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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 5:25pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

NLers and their comprehension disablities again. What part of getting a legal document do you not understand? I'm not talking about ceremony here. Just a signed document with witnesses. Please how does that require borrowing? Abi na wheel barrow pusher you wan marry ni?
Am nt sayin is nt included or u should do it, but nt important. So havin a traditional marriage is nt legal abi? Even bible talk am say tradition 1st. Haba sweetlemon!
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by jmoore(m): 5:26pm On Sep 15, 2014
Growing trend? I don't think so.

Anyway, my plan is to do my traditional and church wedding the same day.


The government needs to do something about our traditional marriage, so we can issue legal documents to back the traditional wedding.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 5:29pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

What is this one saying

I'm saying that some women don't even know/want these things..they just want a diick and child(ren)

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by philantoxx(m): 5:31pm On Sep 15, 2014
white wedding ke?u be white man abi?poor mentality sha.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 5:33pm On Sep 15, 2014
i no even dey plan church wedding sef. #TeamTraditionalWeddind

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 5:36pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

You no get wahala nau. You are fully married.

Thank God you understand what I mean by document. Please help me explain to them.
I do dear. Someone said we ladies love big weddings, she may have to speak for herself, bc i am very conservative when it comes to finance. Not like we talking about ceremony here, just signing the dotted lines ...be it in church/court.
i don't support people that did it bearing in mind that a divorce will occur o, there is no room for that in my marriage. I just want that legal backing, you can't walk into any org and tell dem you are married without any paper to back it up.
recently I have even be asked for newspaper publication, i was so reluctant to do it...lol
my hubby just gave me as new month gift...hahahahaha

@100cents, I haven't seen it, my mail is telling me yahoo not responding...blablabla, wareva that means lipsrsealed

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 5:40pm On Sep 15, 2014
jmoore: Growing trend? I don't think so.

Anyways, my plan is to do my traditional and church wedding the same day.
That's what people do these days, traditional marriage in the morning and the white follows afterwards. 2 of my friends did the same thing too,

For me my traditional marriage is very important as that's where my bride price will be paid but I go still wear gown sha. smiley I go do white too.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by mcdreeezy: 5:44pm On Sep 15, 2014
Smh... When we are talkin about doin away with white wedding and enhancing our traditional wedding, someone is here tryin to advice ladies to get white/court weddin at all costs. Till tomorrow and beyond I see no need for duplication of wedding

#TeamSayNoToWhiteWedding

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 6:05pm On Sep 15, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
I do dear. Someone said we ladies love big weddings, she may have to speak for herself, bc i am very conservative when it comes to finance. Not like we talking about ceremony here, just signing the dotted lines ...be it in church/court.
i don't support people that did it bearing in mind that a divorce will occur o, there is no room for that in my marriage. I just want that legal backing, you can't walk into any org and tell dem you are married without any paper to back it up.
recently I have even be asked for newspaper publication, i was so reluctant to do it...lol
my hubby just gave me as new month gift...hahahahaha

@100cents, I haven't seen it, my mail is telling me yahoo not responding...blablabla, wareva that means lipsrsealed


That's the point. A document and you are good to go live with him. Ceremony is for those who want it but the document is for your own good.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 6:22pm On Sep 15, 2014
jmoore: Growing trend? I don't think so.

Anyways, my plan is to do my traditional and church wedding the same day.


The government needs to do something about our traditional marriage, so we can issue legal documents to back the traditional wedding.

I agree with you. The government needs to do something about it for the sake of those who see no need for more than one ceremony. There is really a need for documents.

What motivated me to start this thread is a lady I know of currently crying her heart out right now. Her then struggling bf only did traditional wedding and postponed the white till further notice giving the excuse of finance. She moved into his house, only too happy to get a hubby just before clocking 30. The guy got an offer abroad but because they weren't legally married, he couldn't take her along. All advise that she should tell the guy to do court wedding of nothing more than 40k fell on deaf ears (court payments plus small refreshment for like 5 witnesses). She was hopeful that he will come back to do the white/court wedding at "his own pace" . Ok nau, the guy left. Little by little, he stopped calling her.

Then all of a sudden, she heard he was in town........ for his wedding! When her family confronted him, he said he was married to her traditionally and he was allowed to have as many wives as he wished under tradition she was given a choice to accept it or leave. Meanwhile he did white wedding with his second wife o! They signed documents. They have both since gone back abroad leaving his first wife high and dry without the dignity of any proceeding. As in it was like an ordinary unceremonious break-up btw a boyfriend and girlfriend. God forbid!

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Ivanspring(f): 6:43pm On Sep 15, 2014
I had no idea that some women can still follow men blindly in this day and age! I'm really surprised to read some ladies' comments here. Where i come from, (even the church advises the same thing) court marriage comes first before you even talk about the traditional and white weddings.

Ladies it is for your own good oh...court marriage is the cheapest among the three. Try to see that you do it.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 6:52pm On Sep 15, 2014
Ivanspring: I had no idea that some women can still follow men blindly in this day and age! I'm really surprised to read some ladies' comments here. Where i come from, (even the church advises the same thing) court marriage comes first before you even talk about the traditional and white weddings.

Ladies it is for your own good oh...court marriage is the cheapest among the three. Try to see that you do it.

There are plenty o. The I-must-have-a-man types.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by israelbenzion: 7:25pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

Lol!

Those Italians will not be recognized without an official document even in Nigerian courts not talk of their own country.

You missed the emphasis on the legal document and not necessarily the ceremony.

u are misinforming people. traditional marriage is as solid as the so-called "court marriage" (Marriage under the Act). the only difference is that different laws govern both. for Ur info, conducting Registry immediately nullifies all other forms of marriage earlier conducted, and performing any other form of marriage after registry marriage is an offence punishable by jail time. pls download urself a copy of the Marriage Act and be better informed. do u need judicial authorities to clarify issues for u? send Ur email address and I'll give u some. but I beg u, stick to facts.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:33pm On Sep 15, 2014
Can any of these noise makers tell me the significance of white wedding?

White ppl marry once while inferiority complex drives Africans to marry more than once.
so bad

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 7:33pm On Sep 15, 2014
israelbenzion:

u are misinforming people. traditional marriage is as solid as the so-called "court marriage" (Marriage under the Act). the only difference is that different laws govern both. for Ur info, conducting Registry immediately nullifies all other forms of marriage earlier conducted, and performing any other form of marriage after registry marriage is an offence punishable by jail time. pls download urself a copy of the Marriage Act and be better informed. do u need judicial authorities to clarify issues for u? send Ur email address and I'll give u some. but I beg u, stick to facts.

Traditional wedding is the only solid wedding sef

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by sunnedee: 7:48pm On Sep 15, 2014
100Cents:

Sweet lemon, do you know that ladies who approach marriage with the most selfish mindset become the worst failures at it.

Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by 100Cents: 8:12pm On Sep 15, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
I do dear. Someone said we ladies love big weddings, she may have to speak for herself, bc i am very conservative when it comes to finance. Not like we talking about ceremony here, just signing the dotted lines ...be it in church/court.
i don't support people that did it bearing in mind that a divorce will occur o, there is no room for that in my marriage. I just want that legal backing, you can't walk into any org and tell dem you are married without any paper to back it up.
recently I have even be asked for newspaper publication, i was so reluctant to do it...lol
my hubby just gave me as new month gift...hahahahaha

@100cents, I haven't seen it, my mail is telling me yahoo not responding...blablabla, wareva that means lipsrsealed

At least try ma..
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by addictiv(m): 8:44pm On Sep 15, 2014
The document can be signed anywhere even in my sitting room as long as there are witnesses from both sides and an officiating minister or elvis. As far as am concerned an traditional sure pass, the next Sunday wifey and I will go and kneel be the altar for church blessing and pastor go bless us.
No time for to much ceremony, anybody who wants to question the authenticity of my marriage after, does so at his own peril.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 8:51pm On Sep 15, 2014
Evergreen123: Can any of these noise makers tell me the significance of white wedding?

White ppl marry once while inferiority complex drives Africans to marry more than once.
so bad

Honestly. I am tired of explaining to people that it's not necessarily about a big white wedding with all the ceremony and pageantry but about signing documents. It doesn't matter if there are only 5 witnesses. Just sign a document!

*Abandons threads*

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by daveP(m): 8:55pm On Sep 15, 2014
Blebleswag:
Am nt sayin is nt included or u should do it, but nt important. So havin a traditional marriage is nt legal abi? Even bible talk am say tradition 1st. Haba sweetlemon!
(rubs hands readily) book, chapter and verse!! (snaps fingers for quick response)
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adconline(m): 9:13pm On Sep 15, 2014
Oyibo dey do Naija traditional wedding? Why can't one be high key and the other low key?

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:21pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

Honestly. I am tired of explaining to people that it's not necessarily about a big white wedding with all the ceremony and pageantry but about signing documents. It doesn't matter if there are only 5 witnesses. Just sign a document!

*Abandons threads*
My dear, shun them. Some people can read but they don't understand...and you know understanding is very important...lol

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by addictiv(m): 9:39pm On Sep 15, 2014
op sounds as if the sole purpose of having a certificate is to use it as a valid document when applying for a divorce. Say a lady marries a guy who is already worth billions in assets and after 5 years she decides to divorce him and claim ownership of half of the guys assets which he already had b4 he married her. Mbanu.. That's why a prenup is important. Cos if she is gonna insist on a court wedding then I will defidefinitely insist we sign a prenup to avoid stories that touch.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adconline(m): 9:39pm On Sep 15, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
My dear, shun them. Some people can read but they don't understand...and you know understanding is very important...lol
Talk is cheap.. If most Naija females pay their fair share of weddings - trad or white, they would demand less and know that wedding is a one-day thing while marriage is a continuous task which needs money..

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Nobody: 9:54pm On Sep 15, 2014
adconline:
Talk is cheap.. If most Naija females pay their fair share of weddings - trad or white, they would demand less and know that wedding is a one-day thing while marriage is a continuous task which needs money..
That's why I said understanding is scarceee - You just proved it, no one said you should do societal,we only said documentation. Court marriage was 10k the last time I checked. So if you have a meaningful submission...lemme hear it.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by israelbenzion: 10:31pm On Sep 15, 2014
Sweetlemon:

Honestly. I am tired of explaining to people that it's not necessarily about a big white wedding with all the ceremony and pageantry but about signing documents. It doesn't matter if there are only 5 witnesses. Just sign a document!

*Abandons threads*

I guess u didn't know that Local Government Councils issue certificate of traditional marriage if you approach them for one. again, I'll bet u didn't know that a simple affidavit of marriage suffices for d same purpose as a marriage certificate. ask NYSC. I have personally called them on this issue before and they stated so. all the
above stated documents never still do?

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by adconline(m): 10:37pm On Sep 15, 2014
Kachisbarbie:
That's why I said understanding is scarceee - You just proved it, no one said you should do societal,we only said documentation. Court marriage was 10k the last time I checked. So if you have a meaningful submission...lemme hear it.
Most guys would not shy away to sign a simple piece of paper and go home and enjoy their marital life, but is that going to be comfortable with most women? Signing a piece of paper without fun-fair? I doubt it.. the subtext of this heading should ve been " why do most men dread fancy white wedding after traditional wedding?
Back to my point.. Understanding your demands comes with picking up the tab in a white wedding! Guys don't run from signing a piece paper, but signing a blank check to cover a much fantasized "royal wedding" that's been anticipated since childhood.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sammyblaq(m): 10:12am On Sep 16, 2014
nice say OP...having ur marriage registered in church/court is a good tyn. My venerable will say to the groom 'if u wish to divorce any day, u have to bring back every single guest here in attendance'...which is impossible.
Let me share dis: i have dis female friend, having attended weddings(knot), anchored asoebis for her friends, now is her turn. She'v done her trad, she said to me 'am planning on a Morning Mass Wedding' Taaaaaaa! Na so i provoke. Lol

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 10:58am On Sep 16, 2014
adconline:
Most guys would not shy away to sign a simple piece of paper and go home and enjoy their marital life, but is that going to be comfortable with most women? Signing a piece of paper without fun-fair? I doubt it.. the subtext of this heading should ve been " why do most men dread fancy white wedding after traditional wedding?
Back to my point.. Understanding your demands comes with picking up the tab in a white wedding! Guys don't run from signing a piece paper, but signing a blank check to cover a much fantasized "royal wedding" that's been anticipated since childhood.

Well if they are living with him without the "funfair" then they should be able to sign documents without funfair as well. It's that simple.

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Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by Sweetlemon(f): 10:59am On Sep 16, 2014
israelbenzion:

I guess u didn't know that Local Government Councils issue certificate of traditional marriage if you approach them for one. again, I'll bet u didn't know that a simple affidavit of marriage suffices for d same purpose as a marriage certificate. ask NYSC. I have personally called them on this issue before and they stated so. all the
above stated documents never still do?


We talking legal marriage here Mr. which is only acceptable for formal documents.
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by mencade5(m): 12:31pm On Sep 16, 2014
2sExy1: I tire o
i tire well well
Re: The Growing Trend Of Men Shying Away From Court or White Wedding by OrlandoOwoh(m): 12:49pm On Sep 16, 2014
Church or court wedding is not all about spending money, like the OP would want us to believe. Yes, you spend money, but the main reason some people do it (court), including myself, is to give it a legal backing. The certificate you're issued at the registry has legal backing. For those that did just traditional marriage or paid only the bride price (especially when there is no legal document backing it) , before the law you're not a couple, but just cohabiting.

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