women.

I'm not against your view though.

But what's up with your user name?

Greetings from this side

The average single mother of multiple children doesn't even want children from you.
Mr adventurer, ask her if she is willing to bear kids for you o. That is how one guy married a single mother of 3 and she told him point blank she wouldn't bear children for him.
The church had to intervene and annul the marriage. Imagine being engaged as a male nanny for her children with no hope of kids of your own.
Meanwhile be ready to share the "platform" with the ex......
A word is enough for the wise.

Philip4564:
This is a fallacy of hasty generalization.

What generalization?

He already alluded to her finances and industriousness..

If he's a financially secured man he wouldn't have been bowled over by her ability to provide..

sylve11:
It seems they just need first hand experience.

Let them experience it.

Exactly

HelenaWills:
Tribalism??
Yet she birthed not one but three children?
This isn't adding up.

G bam
Story no clear jare

Them no dey start match for 3-0 oh but if you feel say the scoreline no mean and you get the ability then fire down... All the best!

You go learn the hard way.

Op who chop you no mercy for you

"Tribalism as the reason for the separation clearly not adding up.

Secondly, "ex took two of the kids, ask more questions about the third child, he/she might be a product of cheat.

Lastly, you and the ex will forever co own her kpekus so long as children are involved, there's always room for them to rekindle old fire.

I won't advice you not to try, I just hope, you will be as lucky as her ex

If she is young enough for you and have what you are looking for in a woman then why not. It's up to you to know if you can cope with a single mother of three or not. Every relationship is peculiar...

If she had the 3 kids for 1 man, then I don’t really think you’ll have any problem in future, but if its for 3 different men, you better run away from that relationship!!

Wainey:
Please if you can't give mature response, don't fill up the front page with drivels.

So I am in a relationship with this lady, but the problem is that she already has three children with her ex, not just one or two but three. Two of the children lives with their father while she lives with one.

Despite this, she is an industrious lady who works for her own wellbeing, though I spent money on her once a while but it's not even half of what she spends on me, that is mostly because she has a better financial muscle than I do.
She is caring, loving and loyal, she doesn't even have friends and has always been all about her career, when I asked why she didn't end up with her ex, she said it was cos of tribalism, I didn't ask further though.

Now, Getting married to a single parent is not something I wanted but I have dated a lot of rubbish in this country, but this lady was nothing like them and letting her go is not something I want right now.

So my question to those that are married to single parent, what difficulties did u face in ur marriage?

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Trust me, IT WILL DEFINITELY END IN CHAOS, TEARS AND REGRETS...

IDERAWOLE:
Marriage issues are always complex.

Ordinarily marrying her shouldn't have been an issue if you are convinced you love.

I'll ask you a couple of questions and a couple of submissions for you to consider.

QUESTIONS
1. Has she divorced the Ex?

2. When was their separation?

3. Has her family agreed that she move on?

4. Is the Ex's family aware they've parted ways?

5. Have you people quarreled since you started dating?

6. Have you had a previous relationship before this one?

7. Do you agree that her children are yours now from day one irrespective of the behavior of the woman's Ex.

8. Have you considered her age and yours?

9. Are you ready to do wedding for the world to witness that she has left her Ex finally?

10. Have you considered that she has more experience in this marriage business than you and you might have to respect her and learn from her?

I mustn't tell lies , I so much like this your brilliant questions, even though he may not reply them here one by one , I think it is what he'll ponder about when he's alone somewhere ..

He said, she claimed tribe was the issue ,after the first , second and third child . You now claimed one part is tribalistic. ( I thought he'll say she complained of domestic violence or her husband want to kill her ) . Something they can settle , the issue is more than tribalism..

I have a friend also in this shoe , he married the other tribe .
The husband mama was very mad at her child to marry from other tribe , yell at him , almost disown him , the mama claimed with what the woman tribe did to her , they almost killed her , this and that . The mama till today doesn't have good rapport with the wife , just trying to play along , I could remember when there was fight between my friend and the wife , the mama hope was that, he should divorce her everytime little issues come up, but my friend keep saying what about their children ( and my own concern as well ) 4children . My friend sees every opportunity to divorce the lady , but could not ,the lady will leave for there place for 1month , 50days sometimes. My friend will still be troubled over it . In short , they're still together and the nama is staying faraway from them .


The lady has some truth unrevealed..

You better be careful..

The father of the children may not be happy o. Make he no go caught and twist the matter for your leg, it is very dangerous...

Follow what is good for you , we can only let you know or see how we feel about it and how we can handle such situations but you know , one man's food is another man's poison

So. Be wise

AntiChristian:
It's not easy getting married to single parents!

And having an affair aka dating is different from marriage!

What do you see in her? Beauty? Experience? Wealth?

Of course she's far experienced than you and will do whatever it takes to hold you down!

How many guys today will want to marry a woman after 3 kids?

Na your choice!

But think about 10, 20, 30 years time with her! How he go be?

Intelligent response with your last paragraph 🤔