I learnt how to do a lot of domestic work while I was growing up..if you will agree with me,mothers are only concerned about their girl-child being domestically inclined. They teach their girl-child probably because they feel knowing or doing domestic work is meant for just the female..

I personally don't agree to the fact that domestic work is meant for only the female..I think mothers should also teach their boy-child domestic work too..if you can teach your girl how to sweep,clean,cook,do the dishes and laundry then your boy should also learn that as well..it goes a long way..

The importance of the boy-child being domestically inclined is that when he grows up,he stands on his own.That knowledge helps him take care of his personal needs not to go about looking for someone to do it for him..this is my opinion...

Over to the "MEN-childs" of NL!

Imagine a 28 year old man asking his mum "am i even supposed to know how to turn on the gas?"

nomabeeee:
I learnt how to do a lot of domestic work while I was growing up..if you will agree with me,mothers are only concerned about their girl-child being domestically inclined.They teach their girl-child prolly because they feel knowing or doing domestic work is meant for just the female..
I personally don't agree to the fact that domestic work is meant for only the female..I think mothers should also teach their boy-child domestic work too..if you can teach your girl how to sweep,clean,cook,do the dishes and laundry then your boy should also learn that as well..it goes a long way..
The importance of the boy-child being domestically inclined is that when he grows up,he stands on his own.That knowledge helps him take care of his personal needs not to go about looking for someone to do it for him..this is my opinion...

So on point. Growing up, I dare not stay out of the kitchen when mum prepares the meals. Everyone gets a fair share of the chores both male and female (males got more). So there is no domestic chore that I can't do and am happy for that.

You're correct. I learnt how to do most of the house chores before my sisters. Cooking, washing my siblings clothes, etc. I did all of that and still do whenever I'm at our family house (minus the clothe washing 'cos we are all grown up now). Back then, my mum even preferred my cooking to my sisters'.
I also learnt how to bake cakes and make doughnuts from my mum because I was her 'assistant' whenever she did it then.

Now that I'm on my own, I don't have problem managing myself. I go to the market to buy food stuffs and do the cooking (I don't like eating out).
I wake up early to make my breakfast (not just bread and tea!) before leaving for work by 7.30am.

kreamidiva:
Imagine a 28 year old man asking his mum "am i even supposed to know how to turn on the gas?"

HABA AUNTY!stop messin up d men(not d boys)!my dad is a great cook,he influenced my cooking skills alot.i am now a full blown fine man wit a familly,my sweety no fit do of any shakara wit cooking at all,when they r away, i do my thing.i hav not bin to a restaurant for about 15 years now!thats my principle,No eating outside,DO YOUR COOKING YOUR SELF!EVEN WHEN AM OFF TO WORK ,I COOK MY FOOD.my staff (married& d likes)would be like...mr MiKe na wa for you o!bla bla bla bla non sense non sense!.. but trust me now,its has become a culture and ritual wit me,and it has helped me in saving a great deal people

gidjah:
HABA AUNTY!stop messin up d men(not d boys)!my dad is a great cook,he influenced my cooking skills alot.i am now a full blown fine man wit a familly,my sweety no fit do of any shakara wit cooking at all,when they r away, i do my thing.i hav not bin to a restaurant for about 15 years now!thats my principle,No eating outside,DO YOUR COOKING YOUR SELF!EVEN WHEN AM OFF TO WORK ,I COOK MY FOOD.my staff (married& d likes)would be like...mr MiKe na wa for you o!bla bla bla bla non sense non sense!.. but trust me now,its has become a culture and ritual wit me,and it has helped me in saving a great deal people

that's vry good.you learnt while you were still growing up.this is exactly how I want my son to turn out to be.lol

My younger brother is a good cook; can cook beans, yam, make eba and stew. The only problem is that he puts grounded pepper in his stew . My mum made sure she never treated him any differently while growing up and this has helped him to be a sensible and considerate young man.

If you have money, hire a cook.

If not, eat at buka as long as its safe to do so.

Its not my business if some man somewhere does or doesn't know how to cook or do house chores.

What's it to me?

gidjah:
HABA AUNTY!stop messin up d men(not d boys)!my dad is a great cook,he influenced my cooking skills alot.i am now a full blown fine man wit a familly,my sweety no fit do of any shakara wit cooking at all,when they r away, i do my thing.i hav not bin to a restaurant for about 15 years now!thats my principle,No eating outside,DO YOUR COOKING YOUR SELF!EVEN WHEN AM OFF TO WORK ,I COOK MY FOOD.my staff (married& d likes)would be like...mr MiKe na wa for you o!bla bla bla bla non sense non sense!.. but trust me now,its has become a culture and ritual wit me,and it has helped me in saving a great deal people

I went to an in-law's house and her son was cooking rice. The boy doubled as cook and gate man because there was no one to get the gate. Unfortunately, the rice he was cooking got burnt and the mum was peeved with him. Some ladies there asked her to take it easy that he's a boy. Her response was: "please, i don't have any boy or any girl in my house! What my daughter can do is what i expect my son to do too!"

My father doesn't cook jack! In fact, he almost allowed the potatoes i was frying this morning to get burnt! .

My elder brother cooks very well but the younger one? Hmmm... smh. Anyways, he knows how to cook indomie noodles!

My son(s) is so knowing how to do domestic chores, no two ways about it.

Most Nigerian boys are doing household chores.

It's very important, as long as you know how to eat you must learn how to cook.

I see no big deal in a boy child tagging alongside his sisters in the discharge of house chores_ cooking inclusive... I can cook virtually any food, except of course the ones I'm yet to set my eyes on. My mum made sure that we take turns in cooking and guess what? The guys are even better cooks

My boys must be thoroughly domesticated, i have no plans of doing chores for long.

Men will always be men. If you like teach them till thy kingdom come, it will come a time when he would dump all those stuff and start frequenting restaurants. House chores and cooking are really tiring for most men. When I mean tiring, I mean tiring.

For instance, my mum trained me quite well in that aspect. I can cook virtually everything. But right now I only boil noodles and I'm good to go. No time for all those pounding and turning of pots. Very few men retain their cooking skills as they grow because naturally they would prefer not to cook, especially ones that require time and extra care. They are just not that organized and focused as women and therefore cooking is really a hardwork for them.

If you have to force your boys to learn to cook, prepare to buy countless pots and make sure you have a fire extinguisher ready somewhere.

Chores are chores and everyone should pitch in and help, be it boy or girl
I intend teaching my boy child (ren) responsibility through house chores. Teach them how to cook, do the laundry, take out trash and the likes

I'm so gonna mould him/them into (a) fine and great man/men that my future daughter-in-law(s) won't be able to thank me enough

If boys can eat, they learn how to cook simple . Sweeping, washing chores are shared equally too. No ' omodo' so everyone pitches in shikena!

YourCoffin:
Men will always be men. If you like teach them till thy kingdom come, it will come a time when he would dump all those stuff and start frequenting restaurants. House chores and cooking are really tiring for most men. When I mean tiring, I mean tiring.

For instance, my mum trained me quite well in that aspect. I can cook virtually everything. But right now I only boil noodles and I'm good to go. No time for all those pounding and turning of pots. Very few men retain their cooking skills as they grow because naturally they would prefer not to cook, especially ones that require time and extra care. They are just not that organized and focused as women and therefore cooking is really a hardwork for them.

If you have to force your boys to learn to cook, prepare to buy countless pots and make sure you have a fire extinguisher ready somewhere.

And you think chores are not tiring for women too?

beeevan:
My boys must be thoroughly domesticated, i have no plans of doing chores for long.

LOL!

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@OP: A lot of guys were taught but they atill feel it is demeaning to do chores and dump it at the slightest chance or wait still they get married.

If bomboy never saw daddy doing chores, no amount of training will make him do it in future except if he decides to change

YourCoffin:
Men will always be men. If you like teach them till thy kingdom come, it will come a time when he would dump all those stuff and start frequenting restaurants. House chores and cooking are really tiring for most men. When I mean tiring, I mean tiring.

For instance, my mum trained me quite well in that aspect. I can cook virtually everything. But right now I only boil noodles and I'm good to go. No time for all those pounding and turning of pots. Very few men retain their cooking skills as they grow because naturally they would prefer not to cook, especially ones that require time and extra care. They are just not that organized and focused as women and therefore cooking is really a hardwork for them.

If you have to force your boys to learn to cook, prepare to buy countless pots and make sure you have a fire extinguisher ready somewhere.

But they naturally like to eat? and women are NATURALLY cooks from birth? Give me a break

bukatyne:


LOL!

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@OP: A lot of guys were taught but they atill feel it is demeaning to do chores and dump it at the slightest chance or wait still they get married.

If bomboy never saw daddy doing chores, no amount of training will make him do it in future except if he decides to change

E concern them oo, while in my house, they must do chores, them and their wives parole nah their palaver Jare, if you don't cook, you starve while I go have lunch with my husband in Jevnik .

I blame mothers.
How can u train ur boy/gal child differently?

And all those fathers that will mount seat siddon for palour while mumsi is slaving away in d kitchen being a good wife, una never jam.
Una marry mary amaka cos there is no way only me will be slaving away and u will be doing nothing. U get two heads.

Enter kitchen with r wifey let ur boy learn from u. Enough of this yeyecious mentality joor!

I'm an exception.... My mom really taught me how to do every household chores... I can prepare some that many female folks can't even prepare.... the main reason is that she gave birth to four of us and we're males...I think If their is just a female among, the story will different.. Mothers are to be blamed #myopinion

Lmao...that is how you end up raising manginas and males with female tendencies. But I have got news for you, I've been living alone as a guy since age 16/17. Moved to the hostel, and from there moved to a next city for Uni. And I have survived happily without being too domestically inclined.

Apart from cooking, which I'm average at (I can cook if I really want to do it - made a few nice dishes in the past for friends), I don't really think I miss anything. Male children should be taught how to survive, and make good decisions from a young age - not domestic duties. That was what my dad showed me from early.

Let the girls do that. You just can't clog up everywhere in the house - people should be assigned duties based on the tools they need in the society at large, and from a cultural perspective. You can change your house, but definitely won't change the society.

The only exception should be when you have only male children.

nomabeeee:

The importance of the boy-child being domestically inclined is that when he grows up,he stands on his own.That knowledge helps him take care of his personal needs not to go about looking for someone to do it for him..this is my opinion...

either way, as long as it gets done, i dont see what the big deal is.

The importance of the boy-child being domestically inclined is that when he grows up,he stands on his own.That knowledge helps him take care of his personal needs not to go about looking for someone to do it for him..this is my opinion...

My own opinion is that they will stop being entitled brats seeking to frustrate the life of whoever is unfortunate to marry them.

This generation can't be cured though. A fo.ol at 40 is a fo.ol forever. It's like pouring water into a basket.

Stillfire:


My own opinion is that they will stop being entitled brats seeking to frustrate the life of whoever is unfortunate to marry them.

This generation can't be cured though. A fo.ol at 40 is a fo.ol forever. It's like pouring water into a basket.

and why are you raining abuse on people who did not ask you to do anything for them? Who dont even know you?

are you ok mentally?

if a man does chores or not, what is your own problem with that?

tpia6:


and why are you raining abuse on people who did not ask you to do anything for them? Who dont even know you?

are you ok mentally?

if a man does chores or not, what is your own problem with that?

Where did I rain abuse?

Growing up in my family the boys were handled like eggs we the girls did all d chores. Male child this.. male child that,as for me I am raising my kids (a girl n a boy)on the same level o,even though they are still young. I don't want my son turning out like my brothers,who are so lazy and know nothing abt cooking or house chores. If I hear!

Dont expect NL guys to contribute on this thread unless it involves bashing women