majekdom2:
This is where the problem is ... a will is the best option . if the motive of a certificate is to protect the children from golddigging inlaws, there is nothing wrong in writing a will with your partner and allocating his properties evenly. you create more problem for yourself when you avoid a will because golddigging inlaws will also come with claims..... your common law here might not work because of the customary law. in A WILL ... Your partner states it clearly which property is his and which is for the extended family.

Let me put it this way, a will is a document that expresses the will of a person pertaining to the distribution or allocation of his property upon his death right?

This will can be revoked at any point by the testator without the knowledge of his wife or family members or heirs thereof. That is he can replace his will with a new one without the knowledge of his spouse, family members and other heirs.

If the testator revokes a will that his wife or family members had knowledge of and replaces it. if a clause in the (new) final will unfairly favours one heir over another, customary law principles cannot be challenged that particular clause. But if the marriage is according to civil law and a will is drawn up and the will turns out to unfairly favours one heir over another, that particular clause can be challenged because the common law principle of the law of succession will apply in this particular case.

A will is a good thing but people can never determine the outcome until the deceased's estate is ready for distribution. Where as if you are marriage according to civil right from the beginning of the marriage you will know the outcome of what may happen in case one spouse (husband or wife) dies or when the dissolve the marriage by means of a divorce. Where there is only a customary marriage, the outcome can never be determined until the will is read. This creates a lot of uncertainties and complications.

You can never know the final will of your spouse until its read after his/her death, because he/ she can change the contents of the will you intially knew about without your knowledge.

U just want something u can post on FACEBOOK, thereby BERATING your FEMALE COLLEAGUES....
ITS simple ..ok. JUST DO IT LIKE DIS: AFTER TRADITIONAL WEDDING, go and purchase WHITE UNIFORM ,then u WEAR it and POST it online ...
SINCE all U CRAVE FOR , is just WHITE GOWN.
...

Amelian:
Ha! Am not implying benefits 2 get when divorced or when d man dies.. No!.... Its benefits, one will enjoy as his legal wife when good tidings comes the husband's way and both will enjoy it 2gether. Divorce shudnt even come up or be part of d reason why, one shud be legally married.

So ur cousin is wise to u? Marrying a man with 3 wives. very wicked Lady... sb will displace her with other documents. Women hurting themselves because of a Man's wealth.

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Sweetlemon:


I agree with you. The government needs to do something about it for the sake of those who see no need for more than one ceremony. There is really a need for documents.

What motivated me to start this thread is a lady I know of currently crying her heart out right now. Her then struggling bf only did traditional wedding and postponed the white till further notice giving the excuse of finance. She moved into his house, only too happy to get a hubby just before clocking 30. The guy got an offer abroad but because they weren't legally married, he couldn't take her along. All advise that she should tell the guy to do court wedding of nothing more than 40k fell on deaf ears (court payments plus small refreshment for like 5 witnesses). She was hopeful that he will come back to do the white/court wedding at "his own pace" . Ok nau, the guy left. Little by little, he stopped calling her.

Then all of a sudden, she heard he was in town........ for his wedding! When her family confronted him, he said he was married to her traditionally and he was allowed to have as many wives as he wished under tradition she was given a choice to accept it or leave. Meanwhile he did white wedding with his second wife o! They signed documents. They have both since gone back abroad leaving his first wife high and dry without the dignity of any proceeding. As in it was like an ordinary unceremonious break-up btw a boyfriend and girlfriend. God forbid!

Pls spear me dis trash , what abt this iniedo of resent wasn't she wedded ? D fact is that ladies shld not force themself on a guy becus it backfires wen the guy realises his goal in life. As for what goes to d woman after divorce is still a matter of were d marriage is contracted/desolved cus for naija d man 'll only be mandated to care for d children wch is his primary responsibility. our legal system does not realy have much for those who divorce there husband.

2sExy1:
ma'am, it is relative. Neither will church or court determine a solid marriage.

It does not matter how/where the marriage is conducted; what matter most is the
love that will keep them.

White wedding/court marriage isn't our custom, but traditional marriage is. We have sold
our rights to the whites, which is what has almost given them the temerity to impose gay/lesbanism
on us.

How about you turn the table around and ask them to wed in your own custom,huh?

In case you never knew, 2 Italians has broken the record when they wedded in the igbo tradition
a few months back. so, you see?


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2sExy1:
ma'am, it is relative. Neither will church or court determine a solid marriage.

It does not matter how/where the marriage is conducted; what matter most is the
love that will keep them.

White wedding/court marriage isn't our custom, but traditional marriage is. We have sold
our rights to the whites, which is what has almost given them the temerity to impose gay/lesbanism
on us.

How about you turn the table around and ask them to wed in your own custom,huh?

In case you never knew, 2 Italians has broken the record when they wedded in the igbo tradition
a few months back. so, you see?


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There is a difference between a legal and custom marriage.

Blebleswag:
Buh traditional marriage is d most important. Must u wear white gown?

the issue here,is not wearing a white gown,it is having a marriage certificate,a solid evidence that you are married.

PrettyClare7:
the issue here,is not wearing a white gown,it is having a marriage certificate,a solid evidence that you are married.

what is the issue with the evidence? If you want a certificate, the igwe of the community can issue one.

festico:


Pls spear me dis trash , what abt this iniedo of resent wasn't she wedded ? D fact is that ladies shld not force themself on a guy becus it backfires wen the guy realises his goal in life. As for what goes to d woman after divorce is still a matter of were d marriage is contracted/desolved cus for naija d man 'll only be mandated to care for d children wch is his primary responsibility. our legal system does not realy have much for those who divorce there husband.

u are here supporting the man and blaming the woman for putting up with the man when he did not have enough for a wedding,had it been she pressed for a wedding and the story came here,u wuld call her impatient. Let us be impartial in judgement imagine if it were a relation wuld u spew that trash?

PrettyClare7:
u are here supporting the man and blaming the woman for putting up with the man when he did not have enough for a wedding,had it been she pressed for a wedding and the story came here,u wuld call her impatient. Let us be impartial in judgement imagine if it were a relation wuld u spew that trash?

Why not, you call the truth trash? You need to rinse your mouth with dettol.

Why won't he support the man, when the biat.ch is running after all dick.s. She is not a wife material just some random road side one night stand biatch.

slimmy05:
what is the issue with the evidence? If you want a certificate, the igwe of the community can issue one.

the igwe doesnt issue marriage certificate,it is the court or churches that have registered with the right authority. That is why the church where a person weds is also important. Some churches have not been granted by the law,the right to issue marriage certs.

slimmy05:
Why not, you call the truth trash? You need to rinse your mouth with dettol.

Why won't he support the man, when the biat.ch is running after all dick.s. She is not a wife material just some random road side one night stand biatch.

women need to be careful in relating with men in this world. From d story where i replied your comment,the woman stood by the man through trying times and was deserted. That same woman has become a "bitch" to you. God save women from men with senses likes yours.

kayciano:
U just want something u can post on FACEBOOK, thereby BERATING your FEMALE COLLEAGUES....
ITS simple ..ok. JUST DO IT LIKE DIS: AFTER TRADITIONAL WEDDING, go and purchase WHITE UNIFORM ,then u WEAR it and POST it online ...
SINCE all U CRAVE FOR , is just WHITE GOWN.
...

my dear darling ladies out there could wear white gowns and take pictures with their lovely brothers,the issue is getting a marriage certificate,not wearing a gown.

Toks2008:


Im sorry but in my opinion,your post is not coherent.

I dpnt know what people mean by white wedding though but im my oponion,traditional wedding is vital according to cilture and bride price os a must if you truly want to have that full "franchise" as to been truly wedded tradionally. I dont see any need for white wedding at all as i see it as a waste of rrsources.

However,legal wedding is strpngly advised that is document signing which at least ensures that you are firmly rooted in your matrimony.

This does not mean the man or woman can not still leave the union but it will not just be an easy exit but must be hinged on a cogent factor.


So saying you know some ladies who are lgally married and still treated like shit is funny and i guess these ladies in question allowed it.

So i still maintain that legal wedding is vital for a lady who really want to be rooted in her matrimony else your case na sorry.

By 'those women' I was referring to women whose highest qualification in life is marriage. marriage is an escape for their inadequacy and inability to financially cater for themselves as adults. Their life aspirations are centred on their marriages, In case of Nigerian women, after their masters degree, their ultimate goal is to secure their husbands and his property.

Legal or no legal marriage none will prevent the men from behaving like arseholes if they chose to

And what security does a court marriage have to offer, Alimony? Child support? all of which are always at the detriment of the husbands' financial, mental and social well-being. Of course women are equal to men, that is why they need 'protection' at the expense of their husbands and encouragement to be unconcerned about everything else except their marriages.

PrettyClare7:
women need to be careful in relating with men in this world. From d story where i replied your comment,the woman stood by the man through trying times and was deserted. That same woman has become a "bitch" to you. God save women from men with senses likes yours.

May God save us from biatch and gold diggers like you

PrettyClare7:
the igwe doesnt issue marriage certificate,it is the court or churches that have registered with the right authority. That is why the church where a person weds is also important. Some churches have not been granted by the law,the right to issue marriage certs.

you're a daft. Stop exposing your crude ignorance. I don't need no one else to certify my marriage. My tradition is enough for me.

NobleG1:
You think going to court or church for wedding will prevent a marraige break up or make a good marraige??

Your point is only focused on the benefit for the woman in case of breakup! Which made you sound like a gold digger. Any man who will marry you should have a Prenuptial Agreement.

By the way, the Traditional marraige is our main marraige. White wedding was copied from Westerners! Westerners have only one type of wedding which is the White wedding. And yet we f*oolishly copied them and ended up having two seperate weddings per a marraige. How st*upid is that?!!

We should stop this madness and choose either Traditional or Church (white) wedding.

supposing our traditional marriage was fair enough, you wouldn't see people Really requesting for white wedding

pls can one do a court wedding "atleast" without the bride parent's approval to the union since the party love each other and already had a "baby"? advice needed. note they are both adult above 20yrs. girl Islam and guy Christian (the bone of contention )

slimmy05:
May God save us from biatch and gold diggers like you

1000000000000
Amen

Sixix:


By 'those women' I was referring to women whose highest qualification in life is marriage. marriage is an escape for their inadequacy and inability to financially cater for themselves as adults. Their life aspirations are centred on their marriages, In case of Nigerian women, after their masters degree, their ultimate goal is to secure their husbands and his property.

Legal or no legal marriage none will prevent the men from behaving like arseholes if they chose to

And what security does a court marriage have to offer, Alimony? Child support? all of which are always at the detriment of the husbands' financial, mental and social well-being. Of course women are equal to men, that is why they need 'protection' at the expense of their husbands and encouragement to be unconcerned about everything else except their marriages.

Great comments

PrettyClare7:
women need to be careful in relating with men in this world. From d story where i replied your comment,the woman stood by the man through trying times and was deserted. That same woman has become a "bitch" to you. God save women from men with senses likes yours.

What about the Gold Diggers
U are the man pay all the bills--- what happen to that type of women?

op@
If God catch u or one of ur friends
That they can't go after the man that work so hard to have things
Now u have issue
God is a great God

I miss that bullet because
it was not for me
My God will fight all my battles
I just need to be patient to a B and all haters
Victory will come soon, I have faith

slimmy05:
you're a daft. Stop exposing your crude ignorance. I don't need no one else to certify my marriage. My tradition is enough for me.

you should say thank you that i enlightened you. When you grow up,you will definitely qet a certificate,unless your illiterate.

slimmy05:
May God save us from biatch and gold diggers like you

i expose how partial your judgement is and all you do is attack me. Lol! I have no business with your likes.

jeo4u:
pls can one do a court wedding "atleast" without the bride parent's approval to the union since the party love each other and already had a "baby"? advice needed. note they are both adult above 20yrs. girl Islam and guy Christian (the bone of contention )

They can. But are they ready for the consequences later?

Did you see the word 'consequences' in the above. Let me share little with you.
The same scenario. The guy was later killed, the girl was married off to an Alhaji with 3 wives and adopted his baby. So if the guy is ready for that, he can go ahead.

PrettyClare7:
you should say thank you that i enlightened you. When you grow up,you will definitely qet a certificate,unless your illiterate.

certificate for a woman to take the things
she didn't work?
for person like me today
sorry ur certificate will not work
What I have before the certificate is my

My dear as far as African custom is concerned and even the Bible, the most important one is the traditional marriage. If you find a man who is willing to go to to the registry then fine, as for the Oyibo"white" wedding my dear,you can cut the chase by simply asking ur pastor to bless your union after ur dowry/bride price MUST have been paid...........if NNKA (old age) catch u I bet u no go dey yarn dis thing by then.

GoodFaith:

What about the Gold Diggers
U are the man pay all the bills--- what happen to that type of women?

the op's topic has nothing to do with gold diggers. Their case is with God. All i know is that,a man who realy loves the woman he calls wife should get a marriage cert. So as to protect his wife.

fpeter:
My dear as far as African custom is concerned and even as a Bible, the most important one is the traditional marriage. If you find a man who is willing to go to to the registry then fine, as for the Oyibo"white" wedding my dear,you can cut the chase by simply asking ur pastor to bless your union after ur dowry/bride price MUST have been paid...........if NNkA(old age) catch u I bet u no go dey yarn dis thing by then.

theft want properties she didn't work for
I have no problem sharing with a woman who work with me to achieve the things have

PrettyClare7:
the op's topic has nothing to do with gold diggers. Their case is with God. All i know is that,a man who realy loves the woman he calls wife should get a marriage cert. So as to protect his wife.

Protect what?
certificate is all about money
All men want to protect their wives
work and drive old car
Tomorrow u want all my hard work and scarify
I am glad God took me on the path he took me
I was not happy but it all work out for the best
Thank U Lord