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folake4u:
Hi Franchas.

I think you've really got it all wrong here.

As a proud Daddy's girl, it is better you keep telling your darling daughter that she's pretty, beautiful and all that from a tender age, so that she doesn't get impressed by nonsense/sweet talks from men. That way, she's already used to her family love and also her self worth that she's loved at home. It also boosts self-confidence. There are lot of kids/people suffering from low self esteem issues and it is not healthy.

About the cutting of hair? I mean, whatever rocks your boat. There are parents who don't allow their female kids make their hair till secondary school to allow them focus, again I don't have a problem with that. Afterall, I started making my hair as from SS1 or so.

It is good you're talking to your kid early enough about life in general and she's shown keen interest by asking questions and you responding, I genuinely applaud that.

However, I'd like to include/suggest you teach her more about sex education, career choices/prospects, financial independence, development of soft skills etc and she will turn out fine and not be entitled or whatever.

#My opinion.

Someone else also advised me against what u just said, I think I will adjust on that

As for sex education and career talks, she is too tender for that, she is 3 going 4.


What she usually asks me that I cherish so much is:


Daddy, what do you do at your work? My son also ask same question.


She likes cooking, she has a toy cooking pot set. She also likes playing game on her tablet more than carton, just like her brother. And she likes mimicking doctors as in trying to treat teddies or anything she assumes as human beings, she will be talking to the stuff that she wants to give it injection so it can feel fine and go eat chocolate lol. She have told the whole house that she wants to become a doctor and she has the full outfit and accessories for that, same with her brother but that one will always tell her that she cannot be a Doctor like him, that she will be Nurse while he will be the Doctor lol.


I will start sex education if I am able to summon the courage by the time she is 9/10 not now, and career education and skill development from 9/10 though she has repeatedly said she wants to be a Doctor and treat sick people lol




Thanks for your sincere advice, I do really appreciate

franchasofficia:
Someone else also advised me against what u just said, I think I will adjust on that

As for sex education and career talks, she is too tender for that, she is 3 going 4.


What she usually asks me that I cherish so much is:


Daddy, what do you do at your work? My son also ask same question.


She likes cooking, she has a toy cooking pot set. She also likes playing game on her tablet more than carton, just like her brother. And she likes mimicking doctors as in trying to treat teddies or anything she assumes as human beings, she will be talking to the stuff that she wants to give it injection so it can feel fine and go eat chocolate lol. She have told the whole house that she wants to become a doctor and she has the full outfit and accessories for that, same with her brother but that one will always tell her that she cannot be a Doctor like him, that she will be Nurse while he will be the Doctor lol.


I will start sex education if I am able to summon the courage by the time she is 9/10 not now, and career education and skill development from 9/10 though she has repeatedly said she wants to be a Doctor and treat sick people lol


Thanks for your sincere advice, I do really appreciate

Hi again.

It will be really nice if you can adjust on that. Your future self will thank you.

Oh! I didn't know your daughter is 3, and turning 4. You are right, she is too young for career talk, there's still time.

However, I'm pleading with you on sex education. It is not too early to teach her about this. Kids are smarter than we think, They learn very fast. The world is also a scary place these days and we need to protect our girls.

My fellow colleague was gisting me that he had to turn down a brief recently and it entailed him representing a man who had raped a 10yr old child. Actually, the child was gàng-raped here in Benin.

About summoning courage to teach her about sex education, I'd say where you cannot do it,your wife can step in. A simple "Don't allow anybody touch you anyhow" would suffice and for her to know the difference between a good and bad touch.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/diana-aghedo-750a69170_trending-education-goodtouchbadtouch-ugcPost-7244550438027485184-DvMu

The above video refers, explaining what I meant.

Also, it is nice that she loves playing games, good also for brain development.

Lol, your kids sound like fun and it's good you're doing your best to raise them well.

She still has enough time to choose career paths. In my childhood, I wanted to be a doctor, then switched to accountant or so, then different careers before I finally chose my career path in secondary school.

I wish your kids all the best in their future endeavours.

folake4u:
Hi again.

It will be really nice if you can adjust on that. Your future self will thank you.

Oh! I didn't know your daughter is 3, and turning 4. You are right, she is too young for career talk, there's still time.

However, I'm pleading with you on sex education. It is not too early to teach her about this. Kids are smarter than we think, They learn very fast. The world is also a scary place these days and we need to protect our girls.

My fellow colleague was gisting me that he had to turn down a brief recently and it entailed him representing a man who had raped a 10yr old child. Actually, the child was gàng-raped here in Benin.

About summoning courage to teach her about sex education, I'd say where you cannot do it,your wife can step in. A simple "Don't allow anybody touch you anyhow" would suffice and for her to know the difference between a good and bad touch.

https://www.linkedin.com/posts/diana-aghedo-750a69170_trending-education-goodtouchbadtouch-ugcPost-7244550438027485184-DvMu

The above video refers, explaining what I meant.

Also, it is nice that she loves playing games, good also for brain development.

Lol, your kids sound like fun and it's good you're doing your best to raise them well.

She still has enough time to choose career paths. In my childhood, I wanted to be a doctor, then switched to accountant or so, then different careers before I finally chose my career path in secondary school.

I wish your kids all the best in their future endeavours.

Thank you so much Folake, thank you, I so much appreciate your counsels and guide and will be working on them but the sex education part honestly it wont be easy for me, maybe I will talk to my wife, I believe she should have been doing that cos she is in the medical field and ought to know better.


My daughter is too smart, if I start the sex education, she will be asking me more questions which I may not have the courage to answer

franchasofficia:
Thank you so much Folake, thank you, I so much appreciate your counsels and guide and will be working on them but the sex education part honestly it wont be easy for me, maybe I will talk to my wife, I believe she should have been doing that cos she is in the medical field and ought to know better.


My daughter is too smart, if I start the sex education, she will be asking me more questions which I may not have the courage to answer

You're welcome.

Since you're fidgety about having the SexEd talk with your girl, your wife can handle that then. All better since she's in the medical field.

Loool she's a smarty pants and quite inquisitive which is good.

Cheers.

tensazangetsu20:
This is the most foolish thing I have read today 😂😂

Yours is the most foolish i have read today

franchasofficia:
Someone else also advised me against what u just said, I think I will adjust on that

As for sex education and career talks, she is too tender for that, she is 3 going 4.


What she usually asks me that I cherish so much is:


Daddy, what do you do at your work? My son also ask same question.


She likes cooking, she has a toy cooking pot set. She also likes playing game on her tablet more than carton, just like her brother. And she likes mimicking doctors as in trying to treat teddies or anything she assumes as human beings, she will be talking to the stuff that she wants to give it injection so it can feel fine and go eat chocolate lol. She have told the whole house that she wants to become a doctor and she has the full outfit and accessories for that, same with her brother but that one will always tell her that she cannot be a Doctor like him, that she will be Nurse while he will be the Doctor lol.


I will start sex education if I am able to summon the courage by the time she is 9/10 not now, and career education and skill development from 9/10 though she has repeatedly said she wants to be a Doctor and treat sick people lol




Thanks for your sincere advice, I do really appreciate

Correct your son and tell him his sister can be a doctor just like him and tell her too she can be a doctor if thats what she wants

franchasofficia:
Thank you so much Folake, thank you, I so much appreciate your counsels and guide and will be working on them but the sex education part honestly it wont be easy for me, maybe I will talk to my wife, I believe she should have been doing that cos she is in the medical field and ought to know better.


My daughter is too smart, if I start the sex education, she will be asking me more questions which I may not have the courage to answer

I think you should let the mother do it. women have a way of handling these little angels and you know women were once little girls . So they know what to do.

Diamond098454:
That's why they said the older the sweeter?

When you get older you will become sweeter because by then you would have acquired more experience