Mondisweets:

Let me put it this way, a will is a document that expresses the will of a person pertaining to the distribution or allocation of his property upon his death right?

This will can be revoked at any point by the testator without the knowledge of his wife or family members or heirs thereof. That is he can replace his will with a new one without the knowledge of his spouse, family members and other heirs.

If the testator revokes a will that his wife or family members had knowledge of and replaces it. if a clause in the (new) final will unfairly favours one heir over another, customary law principles cannot be challenged that particular clause. But if the marriage is according to civil law and a will is drawn up and the will turns out to unfairly favours one heir over another, that particular clause can be challenged because the common law principle of the law of succession will apply in this particular case.

A will is a good thing but people can never determine the outcome until the deceased's estate is ready for distribution. Where as if you are marriage according to civil right from the beginning of the marriage you will know the outcome of what may happen in case one spouse (husband or wife) dies or when the dissolve the marriage by means of a divorce. Where there is only a customary marriage, the outcome can never be determined until the will is read. This creates a lot of uncertainties and complications.

You can never know the final will of your spouse until its read after his/her death, because he/ she can change the contents of the will you intially knew about without your knowledge.

Blebleswag:

Sorry I dnt get u

GoodFaith:

All I said is if she is evil and she don't want the marriage
she need the certificate to file devoice to get half of the man property

GoodFaith:

All I said is if she is evil and she don't want the marriage
she need the certificate to file devoice to get half of the man property

Blebleswag:

Dats it! because they ve evil tot in their mind dats y they re askin 4 'solid certificate,' n dats nt compulsory.

GooseBaba:


Bros, love dey sour na..? Make love take back seat...marriage is a contract... Everyone needs to understand that..

webdezzi:


While i so support your view and advise, Irresponsible men will always be irresponsible, whether court or no court.
The key is looking beyond the physical attributes e.g, handsomeness, wealth, height etc
instead focus on just one thing; How he treats those closest to him especially what he says about his closest friends behind them

This will give you a clearer picture of what to expect when you become his closest friend.
I will cast my vote for a court wedding any day as this ensures you have some reserve cash to travel to paris or dubai on honeymoon.
rather than spend over a million naira feeding some people, half of whom you don't even know.

MadCow1:



[b]You can never know a person fully.. Stop this old wives tale..

Even your mama get some things wey she no fit swear for you...

A court marriage is simply to even the playing field. So tomorrow you can't kick her out after over 25 years together with her kids and leave her helpless. After all, many people have talked about people changing.

A Nigerian woman who enters into a marriage without the backing of the federal marriage license is like an Engineer that is working in a potentially hazardous environment without the proper PPE.. Yes, many traditional marriages have run their course well.. My grandma had only a traditional certificate and her marriage was long and fruitful though she was married at age 14.. But I have uncles that have kicked out their wives of many years (mostly when the pepper ripens) together with their kids and left to fend for themselves.. Maybe if they had a federal marriage license, they would have been able to legally nullify the new marriages by their husbands, get court ordered child upkeep allowances, even spouse maintenance allowance and also a house over her head..


All you men, remember you have sisters who would become someone's wife o.. Ask for me, none of my children would even do trad without first going to court.. /b]

MadCow1:



[b]You can never know a person fully.. Stop this old wives tale..

Even your mama get some things wey she no fit swear for you...

A court marriage is simply to even the playing field. So tomorrow you can't kick her out after over 25 years together with her kids and leave her helpless. After all, many people have talked about people changing.

A Nigerian woman who enters into a marriage without the backing of the federal marriage license is like an Engineer that is working in a potentially hazardous environment without the proper PPE.. Yes, many traditional marriages have run their course well.. My grandma had only a traditional certificate and her marriage was long and fruitful though she was married at age 14.. But I have uncles that have kicked out their wives of many years (mostly when the pepper ripens) together with their kids and left to fend for themselves.. Maybe if they had a federal marriage license, they would have been able to legally nullify the new marriages by their husbands, get court ordered child upkeep allowances, even spouse maintenance allowance and also a house over her head..


All you men, remember you have sisters who would become someone's wife o.. Ask for me, none of my children would even do trad without first going to court.. /b]

Sweetlemon:


You no get wahala nau. You are fully married.

Thank God you understand what I mean by document. Please help me explain to them.

Ubijus1:
op, are you a counsel?
You need to understand that most people here won't understand the essence of marriage documents bc of their ignorance of the law.[no insult meant]

The Op meant that the court won't give effect to ur supposed marriage if it's nt done in a legally recognised form.
It would then strike u 2 knw that there is no such thing as 'church marriage' under our law.
Btw, court marriage won't cost u more than 11k as it mostly excludes much spending on meriment.

No one is prayin 4 ur marriage 2 brk dwn but should such happen, valid marriage documents will, atleast, help in getting u a deserved justice.

I'm resisting the temptation to assert that some men are daft.
So, u guys can only see it 4rm ur angle? What if ur wife is richer than u or u both built an empire 2geda, how then would you even get a pin if u weren't legally married?
Pls, let's nt let our culture blindfold us. Yes, we have a culture but knw it that the law, at most times- as in instant case, is at variance with custom/culture/tradition.
Importantly, the court will give effect to the law and invalidate any custom that is inconsistent with any written law.
Pls, make sure u contract a legally valid marriage for your good interest.
Lastly, know it that marriage is a contract!
Now, since the law treats invalid contracts as though they neva existed, would u go into an invalid marriage?

Dnt be fast to rebuke me, i'm talking from the legal angle as every action you take has legal implication.

Ubijus1:
When ur husband or wife is legally married 2 u, he/she 'cnt' contract another marriage without divorcing you. However, he/she just cnt wake up nd divorce u for no proved just cause.
Customary law empowering traditional marriage, in most places, grants no right to succession/inheritance.
Now i understand why a proffesor of history could be rightly termed an ignorant in law.

GoodFaith:

It was an insult
why ?
some people here have better education than u
"You need to understand that most people here won't understand the essence of marriage documents bc of their ignorance of the law.[no insult meant]"
" i'm talking from the legal angle as every action you take has legal implication."------ A will and prenuptial will still make the certificate useless paper
I am talking from a protected zeno
The thing in life is we need to be good to each other
we work together and we eat together

Ubijus1:
good try!
Marriage documents are meant to protect ur marriage while it lasts.
In the case of will,
what if ur he/she dies intestate?
Even at that, a will cn only be executed to favour u as a husband/wife when u had a valid marriage.
Eg,
if the will says,
'i gv so so property to my husband upon my demise'
how on earth would u have a valid title to the said property if u weren't legally married?

majekdom2:
this is where some of these ladies make mistakes .... thats why you see men acquring properties solely in their name or names of their children these days ... I said a will and a lady here is saying a will is not a very good idea ..... what is not a good idea there when you will be writing it with him ..... ill motives! she takes the properties and then her own family can come share..... while her inlaws are the golddiggers.

GoodFaith:

Let me break this down
property that are will are protected by law
If my name is on that property and I owe that property before marriage
U have to show that the person that will the properties sold it before his death
U can not take ownership of property because u are the wife
I bought a property that was foreclosed by the bank right
There was a car in the garage, full paid
Who did u think now that car?

Blebleswag:
Buh traditional marriage is d most important. Must u wear white gown?

GoodFaith:

Let me break this down
property that are will are protected by law
If my name is on that property and I owe that property before marriage
U have to show that the person that will the properties sold it before his death
U can not take ownership of property because u are the wife
I bought a property that was foreclosed by the bank right
There was a car in the garage, full paid
Who did u think now that car?

Rival:


It’s annoying when some ladies hang the idea, that one useless document is what makes a marriage, on their mental beam and weigh it above every other thing to make the marriage work!
To such ladies, it’s all about security, their personal well-being and nothing else; they care next to nothing about the success of the marriage but the comfort around the man!

Any lady that insists on legal documents to back her marriage should be closely monitored! More than likely she’s materialistic and has her priority on the man’s wealth and a potentially dangerous lady!
Many of such ladies that make legal documents their priority in a marriage don’t see their husbands beyond their (husband) wealth!

What happened to marriage based on love and mutual interest?
If the man doesn’t love you, would the document make him love you or treat you better?
Would your taking him to court make him love you or change his feelings about you?

A lady’s concern in a marriage should be towards building a happy home and not about acquiring some useless documents that have no influence on how a man feels about her!
Give him reasons to love you and make him believe that he made the right choice marrying you!
You don’t need a document to show that you’re a married woman or that he's your husband!

Ubijus1:
relate it to marriage and spouses. Dnt derail.

ademi87:
r u 4gettin d fact dat I worked for my money to take care of my family nd fwens not to squander on a day wedding dat ll fade away after few days, u wnt white wedding? Bring 20million bliv me any guy ll be api to walk u down d isle

slimmy05:
You're a daft. Look at this juvenile still struggling with sec sch grade.

majekdom2:
the certificate is in case .... but what gain will the certificate bring if you and your kids are not included in his will .... there are more to look into in a marriage than certificate

2sExy1:
ma'am, it is relative. Neither will church or court determine a solid marriage.

It does not matter how/where the marriage is conducted; what matter most is the
love that will keep them.

White wedding/court marriage isn't our custom, but traditional marriage is. We have sold
our rights to the whites, which is what has almost given them the temerity to impose gay/lesbanism
on us.

How about you turn the table around and ask them to wed in your own custom,huh?

In case you never knew, 2 Italians has broken the record when they wedded in the igbo tradition
a few months back. so, you see?


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Blebleswag:

Nawa! So performing a traditional marriage is not a solid evidence dat u re married? So until we copy d foregn style, 1st kwano?


I repeat: traditional marriage is d most important n must b done 1st, any other kinds re an alternatives.


Solid evidence kon, solid evidence ni.

majekdom2:
if you want to make your marriage work you dont have to force a man who is skeptical about court marrige do it ... people have different opinions as to this . some men respect their tradition more ... you may say its the latest trend to go for a court wedding , but some men still believe tradition got them to where they are ..... and are never ready for it .

PrettyClare7:
my dear this is the era where you shine your eyes,to prevent people from reaping where they did not sow. Especialy where a man dies intestate.

PrettyClare7:
my dear this is the era where you shine your eyes,to prevent people from reaping where they did not sow. Especialy where a man dies intestate.

majekdom2:
hmmm , I understand what you mean ... in that case you should be ready to soak garri with a young man who is outhere searching because a man who is well to do and who is just looking for a woman to raise kids would also conclude the wife wants to reap where she did not sow.