fpeter:
My dear as far as African custom is concerned and even as a Bible, the most important one is the traditional marriage. If you find a man who is willing to go to to the registry then fine, as for the Oyibo"white" wedding my dear,you can cut the chase by simply asking ur pastor to bless your union after ur dowry/bride price MUST have been paid...........if NNkA(old age) catch u I bet u no go dey yarn dis thing by then.

GoodFaith:

certificate for a woman to take the things
she didn't work?
for person like me today
sorry ur certificate will not work
What I have before the certificate is my

GoodFaith:

Protect what?
certificate is all about money
All men want to protect their wives
work and drive old car
Tomorrow u want all my hard work and scarify
I am glad God took me on the path he took me
I was not happy but it all work out for the best
Thank U Lord

PrettyClare7:
are u praying to marry a bad wife or for divorce. It is people praying for any of these that think like you.

PrettyClare7:
people who plan on making their marriage work,do not think like you

GoodFaith:

Base on ur question
what is the need for certificate ?
I am very happily marriage
I have had God to protect me against evil woman
My God was there for me

PrettyClare7:
with the certificate,you can prove to anyone that you are married without goin to the village to bring elders to swear. Also,if the man dies anytime,nobody will deny her the right to the man's property or her kids. Nobody will throw her out. Another woman will not also easily displace a woman in her husband's house. The advantages are just endless.

PrettyClare7:
the op's topic has nothing to do with gold diggers. Their case is with God. All i know is that,a man who realy loves the woman he calls wife should get a marriage cert. So as to protect his wife.

PrettyClare7:
my dear the issue here is not the fanfare that accompanies the white wedding. It is getting the certificate. U cn go to d registry and get it without ceremony. But with the cert.no woman cn drive u out of ur husband's house without a good fight.

PrettyClare7:
are u praying to marry a bad wife or for divorce. It is people praying for any of these that think like you.

majekdom2:
do women fight over men publicly these days ... I said it before , there are men who do more for their concubines than their immediate family who have got the certificates . This is Nigeria.

majekdom2:
do women fight over men publicly these days ... I said it before , there are men who do more for their concubines than their immediate family who have got the certificates . This is Nigeria.

PrettyClare7:
people who plan on making their marriage work,do not think like you

PrettyClare7:
with the certificate,you can prove to anyone that you are married without goin to the village to bring elders to swear. Also,if the man dies anytime,nobody will deny her the right to the man's property or her kids. Nobody will throw her out. Another woman will not also easily displace a woman in her husband's house. The advantages are just endless.

majekdom2:
the certificate is in case .... but what gain will the certificate bring if you and your kids are not included in his will .... there are more to look into in a marriage than certificate

majekdom2:
if you want to make your marriage work you dont have to force a man who is skeptical about court marrige do it ... people have different opinions as to this . some men respect their tradition more ... you may say its the latest trend to go for a court wedding , but some men still believe tradition got them to where they are ..... and are never ready for it .

NifemiOlu:


They can. But are they ready for the consequences later?

Did you see the word 'consequences' in the above. Let me share little with you.
The same scenario. The guy was later killed, the girl was married off to an Alhaji with 3 wives and adopted his baby. So if the guy is ready for that, he can go ahead.

PrettyClare7:
you should say thank you that i enlightened you. When you grow up,you will definitely qet a certificate,unless your illiterate.

PrettyClare7:
i expose how partial your judgement is and all you do is attack me. Lol! I have no business with your likes.

slimmy05:
You're a daft. Look at this juvenile still struggling with sec sch grade.

Sweetlemon:
They assume ownership of a bride once the bride price has been paid. If the girl is lucky enough they will do traditional wedding but the white or even court wedding will be till further notice. In fact, unless a girl's family are strong Christians who will insist on the complete wedding rites before allowing their daughter move in permanently with man, the man will not think seriously about a formal wedding.

The thing is that most girls are too willing to allow this happen. Unless they pester the man for a court or white wedding, they will wait a long long time, after dropping one or two kids before having this. But their wives don't seem to be very serious about this. I mean, this trend is becoming too rampant nowadays. A good case study is that of P Square duo. (I love P Square and their brides not saying this to hate o) All the other celebs did both trad and white almost immediately after. Yet the P Square family even their brother Jude, are not about taking their brides down the aisle. I know a few girls personally who are doing this.

Ladies please let's be very careful with this issue. A church or at least a court wedding is more solid. With a traditional or just introduction, the man can wake up one morning and throw you out of the house, bring in another woman and there is little or nothing you can do. But when documents have been signed, you get the opportunity to fight for rights to property, fair treatment, etc if you can get a good lawyer. Also, with a certificate, your marriage is recognized anywhere in the world. For instance, without a marriage certificate, your "hubby" living abroad cannot invite you over abroad as it's done in most countries. You will have to go through another route.

Please if you are in this kind of arrangement, use all wisdom available to you to get yourself an official document. The longer you procrastinate, the more difficult it will be for the man to finally tie the knot while you live in his house.

jeo4u:

That is scary but the truth is that the guy is actually on a cross road as the girl have totally denounced her religion and ready to do same of her parent because of the guy.

majekdom2:
easy man ... thats too harsh.

jeo4u:

That is scary but the truth is that the guy is actually on a cross road as the girl have totally denounced her religion and ready to do same of her parent because of the guy.

GoodFaith:

Lot of men value the support u gave to the marriage
U might have differences and divorce but a good man know the value of a good woman in his life

majekdom2:
yea ...what they ought to look out for is a man who respects them ... the african tradition does not respect women as it were thats why it encourages polygamy..... and even the laws of the federal republic of Nigeria takes the customary law into consideration first. when cases of inheritances arise , the women should know a die hard inlaw can manipulate it all using custom law ... what every woman should envisage is writing a will together with their husbands ... this way you can be sure of what is yours and how is shared . a lady said your spouse may change it , if he does that without your consent then there was no never trust in the marriage in the first instance ..... then you can expect more from whoever after his death ... .not just inlaws , business partners.

PrettyClare7:
the issue here,is not wearing a white gown,it is having a marriage certificate,a solid evidence that you are married.

PrettyClare7:
the issue here,is not wearing a white gown,it is having a marriage certificate,a solid evidence that you are married.

PrettyClare7:
the issue here,is not wearing a white gown,it is having a marriage certificate,a solid evidence that you are married.

Blebleswag:

Nawa! So performing a traditional marriage is not a solid evidence dat u re married? So until we copy d foregn style, 1st kwano?


I repeat: traditional marriage is d most important n must b done 1st, any other kinds re an alternatives.


Solid evidence kon, solid evidence ni.

Blebleswag:

U said 'and d women seems nt 2 border' dats because its not dat important, cos if it was, I trust ma Ninja women na. Do u knw that most Nigeria men married on credit? Lik didn't paid bride-prize on d woman? U re here talkin abt white/court watever. Not dat is nt gud O. Or wil u ve prefer white/court marriage n decline traditional's?

GoodFaith:

Solid evidence kon, solid evidence ni = if u are a good woman. A good man will protect with his life
If u evil woman you need the "Solid evidence kon, solid evidence ni" to take him to court