Sarah a: yes oh, infact it should commence right alway.

they constittte nuisance, unruly uncouth and very raw. Anyway, make we no derail thread abeg.

JustifiedChild: This is the best thread I have ever come across on nairaland... I'm not married yet though but i have learnt so much! May God bless each and everyone of you.

it seems like a sane thread although i only read part of the first page.

God bless you too.

Hello all. I must say this thread has been very much informative. I wonder the whereabout of all the pioneers set of this thread. I enjoyed reading most of the pages. My interest dwindled somewhat in the last few pages as they dont contain much.
i would really like to read new post from members that havent done so.
#teamkeepthreadalive.

This thread is classic, nl is really a place to be, i bet most people cant write all these on facebook and twitter. But I would also like to share my story.


The first day I met my husband, I was going from my sister's house to my father's house after her wedding and I went there to pack some goodies to take back to sch. Standing at d busstop with two mighty bags, my husband who was driving and his friend stopped to give me a lift, while on our way, his friend began to chat me up till he asked my name and I explained I wasnt Igbo and stated where I came from, immediately my husband who was driving like mad slowed down and started asking me series of questions(as in serious interview), only for us to find out we were both from d same place, our parents were childhood friends and my dad stayed with his dad during his nysc days(the first set of nysc).

They dropped me off and he later told me that he warned his friend that day that he should stay clear this was his wife. Since i was still in sch, i wasnt even thinking of marriage, so whenever he mentions it, I just laugh.

After sometime, we lost touch and I went for nysc,served in a villa with no network, only for me to open my mail one day and see series of mails from him, begging to com see me.

He officially asked me to marry him and I said yes, he went out the next day and bought the engagement, male and female wedding rings and gave them to me and I was like 'take it easy ohh'.

Everyone in my family fell In love with him and I almost became jealous sef, it was like I didnt deserve him(u no black sheep tinz), my father almost gave me out for free, to honour his friendship with my husband's late father, thank God for my 'wicked' uncles maybe I would have been the first bride without a bride price/dowry and made a laughing stock.

Eight years down d road, I ve never regretted making this decision, I had always asked God to give me a husband that I did not deserve and He did more than that. I ve never met a more selfless person, he can give the last he has to us and strangers, always calm, never holds any grudges,teaches me how to love and play with the kids and forgives on per second billing. You do not come to our home and not feel his love, his cousin actually told my sister that he wants to get married and be just like us, everyone is envious of our marriage, even in our difficulties. Indeed am truly blessed.

It has never crossed my mind to cheat, not once. And I believe this marriage would last forever. Thank u nl for awakening thoughts of the early special moments.

Woooooooooow, very interesting, am not yet married but will soon be. Hope to come and share some day. A big thank u to everyone who contributed. Wish it can be kept going

Older than NL. . .and has not crashed once!

No hacker yet o!

Muchechechecheche

*belches*


We still dey 'bAAAAAnce'!
You wan try us?

15 YEARS DON WAKA. . . WE STILL DEY CARRY GO. . .
No body don waka
No body go solo
BABA GODIOH. . . NA YA GRACIO
BABA ADUPE OOOOOOOO!!!!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cASNV7oxomA



ADUPE O!

Kanwulia: Older than NL. . .and has not crashed once!

No hacker yet o!

Muchechechecheche

*belches*


We still dey 'bAAAAAnce'!
You wan try us?

15 YEARS DON WAKA. . . WE STILL DEY CARRY GO. . .
No body don waka
No body go solo
BABA GODIOH. . . NA YA GRACIO
BABA ADUPE OOOOOOOO!!!!

This woman your matter ehh, na only baba God hand e dey.

Very beautiful thread

God bless Seun for this thread

I wonder how NL degenerated from people telling beautiful tales about marriage to people opening boasting about cheating and writing essays on it

I guess it shows the rottenness the society

Why aren't these beautiful posters frequenting the family section if they are still around?

bukatyne:
Why aren't these beautiful posters frequenting the family section if they are still around?

Because they don't want their mind poisoned by the extremely negative advice that emanate from this section. If many people on this thread applied such "academic" advice in their marriages, thousands would be long divorced. No be for dis section wey tolerance na taboo?! There's a thread on here about "first years of marriage", where posters gave testimonies of their first year of being married and the whole getting-to-really-know-each-other phase and how tasking it was. Going by their comments on that thread, had they brought their issues to nairaland at that period at least 90% would be divorced now or worse. Abeg, leave dem where dem dey.

^^ You're very right bro.

Tolerance & Patience & Marriage dip = Suffering and smiling on this section.. Mostly.

Divorce him/her with any slight provocation ... Who says life is fair on its own not to talk of living with a man/ woman from entire different background??

@Topic.. My marriage is fine and dandy. First couple years was hard seeking what is mostly cherished in marriage. Thank God for my loving husband support.

Hehe.. We went to Bose shopping for new 'toys' for the bonus room and after dragging me around for 3hrs with his full awareness of my zero flare for home entertainment. He finally made his first choice - Support & Patience. I sure won't do that for anybody else.

^^ I truly truly learnt a lot from that "first years" thread. It was an eye-opener. I believe that if not for that thread I might not have had a home today. I've been away for about 3months and it's torture, my family miss me and I miss them(can't wait to finish this stint and get back with them). All this pursue pursue anthem as if say na David dey find Philistines for this section eh. Na only God go save people.

If there's no patience and tolerance, there's no love. Who can't love a yes-wife or yes-husband easily? Who wouldn't choose someone who'll do as you want and even when you're wrong corrects you ever so softly and lovingly and doesn't get angry? Mehn, this section is poisonous.

PS: Bose is the shiznit though, gaddemit. Words can't begin to describe.

freshdude2: Because they don't want their mind poisoned by the extremely negative advice that emanate from this section. If many people on this thread applied such "academic" advice in their marriages, thousands would be long divorced. No be for dis section wey tolerance na taboo?! There's a thread on here about "first years of marriage", where posters gave testimonies of their first year of being married and the whole getting-to-really-know-each-other phase and how tasking it was. Going by their comments on that thread, had they brought their issues to nairaland at that period at least 90% would be divorced now or worse. Abeg, leave dem where dem dey.

There really no extremely negative advice going around except to those who want to eat their cakes and have it (male and female)

Check out that thread and see the kind of homes/relationships the posters had and the values they upheld

Men staying faithful to their wives, putting them first, creating conducive homes with love etc.

Women supporting their husbands, taking them for whom they are etc.

Did you see any male/female poster boasting about the number of women/men they sleep with outside marriage?

People who have beautiful homes have nothing to fear

bukatyne:

There really no extremely negative advice going around except to those who want to eat their cakes and have it (male and female)

Check out that thread and see the kind of homes/relationships the posters had and the values they upheld

Men staying faithful to their wives, putting them first, creating conducive homes with love etc.

Women supporting their husbands, taking them for whom they are etc.

Did you see any male/female poster boasting about the number of women/men they sleep with outside marriage?

People who have beautiful homes have nothing to fear

I don't quite agree. But the part in bold cracked me up. The point is almost everything is seen through the lens of gender-support these days. When people can be logical and give advice based on merit on every isssue rather than a female/male-solidarity endeavour we'll be getting somewhere, till then....

Since 2005 seun create thread, him never still marry. Abi the sweet stories here no do you ni?

Pls don't ban me o, I just dey ask.

freshdude2: ^^ I truly truly learnt a lot from that "first years" thread. It was an eye-opener. I believe that if not for that thread I might not have had a home today. I've been away for about 3months and it's torture, my family miss me and I miss them(can't wait to finish this stint and get back with them). All this pursue pursue anthem as if say na David dey find Philistines for this section eh. Na only God go save people.

If there's no patience and tolerance, there's no love. Who can't love a yes-wife or yes-husband easily? Who wouldn't choose someone who'll do as you want and even when you're wrong corrects you ever so softly and lovingly and doesn't get angry? Mehn, this section is poisonous.

PS: Bose is the shiznit though, gaddemit. Words can't begin to describe.

No more kele kele lof anymore , you no know say 'scratch my back & vice versa' ? they even delegate chores - I heard that on this website first time in my life.

Her husband is filthy= Divorce him!
She can't cook / money mismanagement = Divorce her! Etc

@ missing home.. Not easy ride I know but it is what it is abi and as long as you have an understanding spouse and children, shikena.

@bolded... Tolerance and Patence - rare virtue in working marriage, else you'll find yourself in a screaming match everyday. But hey it's the new era so to them and their owns.

@Bose .. Hmmm bro words can't describe how much this man squanders in that store every year, if it's Nigeria, people will call it Afishe... Okay oh it's the shiznit abi Da bomb that's him 'Living' and He earned it anyway.

freshdude2: I don't quite agree. But the part in bold cracked me up. The point is almost everything is seen through the lens of gender-support these days. When people can be logical and give advice based on merit on every isssue rather than a female/male-solidarity endeavour we'll be getting somewhere, till then....

Well,

Because everything is gender-support which some monikers are more guilty off

I asked a plain question on the cut off thread for Federal Government Colleges and one Arrow brought up feminism

Someone posts a topic and before you say jack, posters have started ranting feminism/anti-feminism

And most 'merit' seems to support some sides from experience.

I am sure the thread owners still get what they want out of it

Also add every poster thinking their way is the best/only way

bukatyne:

Well,

Because everything is gender-support which some monikers are more guilty off

I asked a plain question on the cut off thread for Federal Government Colleges and one tw@t brought up feminism

Someone posts a topic and before you say jack, posters have started ranting feminism/anti-feminism

And most 'merit' seems to support some sides from experience.

I am sure the thread owners still get what they want out of it

Also add every poster thinking their way is the best/only way

Hehehehe. Merit ko, messy ni. It's also normal for every poster to assume that their opinions are superior, what I can't stand though, is deliberately twisting your co-debaters' words to make yours look right. That's not the point. It's not about being right, to me it's about education. Which is why sometimes I might not comment till the last page even on some threads.

@bolded, that's the koko.

Ewuro1:

No more kele kele lof anymore , you no know say 'scratch my back & vice versa' ? they even delegate chores - I heard that on this website first time in my life.

Her husband is filthy= Divorce him!
She can't cook / money mismanagement = Divorce her! Etc

@ missing home.. Not easy ride I know but it is what it is abi and as long as you have an understanding spouse and children, shikena.

@bolded... Tolerance and Patence - rare virtue in working marriage, else you'll find yourself in a screaming match everyday. But hey it's the new era so to them and their owns.

@Bose .. Hmmm bro words can't describe how much this man squanders in that store every year, if it's Nigeria, people will call it Afishe... Okay oh it's the shiznit abi Da bomb that's him 'Living' and He earned it anyway.

Lol. Misery loves company. Never has it been truer than on nairaland. It is well.

My family understand, and more than anything, I feel pity for them especially wifey. Na only she waka come now, so pressure's more but she's a strong woman .

Thank God for grace to help me mature into a good husband and father. My son adores me and wifey confessed to under-appreciating my worth just a few days ago. Apparently, a man is a man.

PS: You need to get bros some Carlos Santana, Miles Davis, John Coltrane, Fela, Obey and Sunny Ade. Thank me later.

Chillisauce: Since 2005 seun create thread, him never still marry. Abi the sweet stories here no do you ni?

Pls don't ban me o, I just dey ask.

Hmmmmm
So you go give that kain BUSH tin to marry any female you know?
That boy na real BUSH RAT O!!! Verrrrrrry underexposed!
See the kain tins wey im dey use to synonymize words on NL?

"Core area". . . ."manliness" . . . . And some other LOCAL LINGO?
ARRRRRRRGH!!!! Imagine this one in the bedroom?
Na teeth e go take give you hysterectomy all in the name of "IJEBU V-JOB"!!!!
Tufiaaaaakwa!

OGUN STATE WIFE-KILLING MACHINE ABI NA MODA AND FATHER KILLER?

HACK-ATTACK!!!!

Seven years on this NL. . . . I CAN WRITE VOLUMES ON HIS ETERNAL LIFE AND CHARACTER PROFILE.

That is a NO-GO AREA for any NORMAL female!!!!

Evil on 2 LEGS. Diabolical family heritage!!!

His face alone gives me the CREEPS!
My spirit dey strong. . . .That boy is a SOCIOPATH GRADE A +++++++!!!!

E mi lo so be!!!!!

Kanwulia:


Hmmmmm
So you go give that kain BUSH tin to marry any female you know?
That boy na real BUSH RAT O!!! Verrrrrrry underexposed!
See the kain tins wey im dey use to synonymize words on NL?

"Core area". . . ."manliness" . . . . And some other LOCAL LINGO?
ARRRRRRRGH!!!! Imagine this one in the bedroom?
Na teeth e go take give you hysterectomy all in the name of "IJEBU V-JOB"!!!!
Tufiaaaaakwa!

OGUN STATE WIFE-KILLING MACHINE!!!!

HACK-ATTACK!!!!

Seven years on this NL. . . . I CAN WRITE AN ETERNAL PROFILE ON HIS LIFE AND CHARACTER PROFILE.

That is a NO-GO AREA for any NORMAL female!!!!

Evil on 2 LEGS. Diabolical family heritage!!!

His face alone gives me the CREEPS!
My spirit dey strong. . . .That boy is a SOCIOPATH GRADE A +++++++!!!!

E mi lo so be!!!!!

Kanwulia, the pic you see na suen when he was 18yrs old, right now eh, his recent pics...him don grow bia bia sef . Don dey drink liquid milk, dey freshen up. He needs some strong babe to push him to the next level.

Him get dogs sef. If after one yr from now, we no hear news eh. we go go ogun Abi na ekiti state go find out Wetin dey happen , to confirm your statement

Chillisauce:

Kanwulia, the pic you see na suen when he was 18yrs old, right now eh, his recent pics...him don grow bia bia sef . Don dey drink liquid milk, dey freshen up. He needs some strong babe to push him to the next level.

Him get dogs sef. If after one yr from now, we no hear news eh. we go go ogun Abi na ekiti state go find out Wetin dey happen , to confirm your statement

My hand nor dey o!
I can perceive evil in my bones when I encounter it, even without seeing or meeting it!
MY SPIRIT IS STROOOOOOOONG AND MY HEAD IS STROOOOOOOONGER!!!!!
I don write finish o!

I don wash both hands and feet!
NOR BE 7 YEARS I DON DEY THIS NL?

Tell me sointin! HA!
Make we bet?
Thain my H-AGNOSTIC GAWWWWD FOR HACKERS!!!

We shall see!
Over to awon 'I WANNO SUCK YOUR NL "[size=20pt]BOSOMS[/size]". . . .' Tufiakwa!!!!


Eeeeeeeeerrrrrrr, e get some fine fine yam wey my oga sen to moi by FedEx. . . .I just receive them. Make I go cook dem. SWEEEEET YAM PORRIDGE WITH FRIED FISH!!!!

Time for work jare!!! A REAAAAAL JOB! Amen.

Marrrrrrrrrrriage sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet o! Hallelujah!!!!!

Kanwulia:
Hmmmmm
So you go give that kain BUSH tin to marry any female you know?
That boy na real BUSH RAT O!!! Verrrrrrry underexposed!
See the kain tins wey im dey use to synonymize words on NL?
"Core area". . . ."manliness" . . . . And some other LOCAL LINGO?
ARRRRRRRGH!!!! Imagine this one in the bedroom?
Na teeth e go take give you hysterectomy all in the name of "IJEBU V-JOB"!!!!
Tufiaaaaakwa!
OGUN STATE WIFE-KILLING MACHINE ABI NA MODA AND FATHER KILLER?
HACK-ATTACK!!!!
Seven years on this NL. . . . I CAN WRITE AN ETERNAL PROFILE ON HIS LIFE AND CHARACTER PROFILE.
That is a NO-GO AREA for any NORMAL female!!!!
Evil on 2 LEGS. Diabolical family heritage!!!
His face alone gives me the CREEPS!
My spirit dey strong. . . .That boy is a SOCIOPATH GRADE A +++++++!!!!
E mi lo so be!!!!!

buhahahahha

*looks left and right*

Abeg my hand nor dey this wan. Make i just observe. Even Chilli misspelt the name. Before them turn my username to something else again.

Kanwulia:

My hand nor dey o!
I can perceive evil in my bones when I encounter it, even without seeing or meeting it!
MY SPURIT IS STROOOOOOOONG AND MY HEAD IS STROOOOOOOONGER!!!!!
I don write finish o!

I don wash both hands and feet!
NOR BE 7 YEARS I DON DEY THIS NL?

Tell me sointin! HA!
Make we bet?
Thain my H-AGNOSTIC GAWWWWD FOR HACKERS!!!

We shall see!
Over to awon 'I WANNO SUCK YOUr NL "[size=20pt]BOSOMS[/size]". . . .' Tufiakwa!!!!


Eeeeeeeeerrrrrrr, e get some fine fine yam wey my oga sen by FedEx. . . .I just receive them. Make I go cook dem. SWEEEEET YAM PORRIDGE WITH FRIED FISH!!!!

Time for work jare!!! A REAAAAAL JOB! Amen.

Marrrrrrrrrrriage sweeeeeeeeeeeeeeet o! Hallelujah!!!!!

Enjoy dear. Noffin do you.

baby124:
buhahahahha

*looks left and right*

Abeg my hand nor dey this wan. Make i just observe. Even Chilli misspelt the name. Before them turn my username to something else again.

. Seun no dey ban person , na the other black one wey her finger dey itch, na to hammer 1 yr ban she sabi .

Pls can someone provide a link to the first years thread, I havent seen that, thanks in advance.

Kanwulia: Hmmmmm
So you go give that kain BUSH tin to marry any female you know?
That boy na real BUSH RAT O!!! Verrrrrrry underexposed!
See the kain tins wey im dey use to synonymize words on NL?
"Core area". . . ."manliness" . . . . And some other LOCAL LINGO?
ARRRRRRRGH!!!! Imagine this one in the bedroom?
Na teeth e go take give you hysterectomy all in the name of "IJEBU V-JOB"!!!!
Tufiaaaaakwa!
OGUN STATE WIFE-KILLING MACHINE ABI NA MODA AND FATHER KILLER?
HACK-ATTACK!!!!
Seven years on this NL. . . . I CAN WRITE AN ETERNAL PROFILE ON HIS LIFE AND CHARACTER PROFILE.
That is a NO-GO AREA for any NORMAL female!!!!
Evil on 2 LEGS. Diabolical family heritage!!!
His face alone gives me the CREEPS!
My spirit dey strong. . . .That boy is a SOCIOPATH GRADE A +++++++!!!!
E mi lo so be!!!!!

Gbam gbammer and gbammest! Lmao.

Sweet thread !
I only skipped the early years (2005,2006 and 2007) which I think Seun has many monikers to drive the thread ! I started reading in the years he became less active on the thread

What a Great Thread since 24hours !

Great thread. The best ever

bagoma: my story continues...

after d birth of my second boy, customarily both mums (mine and his) came to do their bit, one after the other and as expected my husband moved out of our bedroom to another to give the mums room to care for the baby especially at night. they left about two months later. i expected my husband to move back to our room but alas he did not, to me it seemed as if he loved his new-found privacy and prefer that to being with me. and that was the begining of TROUBLE for us.

as the days past and turned into weeks i began to feel worse. i started feelin unloved. i felt i was no longer needed, i mean i had given birth to his children and as such fufilled my role and i'm no longer useful in his life anymore. i felt useless, i felt ugly. i felt used. but rather than call him to talk and clear up things i became bitter and would snap at him at every turn. this made him turn away even more and we went from bad to worse. we drifted apart. we became two strangers living together barely talking except to scream and curse at each other. we were heading for the rocks.

then one day, six months after the birth of my son, i packed a few things into a bag and told him i was leaving! that shocked him. and as i looked up at him, i saw the fear in his eyes.
"so you finally want to leave me?"
"yes"
" please dont leave me, we can start again, please."
"to what end?" i asked
"because i cant live without you"
"WHAT?" i asked " i thought you no longer wanted me as i have finished playing my role. it was his turn to scream "WHAT?"
"i thought you couldnt stand me anymore. i thought you hated the sight of me. at first i attributed it to post-natal hormonal feelings thats why i thought i should stay away and give you time but you got worse"
but i thought... i thought ... no i thought....

oh the trouble and pain we would have saved ourselves if only we communicated. so that night we made up and determined we would always talk. we didnt sleep, we talked and talked into the night till early morn. form then on, we became one again. we became stroger and tighter. laughter and happiness was back in my home. two years later, we celebrated five years of being together.

            shania twane's ''still the one" was our song.

            looks like we made it , see how far we've come my baby
            we might have took the long way, we knew we'll get there someday
            they said, i bet they'll never make it but just look as we're still holding on
            we're still together, still going strong.
             still the one, you still the one i run to, the one that i belong to.....

he said we'll play it on our 10th anniversary. everyone who thought we couldnt make it, all those who stood in our way, would be invited.... i once sang "i wanna grow old with you" (westlife) to him and he jokingly said but you are already old now i screamed and chased him, we ran around the house like kids. my marriage was bliss, my home, heaven on earth. life was too good to be true.

how long do you think the marriage would last?

i thought it would last my lifetime but it didnt.
just like angelaZ, he died in a ghastly auto accident some months after our 5th wedding anniversary, tearing my world apart.

its close to 3 years now and i've learnt to be strong again. i have learnt to live with the pain.

goodness God!! dis is really painful,It is well with u & d kids.A̶̲̥̅♏ really scared of dis institution called marriage

Wow! What can i say? #speachless

Have learened and unlearned from this thread.

Will come back with my story in a short while by God grace, until i praye to meet him real soon (my mr right)

Hello Guys,
It's been a long long time that I checked in here. I couldnt stop myself readying thru all these stuff.
My post was in 2008. I now have 2 daughters added to my son of 2007. My wife is amazing...stubborn and troublesome but we complement each other. We fight everyday and settle likewise.
It has not been easy at all but God has been ever faithful.
See my family now...