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drehdinho:
It’s an indirect way of asking for money to buy data. She mentioned similar thing yesterday in our conversation when I requested for a video call. She said she doesn’t have enough data.

In the first place, why would I have to hear such? I make video calls all the time and my data rarely gets exhausted and if it does, I don’t need to explain to the other person. I simply go my bank app, reload, and call back.

I’m surprised you gave that child a reasonable reply. If in an attempt to critique your write-up the only thing he can bring out is data then he and that lady would make a perfect match.

drehdinho:
It’s an indirect way of asking for money to buy data. She mentioned similar thing yesterday in our conversation when I requested for a video call. She said she doesn’t have enough data.

In the first place, why would I have to hear such? I make video calls all the time and my data rarely gets exhausted and if it does, I don’t need to explain to the other person. I simply go my bank app, reload, and call back.

Am sorry to say this, you still have a long way to get before you can get a lady that will Mary you.

Larryfest:
She doesn't have any kobo to start a business right now but she is telling her would be husband that she will be needing 1m naira monthly for house upkeep hmmm. Very very dangerous level of thoughts for a broke lady.

You will be surprise to find out that she just don't want to sounds like a girl that easily get intimidated by guy wealth. I can bet it, the street sister must have told her the guy is loaded, and she must not behave like person from poor home, she just want to increase her value with the guy and nothing more jare. Who dash her 1m naira, lolz. The reality is that, She might not even like the guy.

Her education level has already put him off, he was just asking her unnecessary questions that should not be ask a girl you just meet. You only observe a lady over a period of time, and not by asking them questions because majority of them will lie or tell you what you want to hear by pretense.

pdppower:
She lied about the only she was bringing to the relationship. Apart from prayer, she would also bring kpekus

lol

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

First, why subject her to interrogation like she was applying for a job or she was in a law court?
Maybe because You said you have 2 degrees, 2 degrees from 2 crappy schools in a crappy country like nigeria doesnt give you the right to think you are doing her a favor by wanting to marry her.
Your manner of approach was bad.
You dont interrogate people like that for the sake of relationship.
Date her for sometimes, and naturally her real character will come out.
Stop it if you start subjecting them to a useless interviews.
The best way to handle relationship is to take time and date them. Some people are smart enough to give you the answers you want but then will make bad partner

Nairalander248:
Don't write her off, I have seen someone marry such lady and trained her to his standard and she's doing well today...

U want to train an entitled woman, who doesn't have a team mentality....?? It's like y'all don't know what reg flag is....
This is the kind of lady that will never support you and when the chips are down, you realize that you married your enemy for a wife..

@immortalcrown you just spoke my mind 100%.

For the op @drehdinho you have to come down from your high horse and develop yourself socially.

Learn how to "attract" quality people, both male and female to you.

And, let me add, most intelligent people struggle socially but just like any skill, it can be learnt and it's very rewarding.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Alaye u go tey for there o,cus the typa girls u desire don finish for Naija and some probably corrupted

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

she no like u if she like u she no go let u see her flaws.it took me so long to know that a woman that loves u will never ask u for money.

And why do you need a STREET SISTER to find you a wife? What exactly is street sister? How did you establish such closeness with a street sister? I can tell you for a fact that whatever you think you are, the street sister doesn't think same. Maybe based on her observation or your association with her. You should fix that too because I have a problem with people who claim to be Tier1 humans, but cannot attract their peers or close circle.

The truth of this matter is that over 90pct of women in this world reason like that lady you met.

They will be broke, but believe they are still the price that a wealthy prince will be worshipping just because they bring "themselves", in other words, phekus to the man.

Once the so called weathy prince upgraded them, they will start misbehaving and even ready to discard him like a rag.

They are selfish, entitled and ungrateful.

The worst of them is those that will add "toxic feminism" to this their character.

galantjoe:
The one that give goosebumps is when she said N1m for just monthly expenses

Many Nigerians earn up to N200k per month.

Oga run,

Made me laugh, 1mil for husband and wife? I think the street sister has hand in all of this. 1 milli... Lol!

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Radarada of the highest order. Small opportunity and they will misuse it for their own lust

drehdinho:
It’s an indirect way of asking for money to buy data. She mentioned similar thing yesterday in our conversation when I requested for a video call. She said she doesn’t have enough data.

In the first place, why would I have to hear such? I make video calls all the time and my data rarely gets exhausted and if it does, I don’t need to explain to the other person. I simply go my bank app, reload, and call back.

You took your time to explain to someone that might be brainless.

advanceDNA:
➜U want to train an entitled woman, who doesn't have a team mentality....?? It's like y'all don't know what reg flag is....
This is the kind of lady that will never support you and when the chips are down, you realize that you married your enemy for a wife

OP's red flag is his matchmaker, who probably promised the girl that OP would sponsor her in order to get her to show up to be interviewed by OP.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.


Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

Repent and be saved trust in God and he will guide your path. You are on track to fail in marriage already with what you are looking for. Be humble and God will lift you.

drehdinho:
A lady was introduced to me by a street sister after I mentioned that I was in search of a serious relationship. I gave a clear list of my requirements, among which were that she must be gainfully employed and of good character.

Two days ago, the sister finally shared the contact of the lady she found for me. I was hopeful, thinking she would at least meet 80% of my criteria.

When I initiated a conversation with the lady, I asked about her educational background. She told me she was a secondary school drop-out. I didn’t judge her immediately, I wanted to hear more and not jump to conclusions.

So, I asked what steps she had in mind to upgrade herself. She said she wanted to go into business and gave a rough estimate of ₦3.5 million as startup capital.

Still, I wasn’t discouraged. I told her that if I were to invest in the business, I would hold 60% of the company while she holds 40%. My reason was simple: I wanted her to be accountable and run the business with a sense of ownership.

To my surprise, she rejected the idea. She said she wanted 100% ownership because she is “trustworthy” and that I could observe her for one year to see if she wouldn’t mismanage the business.

I let that conversation slide.

Then, a few days later, during another conversation, I asked her what she was bringing to the table in the relationship. Her response? Just “prayer.” 😂

At this point, I started enjoying the conversation ,not because I was impressed, but because her responses were becoming increasingly ridiculous.

I asked her another question: How much do you think we would need per month to live as husband and wife?
Her answer: ₦1 million.

I asked her to break it down. She couldn’t. She just kept rambling and listing irrelevant things with no clarity or structure.

This morning, she called me via WhatsApp video. While we were talking, the call ended. I tried calling her back, but the video didn’t connect. I noticed she was typing, so I waited.

Next thing I saw was: “My data got exhausted.”

From the very beginning, I knew I was way above her standard , intellectually, financially, and in life exposure. But I decided to subject her brain to an intelligent conversation to prove a point: most of these broke ladies have absolutely nothing meaningful to offer.

To my fellow hustling men who have sacrificed and worked hard to become something in life , please don’t settle for women like this. Look out for women who have built themselves to a meaningful stage in life.

I have two degrees. I’m a lawyer. And here is a lady, a secondary school drop-out , who thinks, in her oblivion, that she can hook a man of my calibre.

I called the sister who introduced her and clearly told her never to bring such people my way again.

I know how this kind of story ends: you help them build a life, and the moment they start seeing a little change, you’ll see their true colours. Many of them think the only thing they need to offer in life is their body.

I’ve cut off communication with her already, and I’m planning to block her on WhatsApp.

Her unreasonable thought process completely turned me off. So many ridiculous ideas. It’s just mentally exhausting.

If you depend on someone to find you a suitor, you will never find what you want. They will simply give you their friends or relatives.

Just today wai I de ask one Bebe out she de bill me 35k for gown e just de vex me

Gerrard59:
There are ladies who are well educated and industrious. Why doesn't he beam his search light towards them? It must not be a lawyer. A simple criterion: I want a university graduate or a graduate of so so institution is enough.

The OP is confused. He went to a street girl to get recommendations then complains about the recommendation.

Cognitive dissonance everywhere!

A street sister, some of you are not street wise and you misunderstand these term. Street sister doesn't mean street girl. Just a lady he holds or held in high esteem lol

Them full Naija plenty. If still in need of the choice of sister( intellectually sound) send a DM. I get them plenty with good character and morals.

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Alaye u go tey for there o,cus the typa girls u desire don finish for Naija and some probably corrupted[/quote]

OP is there something you ain't telling us? You're a lawyer, you're this and that but still depending on people to hook you up with a woman for serious relationship.......Are you sure you don't need spiritual help?

So you nor see any lady for law school or other places wey dey up to your standard?

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

Do you need a prophet or babalawo to tell you she was indirectly asking for urgent 2k?

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

See o...

Dem go spell am out for you again?

The Oga dey suspect "buy me data" matter na...

Larryfest:
She doesn't have any kobo to start a business right now but she is telling her would be husband that she will be needing 1m naira monthly for house upkeep hmmm. Very very dangerous level of thoughts for a broke lady.

That was my initial thoughts. A full professor’s salary is 500k, sometimes less. How do u find a workplace that pays 1m naira monthly? How much does she currently spend per month for taking care of herself

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

Yet you call yourself braon

immortalcrown:
Why do you depend on a street sister to find you a girl you will date for marriage? Is it that there is a community where the world-best girls come from and only the street sister knows the community? So, you can't find a girl from your village, from the city where you live, from the schools you are attended, from your workplace and from other places you visit?

I suspect that you have a very bad reputation, especially with the way you treat women. If not, you could have attracted a good woman without the help of your street sister.

For the assistance, you even chose a street sister over your siblings or other relatives. It shows that you are probably harsh to most of the people around you.

mstchew

Nairalander248:
I understand with you completely why you don't need her, but not why you told the lady never to bring such girl your way again... Wasn't her fault coz she never asked the girl all these questions...

She's simply not your taste and class same way you are not someone's else taste and class in other terms...

Don't write her off, I have seen someone marry such lady and trained her to his standard and she's doing well today...

You're very correct. Truly speaking this man want a ready made woman.whereas if he can pick up this rough diamond and polish her very well,she will do well.Nevertheless, women cannot be predicted, some may become wild after settlement. Just pray and ask God to lead you aright.

brain54:
I don't understand some of the issues you raised...

You want her data to never get exhausted?

Data got exhausted. Which one did she use to send the Whatsapp??

You are the unserious person here.

You started talking to someone and you are already talking about investing in her business, as mugu that you are nau.

Rexymania:
Honestly you're funny.

She was even genuine to you...just teach her on how to reason with people

to what end bro