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MemoriesAndMe:
You dont have to marry her, she can have the child. If DNA confirms its yours, then support the child. Both of you knew what you were getting into when you were kicking it, right?

Im not in support of abortions, let the innocent baby have his or her life too. You wouldnt be here posting this if your parents had aborted you, would you? So, carry your cross if the baby is yours.

i'm not against her keeping it.. she's capable of taking good care of the baby even if i don't support her which i will never do. but omoge one use one stone kïłl two bird.

SamuraiXXX:
Listen my froiend, you must marry her whether you want to or not

i rather blow my trading account than marrying her

What on God's name did I just read?!
Is this a Joke??
I didn't expect it to go the way it did half way to the writeup...
I keep to myself I keep to myself, but you were and started doing it with a Neighbour? A neighbour!??
From first saying "wetin concern you" when she first greeted you and talked at length to you.
That behaviour and countenance??

Then going ahead RAW??
Wt H this?!!

papiSNEH:
i'm not against her keeping it.. she's capable of taking good care of the baby even if i don't support her which i will never do. but omoge one use one stone kïłl two bird.

Every man gets scared the first time they hear theyre about to be a father. I was so scared too when my girl got pregnant with my first child almost 17 years ago. IWhy? I was young, still in college and still thought about myself as a kid that needed to have as much fun as possible till I become a man. How can a kid raise a kid? I didnt know anything about raising kids and the fear hit me for months while she was pregnant.

Same advice I just gave you was what my older ones gave me and we went through with it.

Now my son is preparing for his first year in his chosen university here in the US and his younger sister is rounding up with her high school too in same state in the US.

I would have regretted it if abortion crossed my mind.

Though, Im not with their mom anymore, but my kids call me all the time and visits whenever they want. I also send them their monthly allowances and pay their mom child support.

I have remarried someone I understand, but i dont regret taking take if my kids, so nothing to lose for me.

Forget the night-life you might think you will miss, all of that is transient- every boy has to eventually be one a man.

Just think about it deeply. Whats happening to you is the fear of being a father. Trust me, a large percentage of men get scared to when theyre expecting their first child.

You will get used to it bro. Just stay strong, supportive and understanding of the situation on ground.

MemoriesAndMe:
Trust me, every man gets scared the first time they hear theyre about to be a father. I was so scared too when my girl got pregnant with my first child almost 17 years ago. Why? I didnt know anything about raising kids and the fear hit me for months while she was pregnant.

Same advice I just gave you was what my older ones gave me and we went through with it.

Now my son is preparing for his first year in his chosen university here in the US and his younger sister is rounding up with her high school too in same state in the US.

I would have regretted it if abortion crossed my mind.

Im not with their mom anymore, but my kids call me all the time and visits whenever they want. Plus I have remarried someone I understand, so nothing to lose for me.

Just think about it deeply. Whats happening to you is the fear of being a father. Trust me, a large percentage of men get scared to when theyre expecting their first child.

You will get used to it bro. Just stay strong, supportive and understanding.

Thank you so much for this advice and encouragement sir.

papiSNEH:
got what?. i only got my dreams to chase. even the strongest native doctor can't change my mind.

That's right!

papiSNEH:
got what?. i only got my dreams to chase. even the strongest native doctor can't change my mind.

very important,

merrymike47:
she said she wanted it raw, you are foolish enough to not know that a lady in her mid/late 30s who wanted it raw needed a baby and maybe a husband.

You are just being childish with all you wrote up there.

Na small pikin dey worry op him go dey alrite las las.

You should just calm down and act along with her .. if she wants marriage , den marry her . Stay put until your child turns 2 years . And if the hood ain't okay for you , dem you can get a divorce ..

There is no problem with that one .

But don't just play games with a preggy woman , especially when the baby is yours

papiSNEH:
i then told her that i'm not ready for any of this. that i have goals to achieve and the one i score in her post is not one of them

Hahahahahahaha 😂😁🤣😅
weyrey ni bobo yi sha

Since she has her own money, she should born the pikin naa that's if the story is true.

Curious345:
.. if she wants marriage , den marry her . Stay put until your child turns 2 years . And if the hood ain't okay for you , dem you can get a divorce ..

There is no problem with that one .

How old are you?
seems your God given ability to think properly suddenly developed permanent stunted growth at kindergarten.

Feldie:
Since she has her own money, she should born the pikin naa that's if the story is true.

Suddenly it is so hard to belive anything on this Nairaland and Nigeria in general. Lies everywhere.

Even those who never lied since they were born have turned LIE to profession since social media bait stepped in

MemoriesAndMe:
Trust me,...
Though, Im not with their mom anymore,

Trust me, a large percentage of men get scared to when theyre expecting their first child.

I just don't understand why people like to use that phrase in their comment? Do you really think it makes you more trustworthy or adds any credence to your story?

you even had to say it twice, TRUST ME that's a double RED FLAG pointing your whole story towards the RECYCLE BIN.

AllBlack:
I just don't understand why people like to use that phrase in their comment? Do you really think it makes you more trustworthy or adds any credence to your story?

you even had to say it twice, TRUST ME that's a double RED FLAG pointing your whole story towards the RECYCLE BIN.

So, what exactly are you trying to say?

That he's lying?

Well, I don't think he is.

I have met people who use that phrase "Trust me..." frequently when talking because they have become so accustomed to it that they utter it involuntarily, it does not necessarily mean they are lying or trying to mislead you; it's just a habit that has refused to die

MarkNsukkaBread:
So, what exactly are you trying to say?

Yes thanks for this question. Let me break it down a little bit.

I know you from NO WHERE.

You could be anybody with a phone and keypad.

We are on a faceless forum where every user is unverified.

And you choose to start a conversation with TRUST ME.. The first thing you are telling me to do is to TRUST YOU? That is manipulative in the sense that you want to CONDITION MY MINDSET to a position of trust for every other word that comes after TRUST ME?

Nah! I don't trust you. I probably never will.
It DENTS the conversation from the start by making me wary of you already. Not that you are telling lies.

Now you understand? I really hope so because TRUST ME, I hate wasting explanations.

You see the difference? My own trust me comes at the tail end of whatever I have to say and it is not even trying to compel you to believe anything.

For the second time, you understand? 😁

Banker or no banker, buh pocohantas na banker and na person male son marry am tew ... now they are blessed with 5kg going 12kg

No one should tell a grown man what to decide for marriage, buh your skeptism on female bankers should be a " restriction"

Why not look at her from who she really is outside her profession, remover her job is her personality still a No No

She is a big gurl like you, na only prayer abi you nack her juju fit make terminate or she decides to pity you.

Beginning to consider what if she kept the pregnancy and she delivers ... How do you intend to cross that bridge

My guy sit down with that babe, show remorse, get her to soften up then convinces her, let her see why now is not the best time ..
Tell her the kind of plan you have nd why this period won't be in OUR best interest

In my own small reasoning

Never play any football match without boots no matter how good or beautiful the field is.

This message is not about football

You can't marry someone older than you and you get mind dey Knack am Raw. There are many single mothers because of guys like you.
No be every txtx you see you go fxck even if it's free.

papiSNEH:
Good day everyone..

my narration may be long but please bear with me. i'm the type that loves keeping things low-key, minding my business and staying on my lane. I don't look for people's trouble but that doesn't mean if they look for mine i won't double it.

anyways long story short. i moved in into my present compound, mostly tenants here are family people. Apart exchanging pleasantries "Good morning",and "Good evening", i don't talk to any fellow tenant. and as someone who mostly works remote and into crypto, e no go hard them to tag me one name i just day my day.

so after like 2 or 3 months i parked in, then moved in a single lady that should be probably in her mid or late 30s but body her body na killer. she's always own her lane, goes to work early and back by evening,she constant keeps straight face and hardly greet or talk to anyone but a little soft when it's me. later i started noticing her kind of dodoyo eye contact.

i wasn't much surprise, one evening while i standing beside front of our estate's gate with the delivery bike-man receiving my package. as she was returning back from work, she walked up to me there and asked if i have eaten shawarma pointing one shawarma spot opposite end. saying yesterday was her first time trying their's and since then she haven't been her self...(in my mind was like why are you tell me all this or should i go and fight them?)....and that her day was hectic with diarrhea and fever all join. as we where going in, i asked hope she have taken medicine atlest to stop the running stomach she said yes but the ones she took ain't that effective and wants to get another one. i then told and directed her to a big pharmacy in our area, that after she gets home and freshens up she can go there and get the medicine. but she then insist that i must follow her, that she's tired and we going together will energize her. inside my mind i just smiled and talking inside me "watin u dey find for sokoto no worry e dey inside my shokoto, body go tell you soon". i didn't give her a forward answer i told her i'm going in, to try the package i just receive and do some few things but when she's done she can come to my apartment to call me if i'm less busy by then i will escort her to the pharmacy.

so from that very day that's how me and she became close, we started running parol and i dey constantly give her watin no good.. within me i know fully nothing is attached . my own is to keep the engine running for her Mr.Right to come drive the car away. i later got to know she's a bank in a top position too and she gallant well well. she has a large heart unless i didn't ask. her net worth can relocated family of 5 to US and they would hit the ground running immediately ..everything was matured and going smoothly but the only problem is the she's against us using bulletproof whenever we want to go to war cos she likes it raw...to my own understanding she's no longer a baby she will be tiding things up care of herself and taking after pills.

things have going on for over 8months now and no issues. so past Friday she came to my apartment telling lately she've not been feeling to well that on her back home, she branched the hospital to receive her result and that she's pregnant. immediately i asked her Pregnant ke? how? are you a baby ? don't you know how to prevent?.i then asked her what she wants about all this, she replied i should do what a man supposed to do.. supposed to do keh? of all the people in this world na banker i go come marry? people way too dey chop dem selfs office. colleague go chop, manger go chop even big customers ain't left out.. na watin innocent me wan come chop till i kpeme. I am 75% sure i'm the one that got her pregnant but DNA must clear the 25% doubt.

i then told her that i'm not ready for any of this. that i have goals to achieve and the one i score in her post is not one of them.. she went crazy after the drama she left but since then i have been receiving threatening messages and calls from unknown fellows but me i no send.. she can't rope me with belle.. i can't marry someone that's older than me.

Congratulations man

“Are you a baby?” - OP

I like this quote op

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papiSNEH:
Good day everyone..

my narration may be long but please bear with me. i'm the type that loves keeping things low-key, minding my business and staying on my lane. I don't look for people's trouble but that doesn't mean if they look for mine i won't double it.

anyways long story short. i moved in into my present compound, mostly tenants here are family people. Apart exchanging pleasantries "Good morning",and "Good evening", i don't talk to any fellow tenant. and as someone who mostly works remote and into crypto, e no go hard them to tag me one name i just day my day.

so after like 2 or 3 months i parked in, then moved in a single lady that should be probably in her mid or late 30s but body her body na killer. she's always own her lane, goes to work early and back by evening,she constant keeps straight face and hardly greet or talk to anyone but a little soft when it's me. later i started noticing her kind of dodoyo eye contact.

i wasn't much surprise, one evening while i standing beside front of our estate's gate with the delivery bike-man receiving my package. as she was returning back from work, she walked up to me there and asked if i have eaten shawarma pointing one shawarma spot opposite end. saying yesterday was her first time trying their's and since then she haven't been her self...(in my mind was like why are you tell me all this or should i go and fight them?)....and that her day was hectic with diarrhea and fever all join. as we where going in, i asked hope she have taken medicine atlest to stop the running stomach she said yes but the ones she took ain't that effective and wants to get another one. i then told and directed her to a big pharmacy in our area, that after she gets home and freshens up she can go there and get the medicine. but she then insist that i must follow her, that she's tired and we going together will energize her. inside my mind i just smiled and talking inside me "watin u dey find for sokoto no worry e dey inside my shokoto, body go tell you soon". i didn't give her a forward answer i told her i'm going in, to try the package i just receive and do some few things but when she's done she can come to my apartment to call me if i'm less busy by then i will escort her to the pharmacy.

so from that very day that's how me and she became close, we started running parol and i dey constantly give her watin no good.. within me i know fully nothing is attached . my own is to keep the engine running for her Mr.Right to come drive the car away. i later got to know she's a bank in a top position too and she gallant well well. she has a large heart unless i didn't ask. her net worth can relocated family of 5 to US and they would hit the ground running immediately ..everything was matured and going smoothly but the only problem is the she's against us using bulletproof whenever we want to go to war cos she likes it raw...to my own understanding she's no longer a baby she will be tiding things up care of herself and taking after pills.

things have going on for over 8months now and no issues. so past Friday she came to my apartment telling lately she've not been feeling to well that on her back home, she branched the hospital to receive her result and that she's pregnant. immediately i asked her Pregnant ke? how? are you a baby ? don't you know how to prevent?.i then asked her what she wants about all this, she replied i should do what a man supposed to do.. supposed to do keh? of all the people in this world na banker i go come marry? people way too dey chop dem selfs office. colleague go chop, manger go chop even big customers ain't left out.. na watin innocent me wan come chop till i kpeme. I am 75% sure i'm the one that got her pregnant but DNA must clear the 25% doubt.

i then told her that i'm not ready for any of this. that i have goals to achieve and the one i score in her post is not one of them.. she went crazy after the drama she left but since then i have been receiving threatening messages and calls from unknown fellows but me i no send.. she can't rope me with belle.. i can't marry someone that's older than me.

golden rule is thay as long as shes not ur wife, no release inside.withdraw

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dawnomike:
Sorry brother... you don buy free market. Please, do well to invite me to the wedding and naming ceremonies.

Gbam!!!

Sonnobax15:

When you were swimming without a life saver,your third dangling leg couldn't make you think well that you were swimming with a lady who was already planning to sign a MoU with menopause

As for the said lady,her prayers must have been answered and she might not even be needing you from henceforth,apart from the fact that she may only need you to just bear the title of --"that's my kids dad" After all, she's well-to-do financially, according to you

In a nutshell bro, congratulations. The same God wey do am for you go run am for other single men wey their blokos dey scratch, excluding myself cuz I've mastered how to control my urge especially towards bannies wey I know say I no go marry

Amennnnn

In Nigeria, you don't accept responsibility is you don't accept responsibility, so long as nothing was promised. The human being is just blowing smoke

papiSNEH:
Good day everyone..

my narration may be long but please bear with me. i'm the type that loves keeping things low-key, minding my business and staying on my lane. I don't look for people's trouble but that doesn't mean if they look for mine i won't double it.

anyways long story short. i moved in into my present compound, mostly tenants here are family people. Apart exchanging pleasantries "Good morning",and "Good evening", i don't talk to any fellow tenant. and as someone who mostly works remote and into crypto, e no go hard them to tag me one name i just day my day.

so after like 2 or 3 months i parked in, then moved in a single lady that should be probably in her mid or late 30s but body her body na killer. she's always own her lane, goes to work early and back by evening,she constant keeps straight face and hardly greet or talk to anyone but a little soft when it's me. later i started noticing her kind of dodoyo eye contact.

i wasn't much surprise, one evening while i standing beside front of our estate's gate with the delivery bike-man receiving my package. as she was returning back from work, she walked up to me there and asked if i have eaten shawarma pointing one shawarma spot opposite end. saying yesterday was her first time trying their's and since then she haven't been her self...(in my mind was like why are you tell me all this or should i go and fight them?)....and that her day was hectic with diarrhea and fever all join. as we where going in, i asked hope she have taken medicine atlest to stop the running stomach she said yes but the ones she took ain't that effective and wants to get another one. i then told and directed her to a big pharmacy in our area, that after she gets home and freshens up she can go there and get the medicine. but she then insist that i must follow her, that she's tired and we going together will energize her. inside my mind i just smiled and talking inside me "watin u dey find for sokoto no worry e dey inside my shokoto, body go tell you soon". i didn't give her a forward answer i told her i'm going in, to try the package i just receive and do some few things but when she's done she can come to my apartment to call me if i'm less busy by then i will escort her to the pharmacy.

so from that very day that's how me and she became close, we started running parol and i dey constantly give her watin no good.. within me i know fully nothing is attached . my own is to keep the engine running for her Mr.Right to come drive the car away. i later got to know she's a bank in a top position too and she gallant well well. she has a large heart unless i didn't ask. her net worth can relocated family of 5 to US and they would hit the ground running immediately ..everything was matured and going smoothly but the only problem is the she's against us using bulletproof whenever we want to go to war cos she likes it raw...to my own understanding she's no longer a baby she will be tiding things up care of herself and taking after pills.

things have going on for over 8months now and no issues. so past Friday she came to my apartment telling lately she've not been feeling to well that on her back home, she branched the hospital to receive her result and that she's pregnant. immediately i asked her Pregnant ke? how? are you a baby ? don't you know how to prevent?.i then asked her what she wants about all this, she replied i should do what a man supposed to do.. supposed to do keh? of all the people in this world na banker i go come marry? people way too dey chop dem selfs office. colleague go chop, manger go chop even big customers ain't left out.. na watin innocent me wan come chop till i kpeme. I am 75% sure i'm the one that got her pregnant but DNA must clear the 25% doubt.

i then told her that i'm not ready for any of this. that i have goals to achieve and the one i score in her post is not one of them.. she went crazy after the drama she left but since then i have been receiving threatening messages and calls from unknown fellows but me i no send.. she can't rope me with belle.. i can't marry someone that's older than me.

You

papiSNEH:
Good day everyone..

my narration may be long but please bear with me. i'm the type that loves keeping things low-key, minding my business and staying on my lane. I don't look for people's trouble but that doesn't mean if they look for mine i won't double it.

anyways long story short. i moved in into my present compound, mostly tenants here are family people. Apart exchanging pleasantries "Good morning",and "Good evening", i don't talk to any fellow tenant. and as someone who mostly works remote and into crypto, e no go hard them to tag me one name i just day my day.

so after like 2 or 3 months i parked in, then moved in a single lady that should be probably in her mid or late 30s but body her body na killer. she's always own her lane, goes to work early and back by evening,she constant keeps straight face and hardly greet or talk to anyone but a little soft when it's me. later i started noticing her kind of dodoyo eye contact.

i wasn't much surprise, one evening while i standing beside front of our estate's gate with the delivery bike-man receiving my package. as she was returning back from work, she walked up to me there and asked if i have eaten shawarma pointing one shawarma spot opposite end. saying yesterday was her first time trying their's and since then she haven't been her self...(in my mind was like why are you tell me all this or should i go and fight them?)....and that her day was hectic with diarrhea and fever all join. as we where going in, i asked hope she have taken medicine atlest to stop the running stomach she said yes but the ones she took ain't that effective and wants to get another one. i then told and directed her to a big pharmacy in our area, that after she gets home and freshens up she can go there and get the medicine. but she then insist that i must follow her, that she's tired and we going together will energize her. inside my mind i just smiled and talking inside me "watin u dey find for sokoto no worry e dey inside my shokoto, body go tell you soon". i didn't give her a forward answer i told her i'm going in, to try the package i just receive and do some few things but when she's done she can come to my apartment to call me if i'm less busy by then i will escort her to the pharmacy.

so from that very day that's how me and she became close, we started running parol and i dey constantly give her watin no good.. within me i know fully nothing is attached . my own is to keep the engine running for her Mr.Right to come drive the car away. i later got to know she's a bank in a top position too and she gallant well well. she has a large heart unless i didn't ask. her net worth can relocated family of 5 to US and they would hit the ground running immediately ..everything was matured and going smoothly but the only problem is the she's against us using bulletproof whenever we want to go to war cos she likes it raw...to my own understanding she's no longer a baby she will be tiding things up care of herself and taking after pills.

things have going on for over 8months now and no issues. so past Friday she came to my apartment telling lately she've not been feeling to well that on her back home, she branched the hospital to receive her result and that she's pregnant. immediately i asked her Pregnant ke? how? are you a baby ? don't you know how to prevent?.i then asked her what she wants about all this, she replied i should do what a man supposed to do.. supposed to do keh? of all the people in this world na banker i go come marry? people way too dey chop dem selfs office. colleague go chop, manger go chop even big customers ain't left out.. na watin innocent me wan come chop till i kpeme. I am 75% sure i'm the one that got her pregnant but DNA must clear the 25% doubt.

i then told her that i'm not ready for any of this. that i have goals to achieve and the one i score in her post is not one of them.. she went crazy after the drama she left but since then i have been receiving threatening messages and calls from unknown fellows but me i no send.. she can't rope me with belle.. i can't marry someone that's older than me.

Baba ibeji. Congratulations. Happy married life in advance

Keep the engine running? Now engine don knock for your hand. Wo, you go explain tire 🤣😂😂🤣🤣

Guy you be mumu²

Keep the engine running, now the engine don knock for your hand. Woo!!! You go explain tire 🤣😂🤣🤣😂😂